#greyromantic

[optimisticnightmarechild]

I remember the days of ace/aro exclusionist discourse very well.

The main fuel seemed to be screenshots of kids on Tumblr saying ignorant things about Lgbtq people and history.

Like, they're kids. Of course they don't know any LGBTQ history. They were born 5 minutes ago. We get it, you hate kids.

These two images angered exclus the most. They would say "these don't mean you're lgbt, because it says straight too!".

I'm sorry, did you forget straight trans people are part of the community? Hell, transhets did a ton of ground work for the community to even be a thing and got little to no credit in return.

Also, I imagine (grain of salt) that it was to encourage possible cishetallo allies to consider that we're all people and we should come together.

Lmao I forgot to add this: aro, aces, nonbinary people, etc. have always been present in the community one way or another. So much Lgbtq history is lost, do you seriously think there wasn't a single aro/ace person that was marching with the other queer elders?

Anyway, I just wanted to waffle about exclus.

[lust-for-ultraviolence]

Too aro + ace for allos and too allo for aros + aces

[justmythoughtinthevoid]

I might be able to help a bit with this question. I’m demi-romantic or greyromantic (still questioning), which is part of the aromantic spectrum, and in a romantic relationship. I had to become very close platonically to my girlfriend before I began to feel anything romantic and even still I think I approach romantic feelings a bit differently from Allos, although I find it difficult to explain exactly how it’s different. I think it’s like I make less of a distinction between romantic and platonic feelings than allos, and I need to be very close to someone before I begin to feel romantic feelings.

This is just my experience and other arospec people might have a very different experience than me. Everyone experiences sexuality differently but I hope my experience can help shed a little light on the concept. I know this was a bit of a ramble but hopefully it made sense.

hi sorry if you answered this already but i just wanted to know the answer to my silly little question

i'm trying to learn more about general sexuality and i see people saying 'asexuals still have sex and aromantics still have partners' and while the ace thing makes sense to me, i have a bit of a problem understanding the aro part. is the entire concept just not having romantic attraction? is it like a spectrum like asexuality?

sorry if this has been answered before or if the question is a little stupid ^^ Im just a little confused and dont wanna upset anyone

No, I haven't, good question!

While the basic definition of aromantic is usually "feeling low, varied and/or no romantic attraction", its a wide spectrum and everyone has different preferences, including on dating!

Some people have specific qualifications in order for them to experience romantic attraction, or experience it very rarely, but also, some people have partners even if they don't experience romantic attraction!

Whether that's in a queerplatonic sense or something else (for example, someone can have a partner[s] and not feel romantic attraction to them while their partner[s] do[es.] That's okay too!) is entirely up to the individuals involved.

I don't think this' a stupid question honestly, I think it's a very good one but regardless, I appreciate you trusting me to answer and I hope this helps!

Let me know if you have anymore questions, Anon. <3

[gamezcatt]

[wishfularoace]

does anyone want to be best friends that also live together and go on adventures together but like mundane adventures like ikea and target and also wants to lay our heads on each others shoulders when sleepy but also have separate bedrooms but also enjoy spending most of our free time together……. just me? ok

[theaceofarrows]

Since Pride Month is almost upon us, I just want to make sure that ANYONE who identifies as aspec knows that this is your month, too!

Whether you identify as ace, aro, demi, grey, or any micro label, or combination that's well known or hardly know at all. You are valid, and YOU ARE part of the LGBTQA+ community. Never forget that!!

[matcha-milo]

I want a relationship that is completely undefinable by any existing labels or words. Like, we're so close and we hug and kiss each other's foreheads and cuddle and travel and explore together, and we get along so well and have so much in common. But at the same time, our relationship isn't fully romantic or fully platonic; it's a completely separate, open-to-interpretation thing that we tweaked as needed, and we have our own boundaries and things we are and aren't comfortable with, and we respect each other in every way, shape, and form.

[acexualien]

[arokalypse]

some arospec flag gifs below for your aro doomscrolling experience

[i-like-swiss-cheese]

OK GUYS

SO

THE ASEXUALS HAVE GARLIC BREAD

BUT WHAT DO WE AROMANTICS HAVE?

I SAY THAT WE MAKE THE ARO FOOD BE SWISS CHEESE

DONT LOOK AT MY BLOG TITLE I AM TOTALLY NOT BIASED WHATSOEVER

TRUST

[tremendously-crazy]

me then: why do all the songs on the radio have to be about love? It's so annoying, why is everyone so obsessed with love?

me now: oh.

[genderqueerdykes]

aromantic and asexual people are not inherently "miserable" or "unhappier" than other people. we are not "missing out" on something- if we do not experience these feelings to begin with, we have nothing to "miss out" on. the only time that aromantic and asexual people are miserable is when we are forced into relationships or forced to believe we "need" to be in one to be complete. destroy this argument in your mind- aromantic and asexual people define our happiness. we are not inherently miserable, we are doing just fine

[transgender-png]

the mspec to aspec pipeline is real and it happened to me

[ID: a collection of m-spec flags (including bi, pan, poly, omni, and multisexual) at one end of a pipeline with a collection of a-spec flags (including aro, ace, greyace, greyaro, demi, demiro, and aroace) at the other end. end ID]

[bread-is-bread]

"You can't just pick and choose the parts of a romantic relationship that you want"

No, actually I can.

I can do exactly that. If I want to see them multiple times a week with no commitment and no exclusivity I can.

If I want to cuddle and kiss and not be any more intimate than that I can.

If I want to go on fun dates and spend time together and have little adventures but never call them my partner I can.

If I want to do these things with multiple people at the same time I can.

If I want to call it hanging out instead of dating I can.

If I want to keep things private but also post us being silly on my close firends stories I can.

I can do anything I want to as long as all the parties in the relationship are happy and it's not hurting anyone.

Other people cannot define my relationships for me.

[yhowdy]

Pride month reminder that not everyone’s queer experience revolves around love

[koifishanonymous]

can we deromanticize kissing or are we still too deep in amatonormativity for that conversation :/ ?