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I don’t WANT a career. I want to cuddle and sleep and eat and read and create and love and be loved.

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On gynecological suffering, how we normalize it & why it needs to stop.

OP's pronouns are they/them.

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“Sex-negative messages don’t keep people from having sex. They keep people from having good sex. They keep people from having pride in their sexuality, from sexual self-awareness. They keep people from asking questions about sex, and communicating with their partners. They discourage experimentation. They blur the lines between consensual sex and rape by framing all sex as an undifferentiated mass of “bad.””

— Sex-Negative Education and the Spectre of Rape « Sex Positive Activism 

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Everybody in the language learning space that tries to tell you that you can learn a language in a certain amount of weeks or months is probably trying to sell you something

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"that time of the month" "monthly visitor" "feminine hygiene products" GRRAH!!! SHUT UP SHUT UP!!! PERIOD!! MENSTRUATION!!!! TAMPONS!!! PADS!! MENOPAUSE!!!!!!!!!!!

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made a new sticker design the other day

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you literally have shitty hide armor and a dull ass shortsword. let me guess. your loot is 6 gold coins too? 🙄

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Source ~ IG colete.martin

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Sabrina the Teenage Witch – 2.11: Oh, What a Tangled Spell She Weaves

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I used to be a powerlifter

(please reblog this version, as it is finished!)

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Gothic Hearse “Carthedral” Street legal 1971 Cadillac made by Rebecca Caldwell

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I've told this story before but the non-negotiable in allyship really reminded me of my gaming group. So one of my best friends is a twin and while I know *her* pretty well I don't really know her brother as well despite knowing him for roughly same length of time. We play videogames together and her brother asked to join us so at some point I took him aside and had The Talk with him because we at that point had a recently out trans fem within the group and she had just barely started hormones and hadn't done any voice training etc so I fully intended to head any trouble off at the pass.

So I basically had the "respect my friend's pronouns or die by my sword" discussion because while he knows I'm a trans guy and had so far been chill, I didn't know if that extended to all trans people.

What I did not expect was for him to pull an uno reverse on me and invite his two trans woman friends to game with us as well and did a "no no, *you* respect *my* friends' pronouns or die by *my* sword".

When I was working at Petco, one of my coworkers came to me having a total panic and anxiety meltdown and when I finally got them to tell me what was going on, the revealed they had sought me out because they were having Transgender Feelings and wanted advice. I ended up giving them my old binders that were too small for me but a perfect fit for them, and one of my roommates gave them their first masc haircut.

A few weeks later a customer speaking Spanish was saying many nasty things about my coworker and reacting with disgust. Another coworker- a cis gay man who speaks fluent Spanish- came to get me first so I could pull the other coworker away while he effectively cussed them out in Spanish. He told us the sparknotes version of the English translation and it was mostly horrifically transphobic drivel. My coworker had responded mostly neutrally to me being trans, but for him to be visibly steamed the rest of the day over my other coworker definitely bumped my respect for him.

And I've talked about how a cis lesbian friend of mine visibly bristles at anyone she even thinks is being shitty to me about being trans to the point of making them splutter and back down.

A cishet woman I am only sort of acquaintances with once caught me wincing at being she/her'd at a trial and asked if that had been happening all day. When I responded the affirmative, she stormed off and I didn't see her the rest of the day. The next day, any time anyone referred to me there was an audible pause before a deliberate choice to choose masc versions.

Another trans woman who is a friend of mine once beat up a bully for calling her trans boyfriend a heshe when they were in schooling together.

It's about holding the line. It's about making the active choice to show up for each other. And it's about linking hands and refusing to budge.

If you cannot hold the line with me by your side, then we are not moving together.

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“the ways you have learned to survive may not be the ways you wish to continue to live“

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Full tiktok video here.

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being in a relationship with someone that you can feel 100% understands who you are as a trans person is the most amazing comfort in the world, it's so peaceful to think about

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the anti-bottom-growth propaganda is so evil btw I didn't go on T for ages because I was scared of bottom growth and now my teeny weeny is my favourite thing. like I've started packing because actually having a dick is cool and hot and gender affirming for me and the rhetoric that tdicks are bad/gross is transphobic actually. if you don't want that for yourself that's completely fine but don't demonise my super sexy little weiner thanks