#queerplatonic marriage

[whats-up-gayboy]

My queerplatonic partner is the strongest person I know and being with him helps me feel strong too. His arms are home and his hugs are safety. And the best part is I know he finds his strength and home and safety with me too.

[hippolotamus]

Several Sentence Sunday 📝

Happy Sunday, lovelies! Barreling on with more you're where I wanna go (i've missed her so much 😭) but going back to 1902 this time (about 10 years before the previous snippet) (all prev snippets and lore here)

One thing Buck hoped for in this escape was a guise of anonymity. At least a chance to put down his society mask. Unfortunately, like tends to attract like and the ‘old money’ set has a way of sniffing each other out. His mother loves it, knowing she can travel anywhere and find the ‘right’ sort of people. Of course that would require that she actually leave Philadelphia, something he’s certain she hasn’t done since arriving there to be married. Buck, on the other hand, tends to find the wealthy dull and repetitive, like a worn out music box. Something about them beautiful, and mostly functional, but their sound is stale and faintly warped from playing the same tune too many times. Even the sons and daughters, closest to his own age, are a bit of a bore. They might emerge from university with new, bold ideas, but those are quickly eroded away as the sons join the family business with a reputation to uphold. The daughters become wives and mothers, replacing every shiny, hopeful dream with the sacred knowledge of hosting tea and making sure the children are well behaved in church on Sundays.

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[eatingsomegreeneggos]

Gen Art Februari: Pride - Gakurouta & Yuriko 🏳️‍🌈♠️

I adore the manga “I want to be a wall”! It follows a married couple of an asexual (aroace) girl and a gay man, and it’s honestly so sweet. Very big queerplatonic vibes and my first time reading about an asexual (main) character <3 I def recommend it! 🤗

[a-special-sort-of-soulmate]

My qpp and i got platonically married.

That’s amazing! Congrats!💛

[ineptitudesz]

Bro the married couple.

This implies that shrek and fiona are queerplatonic. I love that.

You’ve heard of “Every purple character is ace” now get ready for

[vaguely-concerned]

purple hawke who, at malcolm's death, lost not only a father, a mentor, the single most stable and safe point in their world up until this moment. but also the only person in their life who would consistently, gleefully 'yes, and — ' them. the loss, in one fell swoop, of both a beloved parent and your sole willing — no, not only willing, enthusiastic — improv partner. truly, the most unkindest cut of all that the maker could have seen fit to deal. (there's always so much less laughter in the house, after malcolm's gone.)

and then after all the horrors of the blight and trying to make a new life in the shithole turned shithome of kirkwall....... they meet varric. and something that's been slumbering deep within their soul dries a tear of relief and joy and whispers 'oh we are so back'. and they are so right

[incognitopolls]

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[quinntism]

[legokingfisher]

Perhaps THE funniest thing to me about the teens’ polyamorous space wedding is that like. When they were younger, all their parents told them to stay away from eachother. “No [insert one of the 4 here] you’re not allowed to talk to them you’re not allowed to play with them stay away from them.” But then they do the absolute furthest thing from staying away from each other: getting fucking MARRIED

[whats-up-gayboy]

how is he so perfect **screams into pillow**

[bogkeep]

every night maia drazhar should receive forehead kisses from his nohecharei, his secretary, and when applicable his wife also. it is only right

[jmtorres]

*bangs on pots and pans* marry your friends

the united states (and i think many other countries) as well as lotsa companies incentivize marriage. we get significant tax breaks. we get added to a spouse's health insurance plan at low or no cost. I knew someone who got married to a flight attendant to be able to get free flights.

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE SYSTEM.

if you have a friend you would live with and would trust to get legally entangled with, and neither of you have any plans to get married for romantic love, then make an appointment at the courthouse (iirc it was like $30?) and get married for assorted financial benefits.

signed, I was gonna marry my spouse eventually anyway but I did it on a week's notice so I could get on their health insurance and keep seeing the same therapist when we moved one county over.

(folks on disability, I see you and acknowledge the system does not benefit your marriages. I'm so sorry)

FAQ

What if we need to get divorced? Check that no-fault divorce is available in your area (it's currently standard in the US, but under attack from Republicans). You can also look into annulment if you never screwed (or are both willing to state you didn't). Fill out the paperwork properly and don't misspell anyone's name and it should be pretty easy in most jurisdictions. If you live somewhere without no-fault divorce, one of you commit adultery on camera and that'll usually do it.

Divorce continued: But what about alimony or community property? ok A) I said someone you trust to get legally entangled with B) idk, write a prenup. you technically don't even need a lawyer for this just a notary. C) community property is like. real estate. not furniture. unless and until you're buying property don't worry about that

Won't people question the validity of the marriage? In my experience, no. Insurance might want to see a copy of the marriage license but no one's going to investigate if you're married the "right way" unless this is like a green card situation which A) I'm not qualified to speak on but B) completely falls under the umbrella of my advice to marry your friends for the systemic benefits imo, it's just more complicated, do your own research

What will my parents think? Do you care? I mean. Look, if they're good parents they'll recognize you're doing what's best for you. And you might be surprised at the family stories that come out about who married who for what (I was certainly surprised about the flights one! That was a cousin). If they're shitty parents who weren't accepting your disinterest in romantic marriage in the first place, fuck 'em. Hey, one of the benefits of marriage is your spouse becomes your closest next of kin if you don't want your parents making decisions first you if say, you get in a car accident! This is one of the reasons we fought so hard for same-sex marriage.

I'm polyamorous I can't marry them all! Yeah nope sorry that's rough. Hopefully you're an even-numbered polycule so you can at least all pair off for the tax breaks.

I'm not gay what if people think I'm gay for marrying my same-sex best friend? Who cares? No homo in 2024 really my guy? But also you don't actually have to tell people if you don't want to, you can just say you're roommates. If someone finds out, you can literally just say "we got married for health insurance" you will be amazed how much people are like "oh. huh. that's really smart actually"

Marriage is a sacred rite! I am fully talking about filing government paperwork and if you are unable to separate that from the rituals of your religion, this advice may not be for you.

What if I actually wanted a fancy ceremony though? I mean, no one's stopping you. Send out invitations and a registry. Get those housewares.

Thanks, Anon!

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[bloggingboutburgers]

Can’t blame you for taking the risk to be with the one you love. Thousands of successive love stories are all about taking big risks for the sake of being with your significant other. Also I guess it’s better going through hard times with loved ones than alone.

Sorry for the late reply on this one! For context for anyone else, this was sent in response to people telling me that moving to the US to live with my partner was highly risky due to the context in the US right now, and me elaborating on why I couldn't just go back on it that easily.

Thank you so much for the understanding! Although to be clear, this isn't a decision I make solely to be able to live with my partner. Of course it's a big reason behind it, but this isn't me choosing them over the rest of the people and things I love in my life. I like the idea of marrying them, though marrying someone is a very scary idea too, especially for an aromantic person who also happens to be a child of divorce. Us getting married would protect us against a travel ban like the one Trump put up on my country in 2020, AND would allow me to travel back to my home country and other European countries to see my loved ones (since spouses of US citizens were exempt from the ban). If such a travel ban comes back, this is my most sure-fire way to avoid a catch-22, and still be able to be in contact with everyone I love properly. It's incredibly important to me.

So yeah, it's risky, but I hope it helps me stop living in fear of it coming back like I have ever since the first travel ban ended, or in fear of it never ending when it was on.

[ineptitudesz]

As a community, we need to bring back queerplatonic relationships. Yeah, they're married. Maybe one of them is aroace and sex repulsed, maybe they hate eachother. Maybe they're both father figures to the same kid and they have to deal with it. Maybe the most logical situation is to just marry eachother and get it over with.

[one-awesome-beetle]

[queerplatonic lavender marriages your johnmary]

[skygemspeaks]

the problem with reading too much romance is that sometimes i get aroace imposter syndrome and i'm like "what if i was allo this whole time" which i think is a frankly hilarious notion to anyone who knows me even a little bit