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TRANS, NONBINARY, AND INTERSEX PEOPLE OF COLOR DO NOT FUCKING HAVE PRIVILEGE OVER WHITE ANYONE ARE YOU FUCKING FOR REAL????????????

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A softer moment for my favorite crusty neighbor (and an excuse to draw jellies!)

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btw if you tell people with transmasc headcanons of gnc women in fiction that they're taking away space from women / that it's not subversive enough, im cleaving you in half with a comically large cake knife

queer exclusionists incl. anti mspec monos fuck off. not for you.

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trans men are misogynists for headcanonning characters!!!

truly awesome take.

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people genuinely behave like conservatives erupt into applause when a trans man comes out, as if they're cheering and going "YES! more men! FUCK women!"

they do not see us as men, y'all. WHAT reality is this attitude based in, because it's not this one.

conservatives do not see trans men as men. conservatives are not happy that there's one more man- they are pissed off because all they see is as "failed woman", "tainted woman", "woman in man's clothing" or "a woman pretending to be a man". they are mad because we aren't women anymore. they are actually pissed the fuck off that a 'woman' transitioned and is no longer a 'woman'. we're also viewed as "perverted queers trying to corrupt children," on the flip side of the coin but never men. stop acting like conservative men are frothing at the mouth excited to welcome trans men into the upper echelons of cisheteronormative patriarchy. they want us dead. snap out of it.

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"Stealth trans men have privilege over cis women" worstie that is not correct

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btw if you treat the concept of pregnant men as a joke & use the pregnant man emoji as a way to disgust/horrify your friends & make them laugh: I hate you

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if you dont include trans men/mascs/nonbinary/intersex people and only focus on women in your advocacy for abortion and reproductive rights then you dont actually give a shit about fighting for the rights of queer people.

include us in your activism.

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Wild how, on a post about a transmasc who has g cup tits not passing people will literally say with their whole chest (buried hip deep in their own ass) that testosterone has farther reaching effects than estrogen because it can cause "irreversible" body hair growth (among other things, but that's their primary and only explicit example besides voice).

Like hmm, I wonder what major and significant bodily features estrogen might cause to occur for transmascs if puberty isn't suppressed that are rather famously reversible only by a surgery - one of the trans surgeries most denied to/inaccessible for fat trans people, no less. I wonder what bodily changes a typical estrogen-based puberty might in fact bring to bear that might in fact cause trouble passing.

(In the tags someone claimed that all breast tissue will be read as gynecomastia and therefore completely accepted if you're read as male and... idk how to tell you that nearly no one above like b cups is read as male, that gynecomastia isn't actually just accepted and in fact leads to cis men being transvestigated, sometimes violently, and that you're intersexist and exorsexist. Never mind that "oh well trans people who don't transition of course won't pass, but they don't count" was another "argument" for all trans men and mascs passing. I mean, the bigot knows they contradict themselves etcetc but holy fucking shit.)

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To all the transfems that bring up forced sterilisation when a transmasc talks about forced impregnating and a loss of bodily autonomy: stop.

Transmascs also face forced and coerced sterilisation. In many places, it’s only recently that any trans person can change their legal gender without being sterilised. This is not a problem specific to transfems.

The issue is more complicated for trans people who can give birth (including some intersex transfems) because cis people want them to become baby machines so bad. This introduces more barriers when somebody wants to make certain legal and medical decisions for themselves!

All trans people are directly victimised by a restriction of reproductive autonomy. But the issue tends to be more central for trans people who can give birth, since giving birth is nearly a year-long process that can ruin your life and health. Being forcibly sterilised often is less focal in transmasc activism because, especially as people who might have dysphoria around getting pregnant, being forced to endure that for months, being forced to have permanent and sometimes harmful alterations to your body made, being forced to go through an incredibly painful process where they will almost certainly be repeatedly misgendered, being forced to produce a living being you never wanted to produce, etc., might seem like a worse fate than never being able to have kids in the first place.

This is not me saying one group or another has it worse! And I am not downplaying the pain of transfems (or trandmascs) who were forcibly sterilised. It is still a very serious issue that can cause a lot of pain for many.

But this is me saying that this specific issue is one that much more often impacts transmascs. And if it is not something you will ever be at risk of experiencing, then you have no business taking about how “bad” it would be or comparing the issue to some “equivalent” transfem problem.

Bigotry often does not have perfect equivalents. Transmisogyny and transandrophobia are distinct forces of oppression. Just because one group experience one type of problem doesn’t mean they’re More Oppressed or something. I say this as somebody who experiences both. It’s ridiculous to compare a trandandrophobia-specific problem to a general trans problem or a transmisogyny-specific problem because they just manifest differently. Neither is worse or better. They don’t have perfect equivalents. Don’t let your mind be tainted by oppositional sexism and give your fellow trans people room to discuss their fears and anxieties and experiences with issues that are unique to them.

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Yeah probably if you haven't lived the life of a trans man seeing people go "I don't like when people joke about hating men" or something along that line, it probably sounds mra ish.

But in my everyday life, people only address me as a man when they are using it to insult me. I forgot to do XYZ? That's me being a dumb man. I'm talking too long? I'm mansplaining. Etc etc. These are the only times in my real life that people will address me as a man. That's why we use the term 'malgendering', that's why many hate those "trans inclusive misandry" jokes. Because that's the only thing people are trans inclusive in.

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Has the rabbit's foot comic been done? Yes.

Did I also have to do it? Also yes.

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idk why people tend to act like only medical transition has any bad repercussions when social and legal transition too are constantly under attack

trying to ban using someone's correct name or pronouns at the workplace or school, outing kids who socially transition at school to their parents, the whole bathroom thing, the fact that legal transition is impossible for british nonbinary people, the fact that legal transition in general was made very difficult in germany for the longest time until last november and that nonbinary germans couldn't legally transition until just a few years ago, the fact that the US is destroying passports of people who legally transitioned, the fact that german bureaucracy makes it so that social transition sometimes requires legal transition because a lot of places will refuse to change your name if you don't have legal documents, that an X in your passport makes if dangerous to go to certain places, that the mere concept of pronouns is mocked to death, that nongendered terminology for gendered languages is mocked to death, that places in germany are actively banning the use of nonbinary-inclusive language, that i got mocked at my graduation ceremony for daring to ask for inclusive language, that my second ever therapist refused to actually help me with my real problem because all he wanted to talk about was my gender, that my loan with my bank kept getting denied over and over until we realised it was because my Mx title caused a problem in their system, the fact that i had to fight for my legal transition for 6 years all the way up until i was signing my paperwork because they falsely forced a middle name on me, that socially transitioning at school increased bullying, slur calling etc, that transgender people "coincidentally" became a debate topic in class after i came out, constantly legislating transgender people out of existence and so much more

none of these have anything to do with medical transition and yet they're actively making transgender people's lives harder or even dangerous, fucking with our health and livelihood. or do you all really think these are someone exclusive to medical transition.

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you can't ever have a trans guy on this site do something cringe or annoying or whatever without people in the notes of posts about them saying shit like "classic tme behavior" or "of course they're a transandrodork" if someone's being kind of a dick can you please just start calling them out for that instead of being like "yeah this person sucks AND he's a trans guy so it's even worse" like do you even hear yourself

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i am a child.

i am forced into a dress. makeup is smeared onto my face. i kick and cry and beg, but they will not stop.

i am forced to pose in front of the camera with my thighs together and hope that the makeup hides my tearstains. i must be the perfect picture of femininity; innocent, untouched.

i already have a thousand hand prints on me.

'all men are evil rapists', i am told.

i think about my friends, who are men. the men who called me every day while i was in a psychiatric hospital. the men who walked me home when i was afraid. the men who protected and cared for me, without ever expecting my body in return.

it can't be the body that makes someone evil. it can't be the presence of a penis that makes someone evil. but it can't be the identity of 'man' that makes you evil, either.

i ponder the difference between the men who raped me and the men who protected me. i decide that it depends on who the person is inside, and not on their identity.

'sit down and shut up,' they spit at me. 'the men are talking. learn your place. don't speak over us.'

'you throw like a girl.'

'you run like a girl.'

'girls can't do this. they're not smart enough.'

'girls aren't strong enough to do this.'

over and over, such sentiments are tossed at me. i bite down my anger, because women aren't supposed to yell or get angry. if i get angry, that makes me a hysterical bitch.

'women are meant to be mothers,' i am told. they beat it into me that my worth lies not in my personhood, but in the womb between my hips. it makes me feel sick and violated, just like every sexual assault has.

i am groped. i am raped. i am assaulted.

it's my fault, i'm told. i'm a temptress. my body is a vile weapon, a weapon created to tempt men into sin, a weapon that makes me a subhuman toy.

i am treated like a toy. as i am molested during my childhood, i learn that i am a toy. the anatomy between my hips has marked me as public property. i am less than human.

they keep forcing me into dresses. they keep forcing me into makeup. no amount of protesting makes it end. i grow to loathe femininity and the violation that always seems to come with it.

i come out as a trans man at fifteen.

'can't you just be nonbinary?'

'can't you just be a tomboy?'

'i don't want you to regret this.'

'i don't want you to ruin your perfect body.'

'men are disgusting. why do you want to be one of them?'

'are you sure you don't just want to be a man because you were sexually assaulted?'

i continue to be a man. my parents intentionally delay my ability to go on testosterone. by the time i am able to go on testosterone, i have already finished puberty. my body is irreversibly feminine.

people throw food at me. they call me a faggot, a tranny, a dyke. they kick me and shove me to the ground. they cyberstalk me. they post pictures of me online so that they can mock me.

a girl says to me, 'you need to learn your place,' as she calls me a faggot over the internet. she kicks me when she sees me the next day.

my boyfriend when i am fifteen is a cis man who says he is pansexual. he dismisses me when i talk about being trans, because he uses he/they pronouns and 'understands it'.

he sexually assaults me repeatedly. i am in constant distress. my distress is used as proof that i am a snowflake hysterical tranny. i am a hysterical woman who only THINKS she's a man, and i need to be put in my place. trans 'men' are all hysterical and overreactive, and my behaviour is used as proof.

my boyfriend exclusively refers to me with they/them pronouns. i tell him to use he/him. he waves his hand, dismissing my words, and says, 'they're basically the same thing'.

he tells me that he wants children. i try to ignore the sick feeling in my gut.

he only uses he/him pronouns for me after we have broken up, when he is trying to paint me as abusive. i lose my entire friend group because of it.

people keep talking down to me. when i go on testosterone, cis men try to explain that it's toxic for me, using cis man bodybuilders as an example. i try to explain how that isn't the case. they insist that 'female bodies aren't built to handle testosterone'. i try to explain to them how hormones work, and they laugh and roll their eyes.

silly girl. stupid girl. she doesn't know what she's talking about.

people continue to make fun of trans men online. our music, our art, our interests, our fashion sense, our names. i cannot help but feel dejected. all i want is to be a man, and to fit in among everyone else, but even in doing so, i stand out as a target for mockery. misogyny is inescapable, even for men.

i am seventeen years old. my worst fear comes true. i am raped and forcibly impregnated, with the intention of forcing me to detransition.

that sense of violation is impossible to truly describe.

my reproductive system was designed to become pregnant. my body will do its best to become pregnant, no matter what i want. pregnancy is an inescapable function of my body, and it makes me feel trapped and sick.

the man who raped me has turned my own body into a weapon against me. even in my body, my own flesh and sinew, i am not safe.

i miscarry. i am in agony. my womb cramps and i try not to pass out.

i enter feminist spaces. i try to talk about my experiences with misogyny.

'sit down and shut up,' they spit at me. 'the women are talking. learn your place. don't speak over us.'

all trans men have male privilege, you see, without exception. by the mere act of wanting to become a man, i have become a traitor, and i am thrown to the cis men.

the cis men, who see me as a woman that they're finally allowed to abuse. finally, they can hurt and rape and impregnate a woman, because she's one of those snowflake trannies and she needs to be put in her place.

i bite down my anger, because trans men aren't supposed to yell or get angry. if i get angry, it's proof that i'm not a man, that i'm a hysterical bitch, and that i'm a dangerous snowflake tranny seeking to mutilate children.

the sentiment is bitterly familiar.

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"Trans men aren't targeted by anti trans rhetoric and law."

Trumps executive order to ban gender affirming care mainly fearmongers about trans boys not being able to give birth or breast feed and calls transitional surgery "female genital mutilation".

When we say we are invisible, it's not that we are invisible to the people who hate us. It's that our struggles are invisible to the people who should be advocating for us.