#don't fakeclaim

[ur-local-ghost-pal]

Hey! Able-bodied people who know someone with tics or want to learn more! Pls stop to read this really quick if you can. I'm someone with tourettes and I would like to kindly remind you to not do the following. 1. please for the love of fuck do not give someone who is ticcing (or in general disabled) fake pity looks. You know the ones where you look at us in an almost pitying way, but it isn't really that genuine because you kinda care but it's not effecting you and you can't really bring yourself to care much. Yeah, cut that shit out. 2. if someone's tics cause them to hit themselves, don't get mad when/if they hit you. Most likely it will happen if you are around them a good amount. You can be hurt - obviously tics like that hurt - but if I see you demanding comfort, pity, and apologies angrily from the person ticcing I'm going to stomp you with my cane. Especially if you don't show you care when they are hitting themselves nonstop daily. 3. I shouldn't have to say this but even if the person ticcing doesn't seem overly upset, don't trigger their tics on purpose. Just don't. The person ticcing might not care much but why do you feel the need to? Like, unless explicitly asked for whatever reason, just don't. It's kinda rude, can be dangerous, and you don't have any reason to (again unless asked). 4. please, please, please don't be awkward when someone is complaining about the pain their tics put them in. Don't just stare at them weird after they talk as if they did something wrong or it's so odd that they just expressed any amount of discomfort of their disability. And for the love of goodness do not be rude to them about it or gaslight them. 5. in general you shouldn't do this at all but we're talking about tourettes so here we go. If someone needs a mobility aid due to tics, don't touch it. Don't pick it up without permission or play with it. Don't try to take it as a form of punishment (parents this is for you). don't doubt they need it. Again, don't gaslight them into thinking they don't need it. Don't tell them they're being dramatic. 6. the last one. Do NOT fakeclaim ANYONE. Please. Tics can develop at any age and tourettes is not the only tic disorder. Sure, you can't be diagnosed with tourettes if you developed them after 18, but you can have tics. Tics can be sudden or gradual when developing. If you want to fakeclaim your friend, roommate, family member, or even that rando on the internet. Just shut your mouth. It's not that hard. Most people don't do this so don't feel targeted unless you have done these. If you have done these, just stop. It's not that hard.

[thecouncilacesideblog]

We are, by their (sysmeds/anti-endos) definition, a "correct" system (very disordered with strong dissociative barriers, formed due to extreme repeated childhood abuse, acknowledged by our therapist and working on getting a diagnosis) and yet we don't feel safe in their spaces. How fucked up is it that people who are meant to be "one of them" don't want to interact because their community is based in gatekeeping and harassment?

Because we believe plurality is a spectrum and umbrella term, that it is possible for traumagenic and endogenic systems, disordered and nondisordered systems, ect, to coexist in peace, we're a target and not allowed either?

It's... so heartbreaking to see so much hate within a community that is already stigmatized by saneists and neutrotypical societal structures.

Please be kind to each other. We all deserve love and safety, respect and space.

As a traumagenic system I do not feel safe in the systempunk community, anti-endos are not our allies, they will fakeclaim you, harass you and laugh about it to your face. They don't care about us! If you want your traumagenic spaces I can understand but using those spaces to spread hate on our cousins and siblings doesn't make it a safe space, it makes it a space primed for attacks on anyone deemed "bad" or "wrong" which when you are a system... can be for any reason.

I will always be pluralpunk! I believe in a future for all of us not just the "correct" systems.

[pluralhottakes]

sometimes pro endos and anti endos should just. chill. interact. don't limit yourself to only interacting with people with morals that are 100% the same as yours. everyone's all "no one is perfect" until the imperfection is that they don't agree with you on something. like no actually flaws aren't just skills people aren't good at, they're also moral things

tl;dr just chatting with people who disagree with you is ok and not everything is about syscourse

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[cl0ckworkpuppet]

on that note, i think there's a lot of merit in talking about the happy, weird, or even silly parts of being a system. because at least for me, being a system can be really, really scary-- especially in the beginning, when i was first discovering that's what was happening, i was terrified. the origin of my system is pretty brutal, something i wouldn't talk about in detail to someone i don't already trust deeply. but we're not defined by our trauma, our plurality just came from it. we're all still people, individuals with our happy moments and our sad moments. i don't think anyone should be defined by the worst things they've experienced, systems included.

and also, when people think of systems, of someone with "multiple personalities", the first things they think of (thanks in huge part to awful media representation) are the scary things, the tragic things, the unrealistically violent things. talking about the day-to-day discoveries and occurrences that are unique to plurality-- yes, even the "cringe" or the "quirky" that make us look like we're "faking it" to someone who doesn't know better-- is incredibly important for breaking the stigma around DID and OSDD. because believe it or not, fun system fact, systems don't go through heartbreaking, life-altering trauma every single day. i know, right?

so before you recoil at someone you think is being "too silly" to be real, ask yourself this: do you know this person/this system's entire life story from the one single post you're seeing? or even from reading their entire public blog? do you know who they are more intimately than they know themselves? is this really about them "faking it", or do you want a reason to dehumanize a person so far that their only visible trait is their trauma?

and even if you are right, and they are faking it, what do you stand to gain from running the risk of denying a system who *is* real of their identity?

[luxlitemidnight]

me when I want to interact more with osddid spaces to learn more about my suspected OSDD-1a but alas. I can't go three steps without a #endos fuck off in my feed

[spookyspeks]

If a mobility aid user makes a personal decision to do something that might not be best for them physically, like not using their aid for something or doing something that might be strenuous just because we want to do the thing, don't start fucking telling us what to do or infantalising us.

A lot of us know our limits and know what we can handle. Maybe we want to make our own personal decisions about what we want to do. Maybe I want to go without my cane on a night out, maybe a wheelchair user wants to go for a walk, maybe we want to wear heels or platforms or go for a run.

If an abled bodied person wants to do things that aren't great for their body or health, that is their choice! Don't fucking hold disabled people to a different standard! We all have different limits and we all have different things we want to do.

It does not mean we're faking being disabled, it does not make us victims of expectations. Maybe sometimes we want to fucking do shit, it's our decision and our responsibility

[richierambles]

Being serious here.

If anyone who reads this simps for the bowers gang, or likes them, or wants to be their friend, or feels sorry for them, or whatever-the-fuck, get the fuck out of my blog<3

This is me being serious rn, no matter how good of a person you are, if you like those assholes in my eyes that automatically makes you a fucking ass. And before you say sum shit like "but they're fictional characters who cares", I do. I care. 😘

[arsen1cs4ng0]

i cant believe i have to say this and i know some people are gonna piss their pants over this, but just know the chipspeech fandom will forever be a system-friendly space, and if you dont like that then you can take your ass elsewhere

systems are stigmatized enough and i dont want any systems here to feel unsafe. if this is how yall are gonna treat systems then it really says a lot about you

[tales-from-sysblr]

Got fakeclaimed by another CDD system because one of my alters is completely detached from his source, in their words "you wanted to roleplay being [charater] and then go bored so instead of admitting he's fake you just morphed him into a new 'alter', stop faking some people genuinely have mental illnesses" Like how do get so deep into fakeclaiming that you fake claim a system for an objectively health thing they did?

Sometimes I question the intelligence of sysblr..

[lexidius]

here's your annual halloween reminder that if you try to conjure up spirits and forcefully bind them to objects to sell as "spirit adopts" or "headmates for sale" or whatever the hell you people are calling it now, you are essentially doing the equivalent of human trafficking and i do not want to have anything to do with your your "system hopping" scams. idc how much you try to glorify it with a cutesie little refsheet and character art - they're not OCs. they're not trading cards. they're fully autonomous beings. and if you insist on "its ok they agreed to it they're fully ok with this", i'm more inclined to believe that you're just heavily projecting what you want the "spirit" to say. In the thoughtform community, we used to call this "forcing" or "puppetting", and doing too much of it would get in the way of actually letting your thoughtform have free reign over their existence.

not to mention how much abuse i've seen from people who believed in "system hopping". and trust me, i've been in these spaces since 2012, maybe even 2011 if we're being honest. and i won't lie - i have seen some shit that shouldn't still be happening 14 to 15 years later.

edit: lmfao someone actually sent me hatemail for this

[syscontroversial]

Hey, if you're going to fakeclaim endogenic systems, don't use their fucking tags.

Many traumagenics don't want endogenics in their tags, and I fully respect that. Just don't go into theirs. You're giving them the right to go into yours.

It's insanely simple.

[self-dx-culture-is]

Self dx culture is KNOWING you have autism, having a younger sister who just got diagnosed, and a brother who was tested and was almost diagnosed but didn't meet all of the requirements, but still being scared to tell people you're even thinking about seeking a diagnosis because you don't want them to think you're faking.

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[pluralhottakes]

Systemscringe: We hate endogenic systems because they're faking a disorder!

Also Systemscringe: *Fakes having an entire traumatic experience to bait people*

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[cold--carnage]

I don't know who I am and what's going on all the time?? I must be faking the "I don't know who I am and what's going on all the time" disorder

[cccat-in-a-meat-sack]

NPD + DID culture is actively hoping we get posted to r/syscringe or r/fdc because tHE AMOUNT OF SUPPLY THAT WOULD BRING OH MY GOD

[thehealingsystem]

no way I saw someone say that r/fakedisordercringe has potential.....because instead of going after queer disabled people, they could go after endo systems........ "yeah this subreddit bullies and harasses neurodivergent people and anyone it deems 'cringe,' but it would be better if they went after this specific group of neurodivergent people" have you considered you're part of the problem