#alterous attraction

[midnightcrisisstuff]

actually no, we're not "dating". we're bound together for infinity. like the stars. so, fuck you, actually.

[tremendously-crazy]

"No guy wants a girl who-" "No guy is gonna want you if-"

original image from @sirompp

[teleportzz]

hey guys do the allos know that they can have qprs too? like do they know that being alloromantic doesn't mean they can't choose to be in a qpr anyway? because qprs aren't "romance-lite" for aros, they're an entirely separate kind of relationship that anyone can have. you can do this with fictional characters too. you can put characters that aren't aroace or are even canonically dating in qprs with each other just because you think that would be a cool way to play with their dynamic. it's actually very cool and you totally should.

[wishfularoace]

does anyone want to be best friends that also live together and go on adventures together but like mundane adventures like ikea and target and also wants to lay our heads on each others shoulders when sleepy but also have separate bedrooms but also enjoy spending most of our free time together……. just me? ok

[dragondoodling]

When your actual label is not well know so you just use the broader label that’s isn’t quite right but you would rather people know what you’re talking about than explain yourself for the thousandth time

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

For me being in a qpr lately is like. No we're not dating. Yes this is my boyfriend isn't he great and lovely and handsome aren't I lucky. No I don't want anyone to mistake us for romantic partners. Yes I want to marry him. No we're not "just friends". Yes I don't want people to think our friendship matters less than our love. No I don't care what people think. Yes I want you to know that we're each other's and each other's alone. No I've never had a crush on him. Yes, I love him with all my heart and soul.

[twigstarpikachutroll22]

Reblog for something aspec to happen to you this summer

[isapun]

queerplatonic attraction is so weird. i wanna friend this man so bad. i wanna put him in my pocket. heck, I wanna play DND with him.

[python-nebula]

being in the arcane fandom rn as an aspec person is a very interesting experience because so many people (because of jayvik) seem to only now be realising that there's more types of love than just platonic, romantic and sexual and that the lines can blur

honestly it's quite nice to see

[the-aaaaa-battery]

Being aroace but also feeling a tertiary form of attraction (alterous attraction) was one of the most confusing parts of my identity to figure out. Before I knew what alterous attraction was, I only knew sexual, romantic, platonic, sensual, and aesthetic attraction.

I had a crush on one of my friends (and I still do). It made me kind of scared because at that point, I was 99% certain I was aroace, and I couldn't tell if I was experiencing romantic attraction or not. I didn't like the idea of dating and I didn't like the word "romance," and yet I also felt like I wanted to be more than friends with that person.

It wasn't until months after discovering I had a crush that I learned about alterous attraction. I liked the definition and I thought that if fit me best, so I started to use it to describe my crush. I felt way more confident using aroace again, because it felt right! And I had a way of explaining my feelings for my crush.

But oh my God, it was so hard to figure out.

Shoutout to people who are confused about their identity right now! Gender and sexuality is tough to figure out, but it's okay to question.

[starfishinthedistance]

If you're alloromantic and have ever said anything along the lines of "QPRs are literally just friendships, you guys are just friends stop trying to be special lol" then I am legally allowed to hunt you for sport

[tremendously-crazy]

Pov: You've never had a good, proper friendship before, so the moment you have one with a boy, you convince yourself that you like him, and then you do all the things people do when they like someone, (complimenting them, trying to spend time with them, talking to them, thinking about them 24/7), only for things to get stressful and anxiety enducing when you both confess to each other because you don't REALLY know what its like to love/like someone romantically and everything he does grosses you out and now you're just texting him for hours but he won't even look at you in real life and LOOK NEW HYPERFIXATION!! GOODBYE KID MY NEW LOVE IS SHERLOCK HOLMES

[luxlitemidnight]

Just a reminder that even if you know like, all the labels, you can still discover things about yourself. I figured out yesterday I'm oriented aroace (alterous attraction) when I've known the term oriented aroace probably since 2020 and have been dating my partner since 2022. Anyways, hello oriented aroaces!

[alterouslyinlove]

oh to live with your qpp. oh to be in separate rooms or bunk beds but always join each other if we need to. oh to dance in the kitchen and make meals together. oh to cuddle while watching a movie. oh to have our time to our selves but still be close to each other. oh to be able to say i love you irl and any time you want. oh to own a cat together. oh to go grocery shopping together. oh to sit on the porch and watch the stars together. oh to simply be with one another. wouldn’t that be great.

[fluidly-polymorphic]

Relationship but we’re both aromantic and tell people we’re “dating” but only we know we aren’t.

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

head over heels (queerplatonically)