#self diagnosis safe

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

Having AvPD is like: I’m so open, everyone knows everything about me. That’s terrifying, everyone must hate how much I share. God I feel so exposed I feel sick. And the last time you opened up to someone was October of 2021 when you told your mom you were a little stressed.

[ontheoutside-lookingin]

Clinical misdiagnosis is more common than self misdiagnosis. Just for the record, in case anyone is still skeptical of self diagnosis :) it’s not up for debate btw

[internet-angelmp3]

I'm not actually diagnosed for anything. The reason I "self diagnose" is because I live in a very rural town in Australia that has a very stigmatized view of mental health and the times I've tried to reach out for help, I've been denied despite starting off with my more serious symptoms. Atp, discriminating against people for self diagnosing when they do hours of research is classist as fuck because they're no way as accessible as people make them out to be.

[sagethegayyyy]

endos are valid

mspec lesbians are valid

bisexual lesbians are valid

aroace people are valid

therians are valid

self shippers are valid

self diagnoses are valid

disabled people are valid

you’re valid

stop telling people that they’re not

edit: not even a day and someone was already complaining in the comments. I will delete them in order to keep this post a safe place for discussion

[allwehearisradiosilence]

Hey just letting you self diagnosed autistic people know as a medically diagnosed person.

All those approved tests online made by doctors on self evaluating yourself for autism were used in my ACTUAL medical testing as well. They put the RAADS and Cat Q on me, they gave me “strongly agree-strongly disagree” questions. (Most of) Those tests are just as valid and just as accurate as a medical diagnosis that not everyone has the privilege and access to. You are valid don’t let anyone tell you those tests are “online propaganda for attention seekers” (my mother told me this)

(AlsothisisfromanaustralianIdontknowhowtheamericansystemworks)

[sugarandcigarettes]

pro-recovery, but who am I without my suffering? my soul is only as deep-rooted as my scars, I am nothing without my misery.

[blackangelism]

i wish i was someone and not an amalgam of objects and people i stole from visually and conceptually and crafted my identity from their ashes and remains, their nectar of perished existence and their lingering, dwelling, that i have determined within myself to keep ablaze. like a cockroach, i never die; when will i die? i think i need to.

[gokucarrot]

Introduction Post!

(I will probably update as time goes on)

Now that we've got that up above everything else lol, Hi! I'm Goku! My main pronouns are He/Him/Xe/Xim/They/Them, but I also use other pronouns! They are in a Pronouny in the About Me section of my carrd :3, but I also want to say that the Xe/Xim part is a full set (Xe/Xey/Xim/Xyr/Xir) but Xe/Xim/Xyr is what I mainly prefer from that set itself.

I will probably be posting art, fic updates, and Q&As if I ever get big enough for that lolll, maybe along with some other things like vents (I'll TW and c3nsor the best I can) or ideas or many different things that I can't post on Instagram lol.

My Interests!

Dragon Ball Series

Omori

Minecraft

Scene/Emo stuff (not the problematic stuff @~@)

Style

Aesthetics

Music

Art

Psychology

ofc queer stuff <3333

Kinda still FNAF

learning about nature, especially foxes, specifically arctic foxes!

What to expect when following me besides what I post:

I might need tone tags sometimes so if you ask a question, Dm, etc, please just go ahead and use tone tags! I struggle with Obsessive Love Disorder, possibly caused by BPD (Discouraged/Quiet) if I have it, so there's that. I also struggle with possible psych0sis (possibly linked to the same thing, but there are other possibilities to consider), or positive symptoms (not the kind of positive you're probably thinking lol) of such things. I also involuntarily (though sometimes voluntarily) age regress which- surprise, surprise- could also be caused the same darn thing ;-;.

I think I'm in a good enough headspace to talk about this, so if anyone is wondering; this is a *genuine* Identity Delusion, along with Fictionkin. I also use the term IRL to describe this. I do believe I'm a version of Son Goku, yes, but not all the time! Sometimes it's just me strongly kinning or having a very strong connection to him, probably due to neurodivergence (sorry if you hear that a lot XD)! I also want to say; just because there is no concrete diagnosis, does not mean the problem isn't there! So if you feel as though this is fake because I don't have one, trust me, I tell myself that allllll the time, but I've learned to realize that I can't ignore it simply because of that and that's why I'm so open about it. I am not going to share my real chosen name because I know what that might lead some people to do and, personally, I don't appreciate reality checks. Some of us do, some of us don't! I have few exceptions to reality checks and it'll be obvious when I need it, even if I can't say "reality check" in that moment.

If you're still reading, I'm so thankful for that ;-;

With all that said, and you reading at least the most important part of my carrd, I hope this account is interesting and you like it! <3

(I'll update this banner eventually)

(Edit from 6-5-23: Xe/Xim/Xyr*, minor grammar mistakes)

(Edit from 01-22-24: removed south park from interests, added minecraft)

PLS READ THIS BEFORE ANYTHING AT ALL WHATSOEVER

[nabbit-unmasked]

Blech, I feel icky from all the shaming and gatekeeping I've seen today.

Another quick reminder that this blog welcomes:

• endos and mixed-origin systems/pluralities/multiplicities

• factkin and factives

• therians/otherkin/fictionkin/etc. who chose their identity

• placekin who are societally controversial places

• fans from any fandom

• identity and pronoun hoarders

• self diagnosis

• mspec gays and lesbians

This does not mean that all of these apply to me. In fact, only 3 of them do (the first, fourth, and seventh). This also does not mean that I exclusively support the groups listed here.

Also, reminder that I also do not have a DNI. Although, I do block accounts I'm uncomfortable with!

[the-ugly-ly]

“you’re only self-diagnosed” almost like a lot of people can’t be formally diagnosed. almost like it’s expensive asf and we don’t have universal healthcare. almost like finding a doctor to actually listen to you is impossible. almost like when you do finally have a professional listen to you, you have to remain on a wait list for 3-10 years for an evaluation because you’re an adult and for some reason psych evaluations for adult neurodivergency either doesn’t exist or is purposefully inaccessible. almost like no one cared enough to advocate for you as a child and now you need to be vocal for yourself and your needs as an adult. and almost like idiots invalidating those vocalizations is only making it harder for people to get the help they need.

problem with self-diagnostics? try shutting the fuck up. thanks!

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

My two year anniversary with two of my insys partners was a few weeks ago, and my one year anniversary with my other is coming up! It got me thinking about how much our relationship (all of us are with each other) has evolved and grown, even though at times sharing a body has been a challenge.

As many of you know, we have P-DID. Because I'm the host, that means l've been front-stuck since I formed. I have access to headspace most of the time, but it's made having extremely committed relationships in the system a little difficult. I wanted to share some tips for insys partners!

These should work for systems with front-stuck members or no headspace. (It's worth noting, some of this requires co-fronting, which isn't easy/possible for all systems. These tips have also really helped me with mindfulness, grounding, and mental health and could definitely be modified for self love!

(TW: metions of food)

Some ideas for dates/spending time together

Play video games together

Share meals

Read together

If you feel safe, go places alone with them (ie: the zoo, a festival, etc)

Dance together

Just talk, talk as much as you can

Cook each-other’s favorite meals

Lean on each other

The most important thing we’ve found is communication, understand that there might be times that you wish the relationship was different. It’s okay to acknowledge that it hurts sometimes to not be able to interact in the meatspace. It also proves that you’re worth fighting for, that obviously being with one another is more important than the setbacks. In system relationships can be just as fulfilling as outerworld relationships, but they arguably take more work.

Tell each other everything. Understanding each other better than external partners could is a gift and a huge strength you should capitalize on. It’s also important to really lean into the emotional aspects of your relationships, this really helps foster intimacy.

Remember that you are still fully capable of hurting one another. Despite being in a system together, you still need to nurture your relationship. Things won’t be perfect, and there may be times you have to fight for your relationship.

In system relationships can still be unhealthy, make sure you’re being careful and not allowing mistreatment. If you feel like not being able to escape your headmate may make you allow toxic behavior, you should avoid starting a relationship.

Most of all, have fun, enjoy being together, relax! Insys relationships are absolutely amazing! You are so valid! You can still be “meant to be” even if you share a body.

My partners truly make me so happy, I want to be with them forever, they mean everything to me! I know it can be intimidating to start a relationship with a headmate, and it’s definitely worth asking if you’re truly willing to put an internal relationship first, but it really is the best decision I’ve ever made. I’m so in love, and my babies are worth every sacrifice.

[sugarandcigarettes]

which strain of weed will make going from experiencing every possible emotion in ten minutes to being chronically empty within a matter of seconds more bearable and where can I get it? 🌷🩰

[jelliibeanz]

question for my narcs, who have you told about your diagnosis? and has your family been shitty about it?

I'm asking because I'm trying to get diagnosed but I'm worried my family being shitty about it. like "you're manipulating me right now aren't you!!" is something I'm worried about hearing.

[terror-punk]

Thoughts on self diagnosis with research, family member agreement and a "maybe" from a therapist?

Be free, do whatever. It sounds to me like you've researched enough and honestly? If self-diagnosis is going to help you get resources to help you with whatever it is you're facing? That's great! Wishing you the best of luck, anon.

Diagnosis can be such a hard thing to achieve and with the psychiatry industry being ableist in a lot of ways, sometimes it's not safe or possible to get a dx for whatever reason. If people are individually wrong about what they self dx with, that's okay, they can learn and move on and we'll support them through that too. We support self dx in general--what you label yourself with is none of our concern, it doesn't bother us.

Maybe vaguely offtopic... But seriously, don't let our opinion dictate what you feel or your experiences. Don't let anyone elses opinion do that either. We're fully supportive, of course, but it's more important to feel your experiences and your self is valid by proxy of them being there in the first place. Part of that comes from confidence boosting and such which I get, but just know that if you experience something, even if you label it wrong a few times or even if it's hard to place a label on, you experience it--so it's real and your experiences are valid. If it affects you, don't let anyone else tell you it doesn't.

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Can I just vent. For a second. Infighting really sucks in disability/mental illness/chronic illness communities. There are going to be contradictory experiences and endless nuances within any community. And its understandable to be upset and/or angry if you come across something triggering in your safe space. It sucks but that’s the inevitable reality of the internet.

Keep scrolling or report the content or leave a respectful comment about your difference in experience/perspective or let them know it was triggering and respectfully ask that they please tag a certain thing in the future or just block them altogether. Rather than attack each other, there are so many more constructive options. We all live in a world not made for us. None of us have it easy. We all know it’s a constant battle. We don’t need to be battling each other on top of that

[cheshiire-warper-archived]

Avoissitic; Gender related to, inherently tied into, or otherwise affected by one's AvPD and NPD.

(Obviously) exclusive to people who have both disorders, though they don't have to be professionally diagnosed

Flag Meaning

Colors inspired by this AvPD flag and this NPD flag

Etymology

[Avoi]dant + Narca[ssitic]

Pronounced

A-voys-eh-tic

Author's Notes

Tagging @pdsarchive and @avpdarchive