#non-sam aro

[unrestrainedbalderdash]

Giving every aroallo, just aro, and non-asexual aromantic person a respectful nod, hug, high five, handshake, or smile

[klavierpanda]

Please remember aroace and aroallo do not form a binary. There are people in between and people outside of it

[chaotic-carnifex]

Okay so. Do you realize that when alloaros & non-SAM aros say that people think aromantic means the same thing as asexual, that they hear "aroace" or even just "ace" when we say "aro"... that we don't just mean online? Because it seems some of you really don't realize this.

Which is wild, bc even the people who make these mistakes online obviously also exist in the offline world? They don't know any better offline than they do online??

Some of you are really going "this is purely a niche online thing" and it's fucking bullshit. But yeah, keep telling me how I've never encountered this in offline queer spaces bc clearly aroace is only ever treated as the default state of aromanticism online, I'm sure you know better. /s

[gdsplicer]

It does bother me a little that when you make a aro post about aros being assumed to be always asexual, people jump to assume that the only other party that exists in aromanticism are aroallos.

With all due respect, assuming that aroaces and aroallos at the only groups to exist in the aro community is just the same thing of assumption and it just proceeds to erase any aro that doesn't fit perfectly in one of those boxes for any reason.

And they're good boxes, don't get me wrong, but they're not the only boxes here.

[heartless-aro]

Instead of celebrating things that include the aromantic, asexual, and aroace flags/communities as “including the whole set,” we need to start asking why alloaros and non-SAM aros are not explicitly included where aroaces are.

[atoast]

youre aro heart cards are so sweet 💚 would we be able to get some aroallo and non-SAM aro ones too for the homies?? ✨

Of course :]

Here is both aroallo (doesn't experience romantic attraction but does experience sexual attraction) and non-SAM aro (is simply and only aromantic). I actually learned about non-SAM aro from this; I found it very cool

If anybody wants, you can find the other ones here. Happy valentines day :]

[rjalker]

[ID: The asexual, aroace, and aromantic pride flags next to eachother, with text over top reading, "Asexual and aromantic are umbrella terms that represent every single person who identifies with them. You do not get to tell people they don't belong just because they don't fit your personal arbitrary definitions of what asexuality or aromanticism 'really' are or 'really' include. You do not get to define other people's orientations or experiences for them. You do not get to tell someone that something is 'only' an aromantic or 'only' an asexual experience.". End ID.]

Stop telling people they're not allowed to tag their posts as "aromantic" or "asexual" or "aroace" because you have decided that their personal experiences have nothing to do with what they've tagged their own post.

You are not the arbiter of what aromanticism and asexuality "really" mean. They mean different things to every person who experiences them.

You do not get to force your arbitrary definitions of what an aromantic or asexual or aroace experience "really is" onto anyone else.

Stop trying to exclude people from the literal gods damned terms that represent the entire community because you think they don't fit into your arbitrary definitions enough to be allowed in.

If you hate the diversity of experiences in the aromantic and asexual communities, you have a personal problem you need to deal with. And you do not get to exclude anyone else because of it.

The split attraction model is not mandatory.

Stop erasing and speaking over non-SAM aros aces and aroaces. You literally do not get to define our experiences for us.

Stop excluding people from the community for failing to live up to your arbitrary and strictly defined definitions.

Exclusionism will never help anyone.

[docmerlin]

feeling very “queer as in fuck you” this arospec awareness week so i channeled my rage into fun little designs, feel free to use them however if u like them

colors are representative of (in order):

aromantic | aroallo

aroace (1) | aroace (2)

non-SAM aro | relationship anarchy

[papercranesandpride]

Shout out to all of the non-SAM aromantics and allosexual aromantics who decided to browse what exactly our fellow community members posted to get aromantic trending and found it was, inevitably, a whole lot of stuff about "stealing valentine's day for the aroaces," aroace headcanons, aroace pride, and "making sure asexuality and aromanticism trend for valentine's day" and just generally conflating aromanticism with asexuality and ignoring our existence yet again. I know I was very excited about seeing us get to have our moment in the spotlight, and then had it crushed by being erased and drowned out in my own community yet again.

Apparently some people don't realize that this holiday still sucks even if you're not ace, because it is much more of a holiday about love and celebrating your romantic partner than it is about sex.

It's always fun to be reminded why generally I stick to allo aro and loveless tags and avoid the main aro one like the plague. I'd rather not see a thousand aroace posts to every one that actually applies to me.

Anyway. As a perpetually angry alloaro, I see y'all.

[eyobis-andthe-bunnycats]

It’s the start of Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week! Here are more larger, free-to-use, no need to credit, Aro-Spec buns. Joining us this year are the non-SAM Bun and the Loveless Bun.

[ID Start: Four icons of various aromantic spectrum identities’ flags all with “aro-spec as heck” curving around a binkying dark brown dutch rabbit. First is the Non-SAM aro flag: blue, light blue, white, light green, green. Second is Loveless Aro; Dark grey, grey, light grey, green, light green, green, light grey, grey, dark grey. Third is Demi Aro; A black triangle on left points towards the middle over three stripes white, green, and grey, with the green stripe being thinner. Fourth is the Grey Aro flag: green, grey, white, grey, green. /End ID.]

This link will take you to the post with buns of Aro-spec, Allo-Aro, Aro-Ace, and Aro flags. This one is for Aro-flux, fray, orchid, and cupio! And this one for akio/lith, aego, abro, and angled aro ace. More coming as ASAW 2023 continues. If you want to request a specific aro flag, send me an ask or DM and I’ll make it!

[redysetdare]

So many people in the aro communities will say

"don't just assume that aro= aroace! Alloaros and non SAM aros exist!" (correct)

but then proceed to assume ace= alloace.

Like no, never having a crush on anyone can still be an ace experience actually, because non-SAM aces exist. And I hate how SAM using aros act like non-SAM aro means basically an alloaro who doesn't label their sexual attraction. That's not what my identity means actually! I am an user of only "aromantic" and no other label, because I don't experience attraction towards people regardless of gender and I am romance repulsed. I also can't separate my lack of attraction into sexual vs romantic vs other forms of attraction (hence non SAM user). I am not allosexual-lite just because I don't identity as asexual. Stop pretending as if I am challenge! I feel like I have more in common with non-SAM aces than aroallos or aroaces, despite being aro but not ace. That's why I hate how so many people in the aro communities act like non-ace aros don't/can't have anything in common with asexuals at all. That just feels kinda aphobic towards people like me tbh

I'm a SAM user so I can't really make comments about this ask but I want to share as a form of support because it genuinely is frustrating to see non-sam aspecs get thrown under the bus so often in favor of the weird separatism that's been happening amongst the community recently. You all deserve so much more respect and acknowledgement than you get.

[klavierpanda]

Allosexuality and asexuality do not form a binary. In fact both form spectra of their own that mix and a person's relationship to them can be quite complicated. Moreover, it is possible to completely be neither and I'm tired of people making people choose.

I am non-sam aro, I am just aro, and my sexual attraction is so heavily influenced by my aroness that it doesn't make sense to me to label it separately. From what I have read of other non-sam aros' experiences, this isn't even uncommon.

All of this also applies to alloromanticism and aromanticism too.

Destroy the idea that there is an allo/a binary.

[chaotic-carnifex]

Today's aro mood is the sheer fucking relief of becoming aromantic

[queersekai]

hi! im so glad i found your blog! :) may i request (the red striped one) juxera loveless aromantic mafuyu, agender woman (one label) alloace mizuki, non-sam aro lovequeer kanade, and intersex aroace (sunset flag pls) ena?

[rjalker]

"what does not wanting to date have to do with being ace?!?!"

"what does not wanting to have sex with people have to do with being aro?!?!"

The current amisic stance is just as ridiculous as it sounds.

It's 2024 and people hate aroaces and non-SAM aros and aces so much they're literally trying to define us out of asexuality and aromanticism because they want the asexual and aromantic tags to literally be For Allos Only. I'm not even fucking joking.

the split attraction model is not mandatory. You literally do not ever get to demand people use it.

The asexual tag is for literally every single asexual person in existance. Not just allo aces.

the aromantic tags is for every single aromantic person I existance. Not just allo aros.

You do not get to ban aroaces and non-SAM aros and aces from using the main general tags for the fucking community just because you're allo and completely separate your romantic attraction from your sexual attraction.

Your experiences are not universal.

There is no fucking definition in existence that separates sexual and romantic attraction.

You literally do not have the right or ability to define other people's orientations or experiences to them.

"well I can easily separate my sexual attraction from romantic, so that means everyone can!"

No we fucking can't and newsflash, asshole, we're literally not even required to try! No other fucking orientation comes with the demand to forcibly separate sexual from romantic attraction. The fact that you think it's okay to demand this of aspec people just shows you're blatantly amisic.

The allo aros and allo ace tags exist. Use them if you hate seeing aroaces and non-SAM aros and aces existing so much.

If you hate seeing posts in the aromantic and asexual tags that don't conform to your personal definitions of asexuality and aromanticism that is literally just too fucking bad. Suck it up you whiny fucking self entitled brat. The world does not revolve around you.

If you hate aces and aros and aroaces so much you want to define us out of the aspec community to make sure allos are the only ones allowed...you will be the laughing stock of the whole fucking community. Get over yourself.