#self diagnosis safe

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

Having AvPD is like: I’m so open, everyone knows everything about me. That’s terrifying, everyone must hate how much I share. God I feel so exposed I feel sick. And the last time you opened up to someone was October of 2021 when you told your mom you were a little stressed.

[theinfernalcollective]

"We're self diagnosed because-"

No. If you are not a trained psychologist or psychiatrist you should not be diagnosing yourself. (Psych's and psychologists can't even diagnose themselves) Yes, I understand money can be an issue and that some cannot afford to see a specialist to be diagnosed. But that comes to the point where you shouldn't be saying "oh I have DID" or "I have OSDD" when in reality you might actually not and shouldn't go around saying such.

"Oh but you can self diagnose a cold! That's how you know!"

Yep. You can self-dx a cold. You cannot however self-dx a complex dissociative disorder. (The difference is one is physical and something you get countless times throughout your life.)

- Vayu

[sagethegayyyy]

endos are valid

mspec lesbians are valid

bisexual lesbians are valid

aroace people are valid

therians are valid

self shippers are valid

self diagnoses are valid

disabled people are valid

you’re valid

stop telling people that they’re not

edit: not even a day and someone was already complaining in the comments. I will delete them in order to keep this post a safe place for discussion

[ontheoutside-lookingin]

Clinical misdiagnosis is more common than self misdiagnosis. Just for the record, in case anyone is still skeptical of self diagnosis :) it’s not up for debate btw

[allwehearisradiosilence]

Hey just letting you self diagnosed autistic people know as a medically diagnosed person.

All those approved tests online made by doctors on self evaluating yourself for autism were used in my ACTUAL medical testing as well. They put the RAADS and Cat Q on me, they gave me “strongly agree-strongly disagree” questions. (Most of) Those tests are just as valid and just as accurate as a medical diagnosis that not everyone has the privilege and access to. You are valid don’t let anyone tell you those tests are “online propaganda for attention seekers” (my mother told me this)

(AlsothisisfromanaustralianIdontknowhowtheamericansystemworks)

[blackangelism]

i wish i was someone and not an amalgam of objects and people i stole from visually and conceptually and crafted my identity from their ashes and remains, their nectar of perished existence and their lingering, dwelling, that i have determined within myself to keep ablaze. like a cockroach, i never die; when will i die? i think i need to.

[gokucarrot]

Introduction Post!

(I will probably update as time goes on)

Now that we've got that up above everything else lol, Hi! I'm Goku! My main pronouns are He/Him/Xe/Xim/They/Them, but I also use other pronouns! They are in a Pronouny in the About Me section of my carrd :3, but I also want to say that the Xe/Xim part is a full set (Xe/Xey/Xim/Xyr/Xir) but Xe/Xim/Xyr is what I mainly prefer from that set itself.

I will probably be posting art, fic updates, and Q&As if I ever get big enough for that lolll, maybe along with some other things like vents (I'll TW and c3nsor the best I can) or ideas or many different things that I can't post on Instagram lol.

My Interests!

Dragon Ball Series

Omori

Minecraft

Scene/Emo stuff (not the problematic stuff @~@)

Style

Aesthetics

Music

Art

Psychology

ofc queer stuff <3333

Kinda still FNAF

learning about nature, especially foxes, specifically arctic foxes!

What to expect when following me besides what I post:

I might need tone tags sometimes so if you ask a question, Dm, etc, please just go ahead and use tone tags! I struggle with Obsessive Love Disorder, possibly caused by BPD (Discouraged/Quiet) if I have it, so there's that. I also struggle with possible psych0sis (possibly linked to the same thing, but there are other possibilities to consider), or positive symptoms (not the kind of positive you're probably thinking lol) of such things. I also involuntarily (though sometimes voluntarily) age regress which- surprise, surprise- could also be caused the same darn thing ;-;.

I think I'm in a good enough headspace to talk about this, so if anyone is wondering; this is a *genuine* Identity Delusion, along with Fictionkin. I also use the term IRL to describe this. I do believe I'm a version of Son Goku, yes, but not all the time! Sometimes it's just me strongly kinning or having a very strong connection to him, probably due to neurodivergence (sorry if you hear that a lot XD)! I also want to say; just because there is no concrete diagnosis, does not mean the problem isn't there! So if you feel as though this is fake because I don't have one, trust me, I tell myself that allllll the time, but I've learned to realize that I can't ignore it simply because of that and that's why I'm so open about it. I am not going to share my real chosen name because I know what that might lead some people to do and, personally, I don't appreciate reality checks. Some of us do, some of us don't! I have few exceptions to reality checks and it'll be obvious when I need it, even if I can't say "reality check" in that moment.

If you're still reading, I'm so thankful for that ;-;

With all that said, and you reading at least the most important part of my carrd, I hope this account is interesting and you like it! <3

(I'll update this banner eventually)

(Edit from 6-5-23: Xe/Xim/Xyr*, minor grammar mistakes)

(Edit from 01-22-24: removed south park from interests, added minecraft)

PLS READ THIS BEFORE ANYTHING AT ALL WHATSOEVER

[moonsydracoryf]

Thinking about getting pins to show who's fronting to others without having to say anything.

Especially because Slicer doesn't like talking to family, his voice sounds creepy to them.

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

actually just gonna take better care of myself than I did last year. thats it thats the resolution

[nabbit-unmasked]

Blech, I feel icky from all the shaming and gatekeeping I've seen today.

Another quick reminder that this blog welcomes:

• endos and mixed-origin systems/pluralities/multiplicities

• factkin and factives

• therians/otherkin/fictionkin/etc. who chose their identity

• placekin who are societally controversial places

• fans from any fandom

• identity and pronoun hoarders

• self diagnosis

• mspec gays and lesbians

This does not mean that all of these apply to me. In fact, only 3 of them do (the first, fourth, and seventh). This also does not mean that I exclusively support the groups listed here.

Also, reminder that I also do not have a DNI. Although, I do block accounts I'm uncomfortable with!

[theinfernalcollective]

Another unpopular opinion

Trying to diagnose yourself is like a double edged sword. If your trying to find answers in online support groups, we'd strongly recommend against it especially if your young. Giving people away your private information as a child online isn't safe. Especially if you have a dissociative disorder or D.I.D.

Alot of people will do a small bit of research and go boom! "I have this!" Without considering other disorders with similar symptoms. Its honestly wild to us the amount of self diagnosed people who just instantly say that they have DID and other disorders with little to no research.

Mental illness and disorders aren't a label that you just slap on yourself, doctors and psychiatrists can misdiagnose people. So its just as easy for others to misdiagnose themselves. Talking to people OUTSIDE of the internet, doing therapy and focusing on treating and managing your symptoms is the best way to go. Especially if a prpper diagnosis isn't available due to lack of funds.

- August

[fictitiousmalady]

Guys, it’s official. I have schizoid personality disorder.

[the-ugly-ly]

“you’re only self-diagnosed” almost like a lot of people can’t be formally diagnosed. almost like it’s expensive asf and we don’t have universal healthcare. almost like finding a doctor to actually listen to you is impossible. almost like when you do finally have a professional listen to you, you have to remain on a wait list for 3-10 years for an evaluation because you’re an adult and for some reason psych evaluations for adult neurodivergency either doesn’t exist or is purposefully inaccessible. almost like no one cared enough to advocate for you as a child and now you need to be vocal for yourself and your needs as an adult. and almost like idiots invalidating those vocalizations is only making it harder for people to get the help they need.

problem with self-diagnostics? try shutting the fuck up. thanks!

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

My two year anniversary with two of my insys partners was a few weeks ago, and my one year anniversary with my other is coming up! It got me thinking about how much our relationship (all of us are with each other) has evolved and grown, even though at times sharing a body has been a challenge.

As many of you know, we have P-DID. Because I'm the host, that means l've been front-stuck since I formed. I have access to headspace most of the time, but it's made having extremely committed relationships in the system a little difficult. I wanted to share some tips for insys partners!

These should work for systems with front-stuck members or no headspace. (It's worth noting, some of this requires co-fronting, which isn't easy/possible for all systems. These tips have also really helped me with mindfulness, grounding, and mental health and could definitely be modified for self love!

(TW: metions of food)

Some ideas for dates/spending time together

Play video games together

Share meals

Read together

If you feel safe, go places alone with them (ie: the zoo, a festival, etc)

Dance together

Just talk, talk as much as you can

Cook each-other’s favorite meals

Lean on each other

The most important thing we’ve found is communication, understand that there might be times that you wish the relationship was different. It’s okay to acknowledge that it hurts sometimes to not be able to interact in the meatspace. It also proves that you’re worth fighting for, that obviously being with one another is more important than the setbacks. In system relationships can be just as fulfilling as outerworld relationships, but they arguably take more work.

Tell each other everything. Understanding each other better than external partners could is a gift and a huge strength you should capitalize on. It’s also important to really lean into the emotional aspects of your relationships, this really helps foster intimacy.

Remember that you are still fully capable of hurting one another. Despite being in a system together, you still need to nurture your relationship. Things won’t be perfect, and there may be times you have to fight for your relationship.

In system relationships can still be unhealthy, make sure you’re being careful and not allowing mistreatment. If you feel like not being able to escape your headmate may make you allow toxic behavior, you should avoid starting a relationship.

Most of all, have fun, enjoy being together, relax! Insys relationships are absolutely amazing! You are so valid! You can still be “meant to be” even if you share a body.

My partners truly make me so happy, I want to be with them forever, they mean everything to me! I know it can be intimidating to start a relationship with a headmate, and it’s definitely worth asking if you’re truly willing to put an internal relationship first, but it really is the best decision I’ve ever made. I’m so in love, and my babies are worth every sacrifice.

[jelliibeanz]

question for my narcs, who have you told about your diagnosis? and has your family been shitty about it?

I'm asking because I'm trying to get diagnosed but I'm worried my family being shitty about it. like "you're manipulating me right now aren't you!!" is something I'm worried about hearing.

[terror-punk]

Thoughts on self diagnosis with research, family member agreement and a "maybe" from a therapist?

Be free, do whatever. It sounds to me like you've researched enough and honestly? If self-diagnosis is going to help you get resources to help you with whatever it is you're facing? That's great! Wishing you the best of luck, anon.

Diagnosis can be such a hard thing to achieve and with the psychiatry industry being ableist in a lot of ways, sometimes it's not safe or possible to get a dx for whatever reason. If people are individually wrong about what they self dx with, that's okay, they can learn and move on and we'll support them through that too. We support self dx in general--what you label yourself with is none of our concern, it doesn't bother us.

Maybe vaguely offtopic... But seriously, don't let our opinion dictate what you feel or your experiences. Don't let anyone elses opinion do that either. We're fully supportive, of course, but it's more important to feel your experiences and your self is valid by proxy of them being there in the first place. Part of that comes from confidence boosting and such which I get, but just know that if you experience something, even if you label it wrong a few times or even if it's hard to place a label on, you experience it--so it's real and your experiences are valid. If it affects you, don't let anyone else tell you it doesn't.