#shadow work advice

[wybielune]

Hi guys! I know it's been a long time, but my mental health went on an olympic marathon straight down the toilet. We're talking Flushed Away bad, but, I'm coming out of it very slowly, and I've been thinking about coming back.

What I'm here to talk about today might not seem very witchy, but it is. I didn't realise just how important shadow work is. It's basically being your own therapist, except you don't have a doctorate, so you have nobody to sue if a treatment you choose doesn't work the way you want it to.

I've been quite ill for a long time, so I referred myself to a talking therapies group. While I'm waiting for an appointment, they gave me a website with info on it to help me understand mental health, how to care for mine, and exercises I could do to help make me feel better.

I'm still doing the online course while I wait to be paired with a therapist, but I felt that I should share some of my experiences here.

Journaling helped me a lot. Keeping track of my feelings and thoughts. Getting up and doing something, anything, really does help too. I know you don't want to. I've been there, I still have those days, but the thing is, I actually did an experiment.

I hadn't wanted to do anything for weeks beforehand, so that gave me a firm baseline to start from.

For the next several days, I had opportunities pop up to leave the house, which I don't like doing, I know, I'm a hermit. Relatives needed help with things, so even though I really didn't want to go, I went anyway. And I hated it.

I have a number of health problems, and these trips exacerbated them. I was tired, I had intense pain by the end, and hated every second of being out, but I found that the next day, I actually felt a little bit better, and by taking note of it and my experiment in the journal, I actually noticed the difference.

Once wasn't enough though, so I repeated it another three times, and my answer came back consistently, even though I'd had trouble getting myself up and moving, I did in fact benefit from it the next day.

So I highly recommend trying this yourself. Get a journal, or a pad of paper, anything you can write on give the experiment a go.

Don't go hurting yourself like I did, of course. I didn't have a choice, with my conditions, pain is just something I have to deal with, so keep yourself as safe and pain free as you can, but also, push yourself a little.

Wash your cup when you're done using it straight away.

Pull your blanket up. You don't have to do the whole bed if you're not up for it.

Get the hoover out for a quick go round, or go for a short walk. Doesn't matter how short, all you have to do is try, you can work up to longer walks.

Forgot something downstairs? Go get it. Dont put it off until you go downstairs next.

It can be done. I did the experiment first for you. Now we know it works, you can try :)

Thanks for reading.

[honeytonedhottie]

shadow work prompts⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🎀

resources for ur healing journal and healing journey in general bcuz u deserve to heal ✨ (constantly being updated and improved)

SHADOW WORK PROMPTS ;

what did childhood me need the most

what am i avoiding -> what am i addicted to

what secrets am i hiding and why

am i being honest with myself/others

what are my biggest misconceptions about myself

what are the first signs that u notice and know that ur mental health is dipping

what beliefs and behaviors did u adapt from ur family that u now question

what easily triggers (feeling) and what might be a reason for this sensitivity

have u ever had a reoccurring dream

do u have desires or ambitions that u feel embarrassed to admit

what critical thoughts do u have about urself

what part of myself do i feel disconnected to and why

how do i let others invade my boundaries

how much do i rely on external validation

do i tend to resist or embrace change

what are some toxic habits that i've adopted

[bitchy-craft]

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[jazmine-here]

Vanilla Girl

Stay vanilla. Stay sweet. There's nothing wrong with being a daisy.

Don’t ever try to “flex” for others by forcing your feet into a pair of glass slippers that aren't made for you. If you are uncomfortable with crafting a piece of work for a fandom, popularity, friends, or your audience, then stay true to yourself. Don’t put on the “cool girl” mask or attempt to maintain it if you have. Popularity may not always be guaranteed, but your relationship with your audience will have longevity, purity, and beauty. Be yourself. Trust yourself.

Hello! My name is Jazmine!

I am a reemerging writer who tinkers with art. I was dubbed "Jazzy-B-Real" in my youth and "Otherwise_Uncolonized" in my young adulthood.

Jazzy-B-Real:

Otherwise_Uncolonized:

My experimental youtube page was "Constellations of Neverland" at one point. I've been offline since 2020. In 2024, I saw people online celebrating my middle school and high school art while wishing me well due to my disappearance. I'm happy to say that I am well after a rough post-Covid era and a lot of growing up. During Covid's reign, I had purged the internet of what I viewed to be carbon footprints, yet people have kept the light alive in some dust clouds.

I am eternally grateful to you all for retaining such light. As the blooming adult I am now, I've learned to view everything with balance—including the broken person I was—and there are lovely works that I dearly miss as a result. Those works are the "darlings" from my young life.

All in all, I'm in the heat of writing original work.

Writing, Poetry & Artwork

I'll be posting my original stories, prose poetry, and standard poetry on my FictionPress.com with the occasional preview slapped on Tumblr. The account already has a small library. Much of what I write will also grace a website I'm building, so please stay tuned for it and the original novels I have in store. New artwork and fandom tributes will hit Tumblr, Twitter/X, and my personal website. Doing commissions for writing prompts and art pieces will also become a part of my activities with my audience.

My AO3 account for old 2014-2017 fandom storyboards like "My Dearest Cousin," "Indentured (Union of the Crowns)," "Carry Me Anew," and "The King" is back up as well.

༺Please read and review with your pretty thoughts! Thank you so much to those who have saved some of my fandom pieces:

[crazycatsiren]

Shadow work is not a requirement for witchcraft or any spiritual practice.

It's ok to not feel ready for shadow work, to not want to do shadow work, to never do any shadow work at all.

There are many, many other therapeutic methods and ways that one can work with to aid in recovery and healing. An experienced, trauma informed psychotherapist can do wonders.

[femmefatalevibe]

Do you have tips on how to be emotionally mature?

Remember that everyone is ultimately out for themselves. They don't think about you and your choices as much as you think they do. Make taking care of yourself and advocating for yourself your #1 priority. While you should be respectful and show empathy for others' circumstances, your life is meant to be lived for you.

Don't take people's comments or actions personally. Almost none of their responses are a reflection of you or your character. Most people's actions are a reflection of how they see themselves. When people reveal their true colors, believe them. Proceed with this information in mind – whether it's a friendship, professional opportunity, romantic endeavor, familial tie, etc.

Set boundaries and non-negotiables for yourself. Don't overextend yourself to seek approval or validation as a means of dictating your self-worth or value to others. Learn to trust your gut instincts, and remain mindful of your energetic limitations. "No" is a complete sentence. It is not selfish to stick to your non-negotiable habits (bedtime, workout schedule, etc.) – these practices are a sign of self-respect and self-love. Speak your mind (with tact) and stand your ground. You owe it to yourself to live the life that you want.

Know that the only constant in life is change. People and opportunities will come and go with age. Enjoy the moments and experiences you get to enjoy with others or alone. Relationships are meant to last for a season, a reason, or a lifetime. Not every impactful connection is meant to last a lifetime, but you shouldn't invalidate the lasting impact of certain temporary connections – they most definitely can change your life.

Remain selective about those you allow into your life and the company you keep. Embrace the quality over quantity approach when it comes to choosing the individuals who deserve to be in your inner circle. Don't disclose information you wouldn't want in writing to those who have yet to earn your trust. Cut ties unapologetically with people who choose to tear you down or disrespect you. You win in life when everyone you're close to is supportive and committed to cheering each other on in all of their life goals/milestones.

Learn to accept and explore discomfort. Growth requires change, and a side effect of change is discomfort. Accept that the circumstances are presenting you with an opportunity in life to level up. Breathe and take things one step at a time. Sometimes, you don't need to know the big-picture meaning of the conversation or task in front of you. Focus on what's in front of you – using good judgment and critical thinking skills – and figure the rest out later.

Set your future self up to win. Eat a healthy diet, move your body, save and invest, read books, build your professional and social networks, and upskill professionally and interpersonally, go to the doctors annually (all the major ones – primary care, dentist, gyno, dermatologist) or whenever an issue presents itself to nip it in the bud early.

Remain curious. Don't act on baseless assumptions. Ask someone about the intention or emotions behind their actions before creating a conflict or making accusations. Accept wishful thinking for what it is – especially when it comes to romance and professional endeavors. A job offer doesn't exist until it's signed and sealed in writing. Relationships come with exclusivity, clear and regular communication, and no issues with public knowledge or a title.

Reframe mistakes and failures as life lessons. These opportunities inspire self-reflection, performance evaluation, and introspection. Use these experiences to help you map out your next moves and strategize your actions toward success.

Creating life milestone timelines is useless. We all have our own history, circumstances, goals, and personalities. Individuals born in each given year are not a hivemind. Don't compare your journey to others. We are all on our own paths with different significant milestones at different points in our lives.

Embrace your desires. Indulge your adult self and inner child. Explore the pleasure of getting to know yourself – your likes, dislikes, values, preferences, and turn-ons/turnoffs in every area of life. Allow yourself the time, space, energy, and resources you need to satisfy your authentic self. Don't compromise your identity for the approval or praise of others. Learn what you want and be unapologetic for satisfying your own needs. Discover, experiment, play, test, learn, and re-evaluate as needed. Gamifying your life helps free you of societal expectations of what it means to be a certain age, gender, or personality based on your nationality, profession, sexuality, socioeconomic status, etc.

[coinandcandle]

Per my last reblog, I'm gunna rant about shadow work for a second. Not about Runa's post, because I think her post is very helpful <3

I truly loathe the push that deep shadow work gets from some people in the magical community, especially those who push it onto people who are very new or those who say that your magic is somehow lesser if you don't do shadow work.

I have watched my friends get re-traumatized by bullshit shadow work prompts that had no place in their practice but were pushed onto them by "more experienced" practitioners. These prompts triggered repressed memories for them and fucked with their heads. Especially young folks in magic, they don't know better right off the bat that you don't have to do what other witches do in order to succeed in magic.

I have personally broken down due to the pressure of feeling like I had to do shadow work but knowing full well that I am not mentally prepared to do the deeper shit.

Digging into repressed memories without the proper knowledge of how to handle them can re-traumatize you by forcing you to relive traumatic events and ultimately has no purpose other than to fuck you up. You don't need to suffer through your trauma a hundred times over to heal, you've already suffered enough.

You do not need to sacrifice your mental state for magic.

You do not need to do shadow work to be a witch or to be successful in magic.

Your witchcraft or your magic does not need to link to your psychological health at all if you don't want it to.

And if it's possible, go to a therapist! Therapy is a great tool for healing!!!

[aquatint-101]

Okay but is it really a Zuko love story if you're not getting secondhand embarrassment from reading his POV? He's not "introvert pondering the mysteries of the universe and is secretly suave and charming" awkward he's "has no brain-to-mouth filter except for a funhouse mirror and negative understanding of social cues" awkward. He gets his girlfriend seashells and monologues to frogs. He thinks "you're so beautiful when you hate the world" and "you have a big appetite" are effective pickup lines. He's not an awkward turtleduck, he's an awkward turtleduck with a blaring air horn.

[lostinvasileios]

If nobody else will say it to you...

No, no. Your deities aren't trying to abandon you, sweetheart. They're still there. They still love you. They still care and watch over you. Going through feelings of loneliness is normal, it's an inescapable thing with deity work most of the time, as unfortunate as it is, bee.

But, it's temporary.

It'll go away, just you wait.

Your deities will be so happy to see you overcome what you're going through. Your deities didn't forget you. How could they? Love isn't a forgettable feeling. Immortal, or mortal.

It's okay to cry, it's alright to feel weak without your deities at times. It's okay to feel so vulnerable to those you care so much about - like deities. No matter what happens, your tears are valid, the fear of being left behind or less-favored is valid. It happens. A lot more than you think.

You aren't alone, sweet friend. You're too loved to be alone. Even if you cannot hear them, feel them, or anything else, that doesn't mean they've suddenly began to hate you. That they've suddenly deemed you unworthy of their attention.

Breathe. Relax your muscles.

Ups and downs are apart of a strong, fulfilling journey.

Figure out how you feel about this situation when you're ready, do what you feel is best when you're ready, feel what you feel for now. That's enough. That's okay.

Everything will make sense one day. Everything will get into place. Everything will calm down eventually. You'll be okay.

A bad situation, a lonely situation, a sad moment, is never forever. It is not your entire life.

Happiness, is not forever either. But, that's why it's important to savor your moments with it. To do what brings happiness to you. Believe what feels best in your soul and heart. Cry and bawl to your deities, if that helps.

You're wanted. You're needed. You're loved and cared for. So much.

[yourspiritguide-quotes]

And so the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom

- Anaïs Nin

[candidcouture]

reminder to all people pleasers to begin prioritizing yourselves! it is imperative to start doing things such as setting boundaries, spending time alone, and saying NO. you deserve to start choosing yourself without feeling guilty.

[hiddenpie]

Having nourishing relationships is a right not a privilege.

We as a society have been given and allowed the bare minimum of our rights. And our reclamation of them revolve around our belief systems. What we choose to believe is what we allow into our life and what we also deny.

Check your belief system. Are you considering your rights as a privilege? And if so why? Where does it stem from. Shadow work is needed in that sphere. Because there is so much more that was meant for you and available to you.

[theshiftingwitch]

Our subconscious minds are all we need to get through right? Once we have new beliefs we manifest 100x faster. I came to a conclusion the reason it takes longer for some people even when they do the same thing is bc the subconscious mind has different ideas. I head once the subconscious is impressed ur desires manifest instantly?Consciously we understand that we have our desire. Some people have it more bc of trauma I believe

Yes!

The subconscious is where all the work is done, and depending on what you've been exposed to all your life, your limiting beliefs can vary.

That's why I always recommend shadow work along side manifestation. It's important to tackle your limiting beliefs so that you manifest faster and better and your self concept improves!

Happy manifesting ❤️

[embeccy]

You are not a reflection of the people who can’t love you.

- Caitlyn Siehl

Never forget that

I bet you can't follow me on Instagram! ����

Link is pinned on my profile!

- Embeccy

[thedarkmaidenn]

Advice for EARTH and WATER signs that nobody asked for 😘 (Posting the rest on another post.)

What’s your big 3?

[femmefatalevibe]

Any advice on sex after trauma?

Hi love! Firstly, I'm so sorry you experienced this. You never deserved it under any circumstances and are most certainly not alone <3

I believe sex after trauma and your relationship to sex––generally and especially after a jarring event/time like this––are incredibly unique and personal, so I'll share my two cents and hope something mentioned resonates with you.

Most importantly: Remember you're worthy of love, connection, and pleasure, and your relationship to what sex actually is for you remains autonomous. Coercion is rape, consent can be revoked at any time, sex is not something being done to you but something shared with another person (or yourself). It is a connection that can be physical, emotional, or a mix of both. To each their own.

Decide your personal boundaries regarding who, when, and what you want to engage with sexually. Take it slow. Communicate beforehand and during what does/doesn't feel good.

Please remind yourself that the purpose of these acts is to enjoy yourself, not perform for someone else or appease someone else's desires.

Practice self-care in sexual/non-sexual ways to feel comfortable in your own body again (some great examples of non-sexual ways to connect with your body include a massage with a licensed massage therapist, a hot shower, long hugs, getting your nails/hair done, exercise/walks/yoga).

Remember it's a journey, not a destination. In every sense. Take your time to discover your boundaries, preferences, non-negotiables, etc. for yourself again. Allow yourself to change your mind with new information and experiences. It's okay to be a little "selfish." Bodily autonomy is a human right.

Hope this helps xx