#self compassion

[curingourhearts]

It's okay to 'grieve' things that aren't just death. I've allowed myself to grieve a friendship ending, a situationship, losing something important to me, etc. It's okay to give yourself time to process the loss of something. Grief looks different for everyone, try to find a way that works for you to help make it easier for you.

[lucky-strike-14]

I'm told by the many Buddhist & Buddhist-adjacent books in reading these days that you can find gratitude for/in the frustration itself. I haven't accomplished it, but the thought does sometimes give me some hope.

You aren't ungrateful just because you're frustrated with your situation. You can feel upset while still being grateful for what you have. Two things can be true at the same time.

[respectissexy]

Since I'm therapist-posting recently:

Legitimately self-compassion is the biggest mental health life hack of all time. I'm NOT talking about self-esteem. You do NOT have to like yourself one bit. You don't have to believe that you're a good person who deserves good things. You just have to believe that you're a person who deserves the things all people deserve.

You can't get from "I'm the Worst" to "I'm a worthy and lovable person" without passing through "I'm just a regular fuckup like everybody else."

Try it on. If you're really addicted to being mean to yourself, you can start by framing it as I'm Not Special. Embrace being a regular fuckup like everybody else.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[selfcare-journey]

Just because you don't have a "thing" to show for all your hard work, does not mean you weren't working very hard. Plenty of things like clarity, knowledge, or balance, are not tangible, but very worthwhile

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

Before I realized I was Trans, I had this intense...longing for a life I felt I couldn't have. And eventually that somber sonder crystalized into a nugget of self-loathing, and this idea that the reason I wasn't allowed to be a girl was because I was being 'punished' somehow.

Absolutely nobody deserves to hate themselves. Relearning self-love is hard, and I know so many Trans people who are working on it. And it's important to keep working on it. You are worthy of love.

[inmyglowupera]

Growing, glowing up 💛

[hellsgreatestdaddy]

You don't have to fix everything tonight. Some days, survival is progress. The dishes can wait. The texts can wait. Your peace can't. So rest without guilt. Cry without rushing through it. Joy will still be there when you're ready. And so will you.

[shamelesslyimpurrfect]

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[chibird]

It's normal to be hard on yourself, because you want to do the best you can and accomplish everything, even when your time or energy is limited. However, sometimes the criticism towards yourself is too much, and it has a negative impact on your mood and motivation. The next time you catch yourself thinking that you "should" be doing more, pause and see if that's actually helpful, because maybe you're doing as much as you can already.

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[lucky-strike-14]

I used to love my job, but both I & it have changed. I'm thinking of moving on, though so far the need to pick up some credentials & the fact that I've been doing it for 24 years (3 at one library, 21 at the current one) have held me back. This post hits

If you find the job you love, it will still feel like work. It can still have terrible days, or even worse than terrible days. There can still be aspects about it that you do not enjoy and that is normal. But a job should never be soul crushing, especially not daily. You deserve to have a job that also gives you something back. Whether it be confidence, knowledge, a fun work enviroment, whatever it is. You deserve to feel good.

[lotuspositivity]

You're going to look back one day and be so proud of yourself. You are overcoming so much, even if it doesn't feel like it. Your future self is rooting for you.

[rek-sdee]

gaining as a form of self actualization

gaining as an expression of bodily autonomy

gaining as an act of kindness towards oneself

gaining as an acknowledgment that you deserve to eat till you’re full

gaining as a means of rebellion against a society that rewards self-deprivation

[thepeacefulgarden]

🌈 I am not confused. 🌈 I am not broken. 🌈 I deserve to be happy. 🌈 I deserve to be loved. 🌈 I deserve happy, healthy relationships. 🌈 I am not an abomination. 🌈 It's okay if I don't fit neatly into any label or category. 🌈 It's okay if a label that fit yesterday doesn't fit today. 🌈 I will go where I am celebrated, not just tolerated. 🌈 I'm not too old, and it's not too late, to figure out who I really am. 🌈 I am enough, I am worthy, and I matter. 🌈 My life is not a performance, and I don't have to prove anything to anyone, including myself. 🌈 I will be the person I needed when I was younger. 🌈 I am not faking it. I cannot fake anything unintentionally. 🌈 I am giving myself the love and care I need and deserve. 🌈 I have nothing to be ashamed of.

[hermajestyimher]

Remember to forgive yourself again, and again, and again, and again, and so on and so forth. We’re all going through an imperfect human experience that requires us to show up and give ourselves grace repeatedly. Never forget that.

[spiritual-alignments]