#self care

[malusokay]

focus on the likes and not the wants

you may not want to clean your room, but you like the peace and call it brings you after

you may not want to study, but you like the confidence and satisfaction you get from being prepared

you may not not want to apologise, but you like the relief and connection that reconciliation brings

you may not want to cook, but you like the satisfaction of eating a healthy come cooked meal prepared with love

you may not want to exercise, but you like how you feel afterwards and how it makes you confident

you may not want to journal or write, but you like the reflection and calm it brings you

you may not want to step out of your comfort zone, but you like the new experiences and growth you gain from it

my insta @ malusokay

[artbylittlebug]

[graceandopulence]

The Ralph Lauren Girl

[pisces-core]

[mr-orange505]

[cetsuo]

What I'm trying to say is:

By not accepting who I am and what I want

By crushing and condensing my identity til it

e x p l o d e s

all over everybody's everything

I hurt people And then I kept doing it

Over and over again

Until I learned that

raging against the parts of me I find hard to love Doesn't actually erase them

It d o e s n' t actually fix anything

It just

makes me ill

And unfulfilled And you know what's truly terrible Is that some people go their whole lives thinking that's an okay way to feel They wake up every morning and voluntarily

erase themselves

Dream by dream

wish by wish

Until they're barely even people anymore

They're just piles of bone and hair and flesh Red meat going bad And I dunno Maybe it's just me man But

that sounds worse than any awkward, honest conversation I have ever had

[sarahcute]

This is so beautiful and from Tumblr...

hey, I was just at "things got better" island and everyone there is talking about how excited they are to meet you

[thepeacefulgarden]

This. So much this. Granted, no relationship (romantic or otherwise) is going to be a perfect 1:1 ratio of give to take at all times, but it shouldn't be one person doing all the giving and one person doing all the taking. Nor should you be made to feel guilty for saying "no" or choosing yourself.

[nedcaratacus]

[sarahcute]

This is so beautiful and from Tumblr...

assuming that people like you and want to spend time with you is crucial to making friends. unfortunately this is the hardest thing to do in the world

[animentality]

[banrionceallach]

You know, that Mythbusters post legitimately changed my life. Before seeing it, I had exponentially more guilt and stress about not being able to sleep, which of course, further exacerbated my inability to sleep.

Now, every time I wake up about three am, knowing I have to get up at 6.45, instead of stressing and panicking about how my day is going to be sleep deprived and miserable, I just tell myself 'Time to activate Mythbusters Protocol' and lie there with my eyes closed safe in the knowledge that I am measurably reducing later feelings of exhaustion.

And when this happens, about 70% of the time the reduction of guilt and stress means I actually do fall back asleep, so all in all instead of getting only three or four hours sleep, I get five to six and a half.

Which y'know, major improvement in health and energy.

[lotuspositivity]

You don't have to force yourself to bounce back so quickly. I read something recently that said "when you come in from a rainstorm, you don't expect yourself to be dry and warm right away", and it really resonated with me. It's okay to take time to dry off and warm up. Take the time you need to process what happened to you.

[housingofapep]

self care everyone! 🫶

stop ignoring yourself. fix your posture, get a fresh haircut, drink water, take care of your skin, eat food that gives you energy, declutter your space, take time to rest, workout, do mindful meditation, fix your sleep schedule. when you feel/look good, you do good. invest in yourself, put the effort you deserve.

[slfcare]

ten years ago you were so scared of such different things, but you survived them anyway. the same goes for five years ago and two years ago. everything that has ever felt like a hurdle, you’ve passed through. so be afraid, identify your fears, and then allow yourself to remember that in just a little while, this will be another thing that you have overcome.