#avpd + autism

[avpdcultureis]

avpd + autism culture is not allowing yourself to unmask and simply be because your inner critic is watching, and it says that unmasking and relaxing, that being your authentic self even when behind closed doors is embarrassing and wrong and your making a fool of yourself.

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[ppd-culture-is]

Stop saying differently abled when you mean disabled.

Stop saying gifted burnt out kid when you mean disabled.

Stop saying the c-slur when you mean disabled.

Stop saying 'super power' when you mean disabled.

Stop saying senile when you mean disabled.

Stop saying special needs when you mean needs for someone who is disabled.

Start saying disabled when you mean disabled.

Disability isn't, nor will it ever be, a dirty word. The only reason you think it's dirty is because you walked on it with muddy shoes.

[dailydivergent]

Neurodivergent reminder: Overstimulation feels a lot like anxiety, and understimulation feels a lot like depression.

More importantly, you don't need to know which it is to practice self-care.

Self-caring anxiety and overstimulation looks the same:

Recognize you're feeling big feelings

Take as many deep breaths as your need to slow your mind

Identify what’s causing the feeling, whether sensory, environmental, or situational

Minimize that cause as much as possible immediately

Self-caring depression and understimulation looks the same:

Recognize you’re in need of stimulation

Turn on an interesting long-form video of some kind

Do some quick exercise like a walk or jumping jacks

Call a friend that'll let you infodump

If you're neurodivergent and easily get stuck on labelling things — I see you.

I'm here to remind you that you don't need to know what it is to take care of it in the meantime.

You can — will — figure it out later.

[bargainbinsock]

not being able to make friends means you always feel disposable because you can always be replaced but you can't replace anyone.

[takemetodragonstone]

grabbing a Symptom by the throat and screaming WHO SENT YOU!?? WHICH DISORDER DO YOU BELONG TO

[roachie-paradise]

line-up of all disorder creatures i know of!!!!! !!!

i love the silly silly creatures sm

credits ;;

schizospec creature (the irl) by @thenullepisode

stpd creature (the brb) by @thenearsightedmicroraptor

npd creature (the imo) by @/imnotherelmao

avpd creature (the brb) by ME!!!

bpd creature (the kms) by @mentallyillanimal

hpd creature (the wyd) by @mentallyillanimal

aspd creature (the idc) by @mentallyillanimal

autism creature (the tbh) by @/princestarangel

adhd creature (the btw) by also the same person as above? correct me if im wrong <:3

and tagging @telephone-blights who watched me draw these sillies

[avpdyapping]

maintaining relationships, any type, feels like treading water. it's something that I'm capable of, but the second that I stop Actively And Conciously Making Myself Do It, I start to sink, and everything floats away. I have to drag myself back to the surface to get it all back, and if I get tired again then I lose it all again. Another metaphor could be the guy whos always rolling that boulder up that mountain. idk. Its just so easy to suddenly lose everything and watch relationships fall apart and not know how to fix them and keep them fixed

[gradivpd]

Me after hanging out with friends:

Omg I had such I great time with you all however after analyzing our conversation I’ve come to the conclusion that you all didn’t want me there and hate me... Same time next month?

[definitelynotaweirdo]

[avpdcultureis]

AVPD + Autistic culture is ignoring someone's messages after running out of social battery and then hating your fucking self for doing it and ghosting them forever after because of the overwhelming fear

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[starfishinthedistance]

Unclear instructions that you have to "just figure out" in work/school environments are a legitimate accessibility issue and I wish more educators/employers saw it that way.

You are making your course/workplace completely inaccessible for people with SAD, AVPD, DPD, ASD, ADHD, etc.

[yrfavehasdpd]

martin blackwood from the magnus archives has dpd!

art by boggmann | flag | submissions open!

[shabbyshoebox]

Texting in theory: communication with friends! So fun! Memes! Talk talk talk! ❤️✨

Texting in practice: Oh god I don't have the energy to reply right now, I'm currently in Task Mode not Talk Mode so there is currently no battery allocated for socializing atm. Oh it's been too long, do they think I hate them? If I reply will I have to stay engaged in conversation for a few seconds? Half an hour? How long will this conversation be? When is it okay to step away and do something else? Will they think I hate them if I go too long without responding again? I don't hate them, I love them, I need to figure out how to do this. What tone did they intend this in? How do I ask what tone they meant without coming across as rude? How can I respond in a way that cannot possibly be construed as passive aggressive/rude/dismissive? I want to stay engaged with the task I'm doing, I don't want to go back and forth and back and forth and back and forth. I really really enjoy it when I'm in the right "Mode" but each notification feels like an obligation. Why does this feel like a chore? I like talking to my friends, why doesn't it feel like talking to my friends? Why do I feel trapped? Why do I avoid people I love? Oftentimes I'm not even "doing" anything when I don't respond, I'm just in "non social" mode. Even if I know I'll enjoy talking once I get started every unopened message feels like a burden. I shouldn't see texts from people I love this way, I should be happy, they want to talk to me and they love me. Why can't I just be normal about this, why can't I stop avoiding every damn thing?

[genderimpala]

i may not have been diagnosed with this disorder but boy am i exhibiting symptoms

[avpdculture]

AVPD (+ autism) culture is getting so freaked out by the idea of people caring for you that you believe they're just pretending if/when they show it. it is not trusting anyone, especially when they make you feel affirmed or at all good. because you know it is a matter of time before they'll change their mind about you for whatever reason, so you destroy any chance for anything mutual to even begin to begin. not having anyone hurts less than having and losing people.

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[avpdyapping]

A game that helps me challenge my avpd while still being "safe" is Sky: Children Of The Light. It's free. There will always be other online players around, but you cant talk (with words) to them unless you both give permission. But you can still interact with them if you feel like you can, by chirping or using in game emotes, and if you Cant Interact With Anyone or even Don't Want To Interact With Anyone you can just continue doing your own thing alone and others will leave you alone as well. There's some game play that requires other players (mostly opening doors and such) but most players will happily stop to help you and then move on without making it A Thing. I find it really good to step out of my comfort zone while still staying safe.

Also its just a really good game haha, fun to play and very pretty and it makes me emotional a lot