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A Valentine's Day Radqueerball Drawing.

I recently discovered Radqueerballs as an idea and have enjoyed seeing what it has turned into. I believe it is absolutely wonderful and wished to join in on the fun during one of my favorite holidays. Happy Valentine's Day to you all and I wish you all a good one, whether it is coming to a close or has just begun for you.

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I wish every anti transid person who says "oh yeah? Well why don't you tell your family you identify as that!"

A very

Imagine saying that exact same sentence to a transgender 12 year old in a red state

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I think of myself as pretty accepting of transids.

But one argument that I struggle to accurately counter is the idea that if you can transition in one direction, you should logically be able to transition in the other. The first place I saw that argument was debating the idea of transautistic. The argument was that if acting autistic makes transautistic people autistic, how come acting neurotypical (masking) doesn’t make autistic people neurotypical? I feel like the issue is that one is an active choice and the other is from societal pressures. But still. I’ve also seen this line of logic get used on transintersex people. If transintersex people can elect to get surgeries that make them intersex, how come intersex medical abuse doesn’t make intersex people perisex? Again, I feel like it’s the issue of voluntary transition vs abuse. But I also see the other side’s point. Curious what your thoughts were.

A big part of it *is* voluntary vs involuntary, that's because that covers a lot more than just saying it seems

What you do for different reasons means something, like a TransMan having short hair because of dysphoria and a woman having short hair because it's just easier, different things and the outcomes for either means different things for both!

I mean the most straight forward example I could probably put is having a random person have a knife at your chest would be a really big problem! This is involuntary, then there's a doctor during surgery, this is voluntary! Very different situations but generally the same concept

So while yes a TransAutistic person changing how they act to pass or transition seems to be akin to a CisAutistic masking how they act for survival

But I think an argument on masking as that it isn't changing your whole self just on its own, it takes a lot of time for masking to actually change how you are. It would be more akin to passing than transitioning

And I would actually argue surgeries on intersex individuals are transitions, they are just transitions they didn't want. And if doesn't make them perisex as being intersex encompasses a lot more than what surgeries can cover, traits of intersex types are often still left over even with surgery.

There's some more nuances but I feel like those are for other / specified questions

If I misunderstood anything you said or have anymore examples, please feel free to let me know !

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Reblog to scare a paramisiac

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transaccent people if you feel weird about faking your voice remember; I have a transatlantic accent, it’s completely a made up accent. Historically the transatlantic accent is a mix of the annunciation of British dialect and the drawl of low country, the aristocrats who put on this accent faked the whole thing to differentiate from the working class and over generations the ‘posh’ accent stuck in the children who grew up hearing it. “Faking” a voice is a part of history and hurts literally no one. The most reconizable accent is completely made up, fake your voice who cares

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Some general positivity for ex-antirq folkel ;

you are no less rq due to your past experiences as an anti !!

you are so strong for getting out and you should be proud of yourself !!

whether you were forced into being an anti or you chose to for any reason you deserve a place to heal !!

you are not horrible for getting anti based intrusive thoughts from your past experiences !!

you are not "wrong" or "invalid" for existing !!

Overall I'm so proud of you for taking the steps to realize your thinking was harmful and/or wrong and using that to grow,, it's not easy to reframe your beliefs especially in such a hateful community !! ILY and I hope this blog will provide a safe space for you to heal and grow ～♡

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I wish every "You mean RAPING KIDS?" when I talk about para activism and hating contact discourse

I hope you know you are the reason children are killing themselves

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”but they identity as-“ and the world keeps turning.

“but I don’t like how they-“ and still the world keeps turning.

“BUT they like-“ gasp! The world is still turning.

“I don’t like how we share the same space” yet the world keeps turning.

“why do they exist??” Still the world is turning.

“why don’t you explain your stance on different issues and topics in a readily available intro post!?” Because.. because guess what.. and you won’t believe this- the world will still turn and life continues on no matter that.

🌌 <- you’re here, worrying that someone somewhere is different than you. What a joke.

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*taps mic* friendly reminder that:

Your identity is how YOU feel

You don't owe anybeing anything

You don't have to explain your feelings

Your feelings are VALID

You are your own being at the end of the day and regardless of what any other being says you deserve to be happy and to have joy

That's all :)

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I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you can lie on the internet! Do it! You don’t owe these people anything. If it makes you feel like yourself, do it. As far as all of my online friends are concerned, all of my transids are cis. They think I live in Korea part time, and that English is my second language. At first, I was terrified I’d be “discovered” as a “liar”, but over the years I’ve learned..nobody really gives a fuck if you’re lying or not on the internet. They have no way to “fact-check” your identity. Be who you want on here, the world is your oyster!

-078

I promise you, it’s okay! No police are going to hunt you down, even if you get “caught” <3

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If you're transid, you have a right to have as much fun with your transidentity as you please just as much as you have a right to be completely serious with it.

You have every right to be the way you are.

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i hate the amount of people in the queer community thinks that a kid having a sexuality is "sexualizing" them. support queer kids, until they are actually kids

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"Proud paraphiles DNI!" I will not hang my head for you. Just because you would rather someone like me be incredibly self-loathing, just because you're too afraid to say you want to erase paraphiles off the face of the earth altogether, doesn't mean I have to lay down and take it. So hell yeah, I'm a proud paraphile. Not proud enough to go on my main blog and scream 'I'm a paraphile!', but I am nowhere near self-loathing. Put that into your pipe and smoke it. Paraphiles are not going anywhere.

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you cant just put trans in front of racial identities and physical conditions and adopt them as your own- if you weren't born disabled or another race then you cant just transition to be that...

Omg my first hate ask!!!!

Also I'm now gonna look for even more transabled and transrace terms I connect with

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I second this. It is very important we discuss the harm that contact discourse brings to the table of paraphilia acceptance. I have seen far too many use contact discourse as an excuse to cause further pain and spread more misinformation within the community, both the radqueer and paraphilia community, and it begins to wear down on the fight we fight to bring equal opportunity and rights to those who need it.

It is infighting in a time where we need community and teamwork more than anything, and far too many perpetuate the idea that ones belief system is a symbol of worth, which will continue to cement the misinformed belief to those who are not on our side that our belief system, that being that we are inclusive and all supporting, makes us less worthy than they may be. This is dangerous. It is a dangerous thing to keep within our circles.

I understand as well that contact discussions may be good within private, but when we fight, we must fight together, and I simply do not see that happening with how much infighting this has caused.

We focus on the bigger picture and we things done. We focus on insignificant discourse and drama, then we inevitably turn on one another and we never make progress. It is a cycle. Please, I ask all of my followers to break it.

I believe that when we have made significant progress, we can return to the matter of contact, but right now, there is no time for it.

I'll say it once and I'll say it again

CONTACT DISCOURSE HURTS MORE THAN IT WILL EVER HELP

Some of you need to start telling others that contact discourse is the problem

Because it fucking is.

Right now, if a para is open about being a para, they could lose a lot of important things because people don't understand

They could lose a job, be disowned, get divorced, be seen and treated as a danger by their therapist, and all of the people involved in the list could report them to authorities and POSSIBLY GET THEM ARRESTED

And that can all happen without ever hurting a single person

We can get to the idea of what's good and how, but only when you're fucking civil about it. I don't care if the person you're talking to has a opinion you deem "morally reprehensible" or "icky", you both don't want thousands of people to be killed, so be nice to each other when you talk.

Contact discourse has only divided any community it's been in and is the main reason anti radqueers exist

It's made you hate each other and unable to do shit we ACTUALLY need to get done so people don't lose anymore loved ones

Our community has already lost way too many people to suicide, if you want to stop making people feel like monsters for existing, focus on the important part.

Hhh

If you have any questions, feel free to ask

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I wish every anti transid person who says "oh yeah? Well why don't you tell your family you identify as that!"

A very

Imagine saying that exact same sentence to a transgender 12 year old in a red state

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I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if you let something slide because you were too shocked to react in the moment, you can bring it up the next time you talk to that person, you can text them, you can let them know it won’t slide again in the future. you don’t have to just accept that behavior indefinitely because you couldn’t gather your thoughts to say it made you uncomfortable when it first happened. you’re not making anything awkward, you are giving someone an opportunity to show care for you, and telling them you trust them enough to change their behavior. there is literally nothing wrong or bad with voicing discomfort even if the moment has already passed.