#cluster c vent

[imagoodone-iswear]

does anyone else have extreme trouble with backpaddeling or just feeling this urge to downplay themselves every single time something is supposed to come from myself?

everytime im stable with a decision and an opposing decision or an agreeing decision comes up, i immediately second guess and feel like i have to downplay this or change my decision because this came from ME so "yk its not that bad after all" or "im sure i just thought wrong its actually better than my brain makes me think".

yeah sure...

im so sick of saying yes but then being like "yk what, no,,, thats not my opinion, nah, its not even that bad, we can just do whatever you want its fine" after 3 years (/hyp) of pondering what the fuck i even want.

its so fucking annoying i cant even put it into words. and every single time too. i just have this urge to downplay myself, my thoughts, my opinions, my struggles, everything from myself. so i also backpaddle on a lot of stuff because suddenly im just "nah its not that bad, i swear".

[kitten-forward]

[sleeplessv0id]

sometimes the distractions fail, and I am forced to confront the fact that I am still as sick as I've always been.

[avpdpossum]

one of the most frustrating parts of avpd for me is that i can get so angry — i mean want-to-put-my-fist-through-a-wall-or-maybe-a-face angry, have-to-stop-myself-from-crashing-my-car angry, like scary angry — and i can’t do anything about it. i’d bet most of the people who know me would laugh at the idea of me being that angry because it’s so far off from anything i could ever express.

not that i would want to act on those urges, but i can’t even say that i’m angry out loud, much less raise my voice or god forbid slam a door. it just all builds up inside of me until there’s so much of it that it gets violent and i spend hours just sitting there with my eyes closed imagining what it’d feel like to scream at the top of my lungs or destroy everything in my room or leave with no intention of ever coming back again. all i can do is fantasize about what it would feel like to be angry the way everyone else gets to be angry until it gets so bad that it’s not just the way everyone else gets angry, it’s something worse than that. my therapist once told me she thought i needed to learn how to get angry, and i didn’t know how to tell her that i can get angrier than she would ever believe, it just lives inside my head and never gets to come out the way everyone else’s does.

and if you’ve never felt it, you can’t even imagine the kind of resentment that turns into, the way you start to hate everyone around you so much you want to see them hurt or even dead, because why do they get to be loud and angry and show it off to the world when you can’t? how dare they be so goddamn frustrating and piss you off so much when you know deep down that they would hate you for ever showing it?

i’ve imagined the catharsis of getting loud and destructive since i was little because something furious has been burning the inside of my mind for my entire life and it will never stop because it will never have anywhere to go. it makes me feel like a horrible person, like the kind of person who might just snap one day and do something awful, and i guess i just have to live with that.

[dorianbrightmusic]

PSA

-OCD is not a synonym for neat or preoccupied with tidiness. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is all about distressing intrusive thoughts and rituals (compulsions) used to combat those thoughts.

-Intrusive thoughts are not synonymous with silly things I want to do. They're deeply upsetting, often taboo mental apparitions. Letting them win is the last thing anyone wants, and nobody is immoral for having them. (See 'impulsive thoughts' if you need a term.)

-Anorexic is not a synonym for thin or emaciated. The majority of anorexic people have OSFED atypical anorexia – that is, their BMI is above 18.5. You cannot judge the severity of someone's illness by their appearance. (If you're worried about someone, look out more for rapid weight loss than thinness, even when it's occurring in someone in a larger body. 10kg in 10 weeks is never a good thing.)

-Eating disorders are not synonymous with just anorexia and bulimia. Anorexia is an ED, but it's nowhere near the most common. Bulimia is an ED, but again, not the most common. Together, they do not constitute the most common. The most common ED is binge-eating disorder, and the second most common is atypical anorexia, which is one of many, many OSFED categories. Those living with ARFID, pica, night-eating syndrome, rumination disorder, subthreshold BN, subthreshold BED, and orthorexia all deserve dignity, compassion, and acknowledgement. Remember: EDs are not necessarily thin, and never glamorous.

-Schizophrenic is not a synonym of all over the place, abnormal, unpredictable, dangerous, or crazy. Nor is schizoid or schizotypal. Folks with schizophrenia spectrum disorders live with hallucinations, delusions, disorganised thoughts/behaviour, and/or catatonia. They are far more likely to be victims of violence than perpetrators, and go to huge lengths to act okay even when distressed by symptoms.

-Schizophrenic is also not a synonym of multiple personalities/volatile. For the disorder involving having different facets of personality that are generally unaware of each other, see Dissociative Identity Disorder, and even then, don't assume it's a) dramatic as it is in the movies; b) evil; or c) trivial. DID is a trauma disorder.

-Delusional is not a synonym of wrong. Nor is it the same as this politician/friend is saying something I do not like/that is potentially dangerous. Delusions are false, fixed beliefs held despite evidence. And generally, folks with delusions don't tend to proselytise them. I know that certain politicians have beliefs that seem to persist in the face of evidence, but nevertheless, we don't need to stigmatise mental illness further to call out poor political/social behaviour. If you need a word for the pundit spewing potentially dangerous content, use 'dangerous' or 'wrong', but don't call them delusional.

-Bipolar is not a synonym of all over the place or fluctuating results. Bipolar disorder involves mood states that, even in the rapid cycling form, tend to last at least 3-4 days (mania) and weeks (depression). If you need a word for the weather, use 'British' instead.

-Psychotic is not a synonym of evil. Psychosis is losing touch with reality, whether it be through hallucinations or delusions. It doesn't make a person bad or violent. It's just a neurological phenomenon that may be distressing. It's also relatively common: 6-15% of people will hallucinate in their lifetime.

-ADHD is not a synonym of just quirky/scattered/forgetful/unfocussed/lazy/careless. ADHD is fundamentally a disorder of being able to choose where to direct attention, rather than of just I can't focus. If someone can't tune out the noise of the crowd, but can't prevent themself focussing on something trivial because their brain is wired that way, it's not laziness or just being quirky/scattered.

-Autistic meltdown is not a synonym of temper tantrum.

-Borderline is not a synonym of harridan.

-Narcissist is not a synonym of abuser.

-Mentally ill is not a synonym of volatile or bad person. This doesn't mean we have to make something artificially positive out of mental disorders. If there is good to be found in certain disorders, great; if there is nothing positive about living with certain others, that doesn't make you any less real or resilient than anyone else. It's okay to have complex feelings about your own disorders. It's okay to feel exhausted or frustrated by a disorder. But never should anyone have to face stigma.

[notesfrompanihida]

Who has the Death note I need you to put my full legal name in that thing

[nofuckingideawho]

I'll make it to sixteen and wish I didn't

[helping-people-love]

Small reminder that you are loved and cared for no matter what’s going on! You’re allowed to have bad days or weeks or months!! Mental health struggles are very real especially with winter coming quick and the election happening. Remember you are loved and cared for and I will fight for your right to live! Happy Wednesday friends and make sure to eat something even if it’s small and drink water!!!

Much love friends ❤️

[qurbanjaan]

Vent ˚ ༘♡ ⋆｡˚

It saddens me to see so many people on Tumblr pretending and/or self diagnose themselves with serious mental conditions and treat it as a personality trait and most of the times don’t even take time to research about what they’re pretending to have. No, you don’t have CPTSD/BPD because “omg so me, I’m a crazy possessive girl too🎀”. Those issues are based on severe trauma and genetics, you most likely don’t have it and you should be happy not to.

If I exit therapy, I will start losing people around me again because I tend to make relationships unstable and only very patient people that actually see I have a disorder can deal with me, I self harm to be sure I’m real because I can’t connect my mind to my body and seeing my blood is the closest I get to it and even with one year of therapy my psychologist couldn’t find a way to make me realize I’m real and connect me to my body, I do things I don’t want to do, I have random crisis and gut wrenching emotions that come out of nowhere, I have tachycardia, anxiety, I can’t sleep at night and I have nightmares every day, my brain is permanently damaged to a point you can see it through MRI scan, I’m hyper vigilant, paranoid, can’t go out alone because I have panic attacks, I have hallucinations and sometimes I enter psychotic episodes, I dissociate and I have memory lapses. I have no identity of my own and I oscillate between totally different people from day to night, I have fragile self esteem and I tend to be emotionally manipulative the second someone I love gets angry at me and I feel so desolated that I cry copiously, I am emotionally dependent on people and I get desolated and depressed at the slightest inconvenience. People like me end up socially estranged and hated by people like you, that pretend to have an issue. We are those weird classmates you have that you mock.

Please stop making “BPD flag <3” “PTSD flag^.^”, you’re ridiculous and you have no idea how hard it is for people like me to exist and improve ourselves. People get tired of people like me and you are so fucking cruel to pretend to have those issues because you simply can’t know what it is to need to improve yourself to be socially acceptable and be able to have relationships simply because YOU need to learn how to act and not because other people are mean. WE are the issue and it hurts to see y’all doing it.

[therapeutic007]

🚀✨ The Totally Accurate Chronicles of Exposure Therapy for AVPD ✨🚀

So, I’ve been doing exposure therapy to tackle my AVPD (Avoidant Personality Disorder), and let me tell you, it’s a wild ride. Imagine trying to train a cat to fetch, except the cat is your self-confidence and it’s currently napping in a box labeled “NOPE.” 🐱📦

Yesterday’s challenge was to have a casual conversation with someone I don’t know well. Easy, right? Except my brain decided this was the perfect moment to stage a dramatic reenactment of every social faux pas I’ve ever imagined. I ended up discussing the weather with a stranger for 45 minutes. Not just the weather—THE WEATHER. 🌦️🌪️

Then came the “meeting new people” part of the therapy. So, I went to a social event, and as soon as I walked in, my brain immediately decided that I was the human embodiment of a “Don’t Talk to Me” sign. I’m pretty sure I managed to achieve the world record for most awkward “Hi” in a single night. 🤦‍♀️👋

And let’s not forget the best part: confronting my fear of criticism. My therapist said, “Write a blog post about your experience.” Well, here I am, writing a blog post, and my internal editor is currently screaming “THIS WILL BE THE WORST BLOG POST EVER!” 📉🖋️

So if you see me out there, chatting about the weather or pretending to be super chill while internally flipping out, just know I’m on a journey. A journey where I’m discovering that maybe, just maybe, being awkward is my superpower. 🌟😅

Here’s to conquering fears one awkward moment at a time! 🥂💪 _________

Highly Recommend this ERP Workbook

[oshidorifuufu]

seeing someone achieving happiness and getting inspired and hopeful then remembering thats not as possible for you because you have disorders and they dont

[drifting-bones]

if i don't get attention i'm going to fucking explode but if i do get attention i'll make it awkward and fuck it up or just get overshadowed and ignored again. i can never fucking win.

[sleeplessv0id]

I don't believe in God. anymore

but I hope he loved me. at least once.

[avpdpossum]

the way hyperbolic suicide jokes have become so common is really frustrating in part because now when i try to explain that i can’t just force myself to interact with people in spite of my issues with social interaction because even the tiniest thing going wrong could make me want to kill myself so it’s literally not safe for me to “fake it til i make it,” the response i get is “yeah, sometimes when i get something wrong in a social interaction i feel like i should just go kill myself, but you just have to do it anyway and power through that” in this super lighthearted tone.

and i don’t know how to explain that no, i mean those situations literally make me actively suicidal and i’ve almost crashed my car multiple times in the past few months because of conversations i thought i might have messed up. because the thing is, people do understand the difference between those jokes and actual active suicidality, but because they don’t see a simple conversation as a big enough deal to warrant that kind of response, they automatically assume i must be speaking hyperbolically like they would be if they said that.

i’ve spent so much time afraid of what i might do to myself when the slightest thing inevitably goes wrong and i can’t seem to get anyone to take that seriously because all they hear when i talk about it is an exaggeration of standard social anxiety at best and a funny joke at worst. and sometimes, it isn’t that they don’t care enough to listen or that they don’t want to take me seriously; they’re just so used to hearing those words used for effect that the thought that i could be speaking literally doesn’t even cross their mind.

[harmoniousbpd]

It's always “mental health matters! ”

Until that mental health is destructive,

Until that mental health, turns into handfuls of hair on the floor of a bedroom after ripping it out in a haste.

Until that mental health swallows someone whole and forces them away from everyone they have ever loved.

Until that mental health creates bloody tissues.

Until that mental health turns their bedroom into a junkyard.

Until that mental health turns every memory into a blur.

Until that mental health turns them unrecognizable.

Until that mental health leads them to neglect themselves for weeks on end.

Mental health only matters to you when it fits your standards.

[bpdcodone]

The more you weep the more she smiles