#non-sam aro

[unrestrainedbalderdash]

Giving every aroallo, just aro, and non-asexual aromantic person a respectful nod, hug, high five, handshake, or smile

[mathematical-cheese]

Please remember aroace and aroallo do not form a binary. There are people in between and people outside of it

[feltedflyingfox]

LGBTQ+ Pokemon: Aromantic Spectrum pt 2

Aro Spec Celebi

Quoiromantic Celebi | Frayromantic Dratini | Non-SAM Celebi

Allosexual Aromantic Celebi | Aroflux Applin | Aroflux Larvitar

Akoiromantic Larvitar | Apothiromantic Applin | Arovague Minior

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

All of these are available on my shop!

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[chaotic-carnifex]

Okay so. Do you realize that when alloaros & non-SAM aros say that people think aromantic means the same thing as asexual, that they hear "aroace" or even just "ace" when we say "aro"... that we don't just mean online? Because it seems some of you really don't realize this.

Which is wild, bc even the people who make these mistakes online obviously also exist in the offline world? They don't know any better offline than they do online??

Some of you are really going "this is purely a niche online thing" and it's fucking bullshit. But yeah, keep telling me how I've never encountered this in offline queer spaces bc clearly aroace is only ever treated as the default state of aromanticism online, I'm sure you know better. /s

[bo-an-aro]

I’ve seen a bit of discourse on my dash lately concerning aspecs disrespecting each other’s boundaries and, for lack of anything better to do, and also due to personal frustrations on the matter, I figured I’d throw in my own two cents on the matter. The root issue is people always conflating aromanticity and asexuality; either mistakenly believing one cannot exist without the other also being present, or personally being unable to differentiate between them due to being aroace. The latter being perfectly valid, by the way. Although I technically also am bi, my aromantic identity is so overpowering that my bisexuality is little more than a footnote. I more commonly use the alloaro label. But because of this, I do find it annoying when I go browsing through the aromantic tag and am bombarded with asexual and/or aroace content. I’m looking for experiences like my own, after all, and although aros and aces have a lot in common, we are not exactly the same - a fact that non-sam aros and alloaros in particular still find ourselves having to defend from people who either don’t know any better or simply refuse to acknowledge it because they think sex without romance is a sin deserving of eternal damnation or whatever. You could say it’s a bit of a sore spot. I’m not begrudging aroaces their place in the aspec community, though. They belong. They deserve to share their experiences and find connections. Online spaces are for many people their only refuge and I would never want to take that away from anybody. But sharing a space with other people means respecting boundaries. Sometimes we’ll want to talk about certain topics and only want feedback from people who are in the exact same place. When others then chime in with additions that, though similar, are not fully and entirely related, it can feel incredibly invalidating, like they’re trying to derail the conversation - even if the intention was to bridge a gap and commiserate. It’s just not wanted, sometimes. So when someone asks people not to tag as ace or aro, but you’re aroace and cannot for the life of you understand why when the two are so closely intertwined in your heart - then that post is simply not for you. Even if you relate a lot. I’ve often come across posts from asexuals talking about their experiences and thought to myself, “Man, I feel that!” but I wouldn’t tag it as ‘aromantic’ if I were to reblog. Because it’s not. Please check the original poster’s tags and respect them. Simple as that. If you feel very strongly about it, remember that you are always free to make your own post and describe things from your perspective, and free to tag it as you like. Not everything is for me, and not everything is for you.

[anistarrose]

aromantic flags color picked from mabel's sweaters! (part 1)

aromantic:

[ID from alt: aromantic flag with green, light green, white, gray, and black stripes. Mabel's green flamingo sweater and green/yellow star sweater. End ID.]

aroallo:

[ID from alt: aroallo flag with green, light green, white, yellow, and gold stripes. Mabel's green puppy dog sweater, green flamingo sweater, and green/yellow star sweater. End ID.]

aroace:

[ID from alt: sunset aroace flag with orange, yellow, white, blue, and dark blue stripes. Mabel's blue UFO sweater, orange Ducktective sweater, and yellow/red unicorn sweater. End ID.]

non-split attraction aro:

[ID from alt: non-split attraction aro flag with blue, light blue, white, light green, and green stripes. Mabel's blue seahorse sweater and watermelon sweater. End ID.]

quoiromantic:

[ID from alt: quoiromantic flag with black, green, blue, and gray stripes. Mabel's blue disco ball sweater and green flamingo sweater. End ID.]

(part 2 here! happy aromantic spectrum awareness week!)

[atoast]

youre aro heart cards are so sweet 💚 would we be able to get some aroallo and non-SAM aro ones too for the homies?? ✨

Of course :]

Here is both aroallo (doesn't experience romantic attraction but does experience sexual attraction) and non-SAM aro (is simply and only aromantic). I actually learned about non-SAM aro from this; I found it very cool

If anybody wants, you can find the other ones here. Happy valentines day :]

[heartless-aro]

Instead of celebrating things that include the aromantic, asexual, and aroace flags/communities as “including the whole set,” we need to start asking why alloaros and non-SAM aros are not explicitly included where aroaces are.

[rjalker]

[ID: The asexual, aroace, and aromantic pride flags next to eachother, with text over top reading, "Asexual and aromantic are umbrella terms that represent every single person who identifies with them. You do not get to tell people they don't belong just because they don't fit your personal arbitrary definitions of what asexuality or aromanticism 'really' are or 'really' include. You do not get to define other people's orientations or experiences for them. You do not get to tell someone that something is 'only' an aromantic or 'only' an asexual experience.". End ID.]

Stop telling people they're not allowed to tag their posts as "aromantic" or "asexual" or "aroace" because you have decided that their personal experiences have nothing to do with what they've tagged their own post.

You are not the arbiter of what aromanticism and asexuality "really" mean. They mean different things to every person who experiences them.

You do not get to force your arbitrary definitions of what an aromantic or asexual or aroace experience "really is" onto anyone else.

Stop trying to exclude people from the literal gods damned terms that represent the entire community because you think they don't fit into your arbitrary definitions enough to be allowed in.

If you hate the diversity of experiences in the aromantic and asexual communities, you have a personal problem you need to deal with. And you do not get to exclude anyone else because of it.

The split attraction model is not mandatory.

Stop erasing and speaking over non-SAM aros aces and aroaces. You literally do not get to define our experiences for us.

Stop excluding people from the community for failing to live up to your arbitrary and strictly defined definitions.

Exclusionism will never help anyone.

[unrestrainedbalderdash]

Extra special happy Love Loses day to aroallos and non-SAM aros and all the aros that aren't ace

[papercranesandpride]

Shout out to all of the non-SAM aromantics and allosexual aromantics who decided to browse what exactly our fellow community members posted to get aromantic trending and found it was, inevitably, a whole lot of stuff about "stealing valentine's day for the aroaces," aroace headcanons, aroace pride, and "making sure asexuality and aromanticism trend for valentine's day" and just generally conflating aromanticism with asexuality and ignoring our existence yet again. I know I was very excited about seeing us get to have our moment in the spotlight, and then had it crushed by being erased and drowned out in my own community yet again.

Apparently some people don't realize that this holiday still sucks even if you're not ace, because it is much more of a holiday about love and celebrating your romantic partner than it is about sex.

It's always fun to be reminded why generally I stick to allo aro and loveless tags and avoid the main aro one like the plague. I'd rather not see a thousand aroace posts to every one that actually applies to me.

Anyway. As a perpetually angry alloaro, I see y'all.

[mathematical-cheese]

This aro week, remember arospecs who aren't (exactly) acespec

[cosmicredcadet]

So many people in the aro communities will say

"don't just assume that aro= aroace! Alloaros and non SAM aros exist!" (correct)

but then proceed to assume ace= alloace.

Like no, never having a crush on anyone can still be an ace experience actually, because non-SAM aces exist. And I hate how SAM using aros act like non-SAM aro means basically an alloaro who doesn't label their sexual attraction. That's not what my identity means actually! I am an user of only "aromantic" and no other label, because I don't experience attraction towards people regardless of gender and I am romance repulsed. I also can't separate my lack of attraction into sexual vs romantic vs other forms of attraction (hence non SAM user). I am not allosexual-lite just because I don't identity as asexual. Stop pretending as if I am challenge! I feel like I have more in common with non-SAM aces than aroallos or aroaces, despite being aro but not ace. That's why I hate how so many people in the aro communities act like non-ace aros don't/can't have anything in common with asexuals at all. That just feels kinda aphobic towards people like me tbh

I'm a SAM user so I can't really make comments about this ask but I want to share as a form of support because it genuinely is frustrating to see non-sam aspecs get thrown under the bus so often in favor of the weird separatism that's been happening amongst the community recently. You all deserve so much more respect and acknowledgement than you get.

[chaotic-carnifex]

Today's aro mood is the sheer fucking relief of becoming aromantic

[vo1d-ed1ts]

non-sam aro, aromantic, and alloaro icons of Toph Bei Fong made for aromantic spectrum awareness week! if anyone has any other characters they headcanon as being on the aromantic spectrum feel free to send in a moodboard/icon request, i really wanna make a crapload of edits for aro week!

[octolingplush]

reblogging stuff from the aroallo tag is kinda awkward like i feel like i’m idling in the corner

like yes i am reblogging because i 100% get the struggle of being pushed aside for more favorable combinations/identities. i’m aromantic, not asexual

and then i use the for you tab and get stuff about wanting to have sex and i’m like. ah yes. my niche is so niche it doesn’t exist