#tw sa

[donteverblameash]

I FEEL THE SAME WAY

I was also worried for this song and the fact Mr. Jorge just MADE Odysseus say "YOU PLANNED TO RAPE MY WIFE" with such anger was so just YES I just felt angry and glad Odysseus was there and IT WAS REALLY FREAKIN GOOD AND IM GLAD IT WASNT CENSORED

odysseus actually saying the word rape in the song freed me of all the discomfort hold them down made me feel

idk why but it's just so. sexual assault has always been something that should have clear boundaries - and instead, you see the people in power, people who should punish and uphold the law, shift around definitions and wordplay.

as if it isn't a disgusting violation of a person, of their life, of their trust.

metaphors are beautiful, they're my favourite figure of speech. but metaphors, skirting around the topic, when it comes to rape, is what, to me, truly makes that feeling of disgust and discomfort, and yes, even panic, rise.

because the truth is? i know there are people who can excuse and disregard "taking her love and more". not consider it rape. not consider it assault. there are, unfortunately, people who can disregard a metaphor this clear. justify it, even.

but most of those people can't justify the word rape.

I dont know if this makes sense. forgive me if it doesn't. but to me, the intense nausea that hold them down brought about was erased and hell, even comforted, by the rage and protectiveness and bluntness of that one line in odysseus.

jay did a fucking fantastic job.

[28confusedthoughts]

favorite Wincest headcanons?

I have a few but they are always changing and are often contradictory... i mostly like 'em pining and desperate, dean either non-conning sam or suffering in silence without ever acting on his desires. But since you asked for wincest, i'll stick to dub/non-con ones <3

● pining, non-con

From the outside, it's their canon relationship. Except dean is forever pining for his little brother, every day harder than the last. Sam is blissfully oblivious to it all - until dean gets the mark of cain and can't control himself anymore.

He rapes sam, repeatedly, until sam's lost consciousness from the pain and blood loss. When sam's body goes limp, dean has a moment of clarity. He stands, head throbbing and body shivering. He checks sam's pulse, and when he's sure sam is alive he takes off, leaving sam's broken body lying on the bunker's floor.

Standing if front of Death, dean is ready to end it all. Sam, for some reason, is not.

In raping his brother, dean tore something in sam's body. He has a permanent limp now, a lifelong reminder of what dean had done to him.

Dean hates himself for it, hates that he remembers every second of it. He can still feel sam's shaking body under him, what it felt like, being inside him. He can still hear the pathetic sounds sam made, groaning, sobbing silently. Begging for him to stop. Dean hates how much he enjoyed it. Hates that he still gets aroused watching sam limp around in the bunker. Wants sam under him again, his body writhing -with pleasure or in pain, he doesn't know.

He tries multiple times to apologise, but sam shuts him down. He says it was the mark's doing and he forgives him, but his eyes don't quite meet his big brother's for a very long time after.

Dean never forgives himself.

● unrequited, dub-con

It's more or less their canon relationship, with occasional fucking. It's unrequited for the most part. Dean is obsessed with sam, and while sam is nowhere near normal about dean, he doesn't want that kind of relationship.

He does however seek out comfort from dean when he's in pain -emotional or physical. Even then though, it's just watching tv together in dean's bed, and sam shifts his leg, just a little, so his ankle is pressed against dean's under the covers. Or lets dean rest his arm on the headboard behind his head and play with the hair at the nape or his neck. He leans into the touch, but pretends otherwise.

They have sex very rarely. Sam never initiates, except That One Time. It's their first time, in late season 3 before dean goes to hell. After that, it's always dean who makes the first move, but their next time doesn't happen until the end of season 5, before sam says yes to lucifer: dean is desperate, and sam could never deny him this one last wish.

When dean is gentle with him, sam reluctantly enjoys it. It makes him nauseous, but he likes the feeling of dean filling him up, his body's comforting weight and warmth, the light touches. Eyes intense, attention unwavering, focused only on him.

He can never finish when they have gentle sex though. But when dean is rough and he wants it to hurt, when he leaves bruises under his fingertips and calls sam a monster, an abomination, a freak, he comes so hard he nearly passes out from it.

Immediately after, he locks himself in the bathroom and throws up. Even after an hour-long, steaming hot shower, he feels unclean and disgusting. When he comes back out dean is already fast asleep, the angry lines of his face smoothed into a slight smile of satisfaction.

Soo idk if these are even really headcanons or half assed one-shots, I'm so bad at this (╥﹏╥)

Anyways i have an spn headcanon tag if you'd like to go through it for my adopted headcanons ♡

[linkoleg]

Okay, I'll just carefully drop you some sketches from Lust's youth and his… internship at the lab.

He doesn't like to talk about that time.

TRIGGER WARNING ⚠ SA UNDER СUT

[1nv1s1bl3-r41ndr0p5]

being aroace literally is hell because sometimes i look at people in a happy relationship n be like I want that I want love so bad and then the next minute I'll literally feel nauseous over hearing someone call their partner a pet name.

pair that with sa trauma and you get a whole bunch of not so fun emotions

[muwwwsky]

some anti reblogged it and said “just a reminder proshippers welcomed me when i was young and send me porn”. Somehow i can’t reblog them mb bc they blocked me or something.

Just a reminder that antis stalked me when I was 9 because of the sans/toriel pairing because of the opinion that “Toriel looks too old for sans!” just a reminder that the antis on the discord server forced me to cut myself, threatened me with photos of my selfharm and then distributed them on other servers and ridiculed them under the pretext of “she ships problematic things, she deserves it.” 

just a reminder that my groomer on the Internet was actively against proshippers, but in private messages she forced me to send her naked photos, my selfharm cuts and my underwear, manipulating me and ultimately accusing me that it was my fault. Just a reminder that because of the antis I cut myself and was afraid to go online for a long time, and because of them I cannot recover from paranoia.

just a reminder antis did all of this things when i was 9-10. In the discord servers with 100-200 people online.

according to your logic, just because I (and, by the way, hundreds of proshippers with whom I communicated online) had a bad experience with antis who sexually abused me, this means that now the entire antishipper community is hypocrites and pedophiles. Stop pretending that a person's views are completely dependent on their actions. There are good and bad people in every community. 

???? No we fucking don’t???? we are saying that children shouldn't be in proship zones because those are adult topics??? Literally every third proshipper has "minors dni" in their bio??? Are you just trying to attribute things to us that we don't do and show us in a bad light?

[duckysprouts]

ares slays his daughter’s rapist

[fellshish]

The different and sometimes tiring types of reactions to the neil gaiman allegations

- ‘neil didn’t write good omens’ (he did and we simply have to learn to separate art from artist)

- ‘how dare you think about anything else but the victims’ (people can care about multiple things at once + these allegations have been known for months and months?? some of us have processed this)

- ‘how do david/michael/etc feel about this’ (it’s none of our business)

- ‘donate to victims of sa’ (sure if you can)

- ‘bdsm is fine WITH consent’ (it is)

- ‘everyone is innocent until proven guilty and i refuse to condemn him’ (go read the article / enjoy being blocked by me)

- ‘his writing was always Problematic’ (learn to separate art from real life victims of sexual abuse please)

- ‘his writing can still mean a lot to you without you being a bad person’ (yes. just try to avoid giving him money maybe)

- ‘it’s just terf propaganda’ (it really really isn’t. and fuck terfs)

- ‘reminder to prioritise your own mental health, step away from online spaces if you need to, and: you have no obligation to read the entire article if it’s too triggering’ (true. you’re still a good person i promise)

[idontmindifuforgetme]

Can we please talk about the Gisele Pelicot mass rape case more? This shit is so disturbing that I’m shocked at how deep men’s hatred run for women goes, even the ones they marry and commit to for life. A man willingly drugged his own wife, raped her multiple times, and then invited 50 men over to share in the act - from 2011 through 2020. How does that not make people incredibly angry. How does it shock no one else that misogyny could run this deep

[feelingemotjons]

a black trans women is in need of help

@miracleon63rdstreet is a black trans women who has gone through absolute hell and back. She is currently in a lot of debt and she and her cousin don’t have enough money to feed her cats and her cousin’s kids. She is living with her cousin and her cousin’s electricity bill is due on the 10th

if anyone could give her money on her cashapp, venmo, paypal, chime, or gofundme it would be greatly appreciated

[scramratz]

Part 1

[animentality]

[until-my-teeth-fell-out]

I can't do this anymore

Trying SO SO HARD to read things in good faith but I keep running into the "minors can consent" folks. Please.

[killer-queen-k]

I love the evolution of the seriousness of the suitors intent towards Penelope. Tw: SA

So in "Legendary" it begins with Telemachus saying the suitors are "they're trying to win the heart of my mom." This is framed as a naive boys version of the situation. He doesn't understand the severity situation regarding his mother. He knows the situation is bad but he doesn't recognise how bad it is.

But that instantly changes when the suitors first speak. Antinous makes a joke of it saying "Open her room and we can have fun with her." It's framed as more of a lewd joke with the intent of provoking Telemachus rather than a direct threat of rape.

Then we get to Hold them Down. The threat has turned from a disgusting joke to a real plan. The song does everything but say the word "Rape." It uses a strong innuendos to convey what it needs to.

It isn't until "Odysseus" that their plan is called out for what it is. The suitors wanted to rape her. End of story. And it's said with all the vitriol and hate it deserves and it's paid back tenfold by The King of Ithaca.

[nakakabaliw]

(⚠️Talk of SA/Abuse Victims/Anya Mouthwashing)

⚠️If you need any "credibility" i am also a victim of abuse.

My Thoughts on #GIRLBOSS Anya

TW: S/A , Abuse

Some people need to realize that not all victims of abuse are empowered #girlbosses and are in fact scared to face their abuser bc of power dynamics and such .

Sometimes people just arent able to stand up to them, and thats okay. Its easy for some to say "oh they should fight back" but its really not :( often times their abusers are people in power, or close to them that they wouldnt want to antagonize in fear of disappointing them or for them to do the worst.

Sometimes victims may not even realize they were being abused/manipulated, and sometimes they downplay their own suffering bc its easier than fighting back.

That isnt to say that "victims should just comply to their abuser", its definitely not, and if you are suffering from abuse please seek as mucb help as you can. Im referring to people who always assume that if victims just "tried hard enough" they could defeat their abuser.

This is why often times I feel a little off put by depictions of Anya being this girlboss character who couldve defeated Jimo Because it sorta downplays her fear of him. Yes, we wouldve loved to see her succeed and win, but she was honestly scared. She was doing her best to please him by cheering him on and folding in when he berates her.

Personally I also want her to take that gun/axe and hit him where it hurts, but as a victim of a similar (not SA) type of abuse where people who controlled/manipulated were far above me, I symphatize with her.

Her death and her folding up, her taking drastic and risky measures such as hiding the gun case when she told Jimo about her pregnancy. Her struggling to open up about it bc shes been dismissed already by Curly, who couldnt believe that someone hes close to would do such an act and is trying way too much to balance both sides.

This is all just my opinion. Theres really nothing wrong with making a victim stand up for themselves, in fact yes, it should be celebrated. But also dont dismiss when a victim doesnt do that due to fear/trauma.

TL;DR: sometimes victims can dismiss their own abuse for the sake of safety.

Pls keep in note that im speaking from complete experience and am no way a psych major or anything. This is just my voice and opinion and if you beg to differ, im open to discussion ^^ please be respectful!

[abyssal-ilk]

playing as a tabris warden and especially playing as a fem tabris warden is just a constant over and over gut punch. you're getting married but then you, your cousin, and several other women from your alienage are kidnapped during your wedding by the arl's son. you slaughter your way out of it to save your cousin and the other women, but there isn't a victory in it— you know there will be retribution for killing a palace full of guards and several nobles even though you were defending yourself and your kin. you're forced to leave your home and join the grey wardens without being given even a single night to recover. you know there will be a purge. you don't know if you'll ever see your family again.

you're taken to ostagar where you are the only woman amongst the grey wardens, and not only that, you are the only elf among them. you remember nessa, the girl in your alienage who was afraid of leaving because she feared what the soldiers would do to her after going so long without seeing a woman. your status as an elf and a woman are constantly remarked upon. you have no choice but to stay. you are fed darkspawn blood by duncan; the blood kills one man while he slaughters the other in front of you. you are supposed to feel grateful to have survived this.

and even later when you seek help from the dalish, what do you learn from zathrian? the same injustices that were inflicted upon you have been repeated over and over for centuries. what do you learn when you seek help from the mages? templars lurk in every corner, always watching, driving mages to the same violence you yourself committed. what do you learn in orzammar? to be a castless woman is to be not considered a person, who's only worth is the children she can bear for the same nobles who keep the castless subjugated. to be chosen by a noble is supposed to be an honor. why does this feel familiar?

AND THEN. what do you learn from the deep roads? darkspawn in all of their corruption are no different; you learn of the broodmothers. it is the same everywhere, no matter where you look. nothing changes. even your other party members, leliana and zevran, have their own stories. and you don't have another choice but to keep pushing on.

[illusoryfem]

This is so disturbing. Fuck Neil Gaiman