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drew this post as a comic because its so fucking funny to me

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I think there's something to be said about the difference between "has privilege" and "oppressor class", at least the way I see it.

Example, I do not for a moment, believe that perisex trans people are an oppressor class to intersex people. I believe that perisex trans people in many contexts do have privilege over intersex people for the fact they are perisex. I also believe the majority of perisex trans people are intersexist to some extent. This is mostly just due to ignorance, and being raised under perinormativity. Rather than any specific hatred towards intersex people.

But I do not believe perisex trans people as a group, are in any way responsible for intersexist systems of oppression. By virtue of being sex variant, perisex trans people share more in common with us being oppressed under perinormativity than they do with perisex cis people. I personally feel far safer and more at home with perisex trans people than I do with perisex cis people, because of that shared struggle.

This is why a lot of my intersex activism is specifically targeted towards helping the trans community generally be more welcoming and understanding of intersex people. We are natural allies to one another.

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Call me crazy but I do think that trying to apply a cisgender based framework of gendered oppression onto intercommunity trans dynamics — in any capacity — will always have one major, glaringly obvious point of failure, which is:

NONE of us are fucking cisgender and the gendered privileges afforded by cisgender society are never genuinely or fully afforded to ANY of us.

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I think it's time to exchange "you can only grow when you're uncomfortable" with "you can't grow without sometimes being uncomfortable, but you can't thrive without also experiencing safety and comfort." Getting better isn't supposed to be a process of constant suffering. We shouldn't aim for a state of constant discomfort in the name of growing as a person, and if you're deeply uncomfortable all the time then something is probably really wrong

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The way that Elizabeth Bennet is tricked by Wickham is so important because it's confirmation bias and we are all so susceptible to it. Of course Elizabeth ate up everything negative Wickham said about Darcy with a spoon, it's what she already thought! Wickham checked first. Once he knew Elizabeth hated Darcy, he fed her ego by letting her know that not only was she right, but she was special and smart for seeing through Darcy's wealth and status.

"The world is blinded by his fortune and consequence, or frightened by his high and imposing manners, and sees him only as he chooses to be seen." - Wickham, Ch 16

The world is blind, but not Elizabeth! Not with her supreme powers of perception and character reading. She sees the "real" Darcy...

And then of course, the best warning Elizabeth gets about Wickham (and I'll admit it's not a great one) is from Caroline Bingley, a woman she detests (I cut out the snobbery around it):

"Let me recommend you, however, as a friend, not to give implicit confidence to all his assertions; for, as to Mr. Darcy’s using him ill, it is perfectly false: for, on the contrary, he has been always remarkably kind to him, though George Wickham has treated Mr. Darcy in a most infamous manner. I do not know the particulars, but I know very well that Mr. Darcy is not in the least to blame; that he cannot bear to hear George Wickham mentioned..." Caroline Bingley, Ch 18

Elizabeth's judgment isn't perfect, it's highly subject to bias. Jane Austen's understanding of the human condition was amazing. She set Elizabeth's deception up in such an accurate way it could be in a modern social psychology textbook. Of course she believed Wickham; of course she discounted Caroline, it's human nature.

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spinning silver is funny as fuck because the staryk king and miryem arranged their own arranged marriage. like they're both complaining and furious but they came up with that idea themselves

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I think it’s time to dig up old Victorian dead people names

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If I was in a fanfiction and started coughing up flowers while working at a flower shop (because this is a flower shop au) I would NOT connect my crush on the tattoo artist next door to the flower cough situation. I would freak the fuck out and think the pollen at work was doing some Last of Us shit to me, quit my job and move FAR away. inadvertently my flame for the tattoo artist would fade with distance, solving my hanahaki situation and proving my 'the flowers were trying to turn me into a plant zombie' theory

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Their beauty is breathtaking 🩷

Beautiful women named Air Quality Alert are messaging me

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currently listening to The Goblin Emperor for the first time

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immediately the best thing I noticed about the goblin emperor is that everyone’s ears move and do stuff, why have long ears if they aren’t going to be used narratively

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You'd better fix that then. No one else can feel it for you - only you can let it in.

I have never felt rain.

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"why do you write?" because it’s the only way to silence the characters pacing around my brain like victorian ghosts with unresolved issues that prevent them from moving on.

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me: "hey i think i might be bisexual."

friend: "that's cool, thanks for letting me know."

lois griffin after getting turned into a gas station:

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social media needs to add multiple tiers of blocking someone

I should be able to differentiate between "you seem perfectly nice but I do not enjoy seeing your posts," "you view the world through an ideological framework that I find flawed at best and repellent at worst," and, of course, "I Am Killing You With My Mind"