#romanticising mental health

[rowanellis]

Sad Girl Vibes: The Double-Edged Aesthetics of Mental Health

From tumblr edits to TikTok trends - mental illness has always been romanticised and glamourised on the internet - but is this really always a bad thing? Let's dive into the controversial and paradoxical discourse surrounding mental health aesthetics...

[l1kepeps1cvla]

how to be that girl ~

have a signature everything. scent, nail colour, hairstyle, make-up (as in like a defining statement maybe eyeliner), accessory?

have a morning and night routine.

genuinely pretty people are always kind. be nice, give compliments on small things. because pretty isn’t just on the outside it’s inside too.

be your main priority. take care of your mind, energy, mental health, and body. work out, eat healthy food, meditate, read and do fun things. Become your own best friend and take care of yourself.

be independent and confident. don’t hold on to people who drain your energy; confront them or cut them off.

jealousy is a disease. take inspiration from those who have what you want, look up to them and learn.

tell people your here. share your thoughts, be funny, don’t take yourself too seriously, be open-minded and as present as you can be

stop caring. peoples opinions shouldn’t matter to you. nice fit? Wear it. Hungry? Eat.

don’t overthink. focus on the present and live in the moment.

you’re loved 🩰🦢🚬🕯️

[monamoeighth]

A list of social/psychological "tricks" I have used to ease myself into new experiences and relationships

A short one!

Compliment people behind their back. It helps to avoid conflict and be well-liked.

Listen to people how they want you to listen. It strengthens the bond and eases people into honesty. If you feel that a person is more comfortable when you don't input advice or opinions into their venting, then simply do not do it unless you are prompted! If it's the complete opposite, then act accordingly! Everyone loves a good listener, and they will be more willing to listen to you too if you are one.

Shove yourself into the mood you want. It is not hard and quite obvious, but most overlook this skill because they forget they are in control of their own brain. We associate emotions and states of mind with what I call mood-prompts, such as certain objects, colors, musics, tastes, textures, etc. --- so simply look out for those mood-prompts! E.g., f you'd love to feel cozy the evening after a tiring and angering day, then walk yourself out of your exhaustion and anger by interacting with everything you associate with coziness: warm baths, cleaned hair, hot drinks, soft blankets... really, stop overlooking the connection between your feelings and your senses!

Compliment others for the traits you want from them and they will exhibit them more. Self-fulfilling prophecies are no joke! Be consistent with it throughout interactions, but never pushy, or the spell might break. And, if you were wondering, yes: this works when you do it on yourself too.

Know that you have an impact bias that leads you to self-handicap, and know how to act against it. You are prone to believe that the impact and duration of your future emotions will be greater than they will actually be, so you keep yourself in dire situations (isolation, procrastination, self-deprecation that leads to poor performances, etc.) that do not benefit your future self whatsoever. Additionally, you know you'll use those dire situations to justify your failure, and so the cycle continues. Just trust yourself, your learning skills, and your coping mechanisms!

[o2studies]

22:28 || ༻`` 15 Oct 24 — Tuesday

Didn't end up studying or doing homework tonight but I did draw! We also started a practical in chemistry today and it was so much fun (more because of the conversations and how everyone kept getting sidetracked)

Something I really want to highlight tho is:

Engage with life and the simple/mundane!

In the past few weeks I've been floating in the good-or-bad-but-mainly-meh feelings and I wasn't doing much with myself at all. Then a few days ago I watched a stream of someone playing a Papa's game and commenting on the customers and what they order or how they rate the food, and I tried doing it myself. Just talking into the screen and coming up with some personalities for the customers. Yesterday before my bath I did 21 pushups almost in one go and while in the bath just suddenly though of how I could've tried to so a few more and then—in June I was managing to do between 20-25 pushups in a row—I realised that I had just done 21 pushups. When my wrist got hurt I couldn't do a single pushup and after my wrist got better my arms were just a lot weaker from the lack of consistent exercise so I tended to do 5-8 at a time. So with the achievement of 21 I applauded myself and gave a silent cheer. Today in study I was listening to music and consciously moving my head and body a bit side to side in time with the rhythm.

After all of these simple things I got very very happy! Right after them! And the happiness level will of course vary from person to person and even between what it is that you do, but I strongly reccomend just trying to interact with the things around you, especially if you're by yourself or in a low mood.

I hope this helps somebody like it helped me ^^

Day 27 clean (Vee 💕)

Day 0

Floor time ☑️

^ I keep forgetting about the last 2 and just not doing anything about them... Need to change that // 🍊

[whydousernamesevenexist]

[sugarsprinklesoul]

HOW TO ROMANTICIZE LIFE

Romanticizing life involves finding joy and beauty in everyday moments. Here are some ideas to add a touch of romance to your life:

Gratitude Practice: Cultivate gratitude by appreciating the simple things in life. Keep a gratitude journal to reflect on positive experiences.

Mindfulness: Be present in the moment. Pay attention to your surroundings, savor the tastes and smells, and fully engage in your activities.

Create Rituals: Develop daily or weekly rituals that bring you joy, whether it's a special morning routine, an evening walk, or a cozy bedtime ritual.

Surround Yourself with Beauty: Decorate your space with things that make you happy – flowers, candles, artwork. Create an environment that uplifts your spirits.

Indulge in Your Senses: Enjoy sensory experiences. Treat yourself to your favorite meal, listen to beautiful music, or immerse yourself in a captivating fragrance.

Embrace Nature: Spend time in nature. Whether it's a park, a beach, or a forest, connect with the beauty of the natural world.

Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. It adds a sense of accomplishment and positivity to your life.

Dress for Yourself: Wear clothes that make you feel good. It's a simple way to express yourself and boost your confidence.

Connect with Loved Ones: Nurture your relationships. Spend quality time with friends and family, sharing laughter and creating cherished memories.

Read and Dream: Immerse yourself in literature, art, or music that sparks your imagination. Allow yourself to dream and be inspired.

Remember, romanticizing life is about finding joy in the little things and appreciating the beauty that surrounds you. It's a mindset that can bring more positivity and fulfillment into your daily experiences.

[mentalyardbelongingprincess2]

and i’m back

in the

mental yard

[eunique]

If I had a dollar for everytime a cis man in their 20s I know made being depressed and/or an edge lord their personality, I'd have 2 dollars

Which isn't a lot but it's weird that its happened twice

[dianabee123]

My vision board for 2023-2024!!

[charbroiledchicken]

The ‘Harrowed’ Artist - by charbroiledchicken (see the end of the poem for context)

Now tell me as I bleed jewels,

From an anthology of little cuts - 

Is my pain beguiling? 

Does the crimson match the upholstery? 

Are the shadows just right as to seem like my hands are 

Severed from my body right at the pulse point?

I paint a picture, the perfectly positioned tear on my cheek

Used to wet the brush.

The artfully despaired hold a crowd of followers, 

Who hold their wounds to the dirt

So that snakes can accept their sacrifice

And whisper wisdom in their ears.

Never mind if they pass - 

For the earth will grow daisies near their corpses. 

And they shall be beautiful for a short while.

They say that a poet must struggle,

To wax immortal verses.

So dolorous I shall become,

For beauty and fame are the result of the tribulations of an artist.

(yes this is written entirely to poke fun at people on social media who romanticise poor mental health or like the 'tortured poet/sad girl' aesthetics going around. it is not beautiful, it is not romantic, it is an issue and shouldn't be treated as something aesthetic or something desirable.)

[unfamiliar-ghostly-girl]

traumacore is great tbh and i'm sick of people claiming it's anti-recovery or just pictures of hello kitty on a dirty mattress

[xxx-ang3l-w1th-a-sh0tgun-xxx]

i love the manic pixie dream girl aesthetic/character trope when it's not problematic <3 /gen

[analee-rose-valentine]

I made a few vlogs for my channel having a breakdown (tw for religion and religious trauma, bigotry, sexism, cis sexism, suicidal thoughts, etc)

Last night’s video is about being perceived wrong:

Todays video is about my backstory and lore:

[that-wannabe-vangoghgurl]

Third base is them seeing you have a anxiety attack 🫶🏼

[shvoowsh]

no bc romanticizing my life (and regularly taking my meds. cannot forget that influence) is so cool?? it’s 2pm, and i’ve already showered, done two loads of laundry, folded loads more, made breakfast (and actually cooked for that), made lunch, done dishes, cleaned a few rooms, and made my bed! but not just that, i’m happy. like actually hopeful and creative and all that jazz. i’ve been coming up with fic ideas (both cursed and not cursed) and ways to express myself. it’s good, and it’s progress.

[nana7nana777]

I am starting to get attached to the people that I create in my head and daydream about for hours, wtf😭