#transmasculine

[genderqueerdykes]

pitting minorities against one another doesn't benefit anyone except those above us.

[a-chilleus]

Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance, a day to remember and mourn the transgender people who lost their lives to violence in the last year. Here is more info: https://glaad.org/tdor/

I’ve written long posts on facebook for TDoR in the last few years, but today I want to share three things.

1) a poem, dedicated to all of the trans people I know who have struggled so intensely with the impact of transphobia and all of the trans people who are feeling hopeless and terrified. You are not abandoned, you are a loved and valued part of our community, and we will fight for every last person.

2) a list of links to resources for trans people, far from exhaustive but hopefully useful to at least one person who sees this.

3) a short list of places for cis people to donate – I found a few GoFundMe campaigns for trans people who are fundraising for the surgeries they need to be at peace in their bodies or who are trying to escape dangerous or hostile situations, and most of them have very few or no donations at the time that I write this. I donate to trans peoples’ GoFundMes almost every time I hear the news of a trans person’s death, because the only thing I can do in response is try to give back to the trans community in some small way.

It turns out that Tumblr has a limit to how many links you can share per post, so I will put everything in this google doc.

[cr1zz0]

Always remember that: It is Ok to be Trans

[queerstellium]

not even rlly into breeding like that,, but its literally devastating to me that he can't cum inside me </3

[jester-i-hardly-know-her]

Being transmasc is:

1. Being completely ignored and talked over

2. Getting angry at the misogyny some transmascs buy into

3. Feeling like you have to apologize for being who you are

hey guys we can all agree its like, incredibly sad and fucked up when a trans man feels like he has to apologize for being a man, right. like even jokingly. it’s very concerning that people have created an environment where a trans person is expected to be apologetic about their identity, right.

[genderqueerdykes]

i feel like it's really important to point out some really transphobic and dangerous rhetoric that we've just accepted as the norm in online queer spaces.

if you believe that in order for a trans man to talk about their experiences with trans manhood, they must also talk about how bad trans women have it or else they're being transmisogynistic, you're being transphobic. these are two separate conversations and not all trans men can accurately tell you what trans women go through. not all trans women can accurately tell you what trans men go through, either. you can't expect someone to have every conversation about transness at once when they are just trying to give anecdotes about their personal lived experiences. trans men are allowed to talk about trans manhood as much as they need to... that's their lived experience.

expecting one side to talk about how the other has it worse in every conversation they have about themselves is hostile behavior. it's not holding trans women down for a trans man to talk about their experience with trans manhood and don't mention how bad other queer people have it. those are separate conversations. don't expect trans women to have to bring up the struggles trans men have in order to talk about their own experiences, and don't do this to any other group of queer person, either. don't do it to anyone. it's okay to have one conversation at a time. not every conversation can represent every single group of queer person at once, nor should they have to.

there's a time and a place for all of these conversations. there is just as much time to be had having conversations about trans womanhood as there is trans manhood. it's okay to have these conversations separately at the same time. it's alright for someone to only comment on what they know. it's not great to force people to comment on experiences they don't understand because it leads to misrepresentation. let trans men talk about their experiences with trans manhood without expecting them to talk about a bunch of other queer identities, too. you don't have to drown out the voices of trans men in order to lift someone else up. we can have these conversations, separately, at once.

[ieatratsforbreakfast]

Petition to tag NSFW posts in queer tags appropriately!!

PLEASE tag your NSFW posts as NSFW so that people who don't want to see it can filter those posts! I am sick and tired of going on queer tags (especially the lesbian or ftm tags) and seeing NSFW that isn't tagged as such.

Queer folks who aren't interested in seeing explicit content should be able to browse queer tags freely without having to see improperly tagged NSFW posts.

I know someone is going to misinterpret this and come for me

THIS IS NOT ME SAYING YOU CANNOT POST NSFW UNDER THE QUEER TAGS! THIS IS ME SAYING TO PUT THE TAG #NSFW OR #NSFT ON IT AS WELL, SO PEOPLE CAN FILTER THAT CONTENT!

[1nky-quill]

Right, and it’s so tiring.

As transmasc, we deserve a place to feel safe. I’m tired of being treated like a cis man by cis women.

And it’s sucks that whenever we call cis women out on being transphobic towards transmascs, they call us misogynistic.

My ex (a cis woman) would constantly speak about trans issues when she had no right to speak on those topics.

She would continuously call me things like ‘pretty’ and ‘beautiful’ when I constantly asked to be called handsome. She’d only really use masculine terms for me when I asked her to. Otherwise she only did the bare minimum (calling me her boyfriend, using he/him for me, etc.)

I’m tired of cis people thinking they have a right to speak about trans issues, especially when a trans person corrects them and they refuse to acknowledge them.

As a trans man I have more of a say on trans issues than she ever has. But I knew if I ever stood up to her she would tell me I was a misogynist and ‘cisphobic’ or something.

Fellow trans people, if your partner does something transphobic toward you, break up with them. They aren’t deserving of you. Unfortunately they will play the victim and start portraying you as a predator, but that’s exactly why they need to leave. Their allyship is conditional.

sorry since realizing my gender i have zero tolerance for the whole “man hating” angle of being queer i hate i hate it i hate you. stop. you are hurting people.

[apollyonarts]

I feel like in remembering those who came before us we must remember the reason the trans community is still alive is with continued for the people of the past. I thought about the fact that armor is gender neutral garment (even though knighthood is associated with masculinity), it allows for gnc / trans / queer expression (historically, Joan of Arc being a rather obvious example) - A trans person feeling safer in their suit of armor rather than their clearly gendered garments - being protected literally from physical danger and metaphorically from the expectations of the world and expected to play the role of "protector" rather than "man" or "woman" and at the same time being strong enough to fight back against those who wish to hurt them. Not everyone is able to become a warrior, its up to those who can fight to help those who cant, community is the only thing we have, armies, people united are strong, separated they're weak. Support your trans community members. [Image ID: A digital illustration of a transmasculine and transfeminine in light and heavy armor respectively, both are wearing helmets emblazoned with a heart with a feather, they have the color schemes of the transmasculine flag and transfeminine flag. The transmasc is holding a giant blue sword and the transfem is holding a giant pink battleaxe in one hand and putting the other on her hip, each is wearing a pride flag (transmasc and transfem respectively) around their neck. They are situated on a light blue backround. End ID.]

[salavijas]

almost 500 days on t thankyou forcemascblr

[iamconsumedbymedia]

Remember to stand tall, we are not wrong or disposable for how we are, be proud and true to yourself! I'm going to live my best life for those who didn't get that privilege and for myself, who deserves to live my truth, no matter my start I am a man, I am trans, I am alive!

your existence is victory

[adamsuniverse1144]

how to approach another man:

[malicious-code-103]

Twink went to da club!!!

He/they

[morbidcrow24]

crazy how people assume trans guys dont know if we had short naturally coloured hair and a basic style we'd "pass better." "you want tips on how to pass? no more fun piercings, jewelry, anything feminine, dyed hair, nail polish or nice things for you!" thanks but I choose joy and whimsy x

[chaoticrei]

Like/reblog if you think that you don't need to medically transition to be transgender