#romance indifferent

[romance-evil-aro]

IT IS OKAY TO HAVE COMPLICATED FEELINGS ABOUT ROMANCE!!!!!! IT IS OKAY TO NOT BE ROMANCE REPULSED OR ROMANCE FAVOURABLE!!!! IT IS OKAY IF YOUR FEELINGS ON ROMANCE DEPEND ON CONTEXT!!!! IT IS OKAY IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR FEELINGS ON ROMANCE ARE!!!!

[asphyxiatedredherring]

Hey, just so you know, it's ok for your feelings to fluctuate. It's ok to be sex or romance repulsed one day and not the next. It's ok to be indifferent one day and favorable the next. It's ok it you think you're sex repulsed and then realize maybe you're sex adverse. It's ok to be romance indifferent one moment and adverse the next. It's ok. Your experiences are valid.

[1helen1grace1]

Celibacy is a choice. But being romance favourable, romance ambivalent, romance indifferent, romance repulsed, sex repulsed, sex indifferent, sex ambivalent, and sex favourable are things you're either born as or become because of your experiences. And being allosexual, asexual, aromantic, and alloromantic are what you're born as.

[tator---tot]

To the Aro-spec community

The first/top "Aro only (spec) and Romance-Repulsed" button is meant to say "Romance-Favourable" and or go to this poll

Romance-favorable: Interested romantic relations and or romantic interactions whether experiencing romantic attraction or not.

Romance-indifferent: Neutral feelings, neither repulsed nor in favor of romantic relations and or romantic interactions.

Romance-repulsed: Disliking to feeling repulsion towards romantic relations and or romantic interactions whether experiencing romantic attraction or not.

I may make more polls for ace-specs sex stances and aroace-specs romance and sex stances.

[mogai-headcanons]

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Reagan Ridley from Inside Job is an aterspec arospec allorospec bi demijuxera casswoman trans man who uses she/her, they/them, and he/him pronouns!

His boyfriend Ron Staedtler is a bi kenoboy who uses he/him and they/them pronouns!

Brett Hand is a romance-indifferent sex-favorable straight aroallospec aroacespec aroallace man who uses he/him pronouns!

Gigi Thompson is a bi woman who uses she/her pronouns!

Andre Lee is an aroallo pansexual nonbinary man who uses they/them, he/him, and any neopronouns!

Glenn Dolphman is biflux and uses he/him pronouns, and he's considering using neopronouns!

Myc Cellium is a queer maverique being who uses they/them and it/its pronouns!

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[aroace-and-has-a-mace]

The different ‘parts’ of a-spec

if that title makes no sense, bear with me. so, if you’ve heard terms like ‘sex (or romance) repulsed’ or similar things, you might know what I mean here. there are several different views on sex/romance in a-spec identities, so i’m gonna explain them (badly, probably).

sex/romance-repulsed: someone who is disgusted by the idea of having sex/romance, or generally sexual situations.

sex/romance-averse: someone (like me!) who does not want to have sex/romance (not repulsed/disgusted by it, but doesn’t want to have it)

sex/romance-indifferent: someone who is not against having sex/romance, but doesn’t find it personally gratifying

sex/romance-favorable: someone who enjoys having sex/romance in certain situations (or under certain circumstances)

so, yeah! thanks for reading my aroace bullshit (also, someone can feel differently about romance than they do about sex, it’s not always the same)

[our-arospec-experience]

I'm allo, but I do have a question so i can better understand this friend of mine, if that's cool! Is there a difference between being grayromantic and being a romance-indifferent aromantic? If so, what's the difference?

I’m glad you’re making an effort to understand your friend! romance-indifferent means that the person has no strong feelings regarding the concept of romance. grayromantic on the other hand, means that the individual can fall in love, but does so infrequently, possibly due to certain conditions. in short, romance indifferent is an attitude towards romance, while grayromantic is an identity describing people who infrequently fall in love.

[aroaceconfessions]

I call myself asexual but haven’t done a whole lot of self-searching into my identity. I’m just me. I am in my late 20s and have never been in a serious relationship or had sex, and while I’m still not particularly interested in either I guess I feel curious about what it’s like to do those things. I’d like to have a better perspective on what all the songs are about. I wonder if I should put the effort in just to see how it feels. I mean, people get tattoos or go skydiving out of curiosity. I think if dating were as simple as booking an appointment and spending a few hours sitting in a chair — well that’s actually what a lot of dates are like… But I haven’t done anything beyond a few first/second dates that didn’t go badly but I didn’t feel anything, and I’m not sure what I’m so nervous about. I’m watching friends move in together, get married, start families, and I feel like I’m doing really well except for this one huge area of my life where I’ve just not put in the effort. If I try and still don’t feel anything, will my curiosity be sated or just keep wondering? If I wind up in the early stages of a relationship how do I explain myself when I don’t have any experience or even really understand what I’m looking for?

Submitted May 17, 2023

[xavzii]

im definitely somewhere between romance adverse and romance repulsed, at least as of recent

i dont mind aesthetic romance like from books or shows or stuff. thats all fictional, so it clearly cant hurt me. i actually used to really like it. but when it comes to the people around me..? i cant do that. i actively feel sick to my stomach whenever i think about someone liking me, or even someone liking some one else. romance in real life literally hurts my soul

[ijustwannamakeemojis]

[ID: Five pixel hearts of various flags in order being Romance Favorable, Romance Repulsed, Romance Ambivalent, Romance Indifferent and Romance Averse. End ID]

Wiki user? Romance Averse

@beyond-mogai-pride-flags the rest

[romance-evil-aro]

romance repulsed aros and romance favourable aros are both cool and valid but because i never see anything about us: shoutout to romance indifferent aros. romance neutral aros. aros who just couldn't care less. aros who have a conflicted relationship with romance. aros who are fine with romance in some contexts but not in others. aros who don't mind romance when it's not amatonormativity being shoved down their throats. aros who haven't yet figured out their feelings about romance. aros to whom romance is Just Something That Exists. y'all are rad as hell and it's okay not to 'pick a side'!!

[wishfularoace]

hello! i have rambling sleep deprived thoughts™ about feelings to unnecessarily scream into the Tumblr void on this lovely lovely night!! -

okay so after years of refusing to think about labels for feelings, because it seemed just too painful and complicated, I alas am starting to think more about if i’m actually romance-repulsed?

because I spent sooooo much of my life going “eww romance” even to fictional love stories. that is until I discovered ✨sapphic romance stories✨ and was like ohhhh alright I like the idea of that lol

but then I realized I was definitely on the aromantic spectrum, and didn’t even want to think about anything involving emotions for awhile, until I discovered what qpr’s were and realized I definitely ADORED the idea of having a qpp

but what makes it even more complicated is the fact that like certain romantic actions that could also happen in like a qpr, I like the idea of? but I don’t know if i’d actually like them in a real life situation

and so then now I legitimately don’t know if i’m romance repulsed. and how much of my unsure-ness about it is because of my accidental “ew romance” programming, how much if it is just not having irl experiences, and how much if it is actual romance repulsion?

and all of that makes it seem impossible to ever find a qpp to figure it out with :/

[thearoacemoon]

I'm very aromantic. I think I flow from romance-indifferent to romance-averse. I run from romance-coded stuff, the only romantic thing I allow in my life is cute couples in queer books.

Today I googled what means to have a Venus in Libra. The result:

"Venus in Libra makes someone a true romantic to their core! They thrive in relationships and are often looking for their mirror image or perfect partner. People with this placement crave balance, peace and being surrounded by beauty. They will strive to keep the peace and establish harmony wherever they go."

Everything about it is soon wroooong!

I don't believe in horoscope, I just find it curious. It's also annoying to me that everytime I say I'm a "Scorpio sun, Taurus moon and Leo rising" people just say: "You have trust issues!" And don't say anything positive. That's it? I'm nothing good? I'm just "trust issues"?

Anyway, that was a vent… sorry 😅

[mogaispiderpunk]

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[aro-bird]

Here's me begging people again to learn the difference because I've been seeing more and more people confuse these terms when discussing some things in the ace community:

Sex-Favorable - A descriptor that refers to a person's personal feelings about engaging in the act of sex that specifically refers to them being fine and even enthusiastic in engaging in sex and other sexual acts. Often confused by some as Sex-Positivity.

Sex-Positive - A moral or political position that refers to a positive outlook on sex as something positive and something that should not be shamed for any consenting persons regardless of their own personal feelings towards sexual acts on themselves.

Sex-Indifferent - A descriptor that refers to a person's personal feelings about engaging in the act of sex that specifically refers to them being indifferent in engaging in sex and other sexual acts.

Sex-Neutral - A moral or political position that refers to an indifferent outlook on sex. They may not have strong feelings about it one way or another.

Sex-Averse - A descriptor that refers to a person's personal feelings about engaging in the act of sex that specifically refers to them being averse in engaging in sex and other sexual acts. Often confused by some as sex-repulsion.

Sex-Repulsed - A descriptor that refers to a person's personal feelings about engaging in the act of sex that specifically refers to them being repulsed or disgusted by thoughts or material related to sex. This has no bearing on their own political/moral position on sex. Often confused by some as Sex-Aversion or even Sex-Negativity.

Sex-Negative - A moral or political position that refers to a negative view on sex as something negative and something that should be forbidden and only be a means of procreation. Some people who are sex-negative may only view it as a way to procreate so people who engage in the activity without any plans of procreation (and especially members of the queer community) may be deemed as immoral or even evil.

If we're going to have proper discussions of these things, please please please can we use the proper terms. I need to stop feeling fight or flight whenever I see someone trying to vent about "some rude sex-positive aces" or see someone proclaim that they're "sex-negative" like I'm serious. I keep on having to double-take whenever I have to read posts and discussions because of this.