#alloace

[potatoesarecheese]

Hey gang, what if we didn't talk about relationships like they were hierarchies

[custardconsumer]

“STOP HEAD-CANNONING/MAKING VILLAINS ARO/ACE/AROACE ITS DEMONISING PEOPLE ON THE AROACE SPECTR-“

sshh…no…keeping doing it…i fw the villains they’re my kin. You mean bill cipher, the baddest b in the multiverse is aroace just like me? yes king welcome to the club happy to have you 😍

(not saying bill is aroace just saying at lot of ppl headcanon him as that and im using him as an example DONT YELL AT ME)

(but yes also making villains aroace cuz they’re “evil” and “cant feel love” is bad dont do that plz lol i was being silly)

[leikeliscomet]

'Sexual attraction exists but romantic attraction is a construct' 'Sex is real but romance isn't' 'Sex is needed in queer revolution but romance isn't' 'Sex is a need but love isn't' 'We need to push back on sex negativity but romance should be abolished'

Is this not compulsory sexuality? Is centering sex above all forms of relationships and intimacies not compulsory sexuality? Is arguing people's attractions, intimacies and relationships are fake because there's no sex not reactionary? Is this not the very thing this community was made against? Because if this was said in reverse about sex we'd rightfully flag it as reactionary so I have no idea why this is spouted as pro-queer, pro-aspec politic. It's anything but.

[fagbearentertainment]

I wanna see how much of the tumbr user base is queer so I made this 😋

Reblog for larger sample size! ☺️

[brazilianturtle]

every queer person deserves at least one pair of fingerless gloves

[tonitheloftwing]

Meme inspired by me, an aroallo, being absolutely gobsmacked by the concept of Too Hot to Handle

[thepileofclothesonyourdesk]

[doomvoidjelly]

people can be aromantic and not asexual. People can be asexual and not aromantic. Holy shit I wish people didn’t use those terms interchangeably.

this applies to real life, of course, but I see people in fandom do this all the time. A character can be aromantic coded and not asexual coded and vis versa. not every aspec coded character is aroace and I wish more people recognized that some characters are better read as aroallo

[simbistardis]

Happy ace week to my Black asexuals, Black demis, Black greys, ace studs, ace stems, ace femmes/fish and everyone else in between

[reggieslocket]

reblog to scare the aphobes

[zillywalten]

Hey, if you treat QPRs as lesser than romantic relationships, I do not like you.

Like, don't say “they're at least in a QPR”, or “I don't ship characters, most I can do is QPR”

All relationships are equal, stop using hierarchies for them.

[abookwasallittooktomakemeacrook]

"and historians said they were bestest of friends" they were. they were both aro/ace and in a qpr

[leikeliscomet]

When it comes to asexual allyship a lot of people wanna have their cake and eat it too (pun unintended). People like a lil 'aces are valid' moment but don't actually unpack compulsory sexuality. People see sexless queer representation and always clock puritanism before they ever clock asexuality. No one's actually reading the ace theory and texts coming out. Everyone keeps doing surprised Pikachu faces whenever a conservative or TERF says they're against asexuality despite the fact ace activists have been saying since day conservatives are not anti sex but anti sexual autonomy. 'Aces are queer' until we actually are. Even ace support posts keep ending with some expectation or condition that asexuality is #valid as long as asexuals still perform a small quota of sex/sexual activity. I'm so over 'Aces still have sex!' 'Aces are hot' Aces are sexy' 'Aces aren't virgin vanilla prude sexless puritans!' disguised as support.

Like no. Sorry. Until you accept that some asexual people's no is permanent, that some asexual's singleness is permanent, that some asexual's childless-ness is permanent, that some asexuals are the 'no' in little to no sexual attraction and i'd say most importantly, that queer sexlessness isn't a biological, social or moral failing, I don't believe you'll ever genuinely support asexuality. (In reverse, I also feel similar about aromanticism and romance).

Like a lot of u haven't gone beyond 'the a isn't for ally' and it shows. I don't want people to support asexuals just because we're soooo hot or because we write the best smut apparently or because we could have hypothetical sex or because we could do hypothetical kink or because our minds are soooo dirty actually or because we'd do romance reallllyyyy well or because we can still have kids or because asexuals hand out water bottles at the orgy or some shit. I want people to support asexuality because no sexuality is deviant and it's basic human decency.

EDIT: U lot really like this post huh. Well it's blown up again and the point's been lost so let's wrap that up:

'But op, some asexuals DO have sex/I'm an acespec that has sex/I'm a non asexual person what about meeee :(' pt 2, pt 3

'There's asexual studies OP??/Where's the asexual studies OP?'

EDIT 2: Yeah I'm locking this one up until u lot get better reading comprehension. If you genuinely, unironically, deadass believe this post is anti-sex favourable, anti-demi, anti-grey, pro-gold star/black stripe ace or even TERF rhetoric for saying asexuals don't need to have sex to be supported as human beings then compulsory sexuality has a done an absolute number one you. Read asexual theory. Look at the follow up posts I'm so tired of repeating myself.

[bloomshroomz]

Imagine

[ihhfhonao3]

You know that smut you like? Y’know, the really, REALLY good one? You know that one? Yeah?

An asexual wrote that.

And that really good romantic fluff you like? The really cute one, the domestic fluff? Y’know that one?

An aromantic wrote that.

So before you go to sleep reading fanfiction tonight, be sure to thank all the asexuals and aromantics that are writing your favorite fics!

Because no, we are not the pure little children you think we are.

Everybody say thank you a-specs!

Thank you a-specs!

Alright, I’ll let you go now :3