#its the patriarchy
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revelation of the day: women who experienced a prolonged loss of girlhood and had their childhood innocence robbed are often the bitter mothers obsessed with “the feminine” and passing their flawed notion of femininty onto their daughters. this of course also applies to women who were exposed early on to society’s ideas of femininity
#mommy issues#is that why they're obsessed with our weight#toxic mothers#its the patriarchy#mentally ill bitches be like
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I think if you consider yourself someone who genuinely cares about dismantling bioessentalism and the speaking out about harm it does to society you HAVE to acknowledge that bioessentalism is one of the oldest tools in the patriarchy's toolbox and not something twentieth-century TERFs invented
#this is not to say bioessentalism is NOT relevant to discussions of terfism btw#I just see too many people speaking about bioessentalist rhetoric as if its something only TERFs or Bad Women utilize#and that is fundamentally incorrect lol#I think acknowledging that bioessentalism has always been a tool of the patriarchy is important esp when talking about the very obvious#connections between terfism and 'traditional' right wing ideology#idk I think a lot of people just talk about bioessentalism as something Women(TM) believe and its really weird to me
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rhaenyra outsourcing motherhood to rhaena and assigning her that passive feminine role was REALLY interesting….. rhaenyra as a character is at her most fascinating when she is forced to navigate and ultimately perpetuate the gendered structures she despises and wishes she could transcend— the seeds of her tragedy already sewn here. just great character work
#esp because in the books rhaena is painted as the sweet peaceful girly girl to baela’s gnc rebellion#but woah it’s cool that theyre both actually straining at it. wah#it’s also very targ women can only escape the bounds of the patriarchy when they have their dragons and even then they actually cant.#like thats an illusion of freedom for the most part ☹️#hotd#hotd spoilers#obviously rhaenyra doesnt really have much of a choice here but thats the point it’s a system#and to have any power at all you will have to crack under the desires of that system and the whims of your stupid misogynist vassals#thats the rosby stokeworth thing!!!! ITS HAPPENING!!!!!!#what would you sell to break your chain. who would you throw under your wheels#god rhaenyra is just a triumph of adaptation huh. theyre gonna hit that swing into selling her soul so hard
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by getting botox and fillers and cosmetic surgeries you are actively participating in making the world a more hostile place for the women who choose not to do those things. you are actively applying pressure on those women. you are creating a world where women who don’t do those things are told they are “aging like milk” because no one knows what a normal, unaltered female face looks like anymore.
#yes those women who alter themselves in that way are victims of patriarchy#but they have also become its perpetrators and enforcers#never never let the desire to compete with other women for male approval overpower your social responsibility to other women
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every time queer discourse surges on this site everyone is so quick to jump to “it was actually the evil lesbians who divided us” because y’all heard the term “political lesbian” and never bothered to figure out what that meant
#‘political lesbians’ were and are predominantly STRAIGHT WOMEN#and a good chunk are bi#what don’t you understand about these women thinking lesbianism is a CHOICE? that it’s only used by women as a reaction to the patriarchy?#like lesbians can’t possibly like women and not men for any reason that isn’t some deep-seated hatred for men?#they all think lesbianism is dirty and impure and here you people are saying that this is PROGRESSIVE#and that they actually think that lesbianism is some golden standard for its purity???? you guys are so fucking stupid oh my god#you go on and on about learning your queer history until it comes to lesbians and then you’re perfectly happy rewriting our culture#and narrative#wtf is wrong with you people#and y’all braindead mfs use this to act like men are actually oppressed by the meanie dykes#i hate y’all#but none of y’all actually give a shit about lesbians so i guess im yelling into a void#lesbophobia#top posts#neon talks#LOL at the fucking idiot who reblogged this and tagged it ‘misandry’ not sure how you got that from my post but i hope your day sucks <3
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"Mom, why did you give birth to me?" "To survive." how did this exchange come out of a shonen anime. The shonen genre is known for being sexist as Hell how does this one just Get It.
#i'd make an analysis on how the Mom System in tpn is a metaphor for patriarchy but I don't need to#you have eyes you can see it. its not subtle.#its not subtle at all but damn it hits real hard. fuck.#this series is built different i fr can't believe people just forgot about it#the promised neverland
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All the jokes about Ken and horses are good but I just wanna say it's such a good parallel to how actual young men get swept into misogyny and the patriarchy.
Like they're told to believe it means men get to be cool and manly and have this power but with that comes extremely rigid commands of what they can be as a man and a cycle of self hatred for never matching those gender roles perfectly. Patriarchy tells men that if they just do exactly what is expected of them, then they get all the "cool stuff" that comes with. That doesn't work though when there's only a small group that actually gets that power, but men will keep trying to fit into those roles in hopes that they can.
In the end there are no horses or the myth men are told, it's just endless cycles of self hatred and ingroup fighting.
#barbie#barbie movie#barbie spoilers#ig#ive got a lot more on how barbie looks at feminism and the patriarchy cause god they did it#not to say there isnt faults such as very little conversation about intersectionality#but i can also understand the impossible task of talking about EVERYTHING in one movie#not everyone will be happy and thats fine#anyway i think something barbie did really well is fight this battle of both wanting so deeply to love (romantically or not) men but also#not dismissing the fact its mens job to solve their problems themselves#that even if women need to be the front runners of breaking the patriarchy men cannot rely on them to solve their own problems completely#also just god im so glad this wasnt a girl boss slay movie#women deserve respect and love and life regardless of accomplishment#we should not have to be ceos and presidents and world problem solvers to gain equality#i can also understand if nonbinary people feel left out/disconnected from the movie#but as always gender abolition and acknowledging the gender binary (ie the one societially impossed) go hand and hand 👍#just incase cause idfk terfs dni the barbie movie is not for you#barbie literally states constantly that her gender has nothing to do with (non existent) genitals so f off
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another crazy thing about having been a prostitute is to realise how little difference there has been in how many of my male sexual partners have treated me and how sex buyers treated me, especially since i was an escort where often you get paid to simulate dates. i even had sex buyers beg to see me again meanwhile men in real life often ghost or keep me at armlength especially when there are no romantic feelings involved.
this is why i dont want to have sex without feelings and care for each other anymore - it almost feels like im prostituted all over again, bad in a different way because i actually like the men i sleep with and want them to like and appreciate me too and consider my desires (dont get me wrong obviously prostitution is always worse than sleeping with men im actually attracted to and want to have sex with but it hurts in a different way to realise that ive often also been just a means to get off to them).
like for example, since sex buyers often pay for time instead of sex act (or both combined), they want to get the most out of their money and do the most to you in the set time - but as a prostitute you want to get it over with as soon as possible and it feels like torture. meanwhile so many heterosexual men who dont pay for sex try to reach orgasm as soon as possible and then its over, lmao. like the direct comparison between having been prostituted and having voluntary sex with men will make you feel absolutely crazy but it also made me realise why i thought i didnt even like sex for so long. because i was always treated like an object, not a person. men will do the bare minimum to keep you around for sex if they dont see you as wife material (and then they also do just little more than the bare minimum up until they reached their goal of marriage then usually start neglecting their wives as we know).
which brings home the point that we need a cultural and legal shift. as long as men treat sex as masturbation with another person, and women as objects or tools, there will always be demand for prostitution, and there will always be (privileged) women deluded into thinking „might as well get paid for it“ or even „at least now im being appreciated“, paradoxically. thats how bad heterosexual men treat women in bed.
this also emphasises that yes, #allmen, because even the men who dont buy sex contribute to the system of sexual exploitation with their behaviour. the reason ive heard men say most often why they dont buy sex is not care for women, but pride. they can convince women to get them off so why pay for it? same with porn, they dont stop watching because they care about women, but because their dick stopped working. and then of course you have a lot of sex buyers who dont even want to do the bare minimum mentioned above so they buy sex to go immediately to using a womans body with no „hassle“. the state of heterosex is fucking dire because i know im by far not the only one experiencing this.
and even before prostitution i could feel it but not really put my finger on it, now with this horrible experience and a radical aligned feminist view on things i realise and its really dark. and dont even try talking to men about their inadequacies in bed because they will act like youre the problem and an annoying nag for voicing desires.
#mine#anti prostitution#heterorealism#and the more i talk about heterorealism#the more i realise that heterosex might be the core issue of the patriarchy#even for women who dont have or want heterosex because its omnipresent#and impacting all female-male relationships in a way#how we view our bodies and ourselves#and the inherent discrepancy caused by female vs male anatomy and priorities during sex#etc!
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its a cornerstone of radfem ideology that women are incapable of making real choices Because Patriarchy. if a woman likes makeup, its because shes been conditioned to. same with heels, dresses, anything stereotypically feminine, any kink, sex work, etc. etc. and you can literally do this to anything you dislike.
and because of this, women need the Enlightened Radfems to tell them how to think and feel. its justifiable to deny other women's autonomy, because they can't really think for themselves, they are brainwashed by the patriarchy. so it doesn't matter if you violate their autonomy, ignore their wants, and demand that they do whatever you think is morally right. because you know what's best, and they don't. you have taken the red pill and they just can't see it yet. radfems essentially take the patriarchy and just replace cis men with themselves, and all women with non-radfem women (or radfem women who have different beliefs than them). when you build your ideology on the idea that anyone who disagrees with you is brainwashed and you are justified in ignoring their autonomy and opinions because of that, you end up with a pretty fucked up worldview and way of interacting with others.
#m.#this has also been a major issue w r/dfems for decades too#like a major complaint has always been that they treat other women#like they are incapable of understanding themselves#and need someone else to make decisions for them#its literally girlbossifing the patriarchy#feminist win! the person denying you your humanity is a woman!
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it's interesting how many transmascs on this site can observe the way that feminism has often been derailed by "mens rights activism", because feminism is seen as a threat to men's rights- women's rights are viewed as in opposition to men's rights & therefore incompatible (for the crime of merely admitting how misogyny has a place in our society)
and yet. feel no need to self reflect on the way transmisogyny is viewed, too, as in opposition to trans men. how trans women's rights are viewed as incompatible with trans men's rights, how transfemmes are pretty constantly attacked for expressing their experiences & struggles because merely saying they exist uniquely is seen as an attack on transmascs, is seen as denying the issues that transmascs have.....somehow, the "what about me?" response is all that matters.
that is why "transandrophobia" gets compared to men's rights activism. that is why it's so connected to transmisogyny (which you're apparently not supposed to admit that people within the trans community are capable of); it is a repeat of gendered issues, there is still a refusal to just try to understand what women are saying. a continued insistence of "my issues are more important than yours" (even though that was never really what was being said in the first place. all that was being asked was to listen, to try to understand....but when a woman says it, complains about something, that's what you feel is implied. for some reason. hm, is there a word for that?)
#take it in mind that i am transmasc also#i just DO think transandrophobia is unfeminist and misunderstands like. how patriarchy Works#even though yes of course transmascs face transphobia. even misogyny when it is assumed we are women!#but thats not really something ive seen transfemmes ever deny. and yet its treated like thats the case.#and why are transfemmes being blamed as the perpetrators of oppression? why?#oh. because of the transphobia & misogyny. funny.#i also used trans men & transmasc and trans women & transfemme as interchangeable here for the sake of argument.#i know theres more nuance in person to person/individual but i think it simplifies it for this specific post so i said it that way. ok? ok.
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I think it must be for the lack of going outside of your room on this website that debates about personal presentation and appearance literally never have any material analysis. sorry it's counterrevolutionary to shave my legs or wear makeup or a bra or style my hair in certain ways or "worry" about visible signs of aging but have some of you just never encountered real world situations where those things caused measurable problems dealing with other people, jobs, money, respectability, access to resources, or the ability to influence important situations? this starts happening when you go outside a lot. there's a debate on my dash rn about balding and finasteride in which not a single person has mentioned the potential negative social outcomes of losing your hair and how that can affect socioeconomic status and personal risk. maybe someone doesn't need to be "vain" to care about keeping their hair and consider the risks of medication for it. maybe they've seen how bald people get treated and referred to and made a cost benefit calculation that they can't afford, sometimes literally, to eat that cost, with everything else they've got going on. maybe I wear makeup when I have to go talk to doctors and other gatekeepers because people make assumptions about your class and mental status when you have "bad skin" and "eye bags". maybe a lot of women who wear uncomfortable restrictive bras and shave whatever and buy skin products and do gua sha have already been sharply punished when someone saw leg hair or a mustache or puffy greasy skin or god forbid their nipple through their shirt. not everyone can just say "fuck it, I can afford to eat one more social cost that will measurably impact my ability to get medical treatment or pay rent". sorry this sounds like an economics lecture, that's because it is
if you are about to tell me a long story about how you personally have not been affected by perceptions of your appearance actually so you can conclude it never happens at all, please don't. sometimes you get lucky, that's it. and on this website I think it's less likely that you're lucky and more likely that you're oblivious
#im not addressing weight or race here because im not qualified to speak on it#blog#the economics of the perceived person#i guess#also not addressing visible queerness here because again not qualified#dont yell at me#i stg if someone tries to make this about goth gatekeeping#im WHITE and even still an ongoing theme of my life is total strangers telling me to “just use conditioner” or get a Brazilian blowout#because my hair is curly#which is no joke still considered completely unacceptable in most of white cultuee#probably because its associated with being bipoc#im not saying “oh poor me” about my hair im saying people have literally told me to my face i looked homeless and crazy or drug addicted#and treated me accordingly#because im barely a 3a hair pattern#i can only try to extrapolate from this how actual women of color with natural hair get treated#but i see those women getting shit on for straightening or styling because its “reinforcing patriarchy” or whatever#girl they are not the ones doing the reinforcement
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You know I probably would have figured out something was up with me genderwise sooner if people assigned female at birth were not conditioned from a young age to absolutely loathe their bodies in order to sell beauty products and diets and unattainable standards
#spitblaze says things#very hard to recognize that the background radiation in ur life is dysphoria under the unrelenting pressure of societal misogyny!!!#like i understand where some people are coming from when they say that transmascs are only transitioning to escape misogyny#which like. fuckin hell i WISH that worked. this shit is inescapable#but also we arent transitioning because of misogyny. were transitioning in spite of it#the entire point of misogyny is to keep Those Who Are Not Men in line#im not 'escaping misogyny' any more than the lesbians who refuse to style themselves to heteronormative tastes#'yeah but passing trans men get male privilege' yea maybe socially. and its not like im fuckin asking for it. i dont want this shit#you think i asked for that shit?? you think stealth and passing transmascs dont push back against misogyny and patriarchy???#weve been on the other side. we know what its like#obvs theres gonna be shitty individuals but if ur letting like three or four dudes shape ur perception of a whole group thats another issue#got off track there but i suppose thats what the notes are for#anyway te/-rfs. die. womanhood is not defined by suffering and you’re all defeatest reactionary shitheads
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male socialization is wild to me because when men deviate it by generally being nice to women and then get womens attention by being friendly and normal to us other men get mad and punish them for it bc they're actually meant to be domineering, rude, and misogynistic to us and if a man doesn't do that they're either gay or trying to unassumingly get with one of the women. like it blows mens minds that they can actually try and be normal and nice to women for no sexual gain, and then they punish men for deviating from it. they're like we see you're getting female attention without abusing the women?? thats wrong and also we hate u for it. like jesus men are so fucked up as a whole.
#witnessed this in my class group#two of the more 'manly' men were saying shit about one of the guys and its like#i obviously know this is common but as a girl who grew up w male friends who were always seen as gay for preferring female company#seeing it repeated in the world always still catches me off guard#like you'd think logically for het men especially maybe being nice to women would get u farther#but male socialization and the patriarchy are so insane#to be nice to a woman is to acknowledge she is human and not just a sex vessel#so when they see other men treating us like humans they get both mad and probably jealous idk what goes on in their heads but its wild
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The build for this AR Nick match is deeply funny btw. Like AR is supposed to be the face and Nick is the heel. And like yes Nick is a bitch and a brat rn hes Obviously a heel just in general. But like. AR Fox DID break into his dead father's wrestling school and beat him until he was lying in a pool of his own blood. And carry around the tanktop he wore that was stained with Nick's blood for weeks afterwards. That DID happen like we all remember that right. And to be quite honest? I think I'd stay mad abt that for a little while too
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maybe im overthinking, but do you ever think abt how in episode 1, utena justifies wearing the boys uniform by saying its not against the rules? while this was clearly a "gotcha" moment against that stuffy teacher, i feel like it also shows how shes still functioning within the parameters of the ohtori system. like, yeah, shes being rebellious, but its a form of rebellion that isnt actually revolutionary- shes still following the rules propagating the structure built around the patriarchal prince, shes just doing it in the "opposite" way of whats expected, but shes not actually fighting it. though, of course, even this much deviance still tries to get corrected... its still not against the rules. i feel like from the beginning we're told aspiring to princedom isn't a noble goal, and that utena is still part of the system as long as she pursues it
#idk compare it to... you know pop feminism thats like ''lipstick red enough to kill a man'' type stuff?#obvs thats going in the more fem direction but its like... still perpetuating the patriarchy in the end#its an empty movement (lol) that doesnt actually mean shit bc it doesnt challenge the status quo#the point is its not ''against the rules.'' thats an irl thing i can think of comparing it to at least#but yeah i also think it answers the question of ''how come a school SO obsessed w gender norms doesnt enforce a stricter dress code?''#is bc as long as you play a role to propagate the system it doesnt really matter#though at the end all girls are like the rose bride etc etc i also think thats an aspect of it#like how gender nonconformity is often seen as ok in young girls- the ''tomboy'' phase thats seen as frivolous#and something theyll grow out of. or something theyll be made to grow out of. i very much think that plays into it too#its okay when youre a girl but when youre a woman you have to become a bride. literally and figuratively#rgu
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yall know i love my ronance content but a part of me is also really happy for nancy for finally having a platonic girl friend her age. i imagine ever since barb, shes had a lot of walls she had to put up, and maybe robin practically tearing it down and letting herself in is just what she needed and wanted, so nancy just.. let her. idk im looking forward to more of them in the next season. nancy deserves that
#byler#mike 🤝 nancy benefitting from having more women in their lives#also again tagging byler bc yall get it#byler tumblr#nancy#nancy wheeler#i mean think about it her only company was her two boyfriends her dad then her brother and a kind of neglectful mom#she must feel relieved to be able to confide in her.#hell i could even argue that its because of this fact alone that she wasnt jealous abt steve at all#she just didnt know how to take another friend again#we forget that nancy wasnt actually popular since steve. it was just her and barb and was basically like mike in a way shes smart#and kind of nerdy and potentially lonely with a very small circle. straight A student#so yeah i think she deserves this#and it must mean a lot to finally have someone who is a girl be her friend again#considering she always felt strongly against the patriarchy and how women are treated in general#so yeah it must be a treat to not be surrounded by men for once
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