#neu asexual

[allegoriesandepithets]

Large Pixel Size Neu A- Flags

[PT: Large Pixel Size Neu A- Flags]

Neu Ace ~ Neu Aro

Neu Apl ~ Neu Aqp

Neu Analt ~ Neu Asen ~ Neu Anae

Definition: One who is on the a- [attraction type] spectrum, who is neutral on other allo- [attraction type] and a- [attraction type] spectrums.

All credit goes to @ryanyflags, these are basically just higher quality versions of their flags. I did slightly change the colors of the apl and aqp flags, as well as switching the top two colors of the aqp flag.

All flags are 3000x2000 pixels.

@tertiary-attraction-archive @orientation-archive @radiomogai @liom-archive @imoga-pride

[bloomshroomz]

And not only that, but there are also alloaces, non-sam aros, non-sam aces, neu aros, and other ace-spec and aro-spec people who are not included in the aroace label. I don't understand why people in the a-spec community are making the mistake of referring to all of us as "aroace." It's been happening a lot lately, and as a neu aro, I'm real sick of it.

Friendly reminder that "aroace" is NOT the umbrella term for the whole aromantic/asexual community

The correct umbrella term is Aspec

Aroace is its own specific identity and alloaros don't want to be placed in the "aroace" community

[bloomshroomz]

this has probably already been done, but it popped into my brain and I had to make it so here you go

+ aroallo, non-sam aro, and neu aro variants

➹DON'T TAG THIS AS ASEXUAL/ACE OR AROACE➹

[klavierpanda]

Shoutout to aroallos, non-sam aros, aromids, neu aros, and any other aros who aren't necessarily also asexual. We are often forgotten in conversations about aro issues and wider aspec issues and it's exhausting. Aromanticism is not a subset nor does it require asexuality

[entropy-sea-system]

People who only center asexual aromanticism but claim to be talking about aromanticism as a whole NEED to do better. Include other aro identities like allosexual aro, non sam aro, neutrosexual (neu) aro, aromid, unit aro etc. Aromanticism does not begin and end with aroaces.

Non-ace aros do exist and it's not representative of aromanticism if you only focus on aros who are also ace. If your resource or article etc. focuses solely on aroaces, please call it an aroace or aromantic asexual article/resource/etc. instead of pretending it can represent aromanticism entirely.

[aces-parrows]

show me how to love | san

pairing: san x neu!reader word count: 1.5k genre: fluff, maybe a bit of angst? warning(s): not proofread, mentions of acephobia summary: you're asexual and in love with your best friend, so you write him a letter confessing your feelings credit: divider and banner

"san, i'm asexual." you had said with a trembling voice as you spoke through the phone, your heart pounding in a way it never had before. you had known this about yourself for years, but a constant barrage of invalidation and disbelief had forced you back into the closet. each failed attempt at dating or opening up about this aspect yourself, where no one seemed to understand your asexuality, had made you no longer want to open up about it. but now, you had just told your best friend of three years, san—a gamble you never thought you would take after your past disappointments.

a nervous laugh came from the other end of the phone, causing your stomach to twist with anxiety in an uncomfortably familiar way. did he think badly of you as well? but before you could even begin to regret telling him, his voice, warm and reassuring, broke through any fears you might have had. "thank you for telling me, y/n," he said, his voice filled with genuine kindness. it was as though you could see his comforting smile through the phone just from the way his voice sounded. all the tension in your body melted away the moment you realized that san was accepting of you wholeheartedly.

that conversation had happened months ago. and now, a tear slid down your cheek as you held a freshly written love letter in your hands. his acceptance of you was a bittersweet memory as you prepared to take another gamble—confessing your romantic feelings to san. all you could think was if your romantic feelings could be enough for him, even despite your asexuality. you wiped the tear before taking a deep breath, reading over the letter one final time, wanting to ensure every word of your letter properly expressed the depth of your feelings that you felt for this man. you folded it neatly, now wondering how you were going to give it to him.

standing outside of san's apartment, a familiar nervous flutter reoccurred in your stomach as you silently practiced just how you were going to go about this, the love letter safely tucked in your pocket. why was this so difficult? no matter how much you had scripted in your head what you wanted to say and do, it felt as though you were too nervous to go through with it. however, you had made it this far along in your plan, so you felt as though it had become too late to turn back now. you were going to confess, no matter how difficult it got, even if the letter had to do all the talking for you. while you waited for san to answer, you discreetly slid the letter into the book.

you gave san a shy smile when he opened the door, greeting him the way you always did by giving him a hug and asking how his day had been. you could tell he was exhausted from the long hours rehearsing. you didn't want to keep him for long, so you handed him the worn copy of "even if this love disappears tonight."

"here it is," you said as you watched san's light up, carefully taking the book from your shaky hands.

"ah, thank you so much!" he said happily, "i hope you enjoyed reading it."

"i did," you responded with your smile growing, "it was such a good read, i struggled to put it down."

"see? i told you that you would!" san said excitedly, "i'm so glad you liked it, we got to discuss this together some time!"

you watched him put the book into his backpack, assuming he would read it again when he had time between practice, rehearsals, and whatever ateez-related events that filled his busy schedule. you smiled, knowing he would get the letter eventually, though you couldn't help but feel a little bit sad as you realized that you wouldn't get to see his reaction. perhaps it was for the best, as delivering the letter was nerve-wracking enough. could you handle watching him read it right in front of you?

san had picked up the book while in the car to their destination for a fan call event, deciding that a good book would help pass the time. as he noticed something was in the book, he had assumed maybe a scrap piece of paper had gotten wedged between some of the paged when he placed it in his backpack the other night, but he was surprised to discover it wasn't scrap paper. at least, it didn't seem to be with the way it was so neatly folded. was this your way of having a makeshift bookmark and you just forgot to take it out when you returned it to him?

his fingers brushed against the folded piece of paper, his curiosity getting the best of him in that moment as he pulled it out from the book. with the book forgotten about for now, he began to unfold the paper, his mind flooding with hundreds of guesses as to what could be on this piece of paper. a love letter, was not amongst those hundreds of thoughts. so, it was safe to say he was surprised when he began to read the first few sentences of your heartfelt letter to him.

dear san,

there has been something i've been wanting to tell you for months, but i never had the courage to say it to you directly. but now, with a pen in my hand, i have the courage to express everything to you...

san continued reading the inked confession, soon understanding not only the depth of your emotions, but the courage it took to write this and find a way to discreetly give it to him. now that he fully understood just how you felt, a flood of thoughts and memories filled his head. small things were now making sense to him. the moments you shared together—late night conversations, laughter over inside jokes, the way your eyes met across crowded rooms—they all now took on a whole new meaning.

he carefully folded the letter back up, the racing thoughts and emotions in his mind unable to stop. he felt an immense amount of gratitude for your honesty and vulnerability, now with a newfound appreciation for the connection you two shared. he was deeply touched by this letter, even if you didn't get know it.

he knew he needed to respond to you, he just had to. he set the letter back in the book, putting it into his backpack before he glanced at his phone, considering how to approach this. he wanted to do it with the sensitivity and respect your confession deserved, understanding this was a big moment in your guys' relationship. it was the moment that determined so much about how you guys proceed.

he glanced at the time, knowing he wouldn't have time to hold such an important conversation with you. he could say he read the letter, but he didn't want to leave you hanging after telling you that. he wanted the time to talk with you, hear your thoughts and feelings all over again, and be able to express his feelings in return; all in real time. not over the course of a few hours or even a couple days. with a defeated sigh, he accepted his schedule had to come first, but he made a mental note to respond the moment his chaotic day was over.

and that's what he did. as soon as your phone buzzed, you immediately checked the notification, your heart skipping a beat as you see it's from san.

y/n, i read your letter. i just got done with my schedules and wanted to reach out to you when i had the time to give you my full attention.

your words mean so much to me. i've always deeply valued our friendship, and i still do. your words have made he realize our love goes beyond just physical attraction. the way your laughter lights up the room, the way we have always understood each other without saying a word, and so, so much more. i respect your identity as an asexual person, and i want you to know that my feelings for you are rooted in a very deep emotional connection. i know your sexuality changes a lot for you in regards to a relationship, but i'm willing to learn and explore those changes with you, for us. our connection is special to me, i'm so grateful to have you as a part of my life, no matter where our feelings take us. so if you want to give this a shot, i'm more than ready to be yours.

and those words were just the beginning. it took some time, but you and san have navigated all the aspects of being in a romantic relationship without sex being a part of it. you never knew such a thing would be possible for you, but you just got lucky to be with such an accepting, loving, and understanding man. and you couldn't be happier with where the both of you are now, as you kissed san on the cheek while the both of you were watching a movie together on the couch, simply enjoying the things about each other that you both did before, but now with a newfound appreciation and admiration for the relationship you both have together.

[masculinerose]

Not to get discoursey on main (non-aspec followers feel free to skip over this post) but I want to add my own take to the discussion happening in the aroallo community right now.

As a gaybian myself, I'm always gonna be more open than not to contradictory labels. I'm sure there are some genuine reasons why someone would want to identify as asexual and allosexual at the same time.

HOWEVER. You don't see me going around screaming about my love for trans gay bears in the lesbian tags, do you? No. You don't. Because that'd be tag bloating, regardless of whether I'm a lesbian or not. My lesbianism isn't relevant.

Same thing here: if someone genuinely feels like they're aroallo AND aroace, then hell yeah! Use those labels for yourself! But please, respect that if you're multi-communal, that doesn't mean you can tag all your identities on a post that doesn't warrant it.

If you're just discussing aromanticism, then that means you can use the aroallo and aroace tags, because those are both aro. Duh. But if you're discussing asexuality, please please PLEASE leave the aroallo tag out of it. And don't tag aroallo posts as asexual, at all.

Because unlike with some lesbian's obsession with having non-man spaces, which is rooted in radical feminism and exclusion of multigender lesbians, aroallos are truly a minority in the aspec community. Asexuality is everywhere here, and it's always assumed you have to be ace to be aro. We NEED our own space, badly.

So basically, yes, aroace-aroallos or acespecs(particularly those who feel more allocespec) are welcome in the aroallo tags. Just please. Please respect that the aroallo community we have is built by and for aromantics who aren't ace at all, and that's the community you're stepping into. And maybe consider looking into some other terms, like aromid/neu aro/non-sam aro, to find like-minded people who don't fall on the asexual/allosexual dichotomy.

[aspecpolls]

[If the answers won't fit with the character limit and can't be rephrased, maybe try using numbers in their place for the poll] Non-ace aros [e.g. alloaro, non-SAM aro, neu aro...], did internalized arophobia ever cause you to cling to asexuality to "justify" your aromanticism? [1] Yes, and I always knew that it didn't feel right for me. [2] Yes, and I was initially comfortable identifying as ace, but later realized that it wasn't right for me; I continued to ID as ace despite my discomfort. [3] No, I only identified as ace out of genuine comfort with it, and never forced it on myself. [4] No, I have never identified as ace. [5] Results

[jerich0two]

How do you feel about al's VA confirming that Al's aromanticism isn't yet decided on?

Fairly neutral, I'd say! I'm pleased his asexuality has been completely, 100%, bonafide, guaranteed, confirmed, because it's a big win for the ace community -- it'd be disappointing, but I don't expect I'd mind that much if it turns out he isn't aro.

Then again, it's pretty strongly implied that he is, and I don't really like how vague Viv is about it. Al's her character and she gets to decide what aspects of him she wants to reveal (makes sense!), but like I've said before, I think she does it partly for shipping purposes. Honestly a nice sentiment, but Alastor is one character out of a veeeeery large cast (comparatively), so avoiding confirming his aromanticism because it might "ruin people's fun" or whatever the logic may be is a bit dodgy. What about the AROS' fun, huh? Huh?! /lhj

(Addendum)

TLDR for the addition: Viv was much more mild about her original "let people have fun shipping" statement than I thought, and said she would prefer that people have more respect for his identity (the actual quotes are listed in a transcript found in that reblog). Nevertheless, she (at least 3 years ago) placed shipping above confirming his aromanticism /neu

[isobug]

Does anyone have the link to ( or credit for ) the Neu Ace flag / coining ?

I can only find it on one Aspec flag / identity chart from Reddit and I want to make a high quality version but I want to avoid not crediting if I can help it

[aro-absol]

I've seen these posts a lot before but I never was content with the options. So I made my own. I hope everyone can find themselves in one of these. I would have separated even more but unfortunately, tumblr allows only ten options.

I personally define arospec and acespec as someone who does experience some attraction but only very weakly, very rarely, conditionally or in an otherwise non-normative way. However, it's really up to you and how you describe yourself (feel free to drop your own definition in the tags because I'm curious).

Oh, and feel free to specify your exact labels in the tags! I'm curious.

Also, please reblog for a bigger sample size!

Some explanations:

Non-SAM refers to people who don't use the split attraction model. That means a non-SAM aromantic solely identifies as aromantic and doesn't use any sexuality labels. With non-SAM asexuals, it's the other way around. I personally use the terms non-SAM aro/ace and "just aro/ace" synonymously.

Neu Aromantic means that somebody is aromantic and neutral between asexuality and allosexuality. Neu Asexual refers to aces who are neutral regarding aromanticism and alloromanticism.

[bloomshroomz]

Reworking the A/Grey/Allo/Orchid Attraction System

As it stands currently, the a-spectrum encompasses any identity involving little or no attraction. This includes all grey orientations by default. The allo spectrum is treated as less of a spectrum, but more of a term for people who aren’t a-spec or grey. I think that this ultimately ends up being confusing, and could use some reworking.

(Some people might be getting a little anxious about where I'm going with this, especially if you're greysexual/demisexual/etc, so I want to make it clear right away: This rework is not designed to invalidate or exclude you.)

I keep seeing the a-spec get stretched to encompass more and more experiences, such as meneromantic: a term for people who experience romantic attraction easily, but prefer not to act on it unless they think their crush will reciprocate… Which just describes how most alloromantic people approach their attraction.

This was described as an “aro-spec” orientation, and as an aromantic person, I feel like that misses the point of the spectrum completely. I admit, it is a pretty niche term, and isn’t the end of the world, but it’s a symptom of a larger problem.

It’s becoming clear, at least to me, that people are unsure how to draw the line between a-spec and allo, due to the subjectivity of what “little attraction” even is, to the point of both terms becoming less meaningful over time. I don’t even know where I’m supposed to fit among those terms myself, at least when it comes to sexual attraction. I’ve actually opted not to label my sexuality largely for that reason; it’s why I’m a neu aro.

So I wanted to take a shot at proposing a change. Not for the sake of excluding or assimilating, but for the sake of making attraction/orientations more easy to navigate and explore, especially for people who are questioning. I made an effort to make this rework as inclusive as possible, while also being much more clearly understood. If you experience attraction and identify as a-spec, don’t worry! The rework still includes you; it just includes you in terms which are easier to define.

A-spec

The a-spectrum, under the rework, includes any identity which is defined by zero attraction, as well as experiences adjacent to that. In other words, if a person experiences absolutely no sexual attraction, no romantic attraction, and/or no tertiary attraction, they are a-spec. This includes:

Asexual: Experiencing zero sexual attraction, or having an adjacent experience to this.

Aromantic: Experiencing zero romantic attraction, or having an adjacent experience to this.

Aplatonic: Experiencing zero platonic attraction, or having an adjacent experience to this.

Cupio: Experiencing zero (sexual/romantic/platonic/etc.) attraction, but desiring a relationship commonly associated with that attraction anyway. For example, desiring a sexual relationship as an asexual person.

Apothi: Experiencing zero (sexual/romantic/platonic/etc.) attraction, and feeling repulsed by relationships and/or activities associated with that attraction. For example, being asexual and sex-repulsed.

Icula: Experiencing zero (sexual/romantic/platonic/etc.) attraction, but being open to relationships/activities commonly associated with that attraction anyway. For example, being asexual and open to sex.

Etc.

“Experiences adjacent to that” refers to anyone who doesn’t necessarily experience zero attraction, but still:

Feels strongly represented by a-spec identities/experiences.

Strongly relates to a-spec identities/experiences.

Needs access to a-spec resources, communities, and support.

Finds it easy, useful, and/or helpful to identify as a-spec, especially as opposed to not identifying as a-spec.

Finds one’s attraction to be irrelevant to one’s life, either because it’s so vague or infrequent that it has no impact, because one has negative interest in acting on it, or because one’s attraction otherwise has no relevance.

Note that “experiencing little attraction” is not a qualifier on its own, because what’s “little” is entirely subjective, and can be incredibly difficult to define. Note that you do not have to check each bullet point in the list above to be a-spec; just one is enough.

Greysexuality, greyromanticism, etc. can be a-spec, but these identities are not a-spec by default. It depends on the individual, their own experiences, and how they define/feel about their own identity.

Grey-spec

The grey spectrum, under the rework, includes any identity which doesn’t fit neatly into an a-or-allo binary. This includes:

People who aren’t sure whether they’re a-spec or allo-spec.

People who resonate with both a-spec and allo-spec identities/experiences.

People who resonate with neither a-spec nor allo-spec identities/experiences.

People whose identities are in constant flux, and thus difficult or impossible to pinpoint as a-spec or allo-spec.

People who fit into the a-spec category, but feel like the a-spec category is still insufficient in some way.

People who fit into the allo-spec category, but feel like the allo-spec category is still insufficient in some way.

People who feel like they fit somewhere between “experiencing attraction” and “not experiencing attraction” in some way.

Anyone else who can’t or won’t fit themselves into an a-or-allo binary.

Greysexuality, greyromanticism, etc. can be a-spec and/or allo-spec, but these identities are not either by default. It depends on the individual, their own experiences, and how they define/feel about their own identity.

I think this is a much needed change, not just because this is easier to define than figuring out what “little attraction” means, but because grey-specs don’t always want to be pigeonholed into being a-spec by default. It is a grey area, after all.

Allo-spec

The allo spectrum, under the rework, includes any identity in which one experiences attraction, no matter how much or how little. This includes:

People who experience little attraction.

People who experience a moderate amount of attraction.

People who experience a lot of attraction.

I’ve decided to include all experiences of present attraction in this spectrum because it can be extremely hard (or impossible) to quantify how much attraction you experience in comparison to other people. If you experience attraction, it isn’t necessarily going to be clear whether you experience a lot or a little or something between. Including all present attraction under the allo-spec, no matter the amount, makes it much easier to define where you fall within these spectra.

Greysexuality, greyromanticism, etc. can be allo-spec, but these identities are not allo-spec by default. It depends on the individual, their own experiences, and how they define/feel about their own identity.

Orchid-spec

This is an additional spectrum for people who experience attraction, but do not want to act on that attraction. For example, an orchidsexual person experiences sexual attraction, but does not want to have sex under any circumstances.

I didn’t come up with this spectrum, but I’ve decided to include it here, because a person may feel that orchid-spec is the only spectrum that feels relevant to their experience, with a/grey/allo being completely irrelevant or inapplicable. Though, a person may resonate with orchid-spec in addition to other spectra, which is also valid!

Overlapping spectra

All spectra within this proposed system can overlap in some instances.

For example, if a person experiences attraction, but feels strongly represented by a-spec identities, they could be a combination of a-spec, grey-spec, and allo-spec. They might identify with one spectrum more than the others, but they would be included in all three.

As another example, a person may fall under all four spectra, because:

Their attraction is irrelevant to them, so they identify as a-spec.

They relate to both a-spec and allo-spec, so they identify as grey-spec.

They experience attraction, so they identify as allo-spec.

They don’t want to act on their attraction, so they identify as orchid-spec.

A person might also identify as both grey-spec and a-spec, but not allo-spec, because they don’t know whether they experience attraction or not, but they relate to a-spec identities and experiences.

Another person might fall under both allo-spec and grey-spec, but not a-spec, because they experience attraction, but feel that the allo-spec is insufficient to describe their identity, while also not resonating with the a-spec at all.

These are just a few examples of how spectra could possibly overlap. There are other ways that these spectra could be combined which have not been listed here.

And of course, it's up to you how you identify! I just wanted to propose a system which (hopefully) makes attraction easier to understand and navigate.

[honeycomb-hotel]

minecraft sheep alter

𓎟𓎟 MINECRAFT SHEEP ALTER PACK .ᐟ

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 NAMES – sheep , fluffy , spring , frostie

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 AGE – 18 (1 in sheep yrs)

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 PRNS – it / they / baa / fluff / sleep

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 GENDERS – neu-aligned , sheepgender , sheepcoric , fluffgender , naturesoundic , naturebodiment , mushgender , dandedappline , dandefluff

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 ORIENTATION – panromantic , asexual

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 CISIDS – sheep , white & curly hair , short height , freckles , sensitive / emotional

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 TRANSIDS – permacrying , permatired , harmed , left-eye blind

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 PARAPHILIAS – 🐊 , 🧵 , 👁️

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 SPECIES – sheep/human shapeshifter

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 ROLES – sweetheart , social pleaser , entrancer , pacifier

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 SOURCE – sheep mob ; minecraft

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 COMMON OUTFITS – sheep ear hat , fawn coat , white collared , striped shirt

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 FAVORITE MUSIC – “for the first time” : mac demarco , “everyone adores you” : matt maltese , “lovegirl” : sattura , “hey lover” : daughters of eve , “my love mine all mine” : mitski , “boys will be bugs” : cavetown

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 PERSONALITY – they have a gentle and easygoing nature , content with the simple things in life and rarely seeking attention or conflict. peaceful and calm , they drift through the world without much urgency. friendly yet quiet , they tend to follow rather than lead , trusting others easily—sometimes too much. their soft heart and patience shine , showing a quiet resilience as they adapt to whatever life brings. despite their simplicity , they are dependable , always a steady and comforting presence in the background. (MBTI : ISFJ)

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 EMOJI PROXIES – 🐑🌻 , 🐑 , 🌾 , 🌼 , 🌿

︵⠀ᡣ𐭩 ART CREDIT – unknown artist for all , each one was found on pinterest.

[entropy-sea-system]

Aromantic is not just a footnote to put on your evidently only about aces post. Aromantic is an orientation in its own right and we deserve to have our orientation seen as its own thing instead of an extension of asexual(especially when non ace aros/aros who aren't solely or always ace exist - including alloaros, non sam aros, neu aros, aromid, and other identities or experiences)

[aroallo-culture-is]

aroallo culture is wondering if its just your imagination that there are seem to be so many non-aro aces but so few non-ace aros, then remembering its probably the lack of visibility (I think this is also coupled with a lot of frustration over the fact that ppl erase aromanticism by calling it asexuality, and just wishing more people like you actually fucking existed and used the same label/similar ones) (Also before ppl get confused or call me aphobic for saying non-aro and non-ace, these are literally just umbrella terms and non-ace aro in particular is very relevant as a term and used by us as neu aros, non sam aros, and alloaros are erased way more than aces are and people often assume aros are ace)

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[spacethenobody]

Hello, happy Asexuality Acceptance Day! I decided to draw an asexual character! This is also a gift for @ombrathefurry :) Sorry that this was so rushed. I didn't want to take a whole day on a drawing. /neu