#self help

[4theitgirls]

2025 series: my quarterly overview

january - march: building your foundation

build up workout routine and clean up eating habits

begin and stick to skincare routine

schedule events to build social habits

april - june: growth & consistency

increase exercise intensity, frequency, and variety

begin consistent journaling for gratitude and positivity

volunteer and participate in some group activities

commit to daily reading ; add some variety in subject matter and genre

begin second degree ; prioritize consistent studying and focusing on my career

july - september: refining & expanding

experiment with hair, clothes, and makeup

focus in hydration goals and experiment with new foods and recipes

expand social circle

prepare for fall semester

october - december: completion & reflection

adjust fitness goals based on progress

evaluate style and beauty regimen

make any necessary changes to adjust to schooling

start to make goals for the new year

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[dearlymei]

[histhoughtslately]

Take your time. You’re not behind…

#trust

[adventuretolkienlover]

FACTS.👏

[goddessinnerglow]

Become Your Best Version Before 2025 - Day 20

Building Confidence

Hey Goddesses! After yesterday's deep dive into self-care rituals, let's talk about something that naturally builds on taking care of ourselves, developing genuine confidence. You know how those small acts of self-care we discussed help us feel more grounded? That same step-by-step approach can work wonders for building lasting confidence.

Think about confidence like a garden. You don't just throw some seeds on the ground and expect a flourishing garden overnight. It needs daily attention, nurturing, and patience. The good news? Every small action counts.

Let's explore some practical ways to grow your confidence:

The "Evidence Collection" technique works wonders. Create a folder on your phone where you save screenshots of positive feedback, accomplishments, or moments you felt proud of. On tough days, this becomes your personal proof that you're more capable than you might feel.

Try the "Power Pause" – before automatically saying "I can't" or "I'm not good enough," pause for three seconds. Use that tiny break to add "…yet" to the end of those thoughts. "I'm not good at public speaking… yet." It's amazing how this small shift opens up possibilities.

Remember those self-care rituals we talked about yesterday? They play a huge role here. When you honor your basic needs: rest, movement, nourishment, you're sending yourself a powerful message that you matter. Each time you keep a promise to yourself, even a tiny one like drinking water or taking a short walk, you're building self-trust.

Building confidence isn't about never feeling uncertain; it's about learning to trust yourself even when you do.

Build your confidence with these steps:

Celebrate your daily wins, even tiny ones

Keep promises to yourself

Try one small new thing each day

Stand up straight and take deep breaths

Wear what makes you feel good

Remember your strength by:

Writing down past successes

Keeping a compliments folder

Noting times you were brave

Tracking your progress

Celebrating small victories

Simple ways to feel more confident using Body Language:

Stand tall

Shoulders back

Head high

Make eye contact

Smile when you mean it

Change your inner voice:

Replace "I can't" with "I'm learning"

"I'm not good enough" becomes "I'm growing"

"What if I fail?" becomes "What if I succeed?"

"I should" becomes "I choose to"

"I'm sorry" becomes "Thank you for understanding"

Build confidence through doing:

Start with small challenges

Learn something new

Practice speaking up

Ask questions when unsure

Share your knowledge

When things don't go as planned:

Remember past successes

Learn from the experience

Take a small next step

Be kind to yourself

Ask for help if needed

Build your confidence circle:

Connect with encouraging people

Share your goals with others

Ask for feedback

Offer help to others

Celebrate others' wins

Your challenge for today: Choose one thing that scares you just a little bit (we're talking tiny steps here), and do it. Maybe it's making that phone call you've been putting off, or wearing that colorful shirt that's been sitting in your closet, or sharing your opinion on something small.

What's one small confidence-building step you could take today? Drop your thoughts in the comments, your idea might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.

P.S. Is there a specific aspect of confidence you'd love to learn more about? Public speaking? Dating? Job interviews? Let me know in the comments. I'm planning future content based on what matters most to YOU!

See you tomorrow for Day 21! Remember, confidence isn't about being perfect, it's about trusting that you can handle whatever comes your way. And you absolutely can!

♡ ☆:.｡ Keep glowing, babes! ♡ ☆:.｡ With love, Goddess Inner Glow.

[cocoabuttavasa]

you are.

[maidenmystic]

[gaasublarb]

Progress before perfection.

Never leave something undone that you could half ass

It's a lot healthier to go for a daily walk than to sign up for a gym membership you won't be using because you hate that kind of exercise. It's a lot healthier to eat a frozen meal than to skip a meal because you were too tired to cook something healthy. It's a lot healthier to take a quick shower than to procrastinate an elaborate routine for days. Don't aim so high that you won't be hitting anything!

[reality-detective]

[hiddensideoflife]

Retrograde Planets in Your Birth Chart: A Blessing or a Curse

One thing that many Astrologers agree on is that when a retrograde planet is in the sky it is closer to the earth and is a time to reflect inwards. When we look at Rahu (The North Node) and Ketu (The South Node), many will exclude these shadow nodes of the moon from this explanation. There are some similarities here. What is felt and experienced with Rahu and Ketu is often on a psychological or emotional level. The subtle energies have a way of triggering the subconscious mind, bringing past life issues, deep desires or wounds to the surface. Retrograde planets have a way of encouraging the same level of introspection. But when a soul actually turns inward, how does the person end up behaving outwardly?

One way Astrology has been able to advance in terms of prediction is that some Astrologers look at the stars and the events scientifically. Many infamous Astrologers like K.N. Rao have studied various charts to try to understand how planets will influence events. This type of study can only be validated by understanding what has already happened after the fact. This benefits students of Astrology greatly, but even K.N. Rao has said himself that in order for the science of Astrology to grow and evolve, we must continue to research and perform such tests and case studies. He highlights the evolution of man and how certain perceptions of planets and how they would perform, as well as views about karma, careers and events are often shaped by certain worldviews of the Astrologers within a certain period of time.

As an example, in 1987, when K. N Rao started his Astrology school, very traditional thinkers of the time thought that Astrology should only be taught to certain people within one belief or caste and women were certainly not a part of this group. However, Rao believed that anyone should be taught no matter who wanted to learn. He has Retrograde Uranus in Pisces (sidereal) in his natal chart. He revived Astrology to an immense level, but he also elevated the manner in which predictions were given, and he generated a higher amount of devotion amongst the people to spirituality and the ashrams.

People who have direct planets may follow the normal order of things within the house that the planet resides, but where there is a retrograde planet as we asked earlier, what happens when a soul turns inward to gain insight and to express their ideas and nature to the outside world? In some cases, they may appear delusional or crooked. The soul may not be accepted or understood by society. K.N. Rao’s suggestion to understand Astrology is based on research and staying up with the times. His ideas and thoughts were literally “out of this world.” A retrograde planet will give the native ideas and ways of doing things that are completely different or opposite from present tradition within a society.

In the end, someone has to go inward to elevate the level of consciousness of humanity. We cannot all follow tradition. Otherwise, how will we challenge areas that need to change and evolve? Not everyone can follow the right teachers and gurus, have the best upbringing and education according to current accepted norms. Someone has to go through hardship. Someone needs to have a path that deviates from what is accepted so that this soul can have no other choice but to turn to the Source within to gain new intel that will help us grow as a collective. Where do we think the insight came from that the teachers and gurus that we follow possess? Many souls followed what these gurus have said, but the gurus themselves in some cases did not have a teacher to follow or the teacher was only able to take them but so far. The Self was able to give them something powerful that we did not have prior and this new way of thinking and being created a new movement or tradition. People with retrograde planets are called, arguably even more so than others, to turn inward to realize something new that society needs. Until the soul goes within, they will not know what. And the path must be crooked. If the path was a straight line and it was easy, the soul would likely not turn within themselves for answers.

Wherever you have a retrograde planet in your birth chart, know that this area of life will likely not be a straight road. There will appear to be setbacks and struggles. Some might say this is due to bad karma or that you are cursed. If this is so, let us help you realize that you are then cursed to turn to the highest of divinity which lies within. If you can weather the storms and extract the knowledge through the obstacles, you will in turn see that this placement is more than the outward curse perceived by people who lack understanding. It is in fact one of the highest blessings a soul could ask for as your purpose is definitely to make a mark on the world in some manner if you are able to harness the immense potential that resides in the house placement of the retrograde position. Our advice to you is to TURN INWARD. The answers you seek will begin to unravel your journey to help you decode the inner workings of the Universe and the potential that is within you.

Namaste…

[haifaaziz98]

I am consumed by fear that my mother might die in Gaza while I am far away, unable to help her. The thought of her suffering alone in such a dangerous place breaks my heart. I feel so helpless and terrified, knowing I can't be there to protect her or bring her to safety. Every day is filled with anxiety and dread, as I hope and pray for her survival amidst the chaos.

[selfhealingmoments]

[ed-recoverry]

I love you everyone in red states right now.

I love you everyone who has family that is/will celebrate a Trump victory.

I love you everyone surrounded by loved ones actively voting against your rights.

If you voted for Kamala, you did everything you could and you should be proud.

All of your frustration and anger is justified, understandable, and fair.

I’m sending you all love and peace.

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