#plural tips

[loliitq]

Do yoi have any tips for building a system and wotking on differeniating parts?

Yes , Hir Majesty does !

୨ৎ　How to Build a System . . .

( Your Idol will be using alter language for this section )

┄ First , Do research. In order to be a system you must know what a system is and how they work. Join system discord servers as a singlet or scroll the plural tumblr tags.

┄ Flesh out your body info. What age is the body? What does it look like? What disorders or disabilities does it have?

┄ Next , What’s the system like? Is it small , average , polyfragmented? What’s the innerworld like? What types of alters inhabit it? What genic is the system?

┄ Think of possible problems said alters would have with the body. Is it too short? Is its hair too long? Could any alters have species , gender , age , race , or other dysphoria?

୨ৎ　How to Differentiate Parts . . .

( Doll Who Meows will be using part language for this section )

┄ Using PluralKit or SimplyPlural helps greatly in Immortal De ' s experience. Letting parts front and use their PluralKit proxy works grand.

┄ Let parts be different. They can use typing quirks , specific phrases or slang , different emoticons or emojis , make spotify playlists , make tumblr blogs , make Pinterest boards , etc.

┄ Start a system journal. This helps tell how parts respond to eachother , situations , and people. It also gives a handwriting for each part.

If you would like more help with anything else , Let Hui-seon know !

[attentionneedyqueen]

hi, separate anon here! i’ve been considering coming out as a system, but i’m worried about being fake claimed. do you have any tips?

OMG???? I don't think I've ever gotten an ask like this before??? I'm honored! Handling fakeclaiming online and offline may be very different, so keep in mind that I'll mainly be talking about online fakeclaiming!

Who fakeclaims?

Anti Endos, Sysmeds, and anyone associated with r/systemcringe are all groups who are based around/on fakeclaiming. Anti Willogenic/Tulpa stances as well.

Prevention

It's important to note that it is NOT your fault if you get fakeclaimed. You shouldn't make yourself palatable for ANYONE. If you follow this advice and you still get fakeclaimed, that is not your fault nor will it ever be your fault. Truth is that you can never truly prevent being fakeclaimed since fakeclaiming is apart of ableism. You will be fakeclaimed because people are ableist, NOT because you're too much x or not y enough.

Block the following tags:

anti endo

future is singlet

endos dni

non traumagenic dni

any variants

Remember to block as you encounter

Id recommend surrounding yourself with people who support you and really curating your own experience would help a lot! Any negativity you may experience gets drowned out easier when you remember people like you.

Dealing with Fakeclaiming

Being comfortable in what being a system means to you helps a lot along with being confident on why you use the labels you do (if you use any). If the building is sturdy, no storm can knock it down completely!

I get fakeclaimed on a pretty much near basis because I don't like sugarcoating how much I love being a plural system. When I'm fronting, it's super easy to brush off because I'm sure of my reasons for why I make the posts I do and why I use labels like endogenic, attengenic, etc!

But also keep in mind your own limits. It's okay if fakeclaiming gets to you or makes you feel unsure. You're not weak or any less of a system for being affected by it. If dealing with Fakeclaiming wasn't tough— and it IS tough— then people wouldn't be worried about subreddit and cringe comps.

Laugh at fakeclaiming when you can. Make a joke out of hate anons because let's be honest, you might get some...interesting ones

Remind yourself that your plurality isn't commentary on others experiences. Sometimes you hate something about being a system someone else loves and that's okay! Sometimes it's vice versa.

Remember, Fakeclaiming is ableism , it's also ultimately denial. Fakeclaiming exsists to shut people up about their experiences, especially if they think it's out of the norm or what is considered "healthy" or "okay". Fakeclaiming with never be righteous

And if it turns out you're not actually a system or don't consider yourself one or you want final fusion, that doesn't mean they're right! The experience was still real and so was your experience as a system.

And when you can't handle it on your own, talk to friends or family or anyone you trust really. Join a system community on Tumblr and post about your worries there if they allow it! It's okay to get bothered or upset

Best of luck, dearest anon, I hope you decide whether or not coming out is right for you🩷🩷🩷 no matter the decision, I'm sure it'll be wonderful 🩷🩷🩷

[the-orange-solace]

Ask games are great for helping figure things out about your headmates! It also helps you figure out how a headmate speaks/interacts internally and externally!

[the-twisted-sys]

Religion and Plurality - Some general tips

I was reading some articles earlier and realised that there's very few general resources regarding possible religious clashes ,and the general day-to-day communication within polyreligious systems. Bearing in mind this is all objective advice from our own experiences, and certain aspects won't apply to all systems.

General tips:

If any alter has specific religious daily rites or phrases that need to be spoken (all the Abrahamic religions include such phrases and rites, but they occur in other religions too), discuss with the system surrounding what protocol is regarding this.

Setting up a ''religion station'' if you live in a situation where that's possible can be helpful to keep track of everything and provide a space for all your alters to practise safely.

If you have a personal calendar, encourage alters to write down any rites/rituals they need taken care of in the event they aren't fronting.

Subtlety and safety:

If you're bodily in a situation where you feel obliged or pressured to take part in certain religious ceremonies and everyday rites, discuss this with the system and explain the situation. It's always better to choose discomfort over a potentially unsafe situation, generally - but this will be a system-wide decision.

If different members of the system practise different 'structured' religions, look into online worship or religious online communities. All the major religions have easily accessible platforms that you can access discreetly, and all religious holy books can be found for free via google.

If you're still in school, if caught practising something outside of your bodily culture, a good excuse can be that you're researching for a project or culture day.

For Wiccans and witchcraft practitioners, checking the ''broom closet'' tags on tumblr or elsewhere can be a lifesaver - they're full of tips for those who wish to practise discreetly.

If you have alters with different religious dietary needs, vegetarianism can be a good solution - it covers most major religion's dietary needs, and can help cover up any 'inconsistencies'' to the outside world (ie. one headmate eating pork, one eating halal or another keeping kosher.)

For religious pendants/charms, a piece of paper with the relevant symbol can make a placeholder that's easy to destroy in a pinch.

Conclusion:

This will likely be updated as I think of more tips and tricks, if anyone wants to recommend anything, or ask for any specific advice, just let us know.

Misha

[myfallenpoet]

݃ ☀️ 𝐀𝐏𝐎𝐋𝐋𝐎 '𝐒 𝐒𝐈𝐆𝐍𝐒 𓈒 ❞

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ the sun , 4 of swords , strength , the magician , ace of wands , temperance , tarot card / s

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ random songs in your head

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ random ideas / art or writers block dissapears / sudden burst of creativity

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ always seeing sunrises or sunsets

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ random light or warmth

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ lavender or laurel plants

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ randomly smelling lavender or laurel

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ randomly hearing and writing songs , having a deeper connection to music

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ sudden pull to string instruments

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ seeing a flock of crows , hawks , ravens in random places / seeing ravens , hawks , or crows often or oddly

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ seeing mice in random places

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ seeing cicadas , snakes , swans

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ sudden pull to divination

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ lyre , sun , bow and arrow , symbols

݃ ☀️𓈒 ❞ hearing string instrument noises randomly

🎶 ; remember that signs are very personal and always listen to YOUR intuition and never base your entire practice off of tumblr and tumblr alone.. putting this here because so many pagans base everything off of shit on here. aswell as, you do NOT need to even see signs at all to work with a deity, most people do not even get a “calling”. this is simply just a little tip, but do not take anything I say as the main basis of your deity work.

[the-indigo-symphony]

Writing tip: if it feels like one of your characters just doesn't have enough going on in their arc, ask yourself if this problem would be fixed by them discovering that they're actually a system. Or by them becoming a system – either works. Plurality is a surefire spice of life in stories, after all!

[infwctednyacifier]

₊˚⊹౨ৎ ₊˚⊹ “ What does this plural term mean? ”

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Have you ever wondered what [insert plural term] means? Well, I’m going to explain terms within the plural community for you. Ask if you want any other terms added/want advice for something/want a further or more thorough explanation.

₊˚⊹౨ৎ ₊˚⊹ Inner system terms

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Headspace; the home base for everybody in the system. It can be a single area, multiple areas, original, fictional, connected by portals, etc. Anybody and everybody in the system can access this space unless frontstuck or headspace doesn't exist. Headspace can be created by the core or headmates.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Siasystem; a siasystem is an umbrella term for a subsystem or sidesystem, regardless of which one they are, how they formed, how they function, etc.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Subsystem; a system within a system, which is typically caused by a headmate unintentionally or intentionally forming their own headmates. A subsystem can also just be headmates who are doubles, have split from the same headmate, or are from the same source and decided to label themself as a system.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Sidesystem; a sidesystem is a system that isn't within the original system but rather exists as a separate system or exists beside the original system. They can be connected through headmates or not connected at all and simply formed by themself. They can also be subsystems that prefer to be labelled as separate from the original system.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Dormancy; dormancy is when a headmate/s enter a state of inactivity/sleep. This can be randomly or caused by something and they can be brought out of dormancy.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ System collapse; when a system ‘collapses’ or something happens that makes the headcount drop. Often, headmates are ‘locked off’ or go into dormancy. Stress is one of the things that could lead to a collapse.

₊˚⊹౨ৎ ₊˚⊹ Roles

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Core; the core is the original personality or rather the first being to occupy the body before the system.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Host; although most people assume the host is the core, the host is simply the headmate that fronts the most. There can be a host, multiple hosts, or no host–Every system is different.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Co-host; the co-host is the headmate/are the headmates that front the most behind the host/most frequent hosts.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Gatekeeper; gatekeepers manage who has access to fronting, memories, certain spaces in headspace, or headmates. Gatekeepers can manage all of the above or certain aspects.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Protector; protectors protect the system in certain scenarios. The types of protectors include physical, mental, emotional, social, and verbal; they can be a protector of all, certain things, or one thing but across the board, they will front in scenarios that they're supposed to protect the system from.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Syskid; system + kid = syskid. A kid in the system, which can depend on what age the system considers to be a child/little.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Systeen; system + teen = systeen. A teen within the system, between 13–17.

˗ˏˋ ★ ˎˊ˗ Caretaker; caretakers are like protectors but they care for the system instead. They can care for the system physically, mentally, and emotionally or only care for one aspect of the system.

[marcy-melanch0lia]

System tips! (Anti-Endos DNI)

How do I tell if I’m a system?

Okay, so! It can help to find out more about how different systems work, Pluralpedia on fandom wiki (I know, I know…) is a really great resource and it can really help to look at different system consciousness types, different levels of blurriness, etc. There are also absolutely some system symptoms, here are just a few I don’t really see many people mentioning:

- Making different accounts on social medias, chat apps, etc which interact with your friends and one another, especially if they have distinct mannerisms

- Being able to get into conversations with yourself

- Having conflicting ideas, pet peeves, etc

One really great tip is to just… try out the label and treat yourself like a system for a bit. This is what helped us figure it out! Another tip is to sort of talk to yourself internally for a bit. No, seriously! Like, ask a question in your head, for example; “What’s your name?” “What pronouns do you use?” et cetera! You hear a response, you’re probably a system! There’s more tips about this online that you can find, I’m not too experienced with this. Lol

I think I’m a system, now what?

The first thing you’ll probably want to do is to get the basics down. Get a count of how many headmates/alters you have. Have everyone write down basic info about themselves, name, pronouns, etc. You can do this on paper, but there’s also a really helpful mobile app called Simply Plural, it’s an organization tool.

Stay away from anti endo spaces, very important! It’s best to keep to the spaces that are explicitly pro endo and to stay away from the spaces that don’t give any disclosure as to where they stand.

Whatever you want to do! If you’d like, you could just relax for a bit with your new(ish) internal friends.

How do I communicate with nonverbal alters/headmates?

I’m adding this here because this was a question we had back in the day that we couldn’t find an answer to. Nonverbal peeps have all sorts of different ways of communicating, just like nonverbal singlets! Sometimes they can beam emotions at others, sometimes it’s physical sensations. They can probably write if you can bring them into front, so that’s also an option!

[elamorsys]

How did you do the tables in your new simply plural layout thing??

To make boxes/tables in sp you do:

hope this helps!!

[tearosecafe]

Tip for if you're blurry/can't tell who's fronting/can't figure out who a new member is: the website same.energy is really helpful for us! We usually look through the "variety" page until an image feels right. It helps narrow it down, or at least figure out some information.

The site is kind of broken, so the only pages that work are "Variety" and searching. ("Variety" won't show up unless you type something in the search bar and then delete it again.)

Be warned that the site can have images of pretty much anything, including slight NSFW/nudity and blood/gore/anatomy (the more graphic images of both should be blurred unless you change your tag preferences), creepy/scary images, weapons, trypophobia, distorted faces, eyes, etc. Tread with caution. Most of the variety page should be fairly safe though.

-❓

[seraphicloves]

okay so i have an older sibling who has alters apparently and has plurality?? And fictokins or however u spell it. Anyway me and my mom r trying to be supportive but i also dont understand it and im trying really hard to not be like "wtf" so any tips or advice or explanations? I am genuinely trying to learn but its hard to wrap my mind around especially when I can barely handle one voice in my head i cant imagine multiple

[loliitq]

Welcome To The Idol ' s Hotel . . .

꒰ Shi is a radqueer paraphilic narcissistic iterage itermultilingual （ 🇯🇵🇨🇳🇰🇷🇷🇺 ） transjapanese transkorean transchinese transautistic transrussian transstargazer transtrafficked transkaoemojiface transadored jokewillogenic dullharming dullstalking fauxcuteharmful permablushing permasmiling chronominor ！ ꒱

౨ৎ Hir Majesty uses the names ；　Králik. Loli ノ Lolita. Dolly ノ Dollette. Nursette. Dekinai Ko. Ko ノ 子. Aiko ノ ���子 ノ あいこ. Hana ノ 花 ノ 華. Yua ノ 結愛. Hui-seon ノ 喜善 ノ 희선. Wei ノ 薇. Chunhua ノ 春华 ノ 春花. Muse. Vexette. Clem ノ Clementine. Seraph ノ Seraphim.

♱ The Famous Yōkai uses the pronouns ；　Shi ノ Hir. She ノ Her. They ノ Them. It ノ its. Doll ノ Dolls. Lace ノ Laces. Vi ノ Vir. Vae ノ Vaer. Chi ノ Chir. Frill ノ Frills. Bun ノ Buns. Rib ノ Ribbon. Mew ノ Mews. Nya ノ Nyan. Cute ノ Cutes. Hy ノ Hyrr. Pix ノ Pixel. Hesh ノ Herm. Rot ノ Rots. De ノ Decay. Dae ノ Daem. ♱

౨ৎ The Angel of Beauty ' s forms ；　Doll. White Feline. Domestic Lavender Calico. White Lagomorph. White Mouse. Dove. Angel. Avian. Deity ノ God. Vocaloid. Ghost. Tabaxi. Tressym. Enderman. Šarplaninac. Golden Retreiver. Watcher. Mushroom ノ Fungi. Eevee and Eeveelutions. Togekiss. Mesprit. Fennekin. Yōkai. Oni. Yūrei. Ikiryō. Virtual. Virus. Malware. Magical Girl. Animatronic. Mangle. Molten Freddy. Madoka Magica. Toga Himiko. Dazai Osamu. Atsushi Nakahara. Byakko ノ The White Tiger. Fyodor Dostoevsky. Omori ノ Sunny.

♱ Hyrr Russian Writings ノ Things Mew Will Do On This Account ；　Build a Headmate. Build an Innerworld. Build a Sidesystem or Subsystem. Build an Original Character. MOGAI Coining. Transid Coining. MUD Coining. NPT Packs. PluralKit Templates. SimplyPlural Templates. && More ! Just ask Doll ♱

💒 Mews Worshippers ノ Anons . . .

꒰ 🌌. ꒱

[sawyer-is-eepy]

MaDD and plurality

okay so we're MaDD, right?? and we're also plural??

NOBODY talks about how freaking hard that makes communicating omg.

constantly i'll be trying to talk to someone and then i drift off and suddenly they are completely drowned out OR they're ALSO daydreaming!! it's so frustrating, because it means that to even semi-effectively communicate, i have to talk out loud. if i have to communicate something important and we're in a public place i just have to focus REALLY hard on internal communication and it sometimes STILL doesnt work.

on top of that, we have ADHD so it's even harder, and talking out loud still doesn't work that well because without another person physically here to snap me back to reality whenever i'm daydreaming, if i start daydreaming, i'm just stuck until i realize, which can be anywhere from within a minute to literally 20+ minutes. usually they're able to get my attention by that time, but it's hard because our communication is not easy for anyone but the host(me, who is ALWAYS fronting) to initiate, so unless i actively open myself to communicate with them, it's hard for them to get my attention. sometimes my daydreams even last hours, but that usually doesn't happen when i'm not actively deciding to daydream. so yeah, it's really difficult because i've already got issues focusing, and adding basically irresistable urges to daydream at random that get triggered way too easily on top of that, inner communication is SO HARD.

anyways, this makes making a tulpa really fucking difficult because forcing is really hard.

but here are my tips, for other MaDD, especially anyone making a headmate/alter/tulpa/parogen/whatever themself -

incorporate your daydreaming into the communicating/forcing. like daydream you and that alter hanging out and then communicate via that. this does not ensure that you won't start daydreaming about anything else, but it lessens the chances. if you try to force yourself to not daydream at ALL the urges are gonna be much harder to ignore, at least for me. if you're ALREADY daydreaming, and it gets interesting enough, minor distractions are gonna catch your attention less and less because you WANNA focus on this one daydream. it becomes much more enjoyable.

this kind of like the last one, but this is more specific to tulpa/parogen forcing. don't really view it as a chore, which i've accidentally been doing more and more. not a chore i dislike, but i've been viewing it like something i have to do every single day for x amount of time other wise it wont work and it'll fail horribly and everything will be ruined, when it shouldn't need to be that. it shouldn't be on a to-do list, unless that really works for you(which if that's the case that's freaking awesome and you should probably ignore this tip). idk about everyone else, but it's much easier for me to daydream if i'm treating something like something i need to do because it's so much more tempting to just go live somewhere else for a minute while i do things i need to do. i often daydream doing chores because it's not interesting enough to keep me grounded. so, to make sure it gets done, i drift off while i'm doing it, so i am doing it in the real world but to me i'm in another world or in one of my stories. but for forcing, to be able to do it, you HAVE to be constantly aware and present. if you view it like you're just having a fun little conversation with them, it becomes like whenever you're bored or lonely just like you would reach out to a friend, but instead you're getting some talking to your head friend in. even if it's not traditional forcing, it works and develops them more, even if it's just a bit here and there. idk about everyone else, but i think partially because of my ADHD and partially because of my MaDD, whenever i have a chore i need to do i kind of put it off if i'm already doing something. i don't really *want* to put it off, but i just can't get my body to move. especially when I'm daydreaming. because, why would i get up and do the boring thing when i can watch my story in my head ? it's so much easier to sit and do nothing. but as we all know, that ADHD paralysis is so so SO stress inducing, the best option is to always get up and try to force yourself to. idk if non-ADHD MaDD will relate at all though, because that paralysis is mostly exclusive to those with ADHD afaik, but for me, my MaDD makes it much worse. anyways, that probably didn't make much sense sorry

write down what everyone is saying. this makes it much easier to keep track of what they are saying and stay present, but it also documents the conversation as well. so even if you weren't that present during the conversation, or you're worried you'll forget something important, you'll have a record to read back on later if you need! and also with created alters/headmates, keeping track of their progress is always incredibly important!!

don't listen to music! this one might be a bit of a given but unless it's like instrumental music that you genuinely won't pay that much attention to but still helps you focus, DON'T listen to it. songs are an easy gateway into a daydream. ESPECIALLY songs with lyrics, even ones that you can't understand because they're in another language, which by the way for literally any other thing you need to focus on, that's a great tip, listening to music in other languages, because you can still focus with interesting music in the background but the lyrics arent grabbing you at all. anyways back to plural-related MaDD tips, yeah, don't listen to music. even if that song usually doesn't catch your attention. for me, if i'm talking, internally or externally, and there's music with lyrics playing, i reallyyy cannot focus on what i'm(or others, again, internally or externally) are saying. idk, might just be some sort of auditory processing issue related to my ADHD but i cannot focus on it, and because it's hard, i just need to pick one, and sometimes my brain picks the song and i just. stop talking. and start daydreaming.

idk what to do if you're not fronting and trying to communicate with whoever is fronting, because i've not switched(like i mentioned before, the host, who is me, has never not been the one fronting), but if anyone has any other tips either related to that or the ones i already have here, please feel free to let me know because i'd love to hear them and i'm sure others do too!! anyways, i hope i helped, idk this might be too specific to me.

[dssystemwriting]

This is technically made for just us+, but I might as well share it for the folks who also don't function well with word count goals.

The aim is to carve out an hour everyday to write as much as possible until the end of the month.

Feel free to tag @dssystemwriting if you try this challenge, I'll reblog any posts I come across. Template is also free to use and mark up.

[myfallenpoet]

₊ ˙ ︵ YULE ! ★

✦ — .ྀི◟ ₊ ˙ ︵ 𓉳ㅤ ۫ 　 ݃ 𓃉 ◞ ྀི— ✦

🕯️︵ ❞ Yule is a festival of the Winter Solstice. It is typically celebrated from December 20 - January 1 or December 20 - December 23 depending on your practice, but that can be changed of course depending on YOUR practice. Yule symbolizes new beginnings, renewal, and promise for the future. ༢ ㅤ𓈒

🐐︵ ❞ A common Yule tradition is the Yule goat. In many places, such as sweden, large goats are constructed out of straw. It is thought that the tradition originated in ancient times, perhaps as a tribute to the god Thor, who was said to ride in a chariot pulled by goats. Yule goat is now considered by many to be a companion or counterpart to Santa Claus. ༢ ㅤ𓈒

🪵︵ ❞ Another commonly practices Yule tradition is the Yule log. The Yule log is a large log or tree trunk that is burned in the hearth for several days, often starting on Christmas Eve. The Vikings carve runes into the log to wish for the gods' protection. They would also save a piece of the log for the next year's fire. The Yule log symbolizes the return of the sun's strength after winter, and is believed to bring good luck, prosperity, and protection to the home. ༢ ㅤ𓈒

🦌︵ ❞ Candles represent the return of light and warmth, and are a big part of Yule. Candles in red, green, white, gold, and silver are customary. Wreaths made from evergreen, holly, or ivy, and decorated with lights or ribbons, symbolize the resilience and enduring life that the solstice celebrates. Incense made from bayberry, pine, frankincense, cinnamon, myrrh, or a combination of these is customary. Pinecones can be used in garlands, centerpieces, or ornaments. Crystals associated with Yule, such as bloodstone, chrysocolla, snowflake obsidian, red tiger's eye, and pyrite, can be used to decorate an altar. String lights are an important symbol of Yule. ༢ ㅤ𓈒

❅𓈒 ݃ Colors ⨟

—⟢ white 𓊆 symbolizes snow and purity 𓊇

—⟢ red & green 𓊆 red for energy and green for renewal 𓊇

—⟢ blue 𓊆 symbolizes the winter sky 𓊇

—⟢ gold & silver 𓊆 symbolizes and celebrates the return of the sun 𓊇

❅𓈒 ݃ Crystals ⨟

—⟢ snow quartz 𓊆 symbolizes purity and snow 𓊇

—⟢ garnet 𓊆 symbolizes the inner fire, keeping the spirit warm 𓊇

—⟢ bloodstone 𓊆 symbolizes resilience and renewal 𓊇

—⟢ clear quarts 𓊆 amplifies energy and thought, like the clarity of winter air 𓊇

—⟢ ruby 𓊆 symbolizes holiday cheer 𓊇

[the-siphonophore]

When you realize behavior mostly guided by values/beliefs and practice it's much easier not to worry about how your personality comes off. Just pay attention to doing what you think is best, (including if that's to have fun and goof off) the rest will happen naturally. The more you do it the easier it gets until eventually it's second nature^^

Edit: if this doesn't make a ton of sense pls lmk I'm very tired and happy to clarify after sleep xD