#therapy for relationship issues

[rawrsatthetree]

Tired: Tav that’s good for Astarion cause they play therapist and give him support and space to heal

Wired: Tav that’s good for Astarion cause they’re such a disaster he has to get his shit together cause gods above one of them needs to be a functional adult

[worldwidewandress]

the baggage

everyone comes into a relationship with baggage. most people drop it when carrying gets heavy. the right person helps you unpack. goes both ways. the question is - are you ready to unpack?

so you're either gonna trip over each other's stuff or you gonna unpack together. there's no other way. once you're ready for the latter, wash the dirty pieces first, handle them with care, then fold them nicely - in a shared closet.

home is built on all the stuff we carry around heavy trying to shake off or run away from, until we're ready to sit with them, unpack carefully, and eventually decorate our space with.

[fiona-fififi]

Since I'm digging myself a hole tonight, I kind of actively hate the "But I am ready for something, and I think maybe that something could be with you."

Like, my first instinct was that it was sweet and that Buck was taking back a little bit of agency there and asking for what he wanted.

But I don't know. In so many ways, it also actually feels like it feeds into a very unhealthy pattern for Buck.

I mean, I might just be projecting because I cannot imagine ever being so infatuated with someone that I'd be like "I want to try a relationship with you" after only knowing them for 30 seconds and being left on the curb after a failed first date, but I digress.

But just. I don't know. This feels like such a pattern for Buck. Have someone express interest, only to then be rejected (Abby, Taylor, Natalia, now Tommy) and then chase them that much harder.

Like, Buck. Darling. PLEASE. Your value is not defined by the people for whom you have to prove your worth.

And I don't even mean this as anything directly against these partners. But Buck gets so caught up in forcing a relationship that he speedruns things without actually giving anyone (including himself) any space to grow into it, and it just feels kind of devastating that that's still where he is with himself.

[jebiknights]

Sometimes I just remember that oh right it's apparently a slightly controversial opinion that I think if Palpatine hadn't been involved at all that Anakin could've been perfectly happy and fulfilled with the Jedi.

Like just from rots we see Anakin want to follow Jedi ideals, to seek advice and even help from the very Jedi that fandom loves to act like he hates and who hate him in return, and we see the Jedi around him actually have a lot of respect for him! But every time he makes progress Palpatine is whispering in his ear and pulling out the stitches and re-opening the wounds, making it near impossible for him to actually grow as a Jedi and instead he grows closer to Falling. Not to mention the war, which was orchestrated in part to actively challenge the Jedi's morals and make them make bad and questionable choices.

Plenty of Legends canon and even current canon in things like the marvel comics show Anakin actively wrestling and considering Jedi philosophy, the pros and cons, and working through all his trauma and trying to figure out what's right for him and what the Jedi code actually means. People act like he only ever does lightsaber training and that he never picked up a book in his entire padawanship (which not only is just not how the Jedi Order works from what we see but honestly is just a boring take on the character imo).

Like, I just don't think that Anakin is actually incompatible with the Jedi Order! I think he could've thrived there if he wasn't being actively sabotaged and also had more time.

[cliveguy]

though honestly when people say "get therapy" they're not suggesting therapy, they're telling you to go be mentally ill somewhere else lol. if someone is struggling mentally in 2023 and not in therapy there's a pretty big chance that there's a reason for it beyond not considering it. and also most people who get therapy are still going to act mentally ill at times. because surprisingly a single session isn't enough to make someone act "normal"

[blackberry-winter]

So my dad and I have never the bonding kind, alright? We're never really had a close relationship. However, the man has always been a big NCIS fan. I actually started to watch it when I was like 6 years old because he'd sit on the couch to watch it and I wanted to spend time with him without feeling the need of talking. We didn't always watch it but we went through most seasons (like 3 to 10) and important episodes together, like Ziva's exit and Tony's exit, too.

Today, I mentioned the spin off to him expecting nothing, to be honest. It's been SO many years since he watched NCIS. Same for me. Yet, his eyes lit up. "Really?" He asked. I nodded. He paused and said "with Tali and all?" I couldn't help but laugh. I nodded and we started to have a full conversation about the NCIS world. A world we haven't thought about in a while. We talked about Ducky, Gibbs, McGee, Palmer, Frank, Abby and of course Tony and Ziva. It was the longest conversation we've had in a while and it ended with a "let me know when it airs so we can watch it".

Don't mind me, I got a bit emotional. All this text is just to say... This spin off means more to me than you could ever think of and I'm so grateful for it.

I can't believe it's finally happening to us.

[bloomfish]

ive decided the comics arent that bad actually

[x3nshit]

me when i have to do another breathing exercise and count to 10 after my mom says the most vile, traumatizing thing to me because if i say what is really on my mind it would make the situation 100x time worse

[connecting-the-stars]

Carmy drawing Sydney with the same detail and dedication as he did the sketch for a beautiful dish he was brainstorming when.

[total-drama-brainrot]

i love how basically every future! au i've seen has noah divorced from emma.

it's just so funny that, instead of having the two break up amicably after dating for a while and realising they're just not compatible/meant to be, most creators go out of their way to make noah this sad divorced man who fumbled his successful lawyer wife and ended up with the short end of the stick. yes! make this man pathetic and depressed! he's the saddest wet cat in existence!

[naughtybg3confessions]

This is a response to the person who sent the confession about starting to enjoy vaginal sex with their partner for the first time thanks to BG3 and fanfiction.

No, you're not pathetic. And you're not alone. In fact, thanks a lot for the confession. I completely related.

Anon is responding to this confession.

You're definitely neither pathetic nor alone anon, especially on this blog. And by sharing, you never know who your confession could be resonating with. So thank you for opening up to us!

[hauntedwoman]

it kind of sucks that every time i start dating someone i really like i just abandon all of my hobbies and interests bc i'm so obsessed with keeping that person's attention and interest to the point where i'm barely a person anymore

[mikomikumi]

the Megatron divorce fics. Hand them over. Now 🤲

*Holds Hands in the air*

I-I only got the 3 I swear!

Jealous Type: https://archiveofourown.org/works/49307653/chapters/125634199

Don’t Look Back in Anger: https://archiveofourown.org/works/58282249

Hot And Cold: https://archiveofourown.org/works/48865633/chapters/123273310

That’s all I got! Honest 😭😭😭

[beldaroot]

thinking about how any mention of rem is completely ignored by knives.

he was willing to spare her during the big fall but the fact that she sacrificed herself to save the human ships was the last nail in the coffin. so, he pretends he has no guilt over killing her.

but it's so evident that he still loves her; that the betrayal hurt that much more because he loved her so much.

while knives killed her, vash keeps her alive. and in doing so, wasn't all the love that vash learned from rem what saved knives in the end?

knives killed her and it killed him but it also saved him and in turn saved her legacy.

happy mother's day y'all <3

[apologeticallyscreamsintovoid]

Ah yes the awful feelings of both understanding and anger at ones mother that suddenly appears in your mind randomly on a tuesday and never leaves