#family trauma

[cerleansky]

My therapist was so real for saying the meaning of life is found in connection.

People hug their friends when they meet up and hug them a little tighter when it comes time to say goodbye. My grandfather rebuilt the broken rocking horse my grandmother had as a child, a gift from her father. There's an indescribable ache that goes along with seeing someone you used to know intimately, the becoming of a common stranger. Coincidences that bind, one time I got an uber and the driver used to live in my home before me. It was the last place he saw his father alive as a child and he nearly cried when I told him the walls were still the same colour.

Has anyone ever gotten over their childhood best friend? Is that alone not a testament to the fact we are more than blood and bones.

It's all about connection, friends.

[curseofsisyphus]

always an angel never a god

take my uquiz guys!! (tw teeny bit of gore)

are you the angel or the god

[maybe-an-aspd-angel]

[mssrell]

I was a kid but I wasn't clueless, Someone who loves you wouldn't do this.

Conan Gray

family issues // generational trauma

[dittomoon]

So, I drew this back in October 2021 but only shared it on the BoJack Horseman Reddit - I liked the idea of lining up the diamonds in Bojacks family tree, ending up with Hollyhock breaking away from their family trauma. I only realised after the sketch that Honey doesn’t have a diamond but I still wanted her to be at the top.

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Childhood trauma culture is being grown and still getting really into whatever was popular with kids/teens when you were that age because you feel like you missed out

[elithelakes]

sure, we all love found family in fiction. but recently i’ve been thinking about what exactly draws me to it so much. and thinking about it, it’s unfortunately all too obvious. i’m obsessed with the idea of someone not being required to support and love another person, but doing so anyways, and doing it to such an extent that they essentially become family to each other. why? well, there were people in my life that should have automatically supported and loved me, but they didn’t; it’s the idea of someone doing something by choice what someone else wouldn’t even do by requirement. what one person saw and said “that’s an unlovable mess” another person saw said “maybe you are a mess but i’m going to go out of my way to love you anyways”. needless to say i’ve been crying for a while.

[thatweirdgirlyousatnexttoinmath]

It's been almost five years since The Haunting of Hill House came out on Netflix. And it has irrevocably changed my life.

The depiction of grief. Addiction. Depression. Loss. Identity. Family relationships. Family dynamics. Healing your inner child. Having to deal with your inner child. The fact that in some ways you never really grow up, you're that exact same person inside that is dealing with all these increasingly complex and difficult things, trying hard to not let the child in you react because you know it shouldn't.

Thinking about Theo taking her gloves off. Nell going to therapy, putting in work, and still having her demons chase her around all the way to the end. Shirley's entire life and career being based around wanting to help people in their darkest moments the way someone helped her (though isn't that what they all do, too? Especially Theo). Luke as the youngest, being left behind or not believed and eventually having to find ways to self-soothe, which as an adult are not as health-friendly as other options out there. But it's what he had to do to cope. And Steve... everyone knows a Steve.

I know people have commented before about the five Crain siblings and the five stages of grief. But they also each experience those themselves, and in some ways the five of them simply display how much grief and living can do to a person. Juxtaposing the entire modern part of the series with them as children reminded me how much the things I do now can also be drawn back to little Me. The decisions I make, what scares me, who I reach out to. What haunts me? I may not have a big scary terrifying Death House in my past, but I mean... we've all got our version of a big scary terrifying Death House.

The tragedy of Hill House, the complicated love that's shown, the connections and relationships we have with our families, the world, ourselves. I cannot, will not, should not, would not forget it.

[moondustinfj]

"I hated the lot of them: my parents with their pure-blood mania, convinced that to be a Black made you practically royal..."

"..my idiot brother, soft enough to believe them... that's him. He was younger than me, and a much better son, as I was constantly reminded."

"From what I found out after he died, he got in so far, then panicked about what he was being asked to do and tried to back out."

"For years he talked of the Dark Lord, who was going to bring the wizards out of hiding to rule the Muggles and the Muggle-borns... and when he was sixteen years old, Master Regulus joined the Dark Lord."

"To the Dark Lord. I know I will be dead long before you read this, but I want you to know it was I who discovered your secret. I have stolen the real Horcrux and intend to destroy it as soon as I can. I face death in the hope that when you meet your match, you will be mortal once more - R.A.B."

[imseceracktlyspiderman]

two birds on a wire...

[suffocated-dawn]

i am grieving my upcoming illusory death

counting down the days to my living funeral

where i will be as good as dead in your eyes

while i just stand here

tears, no doubt, streaming down my face

and you ignore me like a ghost

not fully dead, but in my own hellish purgatory

for not doing as you say

[fuckyeabowties]

He really is so much like his mother. Bending reality to his whim without realizing it. And having it be heavily influenced by his childhood interests. Bravo 👏🏻 fantastic parallels to Wandavision. Did not see that twist coming. Truly love how dramatic the Maximoffs are.

[jjkyaoi]

btw i viscerally hate you if you have the whole “younger siblings are always more spoiled so their trauma doesn’t matter” mindset. younger siblings ARENT always spoiled. that might have just happened in your case, and other cases you’ve heard of, but that does not mean it’s universal for the love of GOD . AND just because your younger sibling is given more material items/physical affection or whatever it might be does not mean they don’t have their own problems in the house girl think of something outside of ur own problems i promise it’ll be eye opening

[sarnai4]

I can't stop thinking of how both Ody and Pen are victims of sexual harassment/assault (depending on how far the suitors got because we already know Calypso is a predator). Now, I am just going to hope that the reason Telemachus said he also had been staying in his room in "Legendary" wasn't because one of those sickos was fine with acting that way towards children too. Nope. That's not a thought I'm letting get into my brain...I just can't let it. The whole family couldn't have gone through this. It's just too cruel.

[traumabody]

has anyone else realized really late that actually both their parents were shitty, but one of them was loud-and-obvious-shitty whereas the other had more of a quiet-neglect thing going on