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“you can’t heal in the same environment that made you sick”
i didn’t get this until someone put it into words. i’d never understand why i always felt better when i locked myself alone in my room rather than spending time with my toxic family. i never understood why i was bubbly and outgoing when i was with my friends but my energy was immediately drained the second i got home. i didn’t understand why regardless of the effort i put into healing i would keep getting triggered by people in my family. i never understood it until i read that sentence and it all just clicked. i can’t heal in an environment where the people are benefiting from my suffering. where the people don’t want to change the behaviour which affects me negatively.
#mommy issues#daddy issues#parent issues#toxic parents#toxic behavior#toxic mothers#toxic household#childhood trauma#inner child#desiblr#academia#dark academic aesthetic#desi academia#dark academism#desi dark academia#chaotic academic aesthetic#art academia#chaotic academia#academia aesthetic#trauma#healing#self healing#healing journey#journal#thoughts#deep thoughts#spilled thoughts#spilled emotions
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One of the worst realizations that I have ever made is realizing that all I ever wanted was to be loved by my parents. I never would've turned out like this if they just loved me unconditionally.
#i will never care if you reblog#vent#tw vent#cw vent#eldest daughter syndrome#eldest daughter#parentified child#parentification#toxic mom#cw toxic relationship#toxic parents#toxic mothers#toxic mother#toxic family#toxic father#toxic relationship#childhood neglect#childhood trauma#childhood emotional neglect#emotional trauma#trauma coping#trauma#wanting to be loved#i wanna be loved#sad thoughts#eldest sibling syndrome#eldest sibling#eldest sister#toxic thoughts#thoughts to throw into the void
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We ruined Demeter and Persephone's relationship.
The thing is, Demeter and Persephone had a beautiful relationship. And modern pieces that depict Greek culture simply just……….ruin it. Lore Olympus, Percy Jackson, Blood of Olympus, Hades even. It's disheartening that we're so misogynistic that we can't just let a mother and daughter love each other without complications or trauma. No, we have always have to make Demeter the controlling, overprotective, helicopter mother and Persephone the rebel daughter. It's disgusting, frankly, and I would love to see a piece of media where they simply have a loving, functional relationship.
#Demeter#Persephone#PJO#PJO Critical#Percy Jackson#Persephone PJO#Demeter PJO#Hades#Lore Olympus#Anti Lore Olympus#Blood of Olympus#Misogyny#Toxic mothers#Demeter LO#Persephone LO#LO critical#Lore Olympus Critical#Anti LO#Percy Jackson critical#Percy Jackson crit#rr crit#rr critical#rr criticism#Rick Riordan Critical#rick riordan critical#PJO discourse#PJO meta#Sexism
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Enmeshment and Parentification
Here are some mental health links about enmeshment and parentification. I hope it helps someone. Mine is mostly on the perceptive of my mother.
#mental health#links#articles#enmeshment#parentification#emotional parentification#toxic mothers#I have felt responsible for my mother's emotions and emotional state since I was at least twelve
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My mother was prone to fits of towering rage, but she was completely incapable of reflection and never sought to investigate the reasons for her emotions. ... Whenever I defended myself against this unjust treatment, sometimes going so far as to actually prove my innocence to her, she interpreted this as a systematic attack on her person and frequently retaliated with ferocious punishments. She confused emotions with facts. As she felt attacked by my explanations, she took it for granted that I was actually attacking her. A capacity for reflection would have been necessary for her to realize that the real reasons for her feelings has nothing to do with my behaviour. But remorse was completely foreign to her. Not once did she apologize to me or express any kind of regret. She was always "in the right".
Alice Miller - The Body Never Lies, The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting
#narcissistic mother#toxic mothers#toxic mother#narcissistic abuse#surviving narcissism#narcissistic family#narcissistic trauma#cptsd#trauma
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“Bless the daughters who sat, carrying the trauma of mothers—“
Mommy issues.
/creating.sophie/Class of 2013 (Mitski)/Lady Bird (Greta Gerwig)/Persephone Made Me Do It (Trista Mateer)/Ijeoma Umebinyo/Wildflower Wildfire (Lana Del Rey)
#mother issues#toxic mothers#web weaving#compilation#collage#creating.sophie#mitski#lady bird#greta gerwig#trista mateer#Ijeoma Umebinyo#tw childhood trauma#tw mother issues#lana del rey#mommy issues
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*My mom cussing me out and telling me everything I’m doing wrong*
teenage me who was literally just trying to be helpful:
#Tw child abuse#abusive parents#toxic parents#mommy issues#mother issues#toxic mothers#Yelling mention#Family issues#family trauma
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revelation of the day: women who experienced a prolonged loss of girlhood and had their childhood innocence robbed are often the bitter mothers obsessed with “the feminine” and passing their flawed notion of femininty onto their daughters. this of course also applies to women who were exposed early on to society’s ideas of femininity
#mommy issues#is that why they're obsessed with our weight#toxic mothers#its the patriarchy#mentally ill bitches be like
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My mother freaked out at me, blocked me, then found another way to text me after she blocked me.
Why?
Because I told her I'm gonna spend Christmas, a holiday known for romance, with my Fiancée and their family.
#toxic parents#parents#mothers#toxic mothers#stress#gas lighting#fiancee#christmas#romance#qpr#queer platonic partner#guilt tripping#abuse#abusive mother#im tired
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She's this close to admitting that she opens my closets and drawers to snoop around my things. She's been talking about the water bottles in my wardrobe (long story) since last summer. The only way she could have known about them is by coming into my room when I'm not there and opening everything she could open. I wanted to bring this up during the family therapy sessions but she threw a tantrum, almost attacked my psychiatrist, and the thing stopped then and there. So there is really nothing I can do about it. I'm depressed and the medications I take in order to walk affect my cognitive abilities, but I'm still capable of reasoning and being a practical, relatively normal person. She's completely gone, assuming she's ever been there in the first place. She thinks like a child and acts like a child, and I mean it without any disrespect towards children. Not only she's not at the level of her peers, she's impossible to reason with. You just can't talk with her, she doesn't understand and always ends up attacking you one way or another. She once threatened a young man who had just come here to do his job, checking if some items she wanted to sell could be of any interest for the secondhand warehouse nearby. He literally ran away because she became aggressive over the fact that he said that according to the rules he couldn't accept said items. There are so many absolutely chilling things I could tell about her. She's such an awful person, and just like all the awful people who are close to me, she's loved by all those who know her.
#text#toxic mothers#toxic family#toxic environment#psychological abuse#invasion of privacy#privacy#emotional abuse
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me when i have to do another breathing exercise and count to 10 after my mom says the most vile, traumatizing thing to me because if i say what is really on my mind it would make the situation 100x time worse
#going to therapy because the people who actually need therapy don’t go#mommy issues#this is my life now#parent issues#daddy issues#toxic mothers#mother#toxic#toxic parents#toxic mom#toxic relationship#parents#toxic family#family trauma#trauma#i'm traumatized#eldest daughter#the eldest daughter#eldest sibling
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It sucks having a mom who's a good person but a bad parent.
#i will never care if you reblog#vent#cw vent#tw vent#eldest daughter syndrome#eldest daughter#oldest daughter#sad thoughts#toxic parents#toxic mom#toxic mothers#toxic mother#mother issues#mommy issues#childhood emotional neglect#emotional neglect#childhood trauma#emotional trauma#thoughts to throw into the void
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I am filled with all the love that was never given to me. I am not my mother.
#affirmation?????#i talk to everyone like I’ve known them forever because I’m scared no one ever wanted to know me#it’s kinda selfish bc everything I do is a plea for my mother to apologise#how hard was it? I do it every single day#I never forget a birthday#every object is a potential present#I Will stand up for you if you’re hurt#I Will stay with you if you’re scared#I don’t have to know you#emotional abuse#family issues#mommy issues#mental health#love#adhd#family#toxic mothers#toxic family#friendship#affirmations
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The thing about a mother's hate is that it's not that different from a mother's love
Sam Gordon, “A Mother’s Hate
#dark academia#quotes#academia#academia aesthetic#dark academic aesthetic#poetry#love#hate#love and hate#mothers#toxic mothers
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Mother's will really say the most vile shit to their daughters and still sleep like as if it hasn't changed the trajectory of my existence
So you want me to be here or just stop ?
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The funny thing is...the spankings aren't what stirs up from the muck when I think of bad childhood memories.
It was the yelling and screaming and guilt trips and the reckless driving when she was upset and the storming into my room and the angry outbursts whenever I had to ask for something for school. It was the way the energy changed when she got home in the evenings and how she criticized my friends and how she threatened suicide whenever faced with the truth of how she had hurt me. It was the way she would be always be the aggressor when my parents fought and how she'd scream at me to call the police on my own father and how I wouldn't because even then, I could plainly see he wasn't doing anything to harm her, merely yelling back in defense. I think the difference for me was that the discipline spankings were nearly ritualized. It was an 'uh oh, we fucked up. Line up. Okay, we're done, move on with your day'. VS never knowing when you were going to set her off and never knowing when the onslaught would end once it started. And when mom was the one who got physical it was usually so buried in the emotional crap that it didn't even phase me, except in one case where I legitimately did not understand she was being sarcastic and got kicked hard from behind and with no warning over it.
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