#proship dni

[halfcorpse-halfghost]

It irritates the fuck out of me when people use medical terminology in an non-medical context. It's both contextually AND grammatically incorrect.

Contextually, it's very informal for someone to use the name of a mental disorder outside of its original context. I know that humans tend to hyperbolize, but connotations exist for fucks sake.

And grammatically, mental disorders are PROPER NOUNS, not adjectives. Saying "I'm so OCD." is the equivalent of saying "I'm so buzzsaw.", neither one of them makes sense grammatically.

Stop saying…

“Psychotic/Schizophrenic” when you mean: unpredictable, unhinged, unreal, etc.

“Bipolar” when you mean: polarized, scattered, fickle, unstable, etc.

“Delusional” when you mean: unrealistic, unreasonable, close-minded, stubborn, etc.

“[insert “R” slur in relation to intellectual disabilities]” when you mean: unreasonable, unintelligent/ridiculous, immature, etc.

“OCD” when you mean: particular, neat, overbearing, etc.

“Narcissistic” when you mean selfish, abusive, manipulative, etc.

Note: I’m NOT saying that these are synonymous. This is also not an exhaustive list.

[kittys-luvcorner]

Me when I gotta get out of my warm cozy bed and leave my fictional bf all alone (heartbreaking)

[mutt-if]

WHAT IF?

…your f/o got turned into ANY build-a-bear plushie, which one did they turn into? bonus: what accessories do they have?

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[selfship-confession-void]

"Isn't Enemies to Lovers proship" Nope! Here's Why (+ Explaining Strawmen)

Proship/comship/neutral/darkfic DO NOT interact!! This post is not and never will be for you, stay away from me.

So I got this question as an anon but the ask just disappeared 😭 anyways I feel like this is a good topic to tackle because this shoddy argument is thrown around a lot

Short answer: No, but it can be depending on the execution

Long answer: Enemies to lovers as a trope isn't inherently toxic, but if it's handled wrong then yes the relationship would be abusive and ergo would be proship. But just because it CAN be handled poorly doesn't mean it's AUTOMATICALLY toxic and bad on principal

More under the cut:

I've had people I've hated who I later warmed up to. Happens all the time, that's life, you're not gonna like everyone. But that doesn't mean we abused one another or made one another's life a living hell. If you're thinking about ETL (Enemies To Lovers) in the context of the Enemy being this ruthless tyrant who tears down the MC at every opportunity, ruins their life, and overall makes the MC severely harmed from their actions: yes, that is abuse. THAT relationship would be proship.

But that's what I call BookTok ETL, cause BookTok is where it's most normalized (and let's be fr, they normalize proship stuff ALL THE TIME). BookTok ETL is specifically different from general ETL cause most interpretations of the trope are written by people who know there's a line between flirty angry banter and actual harmful interactions. Any sane person who loves the trope will tell you there's definitely a limit and that it becomes gross and uncomfortable when that line is crossed.

And, what I find important to emphasize: every trope CAN be toxic if done wrong. Childhood Friends to Lovers can be unhealthy if the childhood friend in question is a thoughtless shitbag and torments the MC. Coffee Shop AUs can be toxic if it's someone harassing an essential service worker the whole time. I've experienced media that's made me love tropes I usually don't care for just as much as I've seen media do a trope I love so badly that the relationship is a cesspit mess that I wouldn't ever dream of supporting.

My point here is judging a general and inherently harmless trope just based off of the idea that it could sometimes maybe be portrayed as toxic, doesn't mean the trope is on principal bad/toxic/gross. "But what about hero x villain?"— same rules apply. If Villain is terrorizing Hero or the ones they love so badly that it gives Hero trauma or deeply negatively impacts them in a scarring way, that is abuse and no one should argue that it isn't. But the trope can also be lighthearted and sweet, depending on the way it's handled.

Now onto my second portion:

What is a strawman?

A strawman is directly defined as "an intentionally misrepresented proposition that is set up because it is easier to defeat than an opponent's real argument". The very question of attributing harmless tropes to abuse romanticizing proshippers is a strawman. An argument that's meant to seem like a "HAHA GOTCHA" to people who don't sit and think for more than two seconds on how you're literally grasping at straws. This ties into a common trend of proshippers trying to worm their way into everything.

Let me be blunt: proshippers did NOT and never have invented shipping, selfshipping, fandoms, or anything of the like. They like saying that as an imaginary "gotcha" card to the rest of us, just claiming with zero proof or evidence to have invented online spaces because that's easier to argue over than the fact that they're supporting actually disgusting things. 9/10 they just wanna piss people off and then flood them with harassment when the person points out the obvious holes in their argument (pretty ironic coming from the "we don't support harassment!" crowd by the way)

So, to reiterate and be as clear as possible; no, enemies to lovers and hero x villain aren't proship. They can BECOME proship if specific portrayals are done in a very toxic way that make the relationship abusive, but any trope can be represented horribly, so no it does not automatically mean the trope as a concept is proship. Claiming it is is a strawman argument largely used by proshippers because they're deflecting from what they're actually doing wrong and trying to grasp at straws to "epically own the stupid antis" or something like that

Ty for reading

[outdatedcakes]

[kissingarthurclaus]

I'm gonna need fellow self shippers to NOT apologize or put themselves down for making their s/is basic/mary sue/OP as fuck because we're here to have FUN!! If you wanna give ur s/i a taste of the power or to make them the hottest person in your f/os canon then DO it! Make characters u don't ship with have a crush on you, make yourself the sole savior of this universe and be unapologetic about it!! [OK TO RB]

[tech-kisserr]

reminder: your f/o is YOURS. nobody sees the character in the exact same way as you- everyone’s perception of them is at least a little different. your version is yours and nobody else’s <3

[sebdoesthings]

#Sk8ober Day 6: In every Universe

The answer is, of course, yes.

(They sparkle btw. If you even care.)

[superbluebrick]

⌞ your f/o has grown so comfortable in your company that they start to refer to the two of you as "us". they aren't just speaking for themselves now, how could they when you're at their side so often? nowadays it's always "we", whether they're voicing your collective opinion or describing an activity, in a gentle kind of way that doesn't make you feel belittled, but instead cared for, included. you matter to them this much! ⌝

[yearninghabits]

me rn and probably tomorrow.

proship dni

[theautisticfroglord]

anyways parents who record/post their autistic child having a meltdown are awful people :)

[theselfshippingrose]

Going on f/o tag and trying to dodge unfiltered ships like

[kynibyou]

if you think it feels embarrassing or cringe to get excited and giddy about ur f/os… you shouldn’t, because ACTUALLY— i saw ur f/o giggling and kicking their feet while looking at pictures of you SO…

[zeros-sys]

it's killing me that systems think they are faking or lying because they haven't had other alters front in a while, headspace has been silent, your communication is down, and overall just "feeling like a singlet"

because number 1, cdds have more symptoms than just alters, number 2 it's a covert disorder, and number 3, you are an alter!

no one experiences the same level of their symptoms for any of their disorders every day.

if my avoidance to food due to arfid is more noticeable some days, why is it different for having alters in osddid?

cdds are covert disorders. they will try and hide your symptoms because it's the whole point of their existence. don't blame yourself for a survival mechanism your brain created to protect you!

and I see so many people forget this, especially hosts, but you're an alter! if someone else doesn't front, that doesn't suddenly make you a singlet because you are still part of a system

you can make mistakes or be wrong, but don't fakeclaim or feed yourself misinformation in order to realise that!