#ace tings

[leikeliscomet]

I'm gonna be completely honest I'm starting to get tired of people going 'aces can have sex' 'asexuality is a SPECTRUM' in my reblogs every time I post about asexuality where I literally haven't implied or said otherwise and I've honestly thought about deleting some of them. Like... I know guys. I know. I'm either speaking on my own experience which isn't sex favourable or from a Black and/or lesbian POV of asexuality which would include sex favourable aces anyway so it should go without saying.

It's getting similar to how I see 'lesbians can have sex with men'. I'm fully aware lesbians have the physical means to do so, but I wouldn't wanna hear that in a lesbian space for centring the experiences of people who don't, especially lesbians who were coerced and/or forced into doing so. As long as lesbophobia exists, that statement can't be neutral and the wider context will always shape how I see it. I don't need to be reminded I can conform to the thing I'm actively going against. I don't want to and I can't.

We can acknowledge how diverse and varied a community is but it's disingenuous to pretend there's a single uniform experience throughout. Going 'everyone is valid' is cute but it doesn't address the specific problem, which is compulsory sexuality. In this case, the constant need to derail sex repulsed, averse and indifferent aces in our own posts and conversations does compulsory sexuality's job for it. I'm reminded of my 'wasted' sexual potential on a regular basis I don't need my own community doing it too.

As respectfully as possible, not every single asexual post is gonna personally represent you. I don't go into aro spaces and expect to be centred or represented because those weren't made for me and that's okay. Asexuality is a wide spectrum with lots of sides. I'm not part of all those sides and that's okay.

[the-siren-in-your-fridge]

Man I’d love to be kissed but mouths are so gross. The very thing I desire repulses me. I am nothing but a thing for god to laugh at when he gets bored

[littleplantfreak]

Calling my F/O by their first name constantly as if we’ve been married for years unless I’m mad at them for something EYE made them do in my daydreams

[caffeiiine]

i fear the Ace Attorney pun names have followed me to mock trial, i haven’t even gone through the full case yet and ive found 3 pun names.

[fliesandtherainfall]

Amazon: expected delivery April 02

me already at my window:

[kafkaoftherubble]

Here's your reward for that wall of text. It's general Godot! I think he'd been like a trickster crossed with a dark mage. Low speed, high defense, dark magic and the cool bonus of a sword. I drew this yesterday and kinda regret not giving him a two handed sword though. He deserves one.

Said wall of text is this magnificent piece.

[doubleedgemode]

I've always hated my room, it's so gloomy and dreary. Always the dark, for the windows just face the back yard.

You seemed so far away, though you were standing near.

Phew I finally finished this! Here's the version with no lighting effects. Dramatic lighting does make a difference sometimes.

[altruistic-meme]

how is it that, for all the fucking times i have bleached my hair, it is only NOW that my mom went "huh. ya know. maybe the reason that your hair goes strawberry blond when we bleach it is because you have fucking red in your hair." like YOU KNOW WHAT THAT'S KIND OF OBVIOUS ISN'T IT. WHY DID I LITERALLY NOT EVEN CONSIDER THAT BEFORE.

[katspause]

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I suspect David & Michael’s personalities being opposite to the characters they play on Good Omens brings added depth. Crowley gets to be loveable and Aziraphale gets to be bitchy and they're both pure delight to watch

[inspector-montoya-fox]

Lol

[princessacexsnake]

The Gangreen Gang all on a boat while enjoying ice cream cookie sandwiches here!

Made by me! (x)

[leikeliscomet]

There's this cognitive dissonance where despite asexuals being such a tiny part of the population, 'justifying' compulsory sexuality because there aren't 'enough' of us to change the idea every human is a sexual being even when we're living proof that's not the case, there's a constant need to reinforce it even though it's the 'norm'.

I keep noticing the constant affirmations we have to keep telling non-ace people in conversations and spaces originally meant for ourselves, that asexual partners can fail to meet the sexual needs of non-ace people, that sex is a part of the human experience, that our needs aren't the same as most people, even though cisheterosexual society reaffirms this on the regular (for cishet people) and ace spaces are essentially the only spaces that exist to decentre this (and no, monasteries don't count). We have to keep distancing ourselves from sexual puritanism because it's assumed to be innate to us even though the lawmakers and politicians controlling sex in media, birth control, abortion, marriage rights and the idea of sexuality in society are not asexual. We have to remind people we're safe as if our little to no sexual attraction and/or activity is inherently a danger even though puritans harm us too because they don't support asexuality either. Whenever there's an ace of multiple identities there are instant calls to remind people not to desexualise, infantilise or sanitise marginalised people and remind people of the 'inherent' sexuality of these groups, that '[label here] fucks too!1' even though, representation for gay, lesbian, bi, pan, trans, disabled and POC on mass has rarely included asexuality in the first place. Despite being a teeny part of the human population, being 'abnormal', 'gender ideology' and a 'chronically online tumblr teen' phenomenon that has no real meaning in the real world, it's strong enough to cause this level of defensiveness. Some people are deeply threatened, disturbed and uncomfortable by a tiny minority solely on the basis that it's visible and existing.

And this is why I call asexuality queer and will keep doing so and idc who's pissed about it lol

[the-siren-in-your-fridge]

Being aroace with a squish is really like. You look so nice and cute and pretty (not like that), I’d like to snuggle up in bed with you (not like that) and play with your hair (not like that) and lay there for a while (not like that) and hold your hand all the time (not like that) and hang out with you one-on-one (not like that) and get to you know you on a deep and personal level (not like that)

[ace-and-the-rpg-horrors]

so in case you didn't notice by my recent reblog spree

i finished reading Loveless by Alice Oseman

[ghost-tings]

love them for that

apparently someone in Edinburgh has been updating the street signs for pride

[thedarkrose17]

Even though I like 14 I don't think I like/love it as much as I love 15

I dunno if it's weird to say that or not but just I'm more attached to my characters vs the actual characters/teammates I guess?

There's some I favour ish but even then if anything happened to them I don't think I'd cry 😅 maybe be a little sad but that's about it