#wonyoungism

[biscuitdolly]

୨ৎ the girl with everything in her bag .ᐟ

your ultimate guide on how to prepare a bag for whatever the world throws at you!

( any bag should work ─ you could use a smaller bag or use a bigger bag with heaps of pockets! )

WHAT TO PACK .ᐟ

face/makeup related:

makeup for touch ups (if you wear it!)

spare lash glue (if your use falsies!)

lip balm

lip gloss

mini flip mirror

body, hand and hair related:

deodorant (preferably spray on)

mini perfume/body mist

mini lotion

hand cream

hand sanitizer

nail file

spare pad/tampon

hairbrush and/or comb

hair ties

pencil case:

mini notebook

pen and pencil

eraser

mini ruler

sharpener

highlighter

purse/wallet essentials:

house/car keys

ID

drivers license (if you drive)

credit card

spare loose cash

any useful gift cards you own (make sure they have money on them and that they're not expired!)

misc:

gum

mints

wet wipes

mini tissue pack

a snack

bandages (you can also go the extra mile and make a mini first aid kit, although this is optional!)

if you have braces, a toothbrush and mini toothpaste in a travel case are a must!

[ariaxco]

how to stop being the "cool girl" who gets used ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･ 🎀

you're the cool girl. the one who's "not like other girls." the one who doesn't ask for much. who goes with the flow. who's always understanding, always flexible, always available.

and you're tired of getting used for it.

you thought being low-maintenance would make you more lovable. you thought being easy-going would make you more desirable. you thought not having needs would make you more attractive.

instead, it made you invisible.

here's the truth they don't tell you: the cool girl is the girl who gets taken for granted.

you're performing "coolness" to avoid rejection

being the cool girl isn't natural for you. it's a performance. a strategy. a way to avoid conflict, confrontation, and ultimately, rejection.

you say you don't care when plans change last minute (but you do). you say you're fine with casual when you want commitment (but you're not). you say you don't need labels when you want clarity (but you do).

you've convinced yourself that having no expectations means you can't be disappointed. but really, you're just protecting yourself from the possibility of someone saying no to your actual needs.

you think if you're cool enough, easy enough, understanding enough, they'll choose you.

but people don't choose the person who needs nothing. they choose the person whose needs they want to meet.

you mistake being used for being wanted

they only call you when they're bored. they only see you when it's convenient. they only want you when they have nothing better to do.

and you tell yourself this means they want you.

but using someone isn't the same as wanting them. being someone's backup plan isn't the same as being their priority. being their convenient option isn't the same as being their choice.

you're confusing access with affection. availability with appreciation. tolerance with love.

they don't want you. they want what you provide: easy s€x, emotional labor, ego boosts, entertainment, comfort, convenience.

you're not a person to them. you're a service.

you've made yourself too small

you've shrunk yourself down to fit into whatever space they're willing to give you. you've minimized your needs to match their effort level. you've dimmed your light to make them comfortable.

you don't take up space. you don't make waves. you don't rock the boat.

you think this makes you easy to love, but it makes you easy to ignore.

people don't value what they don't have to work for. they don't appreciate what they don't have to earn. they don't treasure what they can take for granted.

you're afraid of being "too much"

you've been told you're too sensitive, too emotional, too needy, too demanding. so you went the opposite direction and became nothing.

you don't express your feelings because you don't want to be dramatic. you don't state your needs because you don't want to be demanding. you don't set boundaries because you don't want to be difficult.

but there's a difference between being too much and being enough.

you deserve to take up space. you deserve to have needs. you deserve to feel your feelings and express them.

the right person won't think you're too much. they'll think everyone else was too little.

you think independence means isolation

you pride yourself on not needing anyone. you handle everything yourself. you don't ask for help, support, or emotional intimacy.

you think this makes you strong and independent. but really, it makes you isolated and disconnected.

healthy relationships require interdependence, not independence. they require vulnerability, not invulnerability. they require showing your soft parts, not just your strong ones.

if you never need anything from anyone, no one can truly love you. love requires the opportunity to care for someone, support them, show up for them.

you're addicted to potential over reality

you see what they could be instead of what they are. you focus on their good moments instead of their consistent patterns. you make excuses for their behavior instead of accepting it.

you think if you're patient enough, understanding enough, cool enough, they'll become the person you see in them.

but you can't love someone into their potential. you can't cool-girl someone into commitment. you can't low-maintenance someone into caring about you.

people show you who they are through their actions. believe them.

how to stop being the cool girl

1. start having opinions

stop saying "i don't care" when you do care. stop saying "whatever you want" when you have preferences. stop agreeing with everything to avoid conflict.

have opinions about where to eat, what to watch, how to spend time together. your preferences matter.

2. express your needs clearly

stop expecting people to read your mind. stop hoping they'll figure out what you want without you telling them.

if you want commitment, say it. if you want consistency, ask for it. if you want respect, demand it.

your needs aren't shameful. they're human.

3. set boundaries and enforce them

decide what you will and won't accept. communicate those boundaries clearly. enforce them consistently.

if someone doesn't respect your boundaries, they don't respect you.

4. stop being available 24/7

you don't have to respond to every text immediately. you don't have to be free every time they want to hang out. you don't have to prioritize their schedule over your own.

have a life outside of them. maintain your friendships, hobbies, goals, interests.

availability should be earned, not assumed.

5. call out bad behavior

stop making excuses for people who treat you poorly. stop being understanding when someone is consistently inconsistent. stop being patient with people who don't respect your time.

if they're late, say something. if they cancel last minute, express disappointment. if they're being disrespectful, call it out.

you're not being dramatic. you're being human.

6. be okay with people not liking the real you

some people will prefer the cool girl version of you. the one who never complains, never needs anything, never causes problems.

let them miss that version. she wasn't real anyway.

the right people will love you more when you're authentic, not less.

7. stop performing and start being

stop trying to be the perfect girlfriend, friend, daughter, employee. stop trying to be what you think they want.

be who you actually are. messy, complex, human, real.

what happens when you stop being the cool girl

when you stop being the cool girl, some people will disappear. the ones who only liked you when you were convenient. the ones who benefited from your lack of boundaries. the ones who enjoyed your low standards.

good. they weren't really for you anyway.

you'll also discover who actually cares about you. who respects your boundaries. who wants to meet your needs. who loves you for who you are, not what you provide.

the difference between being cool and being yourself

being cool (the performance): suppressing your needs, opinions, and feelings to avoid conflict.

being yourself: expressing your needs, opinions, and feelings authentically while respecting others.

being cool (the performance): saying yes to everything to avoid disappointing people.

being yourself: saying no when something doesn't align with your values or needs.

being cool (the performance): accepting whatever treatment you get.

being yourself: having standards and maintaining them.

why you're not actually high-maintenance

having needs doesn't make you high-maintenance. wanting respect doesn't make you demanding. expecting consistency doesn't make you difficult.

high-maintenance is expecting unreasonable things. wanting someone to text you back is not unreasonable. wanting someone to follow through on plans is not demanding. wanting emotional intimacy in a relationship is not difficult.

you've been gaslit into thinking basic human needs are too much.

they're not.

the cool girl vs. the confident girl

the cool girl has no standards because she's afraid of being alone.

the confident girl has standards because she knows her worth.

the cool girl suppresses her needs to keep the peace.

the confident girl expresses her needs to create authentic connections.

the cool girl accepts whatever she can get.

the confident girl only accepts what she deserves.

remember: you're not a placeholder

you're not someone's backup plan. you're not their convenient option. you're not their emotional support animal. you're not their therapist. you're not their mother.

you're a whole person with needs, feelings, opinions, and worth.

stop acting like you're grateful for scraps when you deserve the whole meal.

being the cool girl won't make them love you more. being yourself will help you find someone who loves you right.

[n1pp]

Who is SHE?

→ journal out who you want to be in 2025:

1. What does she look like? (Physical appearance, style)

2. How does she dress on a typical day?

3. What does she like ?

4. What doesn't she like?

5. What is her behavior like in different situations?

6. (Social interactions, demeanor)

7. How does she prefer to be treated by others? (Expectations from relationships)

8. How does she treat people around her? (Interpersonal relationships, kindness)

9. What does her daily routine entail? (Activities, schedule)

10. At what time does she usually go to bed? (Sleeping habits)

11. When does she wake up in the morning? (Morning routine)

12. What are her hobbies and interests? (Leisure activities)

13. What is her profession or occupation? (Career, job responsibilities)

14. What are her long-term goals and aspirations? (Career ambitions, personal achievements)

15. How does she handle stress or challenges? (Coping mechanisms, problem-solving approach)

16. What type of books does she enjoy? (Cultural preferences)

17. How does she maintain her physical and mental well-being? (Health and self-care routines)

18. Does she have any specific dietary preferences or restrictions? (Food choices)

19. Who are her closest friends, and what are her relationships like with them?(Friendship dynamics)

20. How does she navigate conflicts or disagreements? (Communication style, conflict resolution)

21. What values and principles guide her decision-making? (Personal ethics)

22. How does she spend her leisure time on weekends? (Weekend activities, relaxation methods)

[girlbloggercher]

25 screen free activities

do a puzzle

play an instrument

sew

draw and doodle

go on a walk

read

clean your room

write a story

paint

bake

scrapbooking

make a bracelet

garden

candle making

origami

photography

meditate

paint your nails

host a game night with friends or family!

do your makeup

write a love letter

collect rocks, flowers, etc. outside

cuddle with your pet!

visit the library

take an everything shower

[4theitgirls]

youtube channels to motivate you this semester

♡ abao in tokyo - study with me’s & playlists

♡ advika singh - study & productivity vlogs

♡ allie c. - medical school vlogs

♡ carrot td - study with me’s

♡ celine - study with me’s

♡ deaana - medical school, study with me’s, stationary, etc.

♡ dear mimi - study vlogs

♡ dia - medical student vlogs

♡ dr. rachel southard, do - medical school & residency vlogs & talks

♡ emily feng - medical school vlogs

♡ emilystudying - dental school & study vlogs

♡ emma grace - nursing school vlogs

♡ emmalilyn - study with me’s

♡ ginny - study vlogs

♡ hyobin - medical student vlogs

♡ leighton sanders - nursing vlogs

♡ lucky penny - study with me’s

♡ lunardazes. - uni study vlogs

♡ madi’s nursing journey - nursing school & nursing vlogs

♡ mango oatmilk - study with me’s

♡ maria silva - study & hospital interning vlogs

♡ merve - study with me’s

♡ mishujo - study & productive vlogs

♡ nada - study & productivity vlogs

♡ ray hon - study with me’s

♡ sab yang - medical school & study vlogs

♡ sean study - study with me’s

♡ sierra lyn - nursing vlogs

♡ studymd - study with me’s

♡ study to success - stationary, study with me’s, study hacks, etc.

♡ tani study - study with me’s

♡ yours truly, chloe - study vlogs

♡ yulma - study with me’s

[nanasangelwings]

Be high maintenance to be low maintenance: a checklist

daily

- AM and PM skincare

- shower (cold shower for the last 3 minutes)

- moisturize !!!

- floss, mouthwash, brush teeth, clean your tounge

- walk 6-10k steps

- 7-9 hours of sleep

- take your supplements

- drink 1,5-2 liters of water

weekly

- shape eyebrows

- wash hair 2-3 times

- exfoliate your body

- face, hair, feet and hand masks

- hair oiling

- full body shave (face and body)

- change bedding

- clean your room

monthly

- deep clean your room

- everything shower

- mani and pedi

- hair trim (every 3 months)

- teeth withening

- hair glossing

- laser hair removal

annually

- dentist appointments

- doctor checkups

- clean out your closet

- set goals for yourself

[huellitaa]

"match my freak!" match my sweetness. match my benevolence. match my empathy. match my ability to feel emotions so deeply it tears me apart from the inside out

[jangwon-young]

[moraanguinhos]

♡⃝ Cutesy symbols for u ❤︎ ྀི ݁𓂅˚۪

- combos ♡

🎀 ྀིྀི,𓍯𓂃,♡ 𓊆ྀི❤︎𓊇ྀི ⋆ ᰔᩚ ྀི₊ ⊹ 📁⃤̑♬˚ ♡݂྇༄݂ ݁

𐔌 🎀 ྀི˖ ࣪ ⁺ ⑅ ꫂ ၴႅၴ ֯݁კ👛 ྀི݂𐨨ྀི𓈒ต

𓏲˚ ۪ ❤︎⊹. ݁ 𓏲˚ ۪ ♥︎ ݁⸝⸝⸝ ⑅ —໒ྀི ⃝˳♡ ྀི˖ ࣪𓈊

⑅♡ ྀི˖ ࣪𓈊 🎀 ྀིྀི ˖⋆࿐໋ ݁ ₊ ⊹ . ݁˖ . ݁ᡣ𐭩ྀིྀིྀི

𓊆ྀི . . . 𓊇ྀི ⠀⠀⑅ ₊  𐙚 𓂃 ࣪ ◌ 𓉳

꒰ 𑄽୧ ꒱ 𓈒 𐂯 ֗ ๑ . . . ̣̣̣︶ ྀི

❥. 　⁓ 𝒟♡⃝ll..𓈒ིུ❤︎ 🎀🧁 ྀི𓂃 ࣪˖ ༝༚༝༚ ᥫ᭡

- kaomojis ♡

♡ ꒰ˆ◞⸝⸝◟ˆ ꒱੭ﾞ. ໒ִ 𓈒ིྀ. ̫ . ིྀაഒ ໒ ྀི>֯ . <ྀི֯ ̥ ︣ა

૮ ◞ ̫ ◟ ྀིა ♡ ૮ › ༝ ‹ ྀིა 𐅛૮⳿ྀི. ̫ . ̥ᐢꛒ𓂂݂♡𓊇ྀི

ꔫ  ࣪ ˖ ♡ ꒰ˆ.⸝⸝. ྀིˆ꒱Ⳋ ૮ ྀི◞͈ ˔ ◟͈ ྀིა ໒꒰՞ ܸ. .ܸ՞꒱ა

꒰꧞ ˃ 𛱊 ˂ ꒱ྀི ♡ ꒰ˆ. . ˆ ྀིྀིྀིྀིྀིྀིྀི꒱੭ﾞ ꜀(^. . ^꜀ )੭ .ᐟ.ᐟ

໒꒰՞ ܸ. .ܸ՞꒱ა ᓚ₍ ྀིྀི^. .^₎ ᡣ . ٜ̥ .ྀི 𑁩ཾיִ

- bows/ribbons ♡

ྀིྀིྀིྀིྀིྀིྀི ౨ৎ ୨ৎ 𝜗𝜚 𐙚₊˚⊹♡

‎

𐙚 𓏵𓏵𓏵 𐙚 ㅤྀི◟ ͜ ◞ ྀི◟ ͜ ◞ ྀི

𝜗 ♥︎ 𝜚

[messyoungie]

stop ignoring yourself, you’re meant to live.

[ariaxco]

you're not "too much," you're just around the wrong people ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･ 🧸

you've been told you're too loud, too emotional, too intense, too passionate, too sensitive, too everything.

so you made yourself smaller. you dimmed your light. you apologized for taking up space.

but you're not too much. you're just around people who are too little.

who tells you you're "too much": people who are uncomfortable with authentic emotion. people who prefer surface-level interactions to real connection.

people who are threatened by your passion because it highlights their apathy. people who are intimidated by your energy because it makes them feel small.

people who benefit from you being smaller, quieter, more manageable.

what "too much" actually means: you feel deeply in a world that's afraid of depth. you care passionately about things that matter to you.

you express yourself authentically instead of filtering everything through other people's comfort levels.

you refuse to shrink yourself to fit into spaces that were never meant for you anyway.

the right people will never make you feel like too much: they'll celebrate your passion, not try to dim it. they'll match your energy, not drain it.

they'll appreciate your depth, not be threatened by it. they'll see your intensity as a superpower, not a flaw.

they'll make space for all of you, not just the parts that make them comfortable.

what happens when you stop apologizing for who you are: you attract people who love you for you, not despite you. you stop performing a watered-down version of yourself.

you discover that the right people think you're not too much but exactly enough.

signs you're around the right people: they encourage your dreams instead of calling them unrealistic. they celebrate your wins instead of trying to humble you.

they want to hear your thoughts and opinions. they're curious about your passions.

they never make you feel like you need to apologize for being yourself.

remember: you were never too much. you were just in the wrong rooms, around the wrong people, trying to fit into spaces that were never meant for someone like you.

the right people won't just tolerate your energy - they'll be energized by it.

stop shrinking. start shining. the right people are looking for exactly what you have to offer.

[myperfectsacrifice]

[girlbloggercher]

my favorite tumblr posts

Cultivating Your Signature It Girl Aesthetic | THE IT GIRL DIARIES

a talk on my favorite timeless beauty and fashion detailz

ultimate IT girl guide

how to live your life like the BRATZ ♡

self care tips 🫖

The IT Girl Wardrobe Essentials | IT GIRL DIARIES

beauty and brains⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🎀☕️

The Prissy Girl Look

pretty girl handbook⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁

cultivating a high maintenance lifestyle⋆.ೃ࿔*:･👛🐩

inner glow up. ᥫ᭡

getting it together⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🗒️

micro glow up part two⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁

Be high maintenance to be low maintenance: a checklist

take care of YOU first⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍭

your guide to casual glam⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍰

romanticizing ur night routine⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁🫧

The girliest things you can try to do on your worst days 𓍯𓂃𓏧♡

Doll Mindset!! How To Achieve It 🎀

how to be more feminine⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🩰

VISION BOARDS | THE IT GIRL DIARIES

Complete Guide : How to looksmax & drastically improve your appearance

VICTORIA SECRET ANGEL ULTIMATE GLOW UP🩰

Dream Girl Masterpost 🍰

Every it-girl needs:

✧ if it doesn't align with the dream life, it's a distraction ✧

a guide to take back your power ‧₊˚🦢✩

The Ultimate It-Girl Guide to start every new year

Prissy Girl Essentials

GLOW UP GUIDE FOR 2025

how to stop being so obsessed with them.

Socialite In Training 🦋

RECLAIMING DISCIPLINE CAN LOOK LIKE:

fostering and living out confidence⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁🍬

things to put in ur fashion journal⋆.ೃ࿔*:･📔🎀

Journaling Ideas!!

[glowettee]

30 Ways to Romanticize Your Life 🌸

Life is more beautiful when you slow down and notice the magic around you. Here's how to romanticize your everyday moments:

 Wake up early to watch the sunrise.

Use your favorite mug for morning tea or coffee.

Write love letters to yourself in a journal.

Go on a solo date to a cozy café.

Light a candle while you work or study.

Play soft instrumental music while cooking.

Take a walk in nature without your phone.

Organize your desk with pastel stationery.

Capture small moments with a disposable camera.

Make your bed every morning.

Wear an outfit that makes you feel confident.

Add fresh flowers to your space.

Watch your favorite childhood movie.

Dance in your room to nostalgic music.

Try a new skincare routine.

Write down three things you're grateful for every day.

Learn calligraphy or start a creative hobby.

Keep a collection of your favorite poems.

Use a fancy pen for your daily notes.

Take a luxurious bubble bath.

Treat yourself to your favorite dessert.

Read a book that inspires you.

Keep a vision board of your dreams.

Watch the stars on a clear night.

Use aromatherapy oils for relaxation.

Write a letter to your future self.

Wear perfume even if you’re staying home.

Set up a cozy nook for reading or journaling.

Look for beauty in small details.

Smile at yourself in the mirror every morning.

[bloomzone]

No one is watching you as much as you think they are. No one cares if you're biking alone, playing basketball by yourself, or sitting by a river with a blanket and a book. What actually matters is how those things make you feel. Do they bring you peace? Do they make you happy? That’s what counts. Not some random stranger’s opinion that won’t even last ten seconds. think again