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They laugh cause you don’t even give yourself what you ask others for 🤡
#self love#how you love you sets the tone#self love is the standard#all you need is YOU#stand on your own#fuck what they talkin’ bout#fuck the excuses#LOVE YOURSELF#self respect#integrity#independence#me#my thoughts#wavyscottie
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#divine feminine#feminine#self love#healing#feminine journey#self care#boundaries#love#spiritualgrowth#inner work#high standards#standards#relationships#sprinkle sprinkle#dating as a woman
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Falling in love with yourself is easy
Falling in love with myself wasn’t a choice—it was inevitable. When you realize you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to you, everything changes. I stopped waiting for someone else to validate me and started giving myself the love, attention, and admiration I deserve.
I’ve always known I was something special. And when you see your own worth like that, you stop settling for anything less than the best. I’m not looking for love from anyone else anymore—because I’ve already found it in myself.
I treat myself like royalty because I know I am. I cherish every part of me—my beauty, my intelligence, my confidence. There’s no need to search for love when you’re already in love with who you are. The love I give myself is everything I’ve ever needed—and more.
If you haven’t fallen in love with yourself yet, what are you waiting for? Stop looking for it outside of you. You’re already everything you need. Start treating yourself like the queen you are, and watch your life transform.
Because trust me, once you fall in love with yourself, everyone else has no choice but to follow suit.
#leveling up#that girl#level up#self care#level up journey#personal development#femininity#hypergamy#leveling up journey#high value heaux#high value mindset#high value dating#high value woman#high standards#looksmaxxing#light feminine#dark feminine energy#dark feminine#dark femininity#glow up journey#glow up#glow up tips#self development#self love#dream girl aesthetic#self growth#healing#it girl aesthetic#hypergamous dating#hypergamous lifestyle
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#˚₊‧꒰ა 𝕻𝖗1𝖓𝖈𝖊𝖘𝖘𝕶1𝖙𝖙𝖞 ໒꒱ ‧₊#the girls next door#foodie#unbothered#girly girl#rosada#pink#princess energy#energía princesa#princess treatment#queen treatment#self love#high standards#spoiled#princess#2000s#kawaii#linda#bonita#gif#eating gif
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Beauty culture is extremely normalised to the point women who refuse to conform to beauty standards because they love their natural selves get labelled "pick mes" by none other than self-proclaimed feminists themselves. Patriarchal society has conditioned women to be insecure about each and every feature of their faces or bodies it has deemed as a flaw due to which the idea of a natural looking woman is someone hideous and unattractive for many young women.
These insecure women have build up this one image of a natural female appearance in their minds which they describe as unattractive, and as a consequence, women who naturally do not fit into that unattractive-labelled box get hated on. I am sure we all have encountered at least one gossipmonger in our lives who would assume every woman who does not fit into that box has done something with her face or body because ‘ain’t no way a woman can be naturally beautiful’.
*Woman with rosy cheeks exists* — ‘Oh she must have applied makeup’
*Woman with no dark circles exists* — ‘hey what concealer do you use?’
*Woman with a smooth skin exists* — ‘drop the skincare routine!’
*Woman with big lips exists* — ‘definitely lip filler’
*Woman in her thirties exists* — ‘Botox! Botox! Definitely cosmetic surgery! She doesn’t look like a grandma!’
*Woman loving her natural self exists* — ‘How dare you think you’re not like other girls! Pick me!’
Women get bodyshamed if we do fit into the "ugly-looking" criteria. Women get hated on if we do not. Women are supposed to be hideously flawed if they defy beauty culture. Women with even one less flaw must admit they obey beauty culture. No matter how many times you ditch the beauty standards, you will never escape this nonsense.
I have a message for these insecure clowns:
There is nothing imperfect about you. What’s considered perfect and what’s considered imperfect on a woman is all a patriarchal set up to push us into being weak and desirable for men. Women’s insecurities have risen up along with the rise of feminism to ensure that independent women rejecting traditional gender roles are still submissive and pleasing men. Don’t waste your hard-earned money on expensive cosmetic procedures to look pretty because you are already naturally beautiful. And it doesn’t matter if your natural self is socially desirable or not, women don’t owe beauty to anybody. Please think critically of why you feel insecure about something and why do you even call it a flaw.
But on a strict note, in case you still got time to take out your brain back from the patriarchy’s washing machine, at least refrain from pulling us all down to the level of extreme self-hate where you stand. All women are perfect already. There’s no serious requirement of hiding anything or changing ourselves. But i understand if you cannot relate for now! What you see in others is a direct reflection of yours. But just because you think you are hideous does not mean every woman thinks the same way. Self-love is our only beauty routine so let us love ourselves. 🩷
#radblr#radical feminism#radical feminist community#beauty culture#anti beauty culture#anti beauty industry#radical feminist#radical feminist safe#radical feminists do interact#self obsessed#self love#ditch femininity#beauty standards#harmful#fuck the patriarchy
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Ahhh thoughts about Laios Touden who would love you regardless of who you were. Your species, your race, your gender, your sexuality, none of those things matter in his eyes. Because to him, what makes you so wonderful and easy to love is that you’re simply just you. And there’s no other combination like you.
I get especially sappy thinking about it if you’re a tallman, too. At first, it seems like Laios couldn’t care less about humans. He always talks about how boring he finds his own race in comparison to others but it’s all heavily influenced by his own experiences growing up and being ostracized and bullied by those around him.
But just think about what it’s like when he meets you, another tallman. Yes, you’re human, but when he realizes that you won’t treat him differently for the way he is, he sees you as so much more than that. So what if you’re a tallman? A little thing like that doesn’t matter to him.
It’s not just that you’re “different from other tallmen”… it’s because you’re you. And he’s him.
Nothing more than that.
In an odd unlikely twist of fate, it seems that this time, the mundanity of it all is what completely captured Laios’s heart.
Just… you.
#personal Laios thought that I think abt a lot#i couldnt word that exactly the way I wanted to but I hope the gist comes across#just. Laios touden being a man who couldn’t care less about trivial rules and standards… throwing those all aside because he just wants you#not caring about little details like that so much to the extent that even if you were a “boring human that wouldnt keep him from loving you#^^^ THAT’S what really gets me#I love him….#so rusty with my fic writing so I might as well write down any self ship thoughts I have!#buttery rambles#laios touden x reader#laios x reader
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Girl Talk: Stop Comparing Yourself to Unrealistic Beauty Standards.
We just want all of our besties to see this video and take into account that 90% of the beauty standards and images you see that is pushed by the media isn’t real.
And this is with no shade: Jodie Joe, the face of fashion nova, has had surgery and it’s still photoshopped, altered and edited in realtime to make her look a certain way.
Stop comparing.
Stop consuming.
Stop trying to fit the mold when you were designed to break it.
Choose health and fitness over aesthetics. Prioritize your well-being, focusing on nourishing your body, staying active, and reprogram your mind to have a positive mindset.
Why?
Because true beauty radiates from within, and when you feel strong and healthy, it reflects in your confidence and energy.
Set realistic goals, celebrate your progress, and surround yourself with supportive communities that uplift and motivate you.
💌 A love letter to my BFS Ladies:
Here at BFS, while we adore sharing moodboards and celebrating outer beauty and fashion, we want to remind you that your journey in femininity and healed womanhood is about so much more. The true goal is healing, inner confidence and growth. Becoming the woman you aspire to be should transcend your outward appearance.
This journey is a mindset and a lifestyle that not only embodies the essence of a soft life but also breaks generational curses and defies stereotypes often placed upon Black women. It’s about nurturing yourself and starting a journey of self-discovery.
Your God-given superpower as a woman lies in this transformative work. Don’t just look the part—embrace the full, life-changing experience. Don’t cheat yourself from the profound growth and healing and real purpose that awaits you.
With love and inspiration,
The BFS Team 💋
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#black women in femininity#classy black women#feminine energy#black women makeup#femininity#beauty standards#plastic surgery#fitness#self love#Spotify#girl talks#girl talk#open discussion#self discovery#Black women#Beauty#fashion nova#fast fashion#misogny#black women in luxury#Beyonce#self empowerment#self discipline#women of god
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I really appriciate how often Machete is depicted struggling and feeling like a burden, while still being loved and supported by Vasco. It gives the top tier angst of "i'm not good enough, I'm not worth it" but you frame it in such a way where it's clear that's just how he *feels* and is not how things really are, but also it's so nice to see someone who struggles quite often in a loving and unique relationship that suits them. The narrative of not being able to love or be loved unless you're consistently healthy is really tiring lol.
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#ah thank you! I'm so glad these themes come through the way I intended#this touches on something that I've been thinking a lot so sorry if this gets a bit ranty#but I have massive personal beef with the sentiment “you have to love yourself before you can love someone else/someone else can love you ”#I hate it with a passion#I know it's meant to encourage positive growth and I get that self-love and healthy self-image are something you should strive for#but it also sort of sends the message that people who struggle with these sort of issues don't deserve to be loved#not until they reach some external invisible standard of “okay I'm normal and well adjusted now”#“perhaps now I'm worthy of entering a relationship without the danger of dragging the other person down with me”#people who aren't in perfect health mentally or physically already feel like they're inconveniencing others with their mere existence#depriving them of the possibility or even the idea of loving and being loved won't make them better#it's just a stupid idiom it doesn't matter but to me it just comes across as unspeakably cruel way to think#and it rustles my jimmies#answered#anonymous
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#girlblogging#pinterest girl#positivity#self love#self care#becoming that girl#glow up#high value mindset#high value woman#high standards#life quotes#inspiring quotes#quotes#quoteoftheday#beautiful quote#quote#wise words#words#spilled words
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This guy said it better than me
Carlos Sainz has conviction. He believes in his own judgment and is willing to act out and speak out on it, often contrary to what the Ferrari pit wall offers. At the same time, he isn't cocky and will respect Ferrari's team orders should the need ultimately arise. It's been twice in [the 2022] season that Carlos' blatant ignoring/disobeying of Ferrari's calls rewarded him and the team handsomely, while in contrast Leclerc, whose unwavering reliance on the team's judgment often earns him the short end of the stick. Listening to Carlos' radio, you will constantly hear him asking questions and challenging decisions. It's a hallmark of all great drivers - especially (since radio communication has been made more accessible to the audience) Lewis Hamilton, who has, on many occasions, disobeyed his team's orders to pit, ran long in the race with great pace, then put on a monster stint at the end to win. Of course his own strategy decisions backfired on him a few times (recently and notably Turkey 2021), but most of the time, between Lewis and the team, they make the right strategical decisions. Lewis acted like another voice that contributes to the strategy team, and for a group whose sole goal is to make the best strategical decision, more viewpoints is always better as it creates a clearer picture for all involved. Ferrari's strategy and race engineering teams seem to break down with every single event that necessitates some sort of quick ruthless reaction. It seems like a lost department that has zero confidence in its own decision-making skills, predictions, and data. The lack of confidence from the pit wall, though, allows Carlos to make his own decisions without strong pushback, and it has rewarded him on at least two occasions this year [2022] already. Listening to Carlos schooling his engineer with words like "Trust me", "Don't do that" etc., it seems that he has that extra dimension as a racing driver, one who can deliberate strategy and tactics while driving fast, much like Sebastian Vettel in his Ferrari days. Carlos has an inbuilt bullshit-o-meter that firmly overrides some shitty decisions Ferrari torture themselves with.
#carlos sainz jr#ex bulls who moved on to horses and had to school the horse strategy team#interesting lewis comparison. we'll have to see how lewis' year in ferrari goes#but also this proves that Ferrari can’t handle people who don’t feed their self-aggrandisation and self-delusion#pragmatism and having standards is taken as disrespect or rebelliousness#they love Charles because he’s been perfectly preconditioned and brainwashed#but actually they need an auditor and Carlos is that. he complements them and fills in their weaknesses#this redditor really called them out#scuderia ferrari#f1
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you don't have to look younger, skinnier or happier. you don't have to look like anything but yourself, but it's up to you and only you to find out what that means. don't rely on corporate soul suckers trying to sell you dog piss.
#recovery#positivity#reminders#healing#be kind to yourself#self care#mental health#self love#beauty standards#ed recovery#trauma recovery#beauty#mine.
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Raise Your Standards, Honey
These are just my idea of good standards to have to avoid bum losers. If any of you have any other ideas, feel free to let me know so I can make a part 2!
1. Someone who is accountable with their owns words and actions.
- This is a need. If someone can’t be accountable for themselves, watch them flip the tables on you or hit you with the uno reverse card. People who can’t take accountability for themselves are quick to blame others.
2. Someone who isn’t broke.
-What I mean by this isn’t what you might think initially; I mean someone who has a broke mentality. For example: someone who has no motivation to make a life for themselves, no drive, has a “stay at home” mindset when they are able to go make a career, etc.
3. Someone who is secure with themselves.
- When you’re with someone who has low self worth, it makes any kind of relationship with them extremely hard. We can’t play captain save a hoe, we have to let them go. Those kind of people have a lot of growing to do.
4. Someone who’s proud to show you off.
-Kind of like Morticia and Gomez. Having someone who is so infatuated and in love with you is amazing. Today’s “dating” culture is disgusting compared to what it used to be. Hooking up, ghosting, etc is for the birds so let it go and the good ones will find you.
5. Someone who actually shows interest
-So, in today’s dating culture, a lot of the people I used to know were hooking up with people who didn’t even know their last name and that has never sat right with me. When I say “Someone who actually shows interest” I don’t mean showing interest in getting in your pants… They should take you out on dates, get to know you genuinely, etc.
#girl blogger#girl boss aesthetic#girlblogging#girlhood#it girl#self development#self love#that girl#tips#girl blog aesthetic#leveling up#level up journey#level up#femininity journey#feminine journey#femininity#self care#high standards#dating standards
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Okay but? Arya's training is going to make it so fascinating to see how she comes across in other POVs. She knows how to rule her face so she doesn't give away her emotions, how to tell and detect lies, and now has the added experience of her apprenticeship with mummers. Everything about her interactions with others will be incredibly intentional on her part and I need to see what that looks like to other characters.
#arya stark#asoiaf#we're so getting Arya putting on her /Lady's face/ and I'm so here for it#also one of the reasons I think the back and forth between her and Tyrion will be very entertaining#I think he'll be crafty enough to see beneath her mask and intentionally try and provoke reactions from her#love that her skills are still blended with her personality though...there'd literally be no point if she loses what makes her /Arya/#still on my /Arya will accept her identity as a Lady but define the role in her own way/ agenda 🫶🏾#we get an Arya that learns to act more /refined/ by social standards but isn't afraid to speak her mind and be her true non-conforming self
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how to create a leveling up/dream girl/rebranding plan 🤍🍸🖤
establish your aesthetic
first thing’s first, you need to know where you want to go in life and what is your “aesthetic”? do you want to be giving “classy, businesswoman”? what about “nyc socialite”? of course these are just examples, but you should know what type of girl you want to embody. remember, you don’t have to fit a narrative, but you should have a general “aesthetic” that you want to be associated with. even if it’s 50 million different aesthetics, it’s whatever makes you, you.
visualize yourself/life
get inspired by making a vision board (physical or digital) and add to your board (if digital) daily. i find that this helps you stay in alignment with where you want to be in the future. you have to stay in that frequency and remind yourself of what’s next to come… because this new life is what’s next to come.
start with habits
please refer to my “starting your leveling up journey” post, but basically— you should create 1-3 habits for each of your goals and work on them until they become second nature. then when you’re ready, start implementing more habits that are aligned with your goals.
create routines with your habits
can you incorporate some of these new habits into a morning or evening routine? we all know that routines are important— they almost become our personalities and they set the tone for the day and night, and even the next day. for me, i know i’m only inspired to exercise in the morning around 10am, so exercise is part of my morning routine.
create daily + weekly goals
let’s say part of your journey is learning a new language. a daily goal could be learning one new vocabulary word in that language. your weekly goal could be knowing the alphabet in that language. use this method for all of your goals.
don’t overwhelm yourself with goals, routines, and habits
start slow; don’t overwhelm yourself. if you want to work on one goal at a time, then work on that one goal. burnout is real and it’s very hard to get back into the swing of things afterwards. i understand most of us are impatient when we just want to be a different version of ourselves, but it’s going to take some adjusting. i suggest not working on more than 3 things at once, but if you can work on more, go ahead
be a part of a community to keep you accountable
tumblr and facebook groups in my opinion are the best ways you can connect with other women who are working on the same thing. you can inspire one another, bounce ideas off of one another, and it’s super fun. you might want to even document your journey online.
set milestones and have a reward system
let’s say you would like to lose or gain weight, no matter the number, focus on 5-10 pound increments. when each milestone is successfully completed, reward yourself with something nice. maybe it’s getting your nails done, or splurging on a product that everyone on tiktok keeps talking about. apply this to any of your goals where there are milestones to get to.
don’t waste the day
you should not have any “zero days” meaning… you should be doing at least one thing everyday to reach a goal(s) you have. it doesn’t matter if one goal was to maintain a more organized, clean environment— do your dishes, set the trash out, clean up the hair from the bathroom sink, etc.
#leveling up#femininity#hypergamy#personal development#that girl#level up#level up journey#self care#self love#leveling up journey#luxury#levelling up#level up tips#leveled up woman#leveling up tips#dream girl journey#dream girl#dream girl aesthetic#that girl aesthetic#high standards#soft girl aesthetic#soft life#hyperfemininity#hypergamous#feminine journey#feminine aesthetic#traditional femininity#feminine inspiration#femininity journey#advice
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Your standards are there to protect you, so that you can find the right person who fits your life. They aren’t there for you to make demands and try to force people to meet you at a level you already know they are not. It’s not about anything other than your own protection and peace.
#high value dating#dating advice#dating tips#standards#self confidence#selfimprovement#self love#relationship advice#healthy relationship#relationshipgoals#high value mindset
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We Love Jamaica
#jamaica#black tumblr#black beauty#beauty#black women#blacklivesmatter#love#urban#beautiful#gold#black man#jamaican#green#yellow#beauty standards#beach babe#baby#self love
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