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Everything in this world has a price.

So what are you willing to sacrifice for your goals and dreams? Time and effort, right. How about tears? Insecurity? Fear? Anxiety? Are you willing to get through multiple break-downs? Will you keep going out of faith even when the results aren't noticeable? Would you fight the voices inside your head or the ones outside telling you it is pointless? Will you welcome the struggle? And exhaustion and stress? Will you pour everything you have and get into this chance for a better future? So, yeah. What are you willing to sacrifice for your dreams? Everything. Anything.

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The good you see in others is a projection of the qualities you wish people noticed in you.

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You have time.

You have time. Get used to it. Especially if you are a high school or college student. You have to reject the mentality that "time isn't enough". During school year, you are busy. I get it. Tasks, extracurriculars, competitions. All of them leading to you getting into 'fight' mode. When you are extremely busy, you naturally get better at time management - it becomes a matter of survival. But aside from this, what? Listen. The purpose of holidays and weekends is to help you get used to the fact that you do have time. And the way you spend it shapes your future, because it is the moment when no one expects you to do anything that you must take the matter into your own hands. It is easy to do everything on time when there are short-term, urgent consequences. When there are none, you lose control. On holidays and weekends you have to learn to balance your wellbeing and goals at a time. When you are not given time, the responsibility is gone. When you have time, you also get it back. What you do in your free time, the one that no one beside you knows about, is the thing that will matter the most. It is what determines if you rise or fall into burn out. It is the time that you can either spend escaping from reality or building it. So yeah, this time right here that you have is a choice. Get used to it and stop running from responsibility.

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stealing >>>> hear me out. If I had one piece of advice for you all, this is it: if you see something you like, steal it. Especially if it is style or behavior (gestures, posture etc.). If you see someone popular start behaving like them. If there's this one girl wearing an amazing dress that you know you'd look good in, ask for the shop and buy it. If one classmate writes outstanding essays or stories and you have found a phrase you think will look good in yours, write it down (that's actually how I did it in 5th grade have no regrets). Don't to this though, with most influencers out there because you don't know if the tips they give are actually working. Or might be working for them but not for you. So yeah, steal gestures, steal outfits and ways of speaking, writing, expressing yourself. Don't steal information that can't be applied in real life. You see how I said "stealing" instead of "learning from others"? Yes because the first one is an active process and god knows we don't need more knowledge but practice and action. "Learning from others" quite means noticing - it's like learning in a classroom. "Stealing" means liking something making it yours - so you need to put in the work. Thinking about it you can also steal habits and ideas - just don't make it too obvious to those you stole from (personal example I saw a kid drinking water from a large bottle that tells you how much you need to drink at certain hours - bought it the next day, my water intake is wayyyyy up). have a nice day bye

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What's the deal with coping mechanisms

Can we all be fr for a moment, please? And agree that when tragedy/emotions/failure/break-up hits, no one who's actually sane starts meditating, drinking water and journaling about their feelings? Can we stop pretending we are all balanced and mature individuals who can just talk themselves out of anxiety/depression? Ok, thank you. Now that you get it, hear me out. The main function of your brain and body is to keep you alive. Surviving, that's it. And this function, at bad times, translates either as running from the actual problem (escapism), either as getting back to what's familiar, which is, mostly, bad habits and negative patterns. Everyone says that you can break a pattern just by responding differently, which I totally understand up to a certain point, cause patterns can be reinforced. There is also this myth that bad habits cannot be fought but replaced with something less harmful. However, this usually happens on normal circumstances, when stress is low and the feeling of safety allows you to think rationally. Look, I am not saying that you cannot outgrow escapism, habits and patterns - tbh I find it very possible. What I am talking about is that everything needs time and life doesn't follow your own timeline. The main point of this post is that you can choose and pursue your own coping mechanism as long as you understand the consequences. Yes scrolling is bad and binge reading manhwa online is usually not ideal. Ok. But selfh@rm is so much worse so if what you need to get back on track and get rid of the anxiety is 4h of reading isekai novels so be it. Yes cookies have a lot of sugar and they spike blood pressure while having 0 nutritional value. We get it. But drinking is far worse, so at least buy some high-quality cookies, eat some greens or protein first and call it a day. Yes you can have brain rot afternoon as long as you don't touch dr@gs or start smoking. Or call your ex/toxic friends. Sure if you are that type of person who can just go for a run or take a walk whenever you feel depressed or stressed or God knows what, do this and ignore this cause it is not for you. Also let me shake your hand. Much respect. But if you are a mere mortal keep in mind that the goal is getting back and doing whatever you were doing before the tragedy, while minimizing the consequences. Choose your poison (wisely), like they say.

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Ladies what if I told you...

... that you can measure your productivity by quality, not quantity. What if I told you that fulfillment >>> productivity and you can achieve the first one by doing things that matter for you. There is a famous method of organizing time and tasks by placing them in different squares based on urgency and importance. Productivity is highly corelated to those tasks that are either urgent and important...or just important. You do those and notice the feeling of fulfillment. People can't distinguish between productivity and business. There is no pride in the latest. High-quality tasks are those that put you above in the long term no matter if they train the mind, body or soul. The tasks that you do for "quantity" are pointless. Yes, even if they are for work (actually especially if they are for work; minus points if they are emails). I know they are sometimes necessary. But I am telling you, don't lie to yourself into the productivity trap. A well-spent day is a day that fulfills your needs. In order to live an intentional and wonderful life you must know 1. what you need 2. what you want 3. what you have and make the most of it. Life is mostly about figuring yourself out.

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Happy Birthday to us!!!!

It's been a year, my loves! A hectic one, full of changes, and now, looking back, I see every little one in my writing and in the way I gained knowledge about me, about you and about the world around us. 🌿 Happy birthday!!! 🥰 Last year, I created this blog, hoping it would be not only a safe place for both me and you, but also a great source of inspiration - and it was everything I could have wanted and more. I remember writing my first posts with the feeling that every single line and word will be read and maybe judged. I struggled to find my tone and I worried about the way I was being perceived. Then I felt the pressure of trying to post every week, while handling school, hobbys and the Olympiad. Now I feel like I found myself and a lot of the journey that I completed is scripted in these posts that honestly came from nowhere: they were born out of ideas, lessons and dreams. So thank you so much!! I can't express my gratitude for you, for every single person who followed me, commented on posts and made me hold on the initial purpose of this place. I appreciate you more than you could ever feel through the screen 💖

I am looking forward to the future of us! Lots of love, Rya

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actually I hate how level up spaces make things look complicated and I get it when it's complicated you can commercialize it I can sell you a 1000$ course on how to be spiritual when it's literally just a clear conscience 😭. I say abandon religion and embrace spirituality and you're probably thinking tarot cards and candles and dancing at midnight but that in itself is a religion?? I'm saying clear your conscience and don't abandon yourself 😭 it's really just that. I say have boundaries and you ask me what boundaries should I have idk ma'am am I you? Whatever makes you feel invaded and small is crossing your boundary like you'd don't invent boundaries you are born with them that's the whole point of having emotion? It's really not that deep it's actually way too simple? Dress better yes but why do you need a 10k budget youre in college learn to thrift if you can't make a 1$ outfit work you're not poor you just lack style and taste and that's why all those girls on YouTube (dropping in my girl Jennifer Wang) are for?? I'll blame the commercialization of self improvement for why you think you need to make drastic changes when you can just knit, sketch ,Papier Maiche, Origami , VK Epub, photography on your phone etc your way into hobbies 😭 and just post and idk. It's not that serious and you're stunted because you think it's a whole new project to undertake when it's just making a few different choices everyday until they accumulate into something tangible??? It's really not that deep it's not that serious you don't need to do all that you just need to learn yourself and follow that??

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actually 'choosing yourself' is mostly just making your bed after you get up and taking your vitamins and not buying that soda and choosing yoghurt instead and trading that ramen for sandwich and studying for your classes and choosing to go on YouTube to learn sketching and crocheting and taking the stairs and not wearing heels if you don't want to and just blocking that insufferable Twink and not watching those movies where women are always victim and blocking that AI girl that's always pushing stereotypes and not interacting with trauma that you've already experienced in movies or music and not listening to those songs that call women hoes and doing your skincare and not forgetting sunscreen and not flooding your brain with new information every seven seconds on TikTok and laughing to weird jokes and being the basic girl in Lululemon that reads Wattpad fics instead or ingesting other people's trauma trying to be 'deep' and avoiding pain as often as possible and having pets and chasing your interests and rejecting shame and-

It's made to sound like some self discovery monk thing but it's really just the small stuff like look at your room right now?

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This hits in the best way possible <3

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building a relationship with time >>> schedules

building a relationship with food>>> diets

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best habits that you have?

working out 5-6 times a week

everything shower once a week

journalling twice a day

having a wide range of hobbies

waking up early

being diligent with my progress (career, life, friends)

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Honestly I believe that the purpose of life is not to be happy.

But to be alive. Surprisingly many people aren't good at it. However when you start seeing life as an opportunity of becoming, growing and experiencing, you stop perceiving bad moods or negative things as an obstacle. Just as a part of who you are and what is happening around you. As proof that you are living.

At the same time the purpose of death is to give you both a deadline and a purpose for life. Don't fear it - cherish it, along with every moment that makes your eyes spark in excitement.

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HoW Do I StOp- overdo it.

Wear out your dopamine receptors you'll get tired of it. Watch tiktok 24 hours wake up at 3 am watch it watch it non stop at some point you'll get tired of it. Eat that thing for every single meal every time you get hungry binge on it you'll get tired of it. Whatever it is- overdo it. Even when you don't feel like it force yourself to do it. You'll get tired of it at some point.

Hope this helps.

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You have been lied

One of the biggest myths out there - that was also dearly embraced by the democratic ideology - is freedom of speech. Translated as a human right that allows people to articulate their opinions and ideas without fear of censorship or legal sanction, freedom of speech is one thing (may be the most important one) that people take for granted and the reason for all the misinformation that is spread online. And yeah, not only because people love to have opinions.

I recently read in a book that foolishness can be easily noticed by the amount of opinions and ideas that one expresses with absolute certainty, without any proof or evidence other than their belief and subjective way of thinking. A fool is often defined by their affective attachment to their opinion that makes them consider it as truth. Unfortunately, it seems like foolishness is now legally accepted. And it spreads quickly. While in the lower to middle class having such a mentality is not out of ordinary, the elite can distinguish between facts and opinions. It is alright to express yours as long as you don't present them as the first. Moreover, opinions, no matter on the topic, have to at least sustained by proof - research, surveys, books, philosophy. Intelligent opinions, if I can call them like this, are also the ones that you can detach yourself from and move on when people disagree. Opinions feed your ego in most cases and this is where you can actually spot a fool out of the crowd. Also, intelligence is related to one's ability to question themselves and the ideas around them and this is why most truly intelligent people aren't followers of cults and ideologies. Getting back to freedom of speech - this is where democracy is wrong. When people aren't given balance they fall into one extreme or the other. For communism and other doctrines it was full silence and stupidity born out of necessity. For democracy it is foolishness born out of lack of consequences. So, what you have to do is distinguish between freedom of speech and freedom of thought - train the later and gain the first one through wisdom and qualifications. Here's the thing: speaking is very different from thinking. Sadly, there are many who overlook it and you can see it everyday. When it comes to expressing yourself and speaking, earn your right. It is not truly democracy, but meritocracy. The way to earn it is to think, ask and find answers.

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Here is the right formula to practice to become unstoppable. Read to get more ideas to write. Write to sharpen your mind to think. Think regularly to get clarity to decide. If you keep reading, writing, and thinking, you’ll become a master in your craft to outlast anybody.

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Life Kit by Rya (Hot takes and Tips)

Never give up on something that makes you feel alive. People can't change if they are not even aware of what they are doing wrong. Less is more 80% of the time. In terms of resources: energy>>>time=money. Friday 18th of July can be your new 1st of January. Never have people around you who are not good at anything. Repetition helps replace inspiration. Understanding an idea/topic/concept takes time, don't rush it. Easiest way to become depressed: staying inside 24/7. Having a pretty (and big) gradient water bottle helps a lot with staying hydrate through the day. Philosophy books >>> self help books always. Meditation is overrated. Clearing your thoughts can be achieved in other ways. Find what words for you. For me is playing with the Rubik Cube. Don't try to fit yourself into a stereotype or aesthetic. You can love languages and physics, listen to both heavy metal and kpop, dress feminine and read manga. And playing chess. Being private doesn't mean being ashamed of who you are. You have the right to choose to keep parts of yourself hidden from others. Don't be afraid of your hot takes. Don't react to criticism. Think about it. Apply advice or move on. Just because people approve of something doesn't mean you should keep doing it. Having an Instagram account is severely overrated. Online food hierarchy is dumb. If you are a powerlifter yes protein >>> carbs. If you are a dancer/runner think again. Don't fall for social media advice. Look for legit people with your level of activity. Almost everything can be solved with a full shower, walk in nature and intentional yapping session with someone you can trust (parent, therapist or stranger). Don't exhaust yourself over volunteering/a job. Detach. You are replaceable. School is an exception, but never take anything to heart. 15 min is the max you can spend on a bad grade. Might do a Part 2.