#narc abuse does not exist

[a-sip-of-milo]

It's always infuriated me hearing people say that children have it easy. It's only gotten worse as I've gotten older and have been able to reflect on my childhood and see the children around me grow up.

They do not have it easy. They don't get a say in most important things. They're seen is unintelligent, yet expected to understand things that full grown adults struggle with.

They've got a job, which is school, that is actually proven to not be working for a lot of them; myself included. They're expected to sit still and in silence for at least forty minutes at a time, and those with ADHD are treated as though they're immature and lazy because they often physically can't do it.

Far too many of them have abusive parents that lie through their teeth to make people think everything is fine, and of course, who would believe the child over the parent?

Aspects of abuse has been normalised. Parents are sympathised with when children open up about the things they've gone through, especially if they're not physical. They're told that their parents are only doing this because they love them, or that the child needs to start seeing things from their point of view. Meanwhile, adults can freely complain about their children on public forums and to friends and family and get away with it because "it's hard being a parent".

Fuck off and do better.

DNI Believers of narcissistic/borderline/anti-social/histrionic abuse.

[carnage-cathedral]

>"cluster b demonization isn't real! you're just making that up because you're attention seeking and wanna be a victim!!!"

>open internet browser

>"how to defeat narcissists" article is on the front page in the health tab

[witch-of-the-creek]

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

[imagoodone-iswear]

and now for the people in the back:

NARCISSISTIC ABUSE DOESN'T EXIST!

WHAT YOU MEAN TO SAY IS EMOTIONAL ABUSE!

STOP DEMONIZING AN ENTIRE GROUP OF PEOPLE (thats a TON of ppl btw) WHO HAVE NO FAULT OF THEIR OWN IN DEVELOPING A DISORDER CAUSED BY ABUSE AND TRAUMA IN AND OF ITSELF!

YOU ARE ONLY DOWNPLAYING AND DISBELIEVING EMOTIONAL ABUSE WHEN ITS JUST AS TRAUMATIZING AS ANYTHING ELSE!

if you use 'narcissistic abuse' as a legitimate category then you also have to acknowledge 'autistic abuse'! you cant use one but then discard everything else because suddenly "that doesnt exist"!

you want to be the good guys? then maybe stop demonizing people who also just have a disorder. im not excusing harmful behaviour or trauma, we all make mistakes, even egotypicals. what i want is for you to stop grouping in every bad experience or interaction with us!

try to understand and help, not demonize. mocking, triggering and putting down narcissists for their symptoms or disorder will never move anyone to get help!

[beetlepilled]

tbh, as a narcissistic i actually think it's really funny those "narc abuse" posts, like:

• tools and tactics to destroy a narcissistic's ego!

• what you need to know about narcissists!

• how to survive a narcissistic abuse!

it sounds like im a kind of nonhuman superior creature, like wym you think im sooo scary that you need to learn tools of how to destroy me? *twirls my hair and giggles and blushes and kick my feet*

[alwaysvirtualcomputer]

Fucking hate how egotypicals say "get over it" when we tell them to stop using our medical condition as a slur and/or insult... I'm not going to "get over" being used as a punching bag and scapegoat by society and blamed for everything horrible in this world. Egotypicals, you are the ones that need to get over yourselves. You can't constantly treat a group of people like shit and then go around and act like you're the victim.

[lemony-ink]

If you believe in narc-abuse or NPD abuse, block me. I do not want ableists on my dash.

[nordfjells]

You know what's sad to me? Is how whenever you google "NPD" or anything related, you don't get a list of symptoms or proper resources, but shit ton of articles such as "how to recognize a narcissist" or "how to respond to a narcissist".

[only-man-in-the-sky]

[cyrusclouds]

happy narc abuse awareness day!!

friendly reminder that narc/narcissistic abuse isn't a real thing. narcissistic personality disorder is a real disorder that real people have, and a vast majority of those people are not abusers and never will be. to imply that narc abuse is real is to imply that the person abused you because they have npd, which is an untrue and ableist statement. a person does not abuse because they have a disorder, they do not abuse because they have trauma, they do not abuse because they are in a bad place mentally. a person abuses because they are an abusive person who needs to work on themselves.

people with npd are not abusers.

-fellow cluster b personality disorder haver

[a-sip-of-milo]

I dunno, i just think you should be able to do something nice or loving for your siblings without being told that "that's not normal" and "you're being creepy" (two things that have been said to me on more than one occasion)

i bullied my siblings horrendously as a child. hated on them. abused them emotionally, like my mother and father had been doing to me. i'd give them a certain look and they'd all go quiet, not because i was respected but because i was feared. i told them that i hated them more than i'd say i loved them. the only time they ever saw kindness from me was when i'd get into fights with my parents over how they were treating the kids.

everybody told me this was normal. they laughed, took videos of the abuse these kids went through and posted it because "that's what it's like to have siblings!"

My younger sister has the lowest self esteem out of anyone I've ever met now. They all have mental health issues that are most commonly developed as a result of trauma, and while I know I wasn't the sole reason behind it, i played a huge part.

Seeing me again several years after I escaped was like meeting a new person, my sister said to me. I hugged her. i told her i loved her. I constantly reminded her of how smart she was and that i was proud of her. i'd buy them little presents from the store sometimes and took the time to get to know each person all over again.

i even told them about what I remembered and apologised for each individual thing, before encouraging them to tell me about what they remembered. I am fiercely protective over them now, and it pays off each time the youngest rushes to greet me at the door because she's so excited to see me.

just because it's "typical" for siblings to argue, insult each other, etc. does not mean it doesn't leave lasting scars. especially when you're young - you do eventually start to believe it, because you're being reminded of how much you're hated every. single. fucking. day.

DNI if you believe in cluster B abuse.

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

"Guys don't worry, we're not targeting pwNPD! All cluster b personality disorders are abusive!"

i think i should be allowed to hunt egotypicals for sport

[witch-of-the-creek]

After that post that was going around yesterday about how to ‘banish a narcissist,’ I think this needs to be said

If you think narcissist is just another term you can use for self-centered abuser, or stars forbid use the term narc abuse, then get away from me. Unfollow me. Block me.

Narcissism is a personality disorder. A real actual medical issue.

The amount of stigma people with npd face is killing these people. Stigma that use of the word narcissistic in place of abusive or self centered is actively contributing to.

Anyone with any disorder or disability or illness can be an abuser, but you don’t see people going around saying terms like ‘anxious abuse’ or ‘adhd abuse’ even when anxiety can cause someone to lash out and hurt others and adhd can cause inattentive neglect

You can just say abuse. You can say self centered.

Do not throw people with npd under the bus. Do not use your trauma to justify ableism and sanism.

[230radicallyme230]

Mfs when I literally tell them the only person I care about is myself when I actually only care about myself, and it wasn't some silly joke I made for the LOL's:

[hellhoundzzz]

me when ppl say "wow yr so talented !! <3"

I am not. "talented". I am SKILLED. I am fucking SKILLED. I WAS BORN WITH A "TALENT" OF DRAWING STICK FIGURES !!!!!!! NOT THE ART J SRAW TODAY- BECAUSE I PUT TOME INTO IMPROVI G MY SKILL !!!!! ACKNOWLEDGE THAT !!!!

idk it pisses me off & i have bad emotional regulation 😇🧚🏻‍♀️

no shadw to the ppl who like this compliment too btw, just personally it makes me unreasonably upset. shrugs

[corpsecandyyy]

Fucking hate when I watch a rlly good video on narcissism and the comments are full of people talking about their asshole parents

Ur mum who was a bitch to u when u were a kid is not a narcissist. Get the fuck over urself and stop suing the term narcissist as synonymous with 'bad person'

It's a fucking disorder u ableist piece of shit