#Reflection of Wellbeing

[sweetthoughtsbymarie]

December 25th 2024

What is a want, desire and need to me? Merry Christmas everyone!! Today’s topic well be on Wants, Desires and Needs. First on the subject I want to do something I do often with is start with the definition of each of these words. The first definition I want to talk about is well the word… “want” to feel a need or a desire for; wish for: to want one’s dinner; always wanting something new.…

[p1nkribb0ns]

healing ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

growing ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

accepting ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

learning ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

evolving ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

[days-may]

˖ ִֶָ་࣪˖ ִֶָ་࣪ °˖ ִֶָ*·.｡.° ·｡.·*˖ ִֶָ་· ࣪˖ ִֶָ་༘･࿐

[itzzey]

Let them be wrong about you.

There’s nothing to prove.

[honeytonedhottie]

dopamine detox challenge⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍰

the definition of a dopamine detox is fasting from activities or pleasures that produce dopamine so that the drive for quick rewards decreases.

dopamine is naturally made by the brain. however, things like alcohol, caffeine, sugar, social media, video games, and substance use can sharply increase dopamine levels and lead to a type of addiction. and thats not hot ✨

BENEFITS OF THE DOPAMINE DETOX CHALLENGE ;

clarity

productivity

self awareness

self reflection

time management skills

self control

WHY DO A DOPAMINE DETOX ANYWAYS? ;

its true that dopamine produces pleasant sensations. when the body gets too much dopamine from different activities, it can start to require more and more dopamine to create those “good feelings”.

this can cause ur default mood levels to drop and in the long run leave you feeling worse and more unhappy over time.

SO WHATS THE CHALLENGE ;

step one - put a time limit on your phone or computer or whatever device that u find ur spending the most time on. put time limits on apps like tiktok, tumblr, instagram etc.

theres no need to put time limits on apps like your camera roll, text messages, apps that u use for school etc.

step two - when u wake up in the morning, do NOT check ur phone first thing in the morning. in fact, dont even pick up ur phone until an hour after wake up time.

step three - step one and two were for doing dopamine detox on a regular basis (daily/weekly), but if u wanna do a longer dopamine detox (monthly) get off of social media for an agreed amount of time and once you've completed that dopamine fast REWARD yourself.

ofc thats more extreme, but you know whats best for you and you know what u need the most so thats all you ✨

step four - find another activity to do. pick up a hobby that u used to enjoy doing or pick up an entirely new hobby. find something else to do OTHER than using ur phone. check the things to do while on a dopamine detox post so you can gather some inspo.

doing a dopamine detox can help you to take control of your mind and ur habits and push you towards the next level of you. and it improves ur mental health in the long run ✨

[pleaseeeimjustagirl]

Weekly Affirmations

♡ I let go of all that no longer serves me.

♡ I will accomplish all my tasks today.

♡ I choose only to surround myself with supportive and good people.

♡ I choose not to criticize myself or others around me.

♡ I choose only to surround myself with supportive and good people.

♡ When I allow my light to shine, I unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

♡ I am constantly growing and evolving into a better person.

♡ As long as the person I am today is even the tiniest bit better than the person I was yesterday. I’m meeting my own definition of success.

♡ Happiness is a choice, and today I choose to be happy.

♡ I am liberating myself from fear, judgment, and doubt.

[prettieinpink]

How do I stop doing something that kinda turned into an addiction ? I try and stay off of it for about two days and then I feel like I have to go back and every time I tell myself it’s the last time

Sorry if my English is not good it’s not my first language 🤎🤎

your english is good.

HEALING FROM AN ADDICTION

MAKE IT INCONVENIENT. Place any barriers that you can that make you struggle to access your addiction. 

JOIN A SUPPORT GROUP. Either meeting in real life or online can put things in perspective for you that motivate you to quit.

HAVE A GOAL. Do you want to be more faithful to your religion? Do you want to be there for your loved ones, instead of the other way around? Do you want to advance in your career? Tie the decision of quitting to a goal you are motivated to achieve.

ASK YOURSELF WHY? What does this addiction provide with me in life that I am so inclined to go back to despite it not aligning with what I want? Is there anything else that can replicate the same feeling but not as self-destructive?

REMOVE TEMPTATIONS. Anything in your environment that gives you easy access to that addiction, or motivates you to be inclined to it, you need to extract it without looking back. 

SLOWLY CEASE IT. Do not just randomly go cold turkey on an addiction, because you are going to go back to it every time. I know this sounds weird, but just slowly decrease the use of it or set certain dates when you allow yourself to, and just keep decreasing it until you’ve built up the discipline. 

DISTRACT YOURSELF. Fill up your timetable and schedules to the absolute brim. This doesn’t have to be going out activities, but rather tasks that you need or want to do at home.

COPING STRATEGIES FOR CRAVINGS. This can be similar to the feeling that addiction gives you, a reminder as to why you want to quit or take preventative measures so you do not want to give in. 

[baalzebufo]

i have edgy gravity falls fanart... it is truly like 2014 again...

anyway im still mad we didnt get to see him possessed so .)

[shamelesslyimpurrfect]

(X)

[family-trauma]

Coming to terms on this.

[sweetthoughtsbymarie]

December 20th

Five Days away from Christmas. I wanted to do a series for Christmas but last month I didn’t have a lot of prep time being sick off and on. And this month unexpectedly my favorite great uncle’s girlfriend past away after an excepted diagnosis of cancer. I also did not meet my goal for NaNoWriMo with life getting in the way and being sick and not mentally okay. I finished by the way my 300…

[nenelonomh]

the importance of mindfulness

mindfulness is a practice that involves being fully in the moment and paying attention to your thoughts, feelings and sensations without judgment. it has gained recognition for its positive impact on both mental and physical well-being.

here are some reasons why practising mindfulness is important:

mindfulness helps manage stress by allowing us to respond to our environment differently. our minds are not well-suited for the modern world, but mindfulness techniques let us navigate challenges more effectively.

studies show that mindfulness-based therapies can reduce anxiety and depression. by focusing on the present moment, individuals can better cope with life’s difficulties and protect their mental well-being. since mindfulness teaches us to be fully in the present, mental noise (which is often a large contributor to anxiety and depression) can be reduced. additionally, mindfulness practices, such as meditation, activate the parasympathetic nervous system. this leads to a sense of calm and relaxation, reducing reactivity to stressors.

mindfulness isn’t just about mental health; it also positively impacts our physical health. evidence suggests that it can lower blood pressure, improve sleep quality, and enhance overall well-being. by managing stress and promoting relaxation, mindfulness contributes to cardiovascular well-being. it can also lead to better sleep quality. when we're mindful, we let go of racing thoughts and create a calm mental space conducive to restful sleep. while more research is needed, preliminary evidence suggests that mindfulness might enhance immune function. it may help people recover more quickly from illnesses like colds or flu. for further reading about this, see this article from the american psychological association.

practising mindfulness often leads to increased relaxation, enthusiasm for life, and improved self-esteem. it helps us to see the world differently and live a more compassionate, fulfilled life.

mindfulness techniques can help people cope with physical pain. by being fully present and accepting the sensations, individuals may experience relief and improved pain management.

but nene, how can i be mindful?

first, dedicate a specific time each day for mindfulness practice. something i have made a routine of is stretching when i first wake up ~ allowing myself time to wake up slowly and move my body. your dedicated time could be as short as five minutes, or longer, depending on your practice.

find a quiet and comfortable spot where you won't be disturbed. sit or lie down in a relaxed position.

close your eyes and pay attention to your breath. feel the air entering and leaving your nostrils or the rise and fall of your chest. if your mind wanders, gently bring it back to your breath.

some specific mindfulness practices include:

three-step breathing kettering general health - youtube video

five senses check-in the partnership in education - youtube video with love, esta - youtube video

body scan policy research associates - youtube video mariellen brown - youtube video

further reading: positivepsychology.com NIH news in health psychcentral american psychological association

remember - mindfulness is a skill that improves with practice. regular mindfulness, whether through formal meditation or everyday activities, can have great positive effects.

i hope you enjoyed today's post! ❤️ nene

image source: pinterest

[days-may]

Individuality will always be one of the conditions of real elegance.

[not-poignant]

I’ve been trying to wrap my head around this, but do you think Arden is abusive to Efnisien in FFS? It seems like Efnisien does not like pain yet Arden inflicts pain on him anyway and enjoys it. Can you help me understand?

Hi anon,

Arden is absolutely not abusive to Efnisien. He's probably one of the least abusive characters out there. He is a sadist though.

So, I'm going to be talking about this from the perspective of consent systems, as well as kink, and kinkshaming (which is what you're doing here).

The first thing is no, I can't help you understand if you don't after 770k words of Efnisien clearly consenting to what Arden does to him, feeling free to withdraw consent, being encouraged to withdraw consent, and having Arden constantly check in with him.

The second thing is, it's not your job to understand. That's not what kink is about!! It's your job to accept that someone else wants it and consents to it. This is true in real life as well!

In the world of kink, you are going to come across things that don't make sense to you, where the idea of going through what the other person is going through makes you feel revolted, disgusted, uneasy, or even scared. But you're not the one going through it! You're not the one being asked to consent to it! And therefore, your perspective on it truly does not matter when it's about two other people who have talked about it, negotiated it, consented to it, are consenting to it in an ongoing, informed, engaged manner, and are very clearly happy with what's happening - if not during - then definitely before and after, and aren't asking for anything to change.

These are the basic building blocks of respect in kink society, and it sounds like you don't have them. Which - fair, if you're not in that society, but if you don't want to be someone who kink-shames, it's very important to replace 'I don't understand it therefore it's abusive' (???) with 'I don't need to understand it because they are clearly consenting to it, and where there is consent, communication, and ongoing negotiation, it's none of my business. To assume that what they're doing is wrong or abusive simply because I don't like it is now under the umbrella of kink-shaming, which means I'm the problem here.'

There are many many things in kink that you won't ever understand. I really don't think I can persuade you in one anon response and I don't want to when I wrote nearly a million words about it, y'know?

But I do advise you to make sure that you know that just because you don't like something, doesn't mean this has any impact on what's happening in another person's relationship when there's ongoing, engaged consent. You don't need to understand it, and it's not anyone else's job to make you understand. There's some stuff in kink that I will never want to be around, and I genuinely struggle to see what people get out of it, but - good news - it's not my job to understand! I don't ever have to go through it, and those folks are consenting and living their best lives.

If they're ever not, that won't be about the kink, it will be about ignoring withdrawn consent, or removing someone's consent, or violating their consent.

But other people's kinks aren't about you, they aren't for you, and they don't require your understanding of them, they don't need you to wrap your head around it, in order to not be abusive.

If you can't understand the foundations of consent, negotiation and the overall health and happiness of people in a relationship, I've got nothing anon.

[honeytonedhottie]

self care assessment⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🫧

for when u wanna make sure that ur filling ur own cup before ur filling others ✨ treat this like a checklist and check off what u are doing and circle what you haven't been doing. this will help u to recognize patterns like what aspects of self care you tend to diligently and what aspects u tend to ignore.

PHYSICAL

eats regularly (breakfast, lunch and dinner)

exercises

gets enough sleep

take time off when ur sick

medical care when needed

EMOTIONAL

allow myself to cry

spend time with people who's company i enjoy

identify/seek out comforting spaces/people

an outlet of self expression

PSYCHOLOGICAL

take time away from technology and the internet

minimizing stress

saying no to extra responsibilities that yk u can't handle

saying my affirmations

SPIRITUALLY

devoting enough time and attention to your religion

make time for reflection

identify your morals

make time for prayer

meditate

contribute to a cause that i believe in

RELATIONSHIPS

scheduling dates with my significant other

call and check in on my relatives

have deep conversations with ur close friends

make time for my friends

[pleaseeeimjustagirl]

Weekly Affirmations

♡ I am the creator of my own happiness. I’m ready to take responsibility and do what it takes to start living my dream life.

♡ I’m going to only focus on things I can control and let go of worry about the rest.

♡ 2024 is a year of wonderful surprises, good decisions, and creative solutions.

♡ I am creating financial abundance, a healthy body, and positive relationships in 2024.

♡ This year is going to be a great and wonderful year for me.

♡ This year, my dreams are coming true.

♡ I am dedicated to becoming my higher self this year.