#patriarchy

[animentality]

[honeyriot]

[redsquare11]

The "male loneliness epidemic" is not as real as people think it is. It's not about loneliness for one, it's about men wanting sex or a partner and not getting it. Not having a romanatic/sexual relationship does not make you "lonely" and you can live without it. The word epidemic makes it seem serious, but it's a conscious choice men make.

Women shouldn't be expected to fix men's violent sexism and inability to treat women as people.

[queertations]

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"'Westerners are fond of the saying 'Life isn't fair.' Then, they end in snide triumphant: 'So get used to it!'

"What a cruel, sadistic notion to revel in! What a terrible patriarchal response to a child's budding sense of ethics. Announce to an Iroquois, 'Life isn't fair,' and her response will be: 'Then make it fair!' This is the matriarchal approach to learning.'

Barbara Alice Mann, Iroquois woman (via socialuprooting)" End Description. ]

“that’s just the way the world works” it literally doesn’t have to be but okay

[magdalene-spirit]

Is Pan the One or the Many, or the One & the Many?

Pan has many faces, & while essentially a primordial subtle force of creation, procreation & the law of Nature that drives increase— he is not wholly impersonal or blind - The masculine force that drives increase, is the vibration of pure desire- not desire that is tainted by the personal, but a vibration that is entirely natural & pure in its essence-

For there to be increase or many, & for the forest to flourish with life & abundance, insemination & pollination must take place, on the wings of Eros & by Cupids arrow-in some ways Eros is a facet of Pan, relevant to the nature of humans...

In the primal state, where the forest is the Garden of Eden, sexual energy, is an uncontaminated by ego & natural vibration, equated with nakedness.

Desire & attraction in this sense is not a problem- it becomes a problem when co-opted by ego & identity attachment— which is the human condition, out of the original Garden/The Forest of Eden.

In the origin we are united with love in all its expressions, including Eros— the attractive love, that brings together, bee to flower, so that love can express its tastes & fragrances of many, variety, fecundity, abundance etc.

Way back in the psyche/soul, as represented by Psyche, we remember pure love, & sublime erotic love. The love between lover & Beloved that inspires the mystic poet Rumi to dance & write with mad-love. Intoxicated by cupids arrow shot through the heart in a pure sense. This love, seeming to be absent, as Eros flees, when Psyche wants to contain him— is known in Silence, as the silent voice of the Beloved.

Here, Pan, is the One/silent voice, that urges Psyche on her search for Eros as Beloved.

[liberalsarecool]

Generational toxic masculinity.

[sick-sad-world-revolution-now]

I knew about top "nullification" surgery where even the nipples are erased from your body, but today I learned about bottom "nullification" surgery. When you think you've seen all the ways in which patriarchy exerts its power, you find another one. Of course it was someone who's female and identifying as non-binary who did it. I saw the pictures. She's in her early 20s, had the option to get the nerves out (so not being able to feel anything down there) but at the last moment was convinced by her mom to keep them. Still, that surgery consists of sewing everything shut except a small hole to urinate. This is the "modern" FGM, the "everything is a choice" option and they (surgeons and people who support this) will try to draw you as the villain for pointing out the issues before ever questioning the ethic of such surgeries. If you're asexual then your sexual organs won't force you to have sex, you can live without using your vagina for sex or delivering babies for that matter. Your body is not a customisable machine from which you leave out the parts that you don't like at some point in your life. The hegemony of capitalism (which dehumanises humans and try to make robots out of us) coupled with patriarchy is what made this horror possible.

You can have a been a young girl raped by a man and getting deeply traumatised for it to the point you want nothing to do with your body anymore, and greedy surgeons will take advantage of this distress and clear ptsd. I am full of rage. I won't ever stop fighting for women's liberation and having this as my priority when the situation for girls and women regardless of how they identify and everywhere around the world is this terrible.

[redsquare11]

The fact that women have to have a period monthly, for ~5 days (averages vary, many have 8+ days), have painful cramps/back pain/aches, go through bad hormonal changes, have to prepare for their period at all times, and do all of this without any acknowledgment of the struggle is insane.

Men are praised for working through headaches or sickness, but when women deal with it they are shamed for having a period.

[haggishlyhagging]

The relationship between sex and semantics is not occasional; it is not confined to such blatant examples as that of spinster and bachelor but is all-pervasive, extending to all words that are marked female. To illustrate this point, Schulz takes the case of man and woman and says that no insult is implied if you refer to a female as an old man: it is inaccurate but the assumption is that there has been a mistake in identity. This is not the case if you call a male an old woman; it is also inaccurate but the assumption is that you intend insult. Woman does not share equal status with man (linguistically or otherwise) because, in accordance with the semantic rule, woman has become pejorated while man has remained pure and untainted, protected by its semantic association with the male.

Schulz makes use of many comparable terms to illustrate the working of this semantic rule. She investigates the use of titles and shows that while male titles have retained their original positive meanings, female titles have frequently undergone a dramatic 'downhill slide', ending more often than not with sexually debased meanings. It is by this process that more positive words are created for males.

Although Lord still preserves its initial meaning, Lady has undergone a process of 'democratic levelling' and is no longer reserved for women of high rank. (Robin Lakoff (1975) makes a case for lady having become a term of insult but her argument appears to be relevant only for American usage.) Baronet also functions in its original sense whereas its equivalent, Dame, has come to be used derogatively (again, particularly in American usage). There has been some pejoration of governor - in cockney usage for example - but it still serves in its original meaning whereas governess has come to be used almost exclusively in the context of young children and not in the context that Queen Elizabeth I used it to denote her own power and sovereignty.

Little stigma seems to have become attached to courtier, while it is almost surprising to find that courtesan was once an equivalent term, so extensive are the sexual connotations it has acquired. Sir is still used as a title - and as a form of respect - and, unlike Madam, does not refer to someone who keeps a brothel. Master, too, has lost little of its force whereas Mistress has acquired almost exclusively sexual connotations and is no longer associated with the person who accepted responsibility and exercised control over the varied and essential tasks of a household. In drawing attention to the loss of parity between these terms, Robin Lakoff (1975) has pointed out that there is considerable discrepancy in meaning between an old master and an old mistress.

With these titles it can be argued that such terms did not have parity to begin with partly because females have always been inferior to males and therefore few insights can be gained from the documentation of contemporary asymmetry. Because of the historical subordination of women and the social (patriarchal) practice of inheriting through the male line, it was the Lord who inherited the title and who took his Lady. But leaving aside these considerations (and their ramifications for female family names), there are still instances - past and present - where it was the female who was the 'genuine' title-holder (usually in the absence of a male heir) and who conferred her status on her spouse. Elizabeth II is no less a 'genuine' monarch than her father, but whereas King retains its positive meanings, Queen has also developed debased sexual connotations.

-Dale Spender, Man Made Language

[nodynasty4us]

From the October 31, 2024 article:

“In the one place in America where women still have a right to choose, you can vote any way you want. And no one will ever know,” Roberts says in the ad as a woman on screen meets up with her husband after casting her ballot for Harris.

The voter winks at a fellow female voter as her husband asks if she made the “right choice.”

Republicans have responded to the video with outrage, with some claiming that a wife lying about her vote is as bad as an affair.

“If I found out Emma was going to the voting booth and pulling the lever for Harris, that’s the same thing as having an affair,” Fox News host Jesse Watters said on air Wednesday in a clip highlighted by Mediaite.

Other GOP members including Charlie Kirk said the thought was “nauseating.”

[theotherpacman]

OH AND ANOTHER THING ABOUT THE ATLA REBOOT

the sexism thing??? we all know it's fucking stupid and purely performative to take out sokka's feminism arc, but can we talk about the fact that He Is Still Sexist????? he still thinks that what he does (running the village's defenses, which they've never needed) is vastly more important than what she does (wash the clothes, cook, etc). and yk what?? the live action reboot AGREES with him. it doesn't show or even mention katara doing any work around the village. all we see katara doing is practice waterbending - the only interesting thing that original episode 1 sokka seems to think katara ever does.

the live action show depicts sokka "doing all the work", fulfilling his traditionally masculine role of warrior/protector, and COMPLETELY DISMISSES whatever "women's work" katara does, as if she does nothing. seems pretty clear to me that the showrunners would love to absolve themselves of sexism by not talking about sexism, while in actuality being pretty sexist themselves

and don't even get me started on sokka not wearing the dress/makeup of the kyoshi warriors' uniform

[hadesoftheladies]

men should start competing with each other in being good people. we get it, you run the fastest and punch the hardest and sex the brutalest. can you be good at the grownup stuff now? like impulse control and cooperation and self-awareness? can you find the big boy in you sometime soon? it’s fucking boring.

[bluemoonperegrine]

Prev's addition is so good that it bears repeating.

So much of the toxic male stereotype is built around acceptance of suffering that it subtly tips the scales towards greater suffering for all.

"Does that mean I can punch women?"

This is something some men say whenever a woman brings up equality.

But even if you think equality is all about who can punch who, you can already treat people equally. I've counted how many people of each gender I've punched in the past 10 years. And guess what. I've punched the same number of women as men.

And that number is zero. It's not normal to go around punching people. If you think women being equal to men means you can punch women, how exactly are you treating other men?

[liberalsarecool]

The boot is men like Trump. The boot is the Republican Party. The boot is the church. The boot is capitalism.

Massive constructs place a boot on the necks of women.

When you try to remove the boot, the abusers feel they are unfairly treated.

[thashining]

Every accusation is a confession.