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happy 6 months to me and my gf 🥰

her.

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filled with so much appreciation for my gf today and always but especially today, because she listens to my rambling about the complex relationship between my queerness and sikhi and she also shares a queer sikhi blog she found when she was learning more about it.

to be loved is to be seen!!! :’)

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the love of your life doesn't need to be even at all romantic, just saying

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I've been informed that romantic dating is apparently in fact, not just friendship but with making out, going on dates and shit

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part of being aroace is going "we're too young to date, we're just kids" for most of your life because it was true. and then you're in high school and suddenly everyone is dating, and you're still going "we're too young to date, we're just kids". and then your classmates are fucking in the school bathrooms and your friends are coming to school covered in hickeys and your best friend has a boyfriend that she plans to marry, and you're still going "we're too young for this, we're just kids." And then you realize that you're not a kid anymore, you're not too young for this, and that you're just... different

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her.

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i downloaded hinge fully believing that in order to even have a sliver of the connection I wanted I would have to sacrifice SOME integral part of myself or keep the aromantic side to myself or make peace with being settled for or settling . if you told me a year ago i would find not only a partner who accepted me, but a friend who experienced things like i did, I would’ve thought you were out of your mind.

i still don’t believe in prioritizing any sort of relationship on a hierarchy . but i am so grateful to her for giving me a chance to explore my aromantic side in this way i could only have dreamed about . and for working on a new type of relationship that’s safe, with me.

did i ever expect in a million years to be on the receiving end of ‘god i have seen what you have done for others’? no . no i did not . i made this blog partly to make peace with that fact

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did i ever expect in a million years to be on the receiving end of ‘god i have seen what you have done for others’? no . no i did not . i made this blog partly to make peace with that fact

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update 2: every time i leave her place she gives me a hug so nice my bones ache afterwards.

guess who matched with an aroace lesbian on hinge. THIS AROACE LESBIAN.

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okAY update: it’s going a loooot better than i imagined 😳😳

guess who matched with an aroace lesbian on hinge. THIS AROACE LESBIAN.

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life when you aren’t romantically attracted to people

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let us take a moment and grieve for all the lives lost. so many thousand people have been murdered by the zionist entity in the last fifteen months. palestinians in gaza have lost too much, from friends and family to their homes and livelihood.

this ceasefire is not an end to our solidarity with gaza. we will all be here waiting and praying for palestine to be wholly liberated from the occupation and watch her people be happy and free.

in the meantime, please keep donating to palestinian fundraisers. it is essential to support families planning on rebuilding.

alaa is a mother of two young children. her fundraiser has been verified. i request you to help her by sharing and donating to her gofundme.

please donate here

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guess who matched with an aroace lesbian on hinge. THIS AROACE LESBIAN.

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My experience with being oriented aroace is basically just not sexual or romantic attraction but a secret third thing but idk what the secret third thing is and tbh I don't care what it is, I just know that Women

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sorry if this isn't a good place to ask, but my partner and I are trying to think of relationship terms for being in an alterous relatoinship. "qpr" doesn't fit because we aren't queerplatonic. we feel pretty much all attraction to each other in an amalgamation, but not romantically/sexually. any ideas?

hey there!! i relate to this ask so hard omg. qpr is so wonderful but it’s not quite accurate is it?

i think I would start by first wondering how I’d want the relationship to be viewed by others. When i first realised i was aro, i was incredibly uncomfortable with anyone viewing any of my relationships as romantic. As I’ve gotten older though, im a bit meh about it. I know my relationships are not romantic, but chances are that others will understand the nuance, esp outside queer circles, is very very small. In those cases, for convenience, i just say romantic.

i am also a personal fan of ambiguous labels - ‘we’re in a relationship’ is vague enough but also communicated with others that yeah, these two people are together in an intimate way.

significant other to define who you are in relation to one another. I’ve also seen some people use ‘sunfriend’, if that floats your boat!

ultimately it’s always about your comfort level as well as your partners, and working together to find something that works. It’s a unique challenge for aro/ace people in particular. It’s also okay if you don’t have a word for it — alterous relationships and feelings are those unquantifiable experiences to begin with. :)