#narcissistic abuse awareness
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sin-esthezia · 2 years ago
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the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.
depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.
ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.
and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.
mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.
but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other LESS stigmatized mental illness, you can be patient with us.
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narcitism · 1 year ago
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seeing things like "how to TORTURE and KILL a NARCISSIST" isn't very fun, imagine if we made things called "HOW TO SLAUGHTER AND MAKE AN EMPATH BLEED OUT!!!!!" i think we would get shot
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empath-abuse-awareness · 2 years ago
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Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful, they deserve to be proud for all that they have survived especially with such a distressing disorder
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nothing0fnothing · 2 years ago
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Survivors of domestic violence: narcissistic abuse is real.
Survivors of childhood violence: narcissistic abuse is real.
Survivors of emotional and psychological abuse: narcissistic abuse is real.
Loved ones of survivors: narcissistic abuse is real.
Therapists specialising in abuse recovery: narcissistic abuse is real.
Experts in abnormal psychology: narcissistic abuse is real.
People with CTPSD: narcissistic abuse is real.
Psychologists studying the effect of long term abuse on the brain: narcissistic abuse is real.
People with diagnosed cluster B disorders: narcissistic abuse is real.
Disabled people who are more likely to be abused than abled people: narcissistic abuse is real.
The therapy prescribed to people diagnosed with cluster B disorders: narcissistic abuse is real.
Self identified "narcissists" on tumblr: nuh-uh.
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neoglowratz · 7 months ago
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man when i see all those posts about how to manipulate and hurt narcissists and such all i can think of is:
damn
yall need to stop abusing your narcissists, if theyre actual narcs they just want attention, go give them a kiss instead duh
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lesbostomping · 10 months ago
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Okay, so I'm late to the 'party', but let me reiterate: people with certain mental disorders are proven to be more likely to commit acts of physical, emotional and sexual violence, and yes, the abuse inflicted by these people is often highly characteristic of their disorder, making it a valid phenomenon to talk about. No, not everyone with a cluster B disorder is abusive. No, not everyone who commits narcissistic abuse fits all of the diagnostic criteria of NPD. No, people with personality disorders aren't irredeemable monsters, not even those who are abusive. I empathize with those afraid of the social stigma associated with their disorder. I also understand how hard it must be to accept that an unchangeable condition that you didn't ask for is making you more likely to hurt others, purposefully or otherwise. But illegitimizing a widely accepted psychological term, speaking over victims of abuse and policing their language is Not It. Stop infiltrating safe spaces to make fun of people and invalidate their trauma.
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touchingthevoid · 6 months ago
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I’m not entirely sure how this will go, if I’ll manage to do it and, if I do, how long it will take me to get there, but I decided to not let myself be broken by one person’s behaviour.
It’s common for a great deal of autistic people (neurodivergent people in general) to feel like others’ bad behaviour towards us must somehow be our fault.
We’re the “weirdos”, so sure we must have done something weird to deserve it, expecially when those others clearly state that much. Or maybe we aren’t, maybe we didn’t, maybe - just maybe - that’s just a lame excuse they use for the inexcusable.
I don’t want to let one such people define me, define how I see myself and define how I see others.
One person’s narcissism with its typical taking advantage of and disregard for others won’t serve as the means through which I evaluate anyone else. They will not be the lens through which I see the world.
I will not apologise for being me, I will not be ashamed of my autism, and I will not automatically take someone else’s nasty behaviour towards me as being surely my fault.
This is a work in progress, but I won’t let them define me, define how much I love or how much I care for anyone else. My own self included.
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ari-the-rockstar · 1 year ago
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narc abuse is real and anyone who disagrees is prioritizing someone's hurt feelings over someone's severe abuse.
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veganspaghettios · 9 months ago
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I started this blog for other reasons and now I'm here to talk about how narcissistic abuse is real and the only people that disagree are narcissists that don't want to get therapy and people that are being gaslit by narcissists that don't want to get therapy (and haven't experienced this particular kind of abuse)
Until you're timing your bathroom breaks so that you can finally text your dad back because your girlfriend thinks you're cheating every time you're texting someone, but you have to make the breaks short enough that she doesn't know you're texting and then catch you texting your dad and scream at you, I don't want to hear "call it emotional abuse". Because that's not what happened.
Because I was in fight or flight mode so constantly, I began to lose my short term memory pretty badly. I have over a hundred random ass notes that make no sense to me now because I had to try to quickly jot down notes about what was going on that mattered to remember in the future because I was being gaslit constantly and I needed to remember what she was saying often enough to be able to be sure I did in fact hear her say it.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a trauma disorder and that's why you need to get therapy for it if you have it. Someone asked me why I would call it narcissistic abuse when we don't call it autistic abuse or cancer abuse etc.
We don't really have any examples of autism developing a specific type of abuse patterns. However, and I'll speak on this as an autistic person, we do talk about all disorders, including this one in how it affects others around the person. There are some autistic people that are quite rude by accident and not knowing what might come off callous or mean. The reason autism doesn't get an abuse pattern named after it is because these things are not consistent (it's such a varied spectrum) and are not severe enough to add to the danger level of a person.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder gets an abuse pattern named after it because it very specifically has such severe and dangerous traits. People are murdered by their narcissistic partners. My friends were worried I might not make it out alive.
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sin-esthezia · 1 year ago
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whenever i hear or see those “how to kill/defeat a narcissist” websites and shit it baffles me. like you’re telling me you want to kill rarity? you want to kill rainbow dash? you want to kill papyrus undertale? deadass?
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narcitism · 1 year ago
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with how horribly narcissists are treated i could say my parents used to hit me and people would tell me i manipulated them into doing it
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nothing0fnothing · 4 months ago
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Why is it always people with "NARCISSISTIC ABUSE BELIEVERS DNI" in their pinned dropping dozens of interactions on my blog?
If you don't wanna interact with me, why are you interacting with me?
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silverdragon128 · 2 years ago
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What y’all call “narc” abuse, was done to me by a fellow Borderline. It’s emotional abuse through and through, not some form of abuse hyper specific to NPD. No, she was not a co-morbid narcissist. She was just a controlling bitch using me to give her some feeling of control over her life. This isn’t about narcissists, it’s about, frequently fellow trauma victims, turning their trauma back on us to secure a feeling of control and power. Don’t get it wrong.
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touchingthevoid · 9 months ago
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How can anyone kind and empathetic not feel empathy for people who had it hard all their lives, who the universe seems to be always plotting against, as it always seems to treat them harshly and unfairly, very sensitive people who fear abandonment and often appear lonely, confused about themselves and their self-worth, self-conscious and insecure, and in need for support, a lot of support, who could do with some praising to raise their spirits?
Unless we’re slightly horrible people, it’s hard not to empathise with someone like this. Yet, who we’re empathising with is quite possibly a narcissist. A so-called “vulnerable narcissist” to be specific.
The biggest strength and most powerful tool of the vulnerable narcissist is precisely the vulnerability they portray.
This is a type of narcissism we don’t talk about often, yet one which is as toxic as any other.
Awareness concerning vulnerable narcissism should be raised: both to allow those around them to protect themselves and to let vulnerable narcissists know that help is available (unlike other cluster B personalities, those with narcissistic personality disorder do suffer as a direct result of how their disorder makes them interact with the world and with themselves).
This is a good start: https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-of-a-vulnerable-narcissist-7369901
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veganspaghettios · 9 months ago
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if narcissistic abuse was real then autistic abuse or idfk cancer abuse would be real
Stop being fucking ableist??? Is it really that fucking hard to understand that if you're blaming people with disorders and generalizing then you're ableist???
If autistic people without a certain level of therapy were prone to a certain type of abuse that they inflicted on people in their life, this is exactly how I would talk about it. Narcissistic people that don't get therapy - and there are so many resources on this it's actually absurd that we have to have the conversation - inflict a specific kind of abuse. No, it's not mental, emotional, physical, or psychological. It's a combination of it all with a twist. I've been in the support groups for it, and we all recognize the signs in each other's stories.
Once I was in a Facebook group for it, and me and this guy were going through the exact same situation. It was so similar that when we talked privately we were both originally spooked. We became friends but admitted later on that we both thought the other person was a spy for the narcissist in our life. The things they do, the lengths they go to... Your mind becomes paranoid, you lose yourself.
I've been abused twice before that relationship, and it was nothing at all like this. I once told her I wished she would just stick to hitting me because the mind games were killing me. And they were. I lost almost 90lbs in less than a year from not being able to eat.
I tried to get her to seek therapy for her narcissism. She only pretended to agree when she thought I was going to leave. She kept me staying an extra 2 months with lies about getting better.
Call me what you want. You call me "ableist", and I'll call her a "narcissistic abuser".
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