#tw abusive mention

[bimboqueer-bah]

can i ask what dissi[blank]programming is..? i see a couple listed in your pinned post and then listed in your alterpacks but i didn't know what it means...

Hello~! Essentially Dissi- is just the prefix term for being TransID but identifying as CisID~! Our System is Collectively TransID but ID's as CisID due to personal reason (Save for one Alter, who formed as TrisProgrammed)~! Essentially it means "TransID but calling yourself CisID", and can be applied to any TransID really, not Just TransProgrammed~! As for Programming itself, its a bit complicated~! It's essential the act of manipulating different parts certain ways so that they serve different purposes, and as well as is usually done for abusive/harmful purposes~! This often does result in the subject becoming a system, or is preformed on pre-existing systems, but not always~! It's something related to RAMCOA, which in itself is very complicated! Here's a carrd that talks more about it~! (The carrd does tell Radqueers/TransID to "stay away from the carrd", but it's not liek they can actually stop you from looking at it ^^~!) - Mod Tiffany

[emotionaleating]

pls don’t flirt with me i want to be nonchalant so bad but i unfortunately crave connection so intensely that i will give you my entire soul and forgive you over and over until i’ve lost myself completely and feel like i’m drowning

[cupcakeslushie]

Recovering your autonomy vs Completely cutting yourself off from your support system. FIGHT!

This happens sometime after the ongoing Kendra reunion comic, but not far enough along that the brothers have figured out how to navigate certain landmines.

Donnie is still re-adjusting to communicating his needs in a confident manner. Sometimes he gets a little too worked up, and lets the panic take over. He regrets the yelling later.

…The next morning

[teaboot]

When I was a kid, I regularly lost reading privileges for "having an attitude" and "acting out".

It wasn't as simple as being told not to read during other activities- one of the first times it happened, I remember being six years old, watching my stepfather pull fistfuls of books off my bookshelf and throw them to the floor in a heaping mess while I cried and asked him to stop.

It was weird. Every other adult I knew described me as exceptionally well-behaved, but at home, it was the opposite, and it was blamed on "learning bad habits from that shit you're reading".

Because I couldn't read at home, I spent all my free time at school in the library, reading with my friends.

When I grew up and moved away, I realized that my family life was toxic and abusive, and the "attitudes" I was being punished for were standing up for myself, standing up for my younger siblings, and resisting actual, real-life psychological abuse. Because I'd learned from what I'd read that my family wasn't normal, not like my parents said it was, and in my stories, the heroes were the people who spoke out when it was hard to.

It is insane to me that there are students right now who can't access books. It is insane that books are being outlawed. It is perverse that we are stealing away an entire generation's ability to contextualize their lives, to learn about the world around them, to develop critical thinking skills and express themselves and feel connected to the world or escape from it, whatever and whenever and however they need.

That is not how you raise a compassionate, thoughtful, powerful society.

That's how you process cattle.

It's fucking disgusting.

[incorrectbatfam]

I hate canon Bruce Wayne hitting his kids so how does he discipline them WITHOUT abuse?

(where's that post about how anything can be a punishment if you frame it as one)

———————

Dick: *breaks the chandelier while swinging from it*

Bruce: *hands him a broom*

Dick: Yeah that's fair.

Bruce: Also you have to use the Batman plate at dinner.

Dick: Please no, I hate that plate.

Bruce: You should've thought about that before.

———————

Tim: *logs into the Batcomputer without permission*

Bruce: And what do you think you're doing?

Tim: I know I've been benched but I just need to—

Bruce: Sit.

Tim: *sits down*

Bruce: *puts on The Bee Movie*

Bruce: If you insist on being down here while injured, then you're gonna watch this in its entirety.

———————

Cass: *blinks*

Bruce: And you think that's an excuse?

Cass: *blinks*

Bruce: We're going for a drive and I'm picking the music.

Cass: *blinks*

Bruce: Maybe you'll take this as a lesson.

———————

Jason: *causes a crime scene*

Jason: Go ahead, punish me. I'll still be right.

Bruce: *takes out a marker*

Bruce: *draws a mustache on Jason's helmet*

Bruce: It'll wash off in three weeks.

Jason: WHAT?!

Bruce: Actions have consequences.

———————

Steph: *breaks protocol*

Bruce: Go change your cape in the car.

Steph: That's not fair!

Bruce: That's the rule.

Steph: *grumbles and puts on a cape that's a slightly different shade of purple from the rest of her suit*

———————

Duke: *sneaks in after curfew*

Bruce: *flicks the light on*

Bruce: Do you know what time it is?

Duke: I can explain—

Bruce: Yogurt. Now.

Duke: But I don't want yogurt.

Bruce: I don't care. Go eat a cup of yogurt and think about what you did.

———————

Damian: *drops his fork at dinner*

Damian: Fuck.

Bruce: *pulls out a straw*

Damian: You wouldn't.

Bruce: *takes a sip of Damian's drink*

Damian: I hate this family.

Dick, eating off the Bat-plate: You and me both.

[theo-7-77]

Sooo...Fuck.

Rant and a small tiny problem under the cut. Don't know if anyone will see this at all but I'm probably gonna be in some serious trouble.

Alrighty. I have two phones; one is my actual, parental locked phone with timers and app locks and everything that I'd like to get rid of. My mom is super protective.

The second is one for just games. Random games I find, those crappy games I like to laugh at while I play, etc etc. Cookie run is namely the biggest game on my 2nd, secret phone with no parental locks at all.

I don't do weird, dumb shit I shouldn't do on my second phone. No mature apps, no mature Google history, etc. Nothing weird, just for jokes and laughs and no parental controls at all.

...the new Motorola (what my actual phone is) update broke Spotify. Literally whenever I play a song, it boots me to my lock screen. If I pause the song, lock screen. Skip, lock screen. Stay on the app too long, lock screen. Play a different playlist? Say it with me, lock screen. It is nice staring at David Tennant's face though, but still. It's annoying and dumb and I've tried to fix it, but nothing worked. And I've, like an idiot, openly complained about it to my mom. :/

I mentally cannot live without Spotify. It helps me fall asleep, and it helps me calm down. Sat through my mom yelling at me with Sugarcrash playing, it hit hard. I can't have yt or YT music because my mom is overprotective. Won't even let me on YouTube on my personal, private laptop.

So I can't use Spotify in public when I need it most (calming), or even at my own house in case I get caught. Very scared for myself because my mom can be a little abusive.

My mom suggested 'finding' my other phone (I told her it's lost) so I can have a better phone and therefore use Spotify. I don't want to get rid of my 2nd phone and factory reset it because that's all my data thrown in the trash.

Yeah, even the Google play data. Mom doesn't let me sign into any other Google account then the one they set up for me, and I don't even know the fucking password.

A little scared for myself, and a little scared what my mom would do if she found out, so it would be ideal to just factory reset it and transfer my data...but I have attachment issues. Even with games. I'm very traumatized.

I know I mentioned my mom being a bit abusive, but I can't call CPS if she does anything, she's the only thing keeping my family together. I'd most likely have to drop out of high school to help with my sisters, and I really want to get into a good college early.

So yeah. That's my situation, there's my problem and there's an easy fix except I'm an idiot who hates seeing valuable (200+ hours on Crk) work go down the trash, even though games are just games and I shouldn't get too angry.

Yeah. I'm conflicting with myself. I have really weird trauma 👍 but still, if anyone has any other ideas please let me know.

Was considering keeping the old phone and turning that one into my secret phone instead. Don't know how well that would work because I can't see into the future and I'm a bit scared.

[uncanny-tranny]

Honestly, there is a certain type of fetishizing of violence that occurs when you are the victim of abuse - wherein people talk directly to you about how much they fantasize about your abuser/s dying and being killed - "all abusers must be killed!" they say.

As a victim of prolonged abuse, I never felt cared for when people indulged that information to me. It often feels like my abuse is being exploited for others to enact their own violent fantasies and secret desires - my abuse means nothing to them in the same way that I didn't matter to my abusers. It's not support - it's just another cycle of violence.

I'm begging people to care more about victims and survivors than they do about retribution of abusers. Nowhere along the way should your focus on the abuser outweigh the people affected by their abuse. If you truly want to support abuse victims and survivors, start with us

[sin-esthezia]

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.

[shamebats]

If you only ever mention trans mascs & men in relation to misogyny when you want to talk about how we're capable of being misogynistic (which wow you've discovered that afab people can be sexist? good job, I learned that at like 11 probably but I'm glad you got there eventually) and never in terms of how we're affected & harmed by it, how it puts us at risk of being sexually abused & exploited by family members, partners & in workplaces, forcefully detransitioned, forced into unwanted pregnancies, murdered etc, then I don't trust you and don't consider you an ally to trans people btw

[lostmf]

I’m not sure I deserve it ..

[ca-suffit]

[emotionaleating]

[hanasnx]

MINORS DNI 18+

ARKHAM KNIGHT who “anal trains” you which is just an excuse to fuck your ass and fuck your ass hard. he treats that spasming and aching hole worse than your pussy and he’s already its abuser. even if you scream and cry and reach back to tell him it hurts his big hand clamps the back of your neck and shoves your face down to shut you up. he fucks that thing like you’re not even there, like you’re not worth listening to, and it makes your empty pussy drip. the globes of your ass ripple from each snapping contact of his hips, and he smacks it telling you to “work for it. back up on it, slut, what’re you runnin’ from?” like he’s not tearing you apart from the inside, like his cock isn’t smthn to be afraid of when it’s bullying it’s way through your pretty asshole—abusing it.

[cupcakeshakesnake]

Fake screenshots and character designs for aforementioned school project.

I'm still thinking about the title, but the plot is basically "Monster gets pissed at rude man who also happens to be a terrible father and adopts his abused kid by force".

[incorrectbatfam]

Jon: What happened in 1812?

Damian: The War of 1812.

Jon: When was it?

Colin: 1812.

Jon: What happened then?

Billy: War.

[infinite-beginnings]

The line when Charles said, "Edwin's told me loads of stories about Hell," and him seeming to know he'd find a map in Edwin's book always hits me hard.

Now I acknowledge Charles might’ve been posturing to reassure the Night Nurse he could navigate Hell, but let's assume this fact was real.

Because that means that Edwin felt comfortable enough to talk about all of his trauma to Charles. He mentions Hell a lot in passing in front of the girls, but he never goes into specifics. However, it seems as if he actively told Charles quite a few details about Hell. I also noticed that Charles is very calm when he's going to find Edwin. Yes, he's studying the book a lot, but he is also navigating the space with a certain amount of confidence. I'm sure it's partially due to Charles' tendency to do things without thinking and project confidence. But also, it seems as if he might have at least a very basic level of knowledge or familiarity with the levels of Hell based on the stories Edwin told.

I think this is probably another reason why Edwin struggled to believe the fact that Charles had faced abuse in his past and never shared it with Edwin. Because Edwin was always up front and honest with Charles. He told him the very first time they'd met that he had just escaped Hell. I'm sure Edwin did not want to relive his memories of Hell, and maybe it took him decades to feel like he could share. But I bet when he started talking about it with Charles, he felt relief. Because sharing your trauma with someone who accepts you and loves you no matter what is always a relief after holding it in and pushing it down.

So I just imagine Edwin feeling that relief after sharing his stories from Hell and feeling closer and more bonded with Charles because of it...and then he finds out that Charles has this huge amount of trauma from his past that he has been keeping inside. It probably breaks Edwin's heart that he hadn't been able to offer Charles the same relief he'd felt.

And yes, Crystal mentioned that Charles was probably denying the trauma even to himself. We all know that Edwin knew something was off with Charles and that he was probably frustrated in himself because he hadn't been able to figure it out, but Crystal apparently had.

But I also think there might be another level to it. The boys have been solving cases for 30 years. I find it hard to believe that they never had another case involving abuse or at least someone with a controlling personality that would've reminded Charles of his father. Maybe Edwin thinks back to a couple of those cases and how Charles was acting strange and withdrawn during them and realized he'd missed a huge clue about how his friend was feeling.

All those years of sharing his stories from Hell and being comforted by Charles and Edwin hadn't been able to do the same. Edwin is definitely hurt that Charles didn't feel like he could confide in him and heartbroken to think about how much pain his friend was going through alone.