#rcta safe

[lamengga]

intro post

radqueer blk cistrans man w/ autism & DID looking for friends and community

proship, pro para and pro transx/transid

no dni we die like men

tIDS: trisracial, transspecies, transDID, transexistence, transachroma

cIDS: black, autistic, addict, intersex, harmed, victim

formicophile & maeisophile

[trulyradicalactivist]

A small questionnaire for all of my Transracial friends.

If you'd like to participate in a study about being Transracial and the identity as a whole, this google form is short and simple. You can partake in less than five minutes and it would do quite a lot in helping me with my research. Thank you!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfnE2JBWbB8-IIYj_PslWsItpUfs2ZLOJCHldaBhh2nvsfY3g/viewform?usp=dialog

[ex-radqueer-tim]

Antis or Ex-radqueers doomscrolling:

Dude, relax. As fun as internet drama is, this is literally never going to become mainstream. Ever. It's never going to be okay to wear blackface in public, it's never going to be okay to publicly call yourself " transautistic. " There's a reason radqueers don't" "come out" to their friends or families.

As hurtful as this community is, it's small. And it really only exists here on tumblr. You're going to be okay, and just because they don't understand what's wrong with their beliefs doesn't mean they wont grow out of it eventually.

[hookzluver]

☆ WELCOME TO THE BAKERY!☆

🧁] Ahh Hello!! My name is miffy/fumi!!!! Im a transjapanese radqueer gay trans man!

🧁] Things i like: baking, cooking, pastreys, miffy, pete the cat, japanese city pop, anime (mainly mha), aratashii gakko, babymetal, radcial acceptance!!!!

🧁] my paras: 💤, 🪦, 🍸, 🌈🐾

Guide:

🧁-the bakery has made = orignal post

🧁-anon ordered = ask/alter

☆My transids☆

transracial

Transsmallthighs

Transharmed

Transage (7-12)

Ageslider

Permakid

Permainnocent

Transgroomed

Transautism

Endosys

transchizophernic

☆my cisids☆

Bpd

Adhd

Short

Brown eyes

Monolids

Chubby

ALTERPACK TEMPLATE!!!!

🧁- name:

🧁- age:

🧁- gender

🧁- sexuality

🧁- source

🧁- transids

🧁- cisids

🧁- paras

🧁- pronouns

🧁- role

SEND REQUESTS THROUGH ASKBOX!!! ^_^

☆Faceclaim☆

[mintyscuriocabinet]

theres a radqueer following you /nm @/lolliesweet is their user

Thank you so much for telling me, I really appreciate it. I've now blocked them.

They followed me last night while I was asleep. If anyone ever sees a user interact with me who is in my DNI, please let me know. I might miss out on these things sometimes.

I really wish people on this platform paid attention to boundaries more, but I don't expect that kind of respect from radqueers. They know that their blogs are triggering, especially for us age regressors, but they don't care. Radqueers are definitely one of the worst communities on Tumblr if you ask me.

[reverberatedmoth]

About Me

Intro

Hihi, I’m new to posting my own content (not new to tumbler just posting.) and I want to post some creative stuff. Whether that be art, writing, prompts or just meeting new friends I’ll figure it out. So I will do a ccard but I am low on patience as of now this is what cha got.

I’m Reverb or Moth.

I go by Any pronouns . (Neo pronouns work too!) In this order Xe/They/He/She.

Minor. Old enough to be online dw.

23 mental age

INFP

3 emagram

Genderfluid, Queer and oriented aroace.

Big ol nerd.

Cartoons, books and comics/webcomics, collecting trinkets

Current hyperfixations: Dc, specifically Tim Drake, Jason Todd, Damian Wayne and Black Canary.

Current special interests: Marine biology, psychology, mysteries, politics, just in general figuring out how things work and why people react the way they do, Religion/spirtituality (I’m polytheistic Pagan :D), Biology, Egyptian mythology/life, Greek mythology, Chemistry, Entomology, Art, Animals (Rodents.), Psychology, Sociology, Anatomy (The study of the human body.), Mythology, Mysterys, Unsolved crime cases, Scooby Doo mystery Inc., Philosophy, cryptids, Gender, Character Writing

Boundaries

Please use tone tags when ya can.

And DNI

Problematic proshippers (meaning incest ships, kid x adult ships.)

This will never be a safe space for Slurs, harassment, bullying, discriminatory behavior, hate speech, Racism, misogyny, misandry, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, fat phobia, ableism, Zionism, Islamophobia, Ageism, eugenicistic behavior, white nationalist behavior, Neuroableism, discrimination based on religion, pedophilla and or rape, grooming, praising destructive and dangerous leader like Trump or Putin, conservatism, Genoism or Psychophobia ect. Also RCTA and Genocide/holocaust deniers are not permitted. Otherwise just don’t be an ass.

[mishashiftingsphere]

Helpful information server

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[sawyer-is-eepy]

tw for syscourse and rq mentions //

i don’t give a shit anymore, this is important so im crosstagging this.

please, whoever you are, please read at least the tl;dr whether youre pro endo, anti endo, anti radqueer, pro radqueer, whatever. ignore the dni i guess? if you dont wanna see this just block me, i won't care.

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god i FUCKING HATE that my existence is seen as pro rq just cause im pro endo.

got called a radqueer today. i got roped in with pedophiles and necrophiles and zoophiles.

look, listen, i'm all for anti-contact pro-recovery supporters and i do think that we shouldn't shun these people away.

but rq is not for that. they actively support pro-contact and anti recovery rhetoric as well as say its okay to be rcta and "transage" and shit.

THIS should be the thing anti rq focus on. instead of the fact that because i support something that DOES HAVE FUCKING RESEARCH ON IT DESPITE WHAT YOU ALL SAY YOU FUCKERS.

i can fight and kick and scream and yell all i want but at the end of the day, my opinion automatically doesnt matter.

it doesnt even matter if a system with a fucking diagnosis that is "normal" (aka no fictives, factives, less than like 15 alters, and has a miserable life because of course thats what its like for all *real* systems or whatever) was trying to fight against rq, if they were even kind of proendo they’d be shot down immediately.

let me reiterate this- NOT ALL ENDOS ARE RQ. NOT ALL PRO ENDOS ARE RQ. 

please fucking stop roping us in with these people. please. 

to rq - i dont want to be included in your fucking community. We’re fine on our own, okay? we don't need your “safe space,” you’re actively making it worse. kindly FUCK OFF AND STOP RUINING THIS FOR US. PLEASE. EVERY SINGLE DAY OF MY LIFE IS SPENT PROVING MYSELF OVER THE FUCKING INTERNET AND IT’S HARDER BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU. 

to endo rq- we don’t want you representing us. you are NOT the face of endos and supporters. Kindly also fuck off to your own space with the rq instead of speaking for us. 

every day i have to say the same shit because of YOU PEOPLE. YOU FUCKING PEOPLE. 

i can’t have fucking anything and i can’t win. my existence is constantly “disproven” or “debunked” or just used as rage fuel.

and it feels like it’ll never end. tell me, when does this shit end? when does all of this work we as a community have done pay off? 

damn. maybe i should stop doomscrolling, huh?

tl;dr i’m an endo/endo supporter and i would like to say that it is exhausting to constantly be roped in with radqueers just cause they support us or whatever. they don't speak for us, they don’t represent us, hate us all you want but don't label us radqueer. fucking PLEASE. and also, maybe we should focus on trying to stop the zoophiles, pedophiles and necrophiles and / or fighting for system awareness in general before we focus on fighting on whether or not endos are real when most people don’t even accept “real” systems.

[the-hydra-sys]

Pinned Post / Introduction!

We are Hydra.

Sideblogs:

@the-hydra-sys-spam - Spam, mostly reblogs

@hydra-creates - Requests for templates, userboxes, banners, writing snippets, sketches, etc etc

@tales-from-systok, @tales-from-syscord, @tales-from-sysblr - Askblogs all about people's experiences with system spaces. Positive and negative submissions welcome!

@demonized-infodumps - A blog for rants, rambles, infodumps, and just general community around demonized and stigmatized disorders. A judgement free space.

Discord: the_hydra_sys

Collective Pronouns: Xe/xem and they/them. While most alters are okay with one of these, we prefer you use each specific alter's name/pronouns to talk about/to them unless referring to us as a collective.

Find us on TikTok

Read our system dictionary (google doc)

See Plague's anti-endo community blog masterpost

Join our system-centric discord

[Discord contains a 16+ RAMCOA sector and a sector for systems of colour. Singlets are allowed, but there is a seperate category without them for those that want a system-only space.]

Feel free to send asks, we like answering them!

Sometimes we post about stuff from communities we aren't in, please correct us if we say something wrong, and let us know if we're misusing your community's tags.

Blocklist of narc abuse believers. People w/NPD you are safe here.

Tags, DNI, Alter Info, Alter Sideblogs & Sysboxes under the cut.

Tags

#[alter name or emoji] blogs = [alter] is fronting, and they are the one who created a post

#[alter name or emoji] reblogs = [alter] reblogged this post

#[alter name or emoji] opinions = [alter]'s opinions may not align with the rest of the system

#[alter name or emoji] likes = posts [alter] likes

#[alter name or emoji] replies = posts [alter] replies to

#hydra blogs = blogs from our system

#hydra reblogs = reblogs from our system

#hydra opinions = collective opinions

#hydra likes = collective likes

#hydra replies = posts we collectively reply to, typically from our inbox

All posts should have some of these tags. If you see us reblog a post with no tags, or create a post with no tags, it's probably Echo forgetting again. If a post is tagged with 'blurry' or 'anon' in place of the alter name, then it's a blurry alter or an alter who wishes to remain anonymous.

DNI / Blocklist

Racists.

Zionists, nazis, etc.

Misogynists, sexists, etc.

Homophobes, biphobes, lesbophobes, etc.

Arophobes, acephobes, aphobes.

Transphobes, transmisogynysts, transandrophobes.

Anti-furry, anti-therian.

RCTA, DCTA, NCTA, and other transIDs.

Endogenic systems.*

Anyone who uses the word "sysmed." (Pro)endo or not.

Those who say littles can consent to sex/romance.

If you are under the age of 15, please interact with care. Our blog is SFW, however some topics may be heavy and some alters may vent. Please skip these posts if you wish to interact with us as a younger person.

*We are anti-endo, pro-belief, endo-critical and anti-fakeclaiming. If they say they are endogenic, we will simply not interact.

*This DNI does not apply to our syscourse posts.

Alter Information

In our system, frequent fronters change rapidly, but we'll list our alters most likely to front. Others may sign off from time to time, and you may hear about an alter once but never again - this is to be expected, our alter count is high and constantly fluctuating.

So, with that in mind:

Serpent Hill Fronters

The Nightmare Gang

If we get more frequent fronters, I'll add them!

Alter Sideblogs:

All sysboxes from sysboxes on tumblr!

Made by Echo

Later edits by: Angeldust, Lexi, Orion

[rottenpupper]

been having some weird interactions so let me put it out there:

this is MY blog and i wont make myself uncomfortable so that you are comfortable.

im into hard kinks

im an alterhuman

im an anti contact pro recovery paraphile (when it comes to harmful paras)

im anti radqueers, radfems, rcta, proshipping, transids

and most importantly my person is not safe for racists, antisemites, homo/transphobes, people that hate on xenogenders/therians/age(pet)regressors/people that go out of their way to bully others, supporters of israel and russia

theres things that dont harm anyone but i dont like them. thats why i dont want some people to interact with me. i dont hate you (except radfems, terfs can die), you just make me feel not very good

i use tumbler like one would use ao3, i see tags i dont like, i dont read

[thosernotchos]

About the artist

Hello I am Notcho/Sovann/Kieran/Leigh!

Since Wander Over Yonder started to get more popular I've been drawing a lot of fanart and I can't wait to post more on Tumblr years later after leaving hoping I have a better experience.

I like Wander Over Yonder, Gravity Falls, Psychonauts, Sam & Max, Mao Mao Heroes Of Pureheart, Robot Dreams, Sonic, Ducktales, Looney Tunes, TMNT, Hi-Fi Rush, Omori, Mob Psycho 100, and Danny Phantom.

My art takes a lot of inspiration from cartoons, video games, and comic book artists. I love drawing action scenes, dynamic poses. I enjoy animating a ton.

Slowly getting into Devil May Cry, Silent Hill, and Resident Evil. Might get into Persona. Feel free to recommend me video games I should play.

(I'll list more later.)

What I use: Clip Studio Paint, Procreate, Ibis Paint X, Blender, Open Toonz, and Pencil2D

🚫DO NOT INTERACT Proshippers/Comshippers, Lolicons, Shotacons, Anti-Lgbtq, Pro Israel/Anti Palestine/Zionists, people who are neutral to the genocide, creeps of any kind, RCTA/ECTA, YOU WILL BE BLOCKED🚫

🚫AI "ART" IS NOT ALLOWED! DO NOT STEAL MY WORK OR ARTISTS' WORK FOR AI! AI "ARTISTS" WHO CALL THEMSELVES ARTISTS ARE NOT ARTISTS.🚫

🚫DO NOT TAG MY DRAWINGS AS NSFW OR FET*SH THAT MAKES ME INCREDIBLY UNCOMFORTABLE! I AM NOT AN NSFW ARTIST NOR DO I WANT ANY ASSOCIATION.🚫

NO HARASSMENT PLEASE! THIS IS A SAFE SPACE!

[shadowsapphirerecluse]

Intro !! (not pretty :( yet)

Important

I’m a minor

Basic DNI + any adults who want to be friends (i only wanna talk to adults for advice)

this is not a safe space for anyone who likes trump, elon, capitalism, far-right, tribal goth or anything weird like that, and people in trumps cabinet

Basic

I’m just a chill person, I’m open to online friends i just dont text a lot, uhh im kinda (very) freaky

Name: Omar but I like mar mar too !!

Mbti: INTJ-T

Pronouns: He/them

Nationality: Jamaican (for the most part im a little cuban)

Sexuality and gender: Bisexual and Demiboy

Languages: Spanish and English

Less basic

Interest: Cookie run kingdom, Alien stage, nightwing, Link click, Omori, Cabaret, Kaiju, Good movies, Scott pilgrim, Studio Ghibi, The interview with the vampire(TV verse), What we do in the shadows, Jentry Chau vs the world and Vkei

Music: Madmans Espirit, Mitski, Isawvenus, Faye webster, Lucy Davis, Boygenius, King princess, Doechii, The front bottoms, Laufey, Beabadoobe, Conan Gray, Tyler the creator, Big thief, Ichiko Aoba, Plastic tree, Dazey and the scouts, Cat crash, Newjeans, Radiohead, Artic monkey, K-pop, V-pop, and alex g

Hobbies: Screenwriting, Drawing, Exercise, skincare, cooking, Martial arts, Running, Volleyball, dancing, Designing clothes, and Robotics

Not basic and good to know

Favorite character from each interest:

Alnst-Luka, Ivan, Sua

Crk-Shadow milk cookie, black sapphire cookie, truthless recluse, Dark Cocoa

I’m newgen to all my interest :[ !!

DNI: Far-rights, ‘its only politics’ ppl, Conservatives, Rcta, Idiots, Apathetic ppl, 25+ who wants to be friends, weirdos, and anyone ICP would hate

Please interact: 25+ who just wants to give advice/tips, anyone who wants to give advice/tips on my hobbies, Kind ppl :3, pll who like my interest, anyone 21🔁 to 41🔁, and any people with recommendations

what kinds of things I post

- art

- middle school life

- Polls

- Vents

- Comics

- Thingys asking for advice

- Ootd

- repost of human rights stuff

[ranazxqz]

. . . About me . . . ˎˊ˗

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⤷ I'm Rana ˎˊ˗

♡ 17, she/her, Europe ˎˊ˗

♡ in highschool ˎˊ˗

♡ I like : music, girlblogging, vlogs, old phones, vlogs, coffee , tea, iced tea, my cat (my soulmate) also animals in general, watches, fake eyelashes, bracelets , makeup, headphones , gloomy nights, nature, rain, MY PHONE <3, android (my love) digital diaries, ink , stationary ˎˊ˗

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♡ music wise: Fiona Apple, Lana del Rey, Nicole Dollanganger , Mitski, lamp, wave to earth , ichiko aoba,Uchuu Nekoko, hanbee, Tommy February6 ,etc! ˎˊ˗

♡ literature: speak, heaven, secret history, suicide notes, before the coffee gets cold, etc aka others I still have to read!

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♡ lil side note:

I am NOT rcta by any chance or anything like this, my account strikes for the j drama, shoujo girl, protagonist, cutesy, relatable lead vibes!! ˎˊ˗

♡ find me on my other socials aka my linktree ↓

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♡ Do NOT interact:

-pedos

-racists

-homophobes

-transphobes

-toxicity or any form of negativity. ˎˊ˗

! ! ! My page does NOT condone any of the things listed above . This is a safe space. ! ! ! ˎˊ˗

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[bl0od-bath]

Ｒｅｑｕｅｓｔ Ｒｕｌｅｓ

Welcome! I'm Chibeni, which means 'red as blood' in Japanese, I use a little term called BloodBath or BB, for heavily detailed gore or traumatic and sensitive topics, which wont be used to much but just a warning before hand!

I want everyone to acknowledge, that this is a safe space, if you are in need of venting, you may vent to me at any age, you also may request at any age. I'll always be free to listen, give advice, or answer questions, I do not want any Homophobic, Racists, RCTA, Pedophiles, Sexual harassers or Pro-shippers to interact with my page. All ages are fine, but please do follow the rules, if its says 15+, it means 15+ only! I will make stuff for the youngers though!

Anything I write that is a sensitive or an Illegal topic, do not do in real life, I write it for entertainment purposes, or plot only.

These are my request rules, things I do and allow, to what I don't and refuse to do, I may allow some things that are sensitive topics but it will not be detailed unless the warnings explicitly say 'BB' , highly sensitive topics will be classified as 15+ if not declared 'BB'.

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Character x Reader

Character x Oc

Character x Character

Oc x Oc

Adult x Adult (Fluff/Platonic-Romantic/Angst/Smut)

Adult x Child (Fluff/Platonic/Angst)

Child x Child (Fluff/Platonic/Angst)

Yandere x Victim (Fluff/Platonic-Romantic/Angst/Smut)

(If I missed anything, just send me a message!!)

Ｗｈａｔ Ｉ＇ｌｌ ｗｒｉｔｅ~

Kidnapping

Torture (BB)

R@pe (BB)

COCSA/SA (BB)

Yanderism

Homosexuality

Homophobia/Racism (Please do not do be such things.)

Smut/Angst/Fluff/Platonic-Romantic

Murder/Death

Blackmail

Cannibalism (BB)

Omegverse

Cheating

Headcanons/Series/Drabbles/Oneshots

Kinks (Hard or Soft)

Alternate Universes

(If I missed anything, just send me a message!!)

Ｗｈａｔ Ｉ ｗｏｎｔ ｗｒｉｔｅ~

Incest (I am not comfortable, unless its maybe Step family, so by law, but you'd have to really convince me.)

Scat/Piss.

(If I missed anything, just send me a message!)

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TMNT Bayverse ^ Leo ^ Raph ^Donnie ^ Mikey

FPE (Fundamental Paper Education) ^ All

The Sandman ^ Morpheus

MW/COD ^ Simon Riley ^ John Price ^ John McTavish ^ Kyle Garrick ^ Phillip Graves

Undertale/AU's ^ Ask and I'll see

(If you want a different and specific fandom, just message and I'll see!!)

[arsynnotarson]

i have genuine questions for radqueers and m-spec lesbians!!!!!!! because i understand next to nothing

first, for radqueers - if you identify as a different ethnicity at birth, wouldn't that classify you as rcta? what are yalls stances on that?

edit: not rcta. im lost. but still, what's yalls opinion on changing ethnicity if you aren't transethnic (if that's the term)

and if someone identifies as transdyslexia, for example, how does that work?

now for m-spec lesbians, i believed being a lesbian was nmlnm. am i missing something? do you guys still interact with lesbian's safe spaces?

thank you guys for read!!!!! will be waiting patiently

this is a proship blog. ignore or forever be disturbed.

[altosys]

A vent from my transracial wasian/probably-other-stuff-too ass. (TW: Mentions of RAMCOA and semi-blatant racism)

Oh boy, the feeling of losing a friend you had for four years for nearly the same exact reason your god-awful sperm donor wanted to convince you into white supremacy ideologies and to try and [redacted] you! How lovely! /sarc /v

Like, can people listen to me for ONE GODDAMN SECOND when I say "I don't mean transracial as in RCTA, I mean transracial as in I don't fucking know where my grandparents are from and I do not have access to that information unless I go and break the restraining order I have on my RAMCOA perpetrator and I do not want to have this conversation with people that only wish to harass me, plus I'd like to keep my childhood trauma shared with only people I trust, thank you very much"

It's disappointing how much I have to explain yes, my mother is a white bitch, however my wASIAN ass is not made of all of her genetics. Honestly I think that because of this, us mixed folks should create our own space. Also a space for the people who don't know about their heritage and only have glimpses, especially if it was stripped away from them. We need a safe space too. <3