#cluster b

[sslainsaturn]

being selfish =/= narcy its like if everyone started calling others histrionic for wearing a dress on a night out LMAO

neurotypicals will be like "you can't self diagnose" and then diagnose everyone they dislike as a narcissist

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[bpd-polls]

Not a poll, just drop characters you headcanon with bpd, i'd love to see them

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

NPD culture is getting very confused when people say "relationships AREN'T transactional"... That's all I know. I genuinely wish I could understand what they mean. I'm not kidding. If somebody could help me out, because is it NOT "if you do this for me, then I'll do this for you"? :( I like transactional relationships... I like it when we both do things and take turns doing things for each other. It tells me that you actually care about me, and I guess are "worthy" of me rewarding you.

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[abbadoabbadon]

This is actually so fucking wild to see someone else talking about this, because this exact same thing happened to me.

I was diagnosed with BPD when I was only 15. I knew the psychiatrist for a total of 3 sessions, 45 minutes altogether, and she diagnosed me with BPD. And her diagnosing me with BPD was also her telling my mother how everything I do is for attention and me manipulating everyone else around me.

When she told me (with my mom sitting next to me) that I was nothing more than a manipulative little girl for self harming and that my mother was going through enough and I was making it worse, I tried getting up to walk out of the session. She yelled at me to sit back down and not have a "borderline attack" on her.

My mother bought the exact book you mentioned: Walking on Eggshells. She read the book and tried to force me to read it, as if it was something I needed to change about myself and feel ashamed of.

Relationships were exactly how you described. I asked for honesty and communication and clarification because of my lack of communication skills and picking up on social cues and sarcasm. I'm met with being told I'm just trying to seek validation and I'm too much and overwhelming and manipulative.

My ex turned the entire household against me where I lived once when I was 23-24, because of a false fucking diagnosis of BPD. He told everyone how abusive and manipulative and controlling I was, strictly because of a BPD diagnosis that didn't even apply to me any more. My most recent ex also gaslit me and told me I was just having "BPD splits" on him when I would try to talk to him about how badly he was abusing me, and even how he had raped me, where I just wanted to talk about his actions and make him realize how he'd hurt me.

My meltdowns were also called manipulative and attention seeking, and I was called crazy and abusive, when really, I was overstimulated with everything around me being too much and being treated like a fucking animal by everyone I loved.

I do not fit the criteria for BPD. There are some things I relate to from BPD, so I do question if, hey, maybe I do have it? but those are also autism traits that I fit 100% of. Anything that is not an autism trait that is also a "BPD trait", I do not fit.

Those with BPD, I have your back. I will fight for you, you have a safe place on my blog. Because I know how you're treated, as I was treated the same fucking way every day because of the misdiagnosis.

There was a post I saw recently about BPD being "destigmatized" and "pretty girl disorder" now, and that couldn't be farther from the truth.

You're seen, you're valid, you're real, and it's not your fault.

As a late diagnosed autist I will say one of the most damaging but transformative experiences I've ever had was being misdiagnosed with BPD.

Everyday my heart goes out to people with BPD.

The amount of stigma and silencing they face is astonishing and sickening.

I took DBT for years. Therapists use to turn me away because of my diagnosis.

I would be having full blown autistic meltdowns, crying for help literally - but because I was labeled as BPD ANY time I cried I was treated as manipulative and unstable.

As if the only reason I could be crying was if I was out to trick someone.

95% of the books out there with Borderline in the title are named shit like 'How to get away from a person with Borderline', 'How to stop walking on eggshells (with a person who has BPD)'

I was never allowed to feel true pain or panic or need.

That was 'attention seeking behavior', not me asking for help when a disability was literally inhibiting my ability to process emotions.

There were dozens of times where I had a full meltdown and was either threatened with institutionalization or told I was doing it for attention.

My failing relationships weren't due to a communication issue, or the inability to read social cues. No, because I was labeled borderline, my unstable relationships were my fault. Me beggong nuerotypicals to just be honest and blunt with what they meant was me pestering them for validation.

Borderline patients can't win.

And the funny thing is - I asked my therapist about autism. I told her I thought I was on the spectrum.

BPD is WILDLY misdiagnosed with those with autism and I had many clear signs.

Instead - she told me 'If you were autistic we wouldn't be able to have this conversation'. She made me go through a list of autistic traits made clearly for children, citing how I didn't fit each one.

And then she told me that me identifying with the autism community was the BPD making me search for identity to be accepted - and that I wasn't autistic, just desperate to fit in somewhere.

I didn't get diagnosed for another ten years. For ten years I avoided the autism community - feeling as if I were just a broken person who wanted to steal from people who 'really needed it'.

Because of my providers - I began to doubt my identity MORE, not less.

Ten years of thinking I was borderline and being emotionally neglected and demonized by a system meant to help me.

To this day, I still don't trust neurotypicals. Not fully.

I know I'm not borderline now - but my heart aches for them. Not for the usual stuff. But for the stigma. And the asshole doctors. And the dismissiveness and threatening and the idea of institutionalization hanging over their head.

I love Borderline people. I always will. I'm not Borderline but if you are I love you and I'm sorry.

You're not a bad person. You're not a therapists worst nightmare, you are a human with valid feelings and fears.

Borderline people I'm sorry.

[yippeeimmentallyill]

How neurotypicals look at you when you tell them that sentences "non-clinical narcissism exists too" and "you don't need to have npd to be a narcissist" are just blatant fucking ableism and demonizing the disorder

[nebulagore]

CLUSTER-B EVIL

a term for when you fall under the cluster-b disorders and are evil. this might mean that the user often participates or exhibits traits that are seen as "evil" due to their disorder (ex. having low-empathy and in turn, might have a reputation of hurting people). whether these actions are intentional or not is up to the user. however, i do not condone harming others for whatever reason and using your disorder as a cushion for your actions.

this is incredibly self-indulgent on my end due to how i acted in the past. please take this with a grain of salt as this was made to be silly. i too once was a bpd evil stereotype, so i can make this for a treat.

this term / flag was created by me, but if this was already coined, consider this an alt. flag. i'm sure i'm not the first.

note : this is a re-upload but with a more /srs description than the last. i think people with cluster-b disorders should be able to destigmatize themselves while also being able to express their more negative / "evil" traits that the public hates.

[bpderanged]

So you're telling me I was born without my consent and then all of a sudden my future is in my hands? HUH???

[trans-bastard-dude]

well maybe they should disorder at more opportune times >:(

mfs be like "I can handle your disorders" until your disorders disorder disorderly

[i-3at-s0ap]

Elon Musk isn't a sociopath Trump isn't a narcissist Jeff Bezos isn't a psycho they are terrible racist bigoted assholes but I'm begging y'all to fucking give a shit about people with personality disorders. PLEASE.

[happyherringbonkpickle]

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

*displays textbook symptomatic behavior of my own disorder that I am well educated on* what’s my deal why am I like this

[ruthtearna]

People will do everything except treat mentally ill people like humans

The psychiatrist who wrote the criteria for narcissism just made an extremely important point about what’s wrong with diagnosing Trump with mental disorders

Dr. Allen Frances says in speculating about Trump’s mental health, we are doing a disservice to those who do suffer from mental illness. In a series of tweets, he explained why he doesn’t think Trump is a narcissist — and how harmful it can be for us to keep assuming that he is.

[ed-recoverry]

People who self harm only for attention are just as valid as people who self harm for any other reason.

Seriously.

Parents often make the mistake of dismissing their child’s self harm as “attention seeking” when it’s otherwise.

But what always gets me is that, even if a child is harming themselves solely to get attention, that is a huge problem they need help for!

If a person has to go as far as to cause physical harm to themselves in order to gain what they feel as the proper amount of attention, that is someone who needs help ASAP.

No matter the form, no matter the severity, no matter the reason, self harm is a sign of severe distress that deserves immediate, intense attention.

And no one will ever convince me otherwise.

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