#aromantic asexual

[drag0ns-in-cyb3rspac3]

finding out that other kids my age were already being intimate with each other genuinely made me question me existance.

part of being aroace is going "we're too young to date, we're just kids" for most of your life because it was true. and then you're in high school and suddenly everyone is dating, and you're still going "we're too young to date, we're just kids". and then your classmates are fucking in the school bathrooms and your friends are coming to school covered in hickeys and your best friend has a boyfriend that she plans to marry, and you're still going "we're too young for this, we're just kids." And then you realize that you're not a kid anymore, you're not too young for this, and that you're just... different

[ace-culture-is]

Aroace culture is seeing "are they a girl or a boy" discussions in the comments of stories where a character has a with an ambiguous gender yet not canonically non-binary or intersex, so you only think "who cares?!"

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[papercranesandpride]

I hate that you can both see posts from asexuals saying "the queer community needs to be less focused on sex and sexual desire as the be-all and end-all of things" and posts from alloaros saying "the queer community needs to be more chill about hookups, sex with friends, sexual desire, and sex" and they're both right and necessary! Like. It would be easier if everyone was weird about sex in the same way. Then there would only be one problem to fix. But no. Instead sex is mandatory, but also there is a wrong way to do it (outside of romantic relationships), and you can't like it too much, but God forbid you like it too little or not at all.

I literally saw two posts that were just the inverse of each other from an ace and an alloaro within 24 hours and it's just like. How hard is it to respect people's decisions? To not make statements implying that everyone should have the same approach to sex? To not imply that anyone is having sex the wrong way or in the wrong amount (be that having too much or none at all)? I don't want either of these posts to be necessary.

It's just. Like. Exhausting that the world is full of nuance. You can't say that society either loves or hates sex. No, instead it has very rules you have to follow and I hate it.

Like, for as different as being aroallo and aroace are? They're also both the exact same. We're both doing sex wrong. Either by not having sexual attraction, or by having it without romance.

[alexzx777]

being aroace is so weird bc wdym i focus more on fictional character's love life more than my own

[officeobject]

Being Christian and aroace be like:

[merely-a-caricature]

Me, an aroace: (*ﾟ▽ﾟ*) they’re so pretty >///<

Also me: I literally cannot fathom being in a relationship

[apollothegod22]

A cute story about kids on my street and being aromantic :)

On the street I used to live there are a bunch of little girls that run up and down and do a bunch of things like screeching at the top of their lungs happily at each other.

They also like to set up a table to sell things. They do this once or twice a month, especially in the summer.

One sweltering June (pride month, it's important) afternoon, I walked past them when walking my dog and noticed that they were selling pride flags they made out of baked clay. Right away, I wanted to buy all of them, but I liked supporting the fact that they decided to stand outside.

I told them how much I love the flags and they were delighted and asked me if I wanted to buy one.

I said no, not yet, but that if there were any left at 4PM (it was currently 2), then they should knock on my front door and I'd buy the rest of what they had.

Come 4, I answered the knock at the door with cash and a smile. There they were, excited to rid themselves of their wares, and excited that their babysitter wanted them. I happily handed them the money (including a few $1 coins which, in my opinion, they were not as excited as they ought to be, as I would've been at their age, but whatever).

I took their flags carefully and displayed them on my bookcase.

There was a trans one, bisexual one (what I identified as at the time, as many aroace do, well, biromantoc ace), a genderqueer one, and an aromantic one.

To be honest, I didn't know what the aromantic one was when I got it, and I didn't pay much attention to it.

After I got back from my freshman year of college (during which I came out as aromantic in addition to asexual) and noticed that one of the flags on my bookshelf was an aromantic one.

I'd had it around me for over a year before I realized that it was truly mine.

Those kids were great, and I can't wait to see who they become as they grow up. :)

[sirompp]

hi. i made some images.

feel free to take them and use for whatever you may need them for. no credit required

[officeobject]

Same. I actually thought of the idea to respond to that - even if just in your head - with "poo pee, doodoo, diarrhea dooky", and just repeat words like that, come up with new ones, metaphors, etc, because that's what it basically is - also, I guess that's how I came up with "poopballs" (which is really a thing with Ethan and I, I guess), because poopballs funny, and poopballs is what PP-balls basically are, to me.

aroace "s" (and romo) repulsed culture is feeling as though you're not meant for this world. It's wanting to f-ing scream and claw your own skin off any time it's brought up.

I know that nobody has to adjust their behaviour for the sake of my comfort, but GOD how I wish people would just shut up. I'm not trying to put anyone down for doing those things and having those feelings, I just wish I never had to hear people talk about it ever. I really do not want to know. I don't ever want to be reminded that "s" and romo is a thing, I wish it could be completely erased from my memory. I don't hate myself for being aroace, I love it, actually. I just hate feeling like this, I hate feeling isolated from everyone, I hate feeling like I don't belong here.

- Mod Mal

[sminny-wew]

It's so funny being a shipper when you're aroace it's like you're an anthropologist, like hey fictional blorbos who live in my head let me study your bonds under a microscope and take notes on what happens when I throw Valentines Day into your enclosure

[drag0ns-in-cyb3rspac3]

[cecenyss]

‘There’s no platonic explanation for this’ and it’s just two people caring about each other’s wellbeing

[ace-culture-is]

Aroace with no interest in ever getting into a romantic/sexual relationship culture is being told you probably are aroace as a phase because of your social anxiety as you don't handle being on your own for long, but not managing to be alone over a long period of time is a symptom of social anxiety...

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[bored-boring-and-tired]

the holy trinity is trending

[morally-earl-gray]

mfs be like "are you single or taken" and like technically im single but that implies that im availible, which i most definitely am not so yes im taken. im taken by me. you cant have me.