#you are lovable

[myboredgeneration]

Yes, being a human is already hard. Being a woman is harder too. But being a man is no picnic at all. Often, I wish I was born a female because the way of the world is changing, the future is female. I used to hate life and hate myself, that's why Mother Nature didn't allow me to reproduce. I don't want to kill myself as much as I used to in the past, but I don't know... I spent half of my life with addictions to escape reality. Sometimes life is very unbearable. I am tired of waiting for the day that never comes.

[positivelypositive]

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here to remind you...

...that the parts of you that you think are an inconvenience to others or just not good enough might just be what someone loves the most about you.

your little habits, your efforts to be kinder, your mannerisms - these are a part of you. they make you who you are.

don't let the negative thoughts in your mind bring you down. you are truly lovable ✨

[letsgrownnhealtogether]

You are lovable simply by the fact that you exist.

Not because of any other reason. And you cannot become unlovable for any reason.

You are lovable.

[sulkybender]

Zuko was always dismissed, by everyone. It wasn't until he left home that he learned it wasn't because there was something wrong with him, because he was inherently dismissible.

There were people who could love him. They just weren't in his house.

a year like that

[hellbeast-go-walkies]

Happy Ace Week!

So I'm in the early stages of dating someone. I spent like 5 weeks after the first date trying to figure out how I felt and whether or not I wanted to pursue something when I didn't want most of the trappings of (stereo)typical dating, like wanting to spend all your time together, commitment, end goal of moving in together, etc. So we just never talked about it and hung out as friends.

When I realized my feelings were romantic, I sat down with him to talk through all this. And it turns out that every single hang-up I had about dating are things he also hates about dating or are just non-issues.

All of which is to say that whether you want something romantic, platonic, QPR, or other, you will find people who want the same things you do, and beautiful things can come from honest conversations.

[progressivemillennial]

Friendly reminders!

[eiseryn]

Lovable

"I promise, you are worthy of being loved."

"Even if you do not believe it, if not now, then in the future, you will have the love you always deserved."

[cissyenthusiast010155]

hi! i really need to write down my thoughts right now, but i also need someone to read this, so i figured you’d be the right person

it’s about 2:30 a.m. and i know i probably shouldn’t trust the thoughts that come up after midnight too much but i just can’t help but feel like i’m the most unlovable person to ever exist. and i’m not only talking romantic partners (that i obviously don’t have lol), but also friends and family. i’m no one’s first choice, not even second or third, i’m the one that gets picked if there’s no better option available. it’s always been that way and i don’t know why that is and i don’t know how to fix it…i know i can’t force others to love me. i always ask myself whether it’s the way i look or the way i act that makes people think: ugh no not her…or do i just give off the wrong vibes? but like there’s not much i can change about that as well and i don’t even know if i want to change myself.

i’ve been told that i should give it time and that eventually everything will turn out the way it’s supposed to…but what if it doesn’t? i want nothing more than a partner that i can give all my love to, that i can be gentle with, that i can be vulnerable with, that i can be committed to…but what if that’s not in store for me? do i just…move on? forget about it? but how will i move on if the thing i crave most is genuine human connection?

i don’t know…i think in the end it’s just me feeling so incredibly alone while other people around me seem happy and are someone’s number one priority. if something happened right now, good or bad, i’d have no one to call and that just makes me so sad to think about.

anyways, i will stop my rambling, thank you for taking the time to read this. i’m not sure if this even makes sense because i feel like i can barely string two sentences together right now, but still thank you! <3

-🐛

{Let’s Talk Loneliness and Feeling Loved…}

Hey heyy anon…!! First off, I am so proud of you for reaching out. Such a brave and vulnerable thing to do. Thank you for sharing. Second, everything you have said here is extremely valid. I want you to remember that. Remember that you and your feelings are valid. ♥️

Yes, as you said, it probably is not best to listen and believe your 2:30am thoughts. You’re most likely tired and not thinking thoroughly…. When you start feeling overwhelmed that late or early, try some techniques to comfort and calm yourself down. Maybe a cold shower or a hot bath (vice versa too), maybe some tea, or sometimes simply going to bed can be helpful to give yourself a kind of reset.

*sigh* I am sorry to hear that you feel unlovable, dear anon… In all aspects. I understand the feeling. Your feelings and experiences are extremely valid. You say that you’re never the first option, usually the last remaining one, and I am so sorry for you.

So you asked, are you unlovable, why do you feel so unlovable and how can you fix it?

Well for one, you are not unlovable. You at your core, as human being, are capable of love (unless you’re a psychopath or sociopath, but this is an aside). However, it is possible for trauma or for the person themselves to hinder their capability of love. This can happen sometimes when said person has been hurt, scarred, or traumatized in the past, so they put up walls to keep from being hurt. If you think this is possible for you, I highly recommend you seek professional help to accept, process, and heal from your trauma.

Second, you most likely feel unlovable because of the constant negative reassurance and the negative mindset you have around your lovability. When you have people constantly not choosing you, or people telling you that you’re unlovable, or you telling yourself that you’re unlovable, that affects you. And in turn, you will begin to believe it. Try to shift your mindset. Remind yourself that you can be loved. That you will be loved.

The most important relationship in life is the one you have with yourself. If you can’t love yourself, how can you expect others to love you. So think about your relationship with yourself. How can you improve it? How can you love yourself better? This is the first big step in healing from your feelings of being unlovable.

If people don’t like the way you look or your vibe, then they are not the people for you. Present yourself to the world in your most authentic and honest way of being, and the people who are worth your time will find you and you will find them.

Don’t move on or forget. That will lead you to neglect and ignore you and your human need for social connection. Instead, focus in on what you want to improve about yourself. Reflect the people you want to attract in your way of being.

But at the same time, don’t give it more attention than it deserves and needs. If you under-feed a plant or if you over-feed it, it can die nonetheless, no matter which method. You want to strive for moderation.

I’m sorry you feel alone. ♥️ I relate to those feelings of severe loneliness. I would remind you of these things: People aren’t what they appear, most people aren’t as happy as they appear. Let yourself be your main priority, if you don’t put yourself first, others won’t either. And lastly, reach out, don’t wait for others to pick you, pick them out first.

Of course, I am happy to take the time for you anon because you are worth it ♥️♥️. It all made absolute sense. You articulated yourself well. Thank you again for reaching out!! Don’t hesitate to reach out again and again, I’ll always be here to listen and give my two cents. Hope you have a lovely day/night!! 💞💞💞

Talk with Me ❤️‍🔥

[itsnice2haveafriend]

If you ever feel like you're nothing all that special, just remember that everyone who has ever been your friend, spent time or effort on you, or otherwise chose to touch your life is a person that saw something in you that they felt was worth keeping around or worth investigating further. You are not only loved but also worthy of that love and worthwhile.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[warditoff]

You belong on this planet! You matter! You should be alive and you are worthy, not because of what you do, not because of productivity, but because you are you!

You are not replaceable! You are not a burden! You are unique and lovable! You are inherently worthy! You are worthy unconditionally! You matter!

You are enough! You are important! I believe you! You are valid! You are irreplaceable! You are wanted! You are you and that’s amazing! No one is like you and that’s wonderful! You belong here! You should be here! Amazing that you are alive!

I’m proud of you! Be proud of you too! Love yourself too! Sending hugs to you!

Always have your self love, self loyalty, self worth, self compassion, warmth and gentleness for you!

You matter!

[pr1ncessk1tty]

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[funcoolchickie]

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[xwhimxpronex]

His face💔💔💔

"You're afraid you're unlovable." (S02E03)

[conscious-manifesta]

"Knowing that we can be loved exactly as we are gives us all the best opportunity for growing into the healthiest of people." ~Mr. Rogers

[thatrandomblogsays]

RIP Annabeth, I just know Percy sacrificing himself for you, after knowing you for a week, after telling you that you’ve done more for him this week than his father ever has, is permanently altering the brain chemistry of your avoidant attachment self