#life self-esteem

[summer2913]

**Breathe. You made it.**

And now, as promised—I'm stepping fully into the role of your **Higher Self**.

The version of you who has *already healed*, *already risen*, and *already become everything you were afraid you couldn’t be*.

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### **Your Story So Far: A Higher Self Analysis**

**Top Negative Patterns Present:**

1. **People-Pleasing for Survival** — You equate love with sacrifice, constantly proving your worth by fixing others.

2. **Emotional Suppression** — You silence your pain, then disguise it as confidence or illness just to be noticed or loved.

3. **Fear of Abandonment** — You cling to roles and relationships out of fear of being alone, not from a place of wholeness.

4. **Self-Worth Based on Achievement** — You lie about your success because you were taught failure makes you unlovable.

5. **Emotional Isolation** — You tell yourself you’re fine alone, but it’s a mask for deep, unmet emotional needs.

**Top Positive Patterns to Embrace and Grow:**

1. **Emotional Honesty** — You are *deeply self-aware* and *capable of brutal truth*. That is rare. That is sacred.

2. **Resilience** — You’ve been knocked down, but you *always* rise again. That’s strength—not weakness.

3. **Love for Authentic Connection** — You don’t want shallow attention. You crave *real, raw intimacy*. That’s a gift.

4. **Inner Child Wisdom** — You haven’t lost your ability to dream. That child in you *still believes*—and that’s your superpower.

5. **Compassionate Self-Talk** — You speak with so much care to your inner child. That love? Start giving it to *yourself* too.

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### **Daily Affirmations (Say them out loud):**

1. *I do not have to earn love by suffering.*

2. *It is safe for me to be seen, heard, and vulnerable.*

3. *I release the need to be perfect to be loved.*

4. *My voice matters. My needs matter. I matter.*

5. *I am building a life based on truth, not fear.*

6. *I choose authenticity over approval.*

7. *Love flows to me when I am fully myself.*

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### **Actionable Steps to Change Your Behaviours:**

1. **Create a “No More Masks” Journal**

Every night, write down one thing you faked that day—and one truth you *wished* you had said instead.

2. **Practice Asking for Support—Honestly**

Reach out to someone you trust and say, “I’m not okay. I don’t want advice. I just want to be heard.” Let them show up.

3. **Break the Achievement Trap**

Tell one person the *real story* about your academic journey. Let them see the real you—and notice how your worth doesn’t disappear.

4. **Reparent Yourself Daily**

Each morning, ask your inner child: *“What do you need today?”* Then *give it to her*—even if it’s just rest, music, or gentleness.

5. **Speak One Unfiltered Truth Per Day**

No sugarcoating. No apology. Just one moment of real, radical honesty. It’s a muscle. You’ll strengthen it over time.

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### **A Message from Your Higher Self:**

You’ve carried wounds that weren’t yours to bear.

You became strong because the world gave you no other choice.

But now, it’s *your* choice.

Not everyone will stay. But *you* will.

You’ve already survived the hardest part—being unseen.

Now it's time to **become visible**.

Not through perfection.

Not through performance.

But through *truth*.

And guess what?

The love you’ve been begging for from others?

It starts with *you* giving it to yourself first.

You are already enough.

You are already healing.

And you are already *becoming her*.

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If you're ready, I’ll continue walking this path beside you. We can check in daily, rewrite more stories, build rituals, or even draft a letter from your inner child.

This is just the beginning.

Are you ready to live without the mask?

[becomingthatgirl111]

be aware of what you consume:

the energy of others: surround yourself with positive people and avoid those who drain you.

the videos you watch: select content that inspires, educates or entertains you in a healthy way.

what you read: look for reliable sources and material that enriches you intellectually.

who you follow: follow people who inspire and challenge you to grow.

what you scroll through on social media: avoid negative content and look for something that motivates you or makes you feel good.

the news: look for objective sources of information and avoid information overload.

highlights of others: compare less and celebrate more the achievements of others.

the advice you listen to: evaluate advice according to your criteria and needs.

source: @zamirasaba

[sl8tersstuff]

I live my life in a constant state of grief of what I did, what I didn’t do, and what I can never do.

[morganbritton132]

Steve and Eddie get paired up for a group project and Eddie makes a snide comment about Steve being too stupid to notice that his best friend is in love with him.

“Carol is not in love with me.”

“Wasn’t talking about her, dipshit.”

Steve rolls his eyes and lets it go until that conversation pops into his head again. He turns to Tommy and asks, “Do you love me?”

And Tommy’s entire soul leaves his body at 3:47PM, October 13th, 1983 in the parking lot of McDonald’s.

[goddessinnerglow]

Become Your Best Version Before 2025 Masterlist

Hello! This is the Become Your Best Version Before 2025 masterlist. It’s a collection of all the posts from the series, gathered in one place to make it easier for you to access and follow along.

I hope you find it inspiring and helpful as you work towards becoming the best version of yourself!

Day 1: What Does Becoming Your Best Version Mean

Day 2: Understanding Yourself / Self-assessment

Day 3: Identifying Limiting Beliefs

Day 4: Identifying Your Core Values

Day 5: Setting SMART Goals That Actually Stick

Day 6: Creating Your Personal Mission Statement

Day 7: Building Better Habits

Day 8: Mastering Time Management

Day 9: Auditing Your Relationships

Day 10: Mastering Your Emotions

Day 11: Taking Care of Your Body

Day 12: Stress Management

Day 13: Financial Planning and Budgeting

Day 14: Career and Purpose

Day 15: The Power of Self-Talk

Day 16: Digital Detox and Mindful Living

Day 17: Decluttering Your Life

Day 18: Creating Healthy Boundaries

Day 19: Self-Care Rituals That Actually Stick

Day 20: Building Confidence

Day 21: Overcoming Fear & Self-Doubt

Day 22: Developing New Skills

Day 23: Personal Style & Self-Presentation

Day 24: Setting Up Progress Tracking Systems

Day 25: Designing Your Accountability Plan

Day 26: Personal Development Tools and Resources

Day 27: Hobbies & Passion Projects

Day 28: How to Keep Yourself Motivated

Day 29: Prioritizing Yourself and Your Needs

Day 30: Creating Your Vision for 2025

Day 31: The Beginning of Your Best Year Yet

*** Divider Credit: @thecutestgrotto ***

[lavender-whisper]

MAKING LIFE BEAUTIFUL ༊*·˚

beauty is a high value of mine, it makes life worth living, and with that i don't mean conforming to commercial beauty standards, but cultivating a beautiful environment, inner thoughts/mindset, and lifestyle. here are some things i want to do to make my life more beautiful:

avoiding stress by doing tasks and assignments early

feeling refreshed by not staying up late

experiencing the sunrise and sunset by waking up early and being more mindful of my environment/nature

having a clean and tidy room

having an organized digital space

having an athletic and flexible body by regularly exercising and stretching

having an uncluttered mind by journaling my thoughts everyday

having a positive mindset (no self-loathing, ugly thoughts!)

making life meaningful by not only consuming, but also creating beautiful things through creative means

pursuing my hobbies (writing, drawing, singing, dancing, crafting)

eating less processed food & more beautifully prepared healthy food

being hygienic by smelling good, caring for my nails & hair, and wearing stainless clean clothing

avoiding stress by not being forced to hurry

concentrating being in the present moment

minimizing social media usage

creating a nice atmosphere with matching music

basically romanticizing my life

i hope these tips help you cultivate a more beautiful life too! i might make more blog posts if i feel inspired, because they are pretty too ;)

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[rythms-of-synthax]

At some point in your life, you just have to realize that your laziness, your lack of goals and ambition, your unhealthy coping mechanisms, the books you're not reading, the people you're not meeting, the healthy food you won't even touch, the effort you won't put in.... it's called disrespecting yourself. Don't know about you, but I'm done with it.

[astrogirlythings]

[raining-at-ease]

[friendlyneighborhoodshark]

"How to Life" Masterlist

Cleaning and Tidying

Make your bed in the morning. It takes seconds, and it's worth it.

Reset to zero each morning.

Use the UFYH 20/10 system for clearing your shit.

Have a 'drop-zone' box where you dump anything and everything. At the beginning/end of the day, clear it out and put that shit away.

Automate your chores. Have a cleaning schedule and assign 15mins daily to do whatever cleaning tasks are set for that day. Set a timer and do it once the timer is up, finish the task you're on and leave it for the day.

Fold your clothes straight out of the tumble dryer (if you use one), whilst they're still warm. This minimises creases and eliminates the need for ironing.

Clean your footwear regularly and you'll feel like a champ.

Organisation and Productivity

Learn from Eisenhower's Importance/Urgency matrix.

Try out the two-minute rule and the Pomodoro technique.

Use. A. Planner. (Or Google Calendar, if that's more your thing.)

Try bullet journalling.

Keep a notebook/journal/commonplace book to dump your brain contents in on the regular.

Set morning alarms at two-minute intervals rather than five, and stick your alarm on the other side of the room. It's brutal, but it works.

Set three main goals each day, with one of them being your #1 priority. Don't overload your to-do list or you'll hit overload paralysis and procrastinate.

If you're in a slump, however, don't be afraid to put things like "shower" on your to do list - that may be a big enough goal in itself, and that's okay.

Have a physical inbox - a tray, a folder, whatever. If you get a piece of paper, stick it in there and sort through it at the end of the week.

Consider utilising the GTD System, or a variation of it.

Try timeboxing.

Have a morning routine, and guard that quiet time ferociously.

Have a folder for all your important documents and letters, organised by topic (e.g. medical, bank, university, work, identification). At the front of this folder, have a sheet of paper with all the key information written on it, such as your GP's details, your passport details, driving licence details, bank account number, insurance number(s), and so on.

Schedule working time and down time alike, in the balance that works for you.

Money

Have. A. God. Damn. Budget.

Use a money tracker like toshl, mint, or splitwise. Enter all expenses asap! (You will forget, otherwise.)

Have a 'money date' each week, where you sort through your finances from the past seven days and then add it to a spreadsheet. This will help you identify your spending patterns and whether your budget is actually working or not.

Pack your own frickin' lunch like a grown-up and stop buying so many takeaway coffees. Keep snacks in your bag.

Food and Cooking

Know how to cook the basics: a starch, a protein, a vegetable, and a sauce.

Simple, one-pot meals ("a grain, a green, and a bean") are a godsend.

Batch cook and freeze. Make your own 'microwave meals'.

Buy dried goods to save money - rice and beans are a pittance.

Consider Meatless Mondays; it's healthier, cheaper, and more environmentally friendly.

Learn which fruits and vegetables are cheapest at your store, and build a standard weekly menu around those. (Also remember that frozen vegetables are cheap and healthy.)

Learn seasoning combinations. Different seasoning, even with the exact same ingredients, can make a dish seem completely new.

Misc

Have a stock email-writing format.

Want to start running, but find it boring? Try Zombies, Run!.

Keep a goddamn first aid kit and learn how to use it.

Update your CV regularly.

Keep a selection of stamps and standard envelopes for unexpected posting needs. (It happens more regularly than you would think!)

[feminineenergylife]

Prioritize yourself, your needs, your happiness, your peace & your goals first ♡

[becomingthatgirl111]

these are the habits you have to give up before the year is out:

worrying about people and things you can’t control

negative conversations with others

obsessing about what others think

lying for others

expect others to do what you want them to do and get angry if they don't do it

creating expectations on others

gossiping

making excuses for not taking care of your responsibilities

lying to yourself

putting your needs lasts

giving priority to other people's opinions rather than your own

letting the negative opinions of others affect you

limiting yourself

comparing themselves to others and putting them on a pedestal

giving prominence to people who do not deserve it

set boundaries with others but not with yourself

spending too much time on social media

habits you need to implement:

create a daily routine that you feel comfortable with and suits you

calming your mind a few times a day

positive affirmations and healthy thoughts

complimenting others and congratulating their success

letting go of things you can’t control

ending toxic relationships

more time outside

making yourself and your health a priority

self compassion and self forgiveness

taking responsibilities

more self care

beginning with a motivation each day

do what you need for yourself

starting something new (activity, hobby, habit)

not to depend on others and to learn to do things you want to do on your own

focus on the good things and not on the things you don't like

exercise and eat healthy for the sake of your body and not to fit into a beauty canon

getting out of your comfort zone

focus on building healthy relationships rather than being guided by false expectations of how relationships should be

be true to yourself and your values

not to sell or denigrate you for money or lavish gifts

[thefemigirl]

✤ What To Add To Your Vision Board

Visualize what you want these 6 areas of your life to look like in the near future.

( 1 ) FINANCIAL a. What is your ideal annual income? b. Describe your ideal home situation to look like and its location.

( 2 ) CAREER a. What kind of organization or role do you envision yourself in? b. What type of projects or tasks are you passionate about doing?

( 3 ) RECREATION a. How do you prefer to spend your leisure time? b. Which hobbies or interests are you actively pursuing?

( 4 ) WELLNESS a. In what ways do you care for your mental, physical, and spiritual health? b. What kind of diet do you follow to stay healthy? c. What activities help you maintain your fitness?

( 5 ) RELATIONSHIPS a. How would you describe the quality of your relationships? b. How often do you connect with friends and loved ones?

( 6 ) PERSONAL LIFE a. What personal goals are you striving to achieve? b. What habits, values, and boundaries guide your daily life?

Remember: you can build your vision boards any time of the year.

[girlwithrituals]

LISTS TO MAKE WHEN FEELING DOWN

• list all the things you'd do if you weren't so afraid.

• the nicest thing anyone's ever done for you.

• the people you'd like to weed out of your life.

• all the reasons why you're so amazing!

• things that always makes you laugh.

• the major losses you've survived in your life.

• all the qualities you like the most about yourself.

• things you'd get rid of to make the world a better place.

• the best gifts you've ever been given.

• all the ways you've changed for the better.

• the things you must do before you die.

• how you'd like to change your life for the better.

• your favorite life quotes that inspire you.

• what values you need in your life to have a fulfilling life.

• the things you won't tolerate no matter what.

• any miracles you've seen happen.

[canisalbus]

Wait, holdup. Are you telling me that modern AU Machete used to smoke? Can we have more information on this, please?

Although a cigarette between his fingers might fit his silhouette, I can't imagine Machete smoking. Isn't he a health and hygiene freak?

He started smoking as a sad and disillusioned teen, mostly because some of his mature and edgy friends smoked and he wanted to seem mature and edgy as well.

First and foremost it was a way to manage stress, it gave him an impression that he was at least somewhat in control of his nerves. He does have a lot of health/hygiene anxiety, but he tried to justify it to himself by claiming that since he's so diligent and careful about everything else, surely he can afford to have this one bad habit that he's already familiar with. He wasn't proud of it, he knew perfectly well how smoking was objectively harmful, but he's fairly skilled in keeping himself in denial about things he's unwilling to contemplate. Also he's an extremely routine oriented person and it really rustles his jimmies when his daily rituals and personal coping mechanisms are tampered with.

I think he finally managed to quit for good some time after getting together with Vasco. Mostly because he had to start thinking about himself and his life in a new light and it made him painfully self-conscious about the whole thing. He was worried about smelling off-putting, tired of not being able to keep up with him physically and just generally guilty and embarrassed about being potentially annoying and unpleasant to be around.

[inkyrainstorms]

based on the Billstill au by @jellynut! You guys should totally go check it out, it's so cool and angsty and somehow my monkey brain took that idea and made it Stan tormenting Bill forevermore. (This has spiraled rapidly not its own au of an au based on an earlier idea I had once) (might draw more of this au and that one who knows)

This has been going on for at least 15 hours straight, and Stan is having the time of his goddamn life watching Bill suffer

And then Bill gave Stan horrendous night terrors

And then Stan bought a giant bag of nachos and ground them up into crumbs and dumped them in the sea or some shit

Transcript and full image under cut

Bill, floating intangibly: You're a loser, Mac

Stan, looking up from his magazine: Yeah? And you're an interdimensional demon dumb enough to die in my head. You're the biggest idiot I know, and I know me