#actually ASPD

[aspdculture-is]

ASPD Culture is...

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Hello and welcome to aspdculture-is, a [blank]-culture-is blog for ASPD, AKA Anti-social Personality Disorder.

There's one mod, and my name is Milo! I'm the host of a mixed-origins system, and use she/he/they prns. Although anti-endos are free to interact as long as they don't bring in syscourse. Anyway, with intros out of the way, lets get in to it. It also run @ocdculture-is :]

Rules for submitting:

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- All asks (aside from questions about the blog n the like) must start with "ASPD culture is" or you can include another disorder if its relevant, ex. "ASPD + OCD culture is".

- Nothing too NSFW, although if its vague/not in detail its fine.

- No abelism will be tolerated!! If you send in a hate ask, it will either be made fun of or deleted.

- No radqueers or transID, or talking about them in a positive light. I kindly ask for proshippers to DNI, I don't think it's immoral, but just for my comfort DNI, please!

And that's about it! I'll add on to this as time goes on, but for now that's it. Cya!

[alexandraisyes]

Chat what if I opened a blog to talk about psychology specifically (and maybe move my disability kitties there) and also just about like my experiences as someone with ASPD and the difficulties and differences I’ve noticed etc. and also a little space for other people to talk about their experiences with their disabilities and disorders

[funnier-with-aspd]

[jellyfishstarzz]

The struggle of giving real compliments as pwNPD and ASPD traits is so real. I don't give honest compliments often but when I do they sound so condescending and people misunderstand. Or it sounds really simple for a person without npd/aspd.

We really need to talk about how pwNPD and pwASPD express affection and care. It can seem so simple and not recognizing/not thanking them properly can genuinely destroy the relationship.

To you it may only be a simple "Yes you can stay with me even tho I'm slow on social battery" or "Yes you can give me advice on how to do something" but to narcissists and sociopaths is something SO big. It's literally going against the defense mechanisms the brain has set up to prevent re-traumatization. It's opening up to someone, something both people with ASPD and NPD are incredibly scared to do.

[autopsyfreak]

my anhedonia is eating me alive so i’m making these mental illness memes to cope

[youlookkindadead]

i've seen quite a bit of confusion about this, so let me attempt to clear things up :

empathy is the ability to feel somebody's emotions as though they are affecting you personally. for example, somebody tells you "my dog died last night!" -> you now feel as though you've lost a pet personally -> you feel grief and sadness just like the other person. not everyone has empathy. it's a trait some people develop and others don't. some have high empathy, some have low empathy, some (like me) have none.

sympathy is the ability to understand and care about somebody else's struggles, even if you don't feel them yourself. so, somebody tells you their dog died -> you realize how this affects them emotionally -> you care about this person, and are upset that they are suffering. not everyone has sympathy either! it's a scale, just like empathy.

compassion is doing something to relieve another person's suffering or make them feel better. somebody tells you their dog died -> you don't want them to remain upset -> you come up with ways to help them feel better, like offering comfort and distractions, or other forms of support. compassion is a learned trait, not something you can be born with like empathy or sympathy. anyone can learn to be compassionate, although some may struggle more with it than others; it's a skill, just like anything else.

however, none of these are required to be a good person. that's a choice you make on your own accord. i hope this clears things up!

[4ngelfvck]

I asked a friend who is a sociopath (diagnosed with ASPD, he refers to himself as a sociopath which is why I’m calling him that) what love feels like to him and how he knows when he loves someone.

I loved his answer. He said “Routine. If they are a part of my routine and feel familiar and comfortable and I would feel like something is missing if they weren’t there, then I think I love them.”

I have bpd with ASPD traits and I think his answer was so cute. I think that is what love is like for me too but I’ve never heard it so succinctly explained, perfect summarization.

[asherwentinsanelol]

yknow qhat i love seeing? people with the "scary" or "mean" or "evil" disorders getting silly with it. thats definitely destigmatizing it /srs

like, if audhd people get to joke around about their disorders, not always treat it with an absurd amount of weight, so does everyone else. i love you aspd people who make jokes about your disorder, you deserve to do that without being called an edgy teen. i love you npd people make memes about it. i love you scary people who get to destigmatize your disorders by laughing.

[maybe-an-aspd-angel]

[aspdculture-is]

ASPD culture is caring about something as idiotic as shipcourse because despite having ASPD I can still experience discomfort and set boundaries

ASPD Culture is

[necroticcadaver]

Do not claim to be a mental health advocate or a safe space for the mentally ill if you demonise systems, cluster B personality disorders and/or psychotic disorders.

[vent-antiendo]

Ableism is fucking everywhere. And it's so insanely normalized. I was watching a commentary youtube video about a pretty shitty person. And the person who made the video, someone I watch frequently, calls the person a sociopath, a psychopath and a narcissist. Over and over again.

We're people too, what the fuck? Having ASPD or NPD does not equal being a shitty, abusive person. I'm so fucking sick and tired of my struggles being used as a way to insult and label others as abusers.

I am not your fucking horror trope.

[skyrages]

Why is no one talking about how having diagnosed ASPD or psychopathy (also a ‘lack of remorse’ also is a frequent determining factor on parole or sentencing, as if that’s fucking controllable) gets you worse sentencing, like longer prison time or lose parole or even death penalty over life according to some. Literally the most blatant ableism nobody talks about. All considered normal and valid and talked about casually. Occasionally, ive heard of non ableist psychiatrists refuse to diagnose people with aspd when they might get in trouble with the law in future because of a fear theyd get worse sentences or death because of this. Having a disorder about a lack of empathy and impulse control is somehow considered voluntary and making you more “evil” and deserving of suffering. Prison system is shit in general but this is a great example.

[autopsyfreak]

‘letting my intrusive thoughts win’

shut the fuck up.

you’re referring to impulsive thoughts, intrusive thoughts are undesirable and often horrific for the person experiencing them. you dying your hair randomly is not an intrusive thought.

if i let my intrusive thoughts dictate my actions, id be in jail for a long fucking time.

[dailydivergent]

Neurodivergent reminder: Overstimulation feels a lot like anxiety, and understimulation feels a lot like depression.

More importantly, you don't need to know which it is to practice self-care.

Self-caring anxiety and overstimulation looks the same:

Recognize you're feeling big feelings

Take as many deep breaths as your need to slow your mind

Identify what’s causing the feeling, whether sensory, environmental, or situational

Minimize that cause as much as possible immediately

Self-caring depression and understimulation looks the same:

Recognize you’re in need of stimulation

Turn on an interesting long-form video of some kind

Do some quick exercise like a walk or jumping jacks

Call a friend that'll let you infodump

If you're neurodivergent and easily get stuck on labelling things — I see you.

I'm here to remind you that you don't need to know what it is to take care of it in the meantime.

You can — will — figure it out later.