#neurospicy

[ymahousewine]

I want to put some positivity out there

So, I've been attending knitting groups and maybe it's my town maybe it's the craft but it's a bit of a safe haven for autistic/ND people. Some people in these groups have come forward and mention their diagnoses and how knitting groups really help them because:

-You don't have to make eye contact while talking to people because you're looking at your work

-You can "fidget" aka knit while talking to people and it's not distracting

-You can sit there the whole time and barely say anything and still be very welcome

-It doesn't have to be knitting, crochet, embroidery beading ect can come to the table

-You can bring one project or be like me and bring half your project stash in to go from one project to the next because bird-brain.

-There's no obligation to go or stay for the whole time. When your social battery is depleted people get it.

So if you knit, crochet or craft in any other way allow me to recommend going to a local group. Your results may vary but I've found the crafting community is worth taking a chance on.

[sleeplessv0id]

what doesn't kill you makes you weird at intimacy

[victusinveritas]

[dhddmods]

Alright everyone...hear us out...

A progress pride flag that explicitly includes disabled, altersex, a-spec, and ethically non-monogamous people.

The altersex symbol and intersex symbol interlock, to showcase unity within the varsex community.

The a-spec compass and ethically non-monogamous heart are both within a single symbol, to showcase the unity of going against amatonormativity.

I was sad seeing the ‘inclusivity flag’ did not mention disabled people at all. Disabled people are often left out of pride events due to a lack of accessibility, being thought of as being unable to communicate their queerness and infantalisation of disabled people.

I propose this flag which includes zigzag stripes and more muted colours as a reference to the disability flag. Because queer, disabled people are so often left out from pride events it is important we be remembered.

[Alt text two versions of the inclusivity flag - one of which includes the intersex flag. 

Both of these inclusivity flags have been made to have more muted colours and the rainbows zig-zagging down the flag, akin to that of a disability flag. 

There is a dark grey background in the gaps at the top and bottom of the flag.]

[angelasscribbles]

Neurodivergent Things

[permdaydreamer]

This is for the people who didn’t party in their teens and twenties. For the people who didn’t have that “coming of age” movie experience with shenanigans and revelations. This is for the people who mostly keep to themselves. Who maybe prefer things to be quieter and gentler. This is for the people who don’t feel like they belong in a culture that values loud parties and flashing lights. I see you. And you are valid.

[quantumfrail]

[officeobject]

I always get nervous when opening gifts, especially since everyone will be watching (unless someone else is opening at the same time, but I also prefer gifts to be opened one at a time and stuff), so I try to come up with enough happiness upon my face - my face doesn't look nor emote like my actual self, which makes this extra hard, and doesn't always align with my feelings, nor attempts to control - my squish is one of the things that can make me excessively smile and emote though, which is funny, because their face is deadpan/a mix of emotions, when staring at me though, which makes even a short glance, feel confrontational - they CAN otherwise emote, their body and face just seems to act the same way around me as when they're alone (or at least when not actively looking at me), though actually, even less expressive then - they can be expressive during a phone call, even, but again, besides the body, will deadpan as soon as their eyes are on ME - I can sometimes see them think, or have a vibe of what their emotions might be, etc, but no message will get across. I still know they like me though, and a very long time ago in our friendship, they used to smile at me almost every time, but they stopped, and no matter what emotion they have, their face will still seem to me like a serious "😐". I still know they like me though. Also, they're 30 (based on appearance), so no, weird facial stuff doesn't always stop when you get older.

Happy Holidays everyone!

Please remember that we autistics might not react the same way you would when opening our presents. We may act underwhelmed or bored while opening our presents. This is not an indicator of how happy we are. Don't get upset just because we didn't act the way you wanted us to. Don't take it personally.

Enjoy your holidays!

[bibliocharlie]

the most helpful thing i have ever seen from neurodivergent internet spaces is “THERE ARE OTHER TIMES OF DAY TO BRUSH YOUR TEETH”. this has genuinely saved me from executive dysfunction spirals so many times.

[neurospicyyy]

• Fidgeting and stuttering do NOT always indicate that someone is nervous.

• Avoiding eye contact does NOT always mean someone is lying.

• Having a hard time focusing does NOT always mean someone is lazy.

• Carrying around a stuffed animal or blanket does NOT make someone childish.

• Poor motor skills is NOT a direct indication of intelligence.

Not everyone fits into your box. Deal with it.

[autismwithoutpremium]

Just a thought

[finnslay]

A little reminder that the "scary" neurodivergents belong in the community too. The ones with intrusive thoughts. The ones who seem self-centered.

The people with ocd, bpd, npd. Stuff like that. They belong here too.

[bli-o]

hey autistic people who get overwhelmed by large groups or noise or conversation or etc etc etc you’re not evil for wanting to leave a family gathering. just so you know.

[sillylilneurodivergent]

Guys, it happened. I’m an

AAAAAA (aromantic, asexual, agender, with autism, adhd, & anxiety)

[theoraekensnotsosecretlover]

Ah yes, the autistic experience of being more mature than your peers as a child/teen, and then less mature as an adult. The window of opportunity to relate is... not there