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Hoooooly fuck painting is fun but holy shit it's taking so fucking long. Wow. I just wanted to give my friend a fun birthday gift but like... going overboard is an overexaggeration.

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part of the reason i love how bell hooks talks about masculinity is that she shows real compassion towards men suffering from the effects of toxic masculinity. she was conscious of how we need to unlearn the ways we talk about men + masculinity just as much as we need to unlearn the same for women + femininity. so many times ill see someone talking about toxic masculinity like (hyperbolizing here but only slightly) "these FUCKING STUPID BABY BITCHES won't MAN UP and go to a therapist!!!" and like. i get the anger. but you see feminists recreating patriarchal manhood by only promoting good behaviors through patriarchal frameworks. any use of the term "real men" is bad because it reifies the idea that manhood is a special title you must earn, and it is something possible to fail and fake. & as important as it is to promote sexual equality + the pleasure of non-cis-men, lots of people are essentially still working with the idea that men need sexual prowess to have worth but just shifting it slightly so there is more emphasis on women's pleasure. but I want cis men to think about their partners' pleasure because they care about their partners, not because they need to check a box in order to keep their man card. and don't get me started on small dick jokes– and the absolutely pitiful excuse people will use that "well, I don't believe it, but misogynistic men get upset when I say it, so it's okay!"

basically bell hooks is so fucking right. in order to create loving men we need to love men, simply for being alive, whether or not they are performing. as much as we need to actively unlearn misogyny (and we do), it's equally vital we unlearn patriarchal ways of seeing manhood. we can't just assume that taking a feminist perspective automatically means there is no work to be done there.

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♫ i am a poseur and i don't care ♫

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“If I had a dick I would stack donuts on it” well donut holes exist and you have a pussy so………?Get to filling

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i simply do not believe that transgender people with weird gender identities are ever the problem

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what fucking hell dimension are y’all blogging from

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some recent portraits of butches of color. via butchisnotadirtyword

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I made a bad post.

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Butches in crop tops, save me butches in crop tops.

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this wasnt televised but it STILL happened. this person was tackled and detained after this for holding a flag in solidarity with people going through a genocide

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it's miku monday !!!

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great, my post is in some sort of dungeon