#autism in females

[maghrabiyya]

I found some footage of my 2nd birthday where I'm displaying really high levels of empathy for a child of that age, and I think if I were a child born now that I definitely would have received my autism diagnosis much earlier.

In the video my mum is cutting my cake which has a bear on it, my mum made it out of icing, it was beautiful. When I pick it up I accidentally break off the ear, and this makes me sad. I am audibly and visibly upset I hurt the bear and give it a kiss better. "Poor ted!" I say.

Around the cake are lots of jellytot sweets, which my older sister is shoveling in her mouth before I even get to have one lol. She gets told off by my grandma and stops.

I notice this so I start picking individual sweets up and place them on my sisters plate as well as the plate in front of my mum. I'm saying in toddler babble, but you can still understand "Here you are, mum!" I'm saying it over and over while I pile sweets onto their plates. I still haven't had one yet.

Kids are naturally selfish, and don't really begin understanding and implementing empathy until well into their 2nd year of life. And there you have me, a freshly turned 2 year old being SUPER empathetic.

I remember empathy being a dominating emotion for me throughout my childhood. At times it was too much and would make me really sad.

Sometimes I was too empathetic for my own good, as in, I remember going hungry at school because I gave my lunch to a random child who dropped his sandwich on the ground. When really I should have just told an adult what happened so this child would be given more food. Extreme reactions to other people's sadness/misfortune would in turn hurt me.

As an adult this is still something I experience & I do wish my autism was picked up on earlier so I could have received more support.

[themaskedlady]

[dearinnerchild]

i get mean when i’m nervous like a bad dog

[autismhotpot]

I DONt KNOW WHO NEEDS TO FUCKINg HEAR THIS

BUT JOAN OF ARC HAS NEVER BEEN AND NEVER WILL BE NON-BINARY

SHES THE OPTIMUS PRIME OF THE FEMALE CLASS, DONT YOU FUCKING DARE TAKE AWAY OUR ONE AND ONLY TRUE PROPHET

[serpentface]

Hey that's not a good shooting stance

[nedlittle]

need the historical romance girlies to go back to their roots and read forever amber (1944)

[byoldervine]

What Common Writing Phrases Actually Mean

For years I assumed a lot of the common writing phrases that get thrown around were just generic things that were never actually going to help people write because it doesn't actually tell you what to do. But recently I've been able to work out the meanings for a few of them and I'd like to share them with my fellow writers, especially for my fellow NDs with literal thinking

"Write what you know" - it doesn't mean that you should only write what you're already familiar with, it means to do your research, gain knowledge and go from there; if you haven't done the research, don't write about it *until you have*, not just shrug your shoulders and find something else without ever trying to write it. Additionally, things will have more of an emotional impact if you write about things you yourself have experienced, or when you tie in your own experiences to something; you’ve probably (and hopefully) never had acid thrown in your face, but you’ve probably gotten shampoo in your eye and can amp that experience up

"Writing is a discipline"/"Write even when you're not motivated" - my reaction to this was always that, since I was only doing this for fun and didn't have any deadline to meet, why should I force myself to write even when I don't want to? But what they're trying to say with this is to make sure you have some level of consistent progress, even if it's only one sentence every week; having a minimum level of progress you can count on is an absolute lifesaver when writing, as well as being motivating in its own right

"Edit as you go" - this one really doesn't mean to change up your entire chapter every single time you get a new sentence down, it means to take breaks from writing new chapters to reflect back on what you've previously written and make sure to fix up any inconsistencies while the next few chapters are still fresh in your mind. Outside of SPAG mistakes or quick one-sentence-or-less tweaks I generally wouldn't advise properly editing the same chapter you just wrote simply because you could easily burn yourself out speedrunning to the final draft before you even get to chapter two

[cryingprincess13]

I just want to fall asleep and dream forever

[natt-writes]

~7 tips for stay focused while writing.~

1. Make sure to drink lots of water/tea and have a healthy meal shortly before. This will help to nourish your brain, which in turn will help you to write and stay focused.

2. Find a calm, comfortable location. Stay away from places with lots of sounds and distractions, instead try to find somewhere that you can relax and enjoy the writing process. It’s even better when the location has dim lights.

3. Exercise shorty before. just going on a walk down your street and back or going on the treadmill for five minutes can help to get rid of excess energy and make you less restless and distracted.

4. Set up a reward system. Maybe have a small piece of candy after every two sentences, watch an episode of tv every time you finish a paragraph, or do a fun activity after every chapter. This will help motivate you to finish up your work for the day.

5. Set a daily word count. Setting a daily word count can help you to feel like you’ve achieved your goals, even if they are small. Start with a couple hundred words each day and then work your way up to your desired amount. Checking how close you are to achieving your daily word count can help you to feel more more motivated and productive. (I use nanowrimo.org but you can use whatever work tracker you want!)

6. Listen to music. I like to listen to music that suits the tone of the chapter I’m writing, as it can help you to feel more immersed and focused. It’s best to listen to the music on a lower volume so that it doesn’t overwhelm you and just blends into the background.

7. Be gentle with yourself. Not every day is going to be amazingly productive. Everyone has days where they are distracted or don’t get much work done. Don’t beat yourself up about it and instead try to relax, have a nice day and get a good nights sleep. You’re doing really great, You deserve to take a self care day!

[creekfiend]

pip can i say ur cute high pitched voice alongside your Gender has made me feel better about my own high pitched voice not actually conflicting with my Gender. ty ur awesome

this is very funny because I think a lot of people on here think my voice is higher pitched than it is because they mostly hear me talking to my dogs. like it's not DEEP but I think the samples on here lean towards the Talking To Dog Voice

I have actually a pretty wide register but I don't usually use any of the deeper tones in my voice unless I'm singing or I'm REALLY fucking tired just, like, out of habit

I like to use all of them regularly though that is why I listen to music and sing along a lot. it's fun to practice making different noises

YOU'RE WELCOME FOR THE CONFIDENCE BOOST THO I'm glad it makes you feel better about ur voice 😌 🤝

[serial-unaliver]

having to unsub from a subreddit because a post about "female autism" has way too many upvotes there😐😐😐😐

[themaskedlady]

[local-lover-boy]

My autistic swag (inability to focus) makes all the haters (incomplete math assignments) mad

[dragubel]

TWD Incorrect quotes #4

Y/N: hey Daryl, is there a chance while you’re out scavenging.. perchance you can find me ‘sum bows?

Daryl: damn, you finally want to learn how to shoot arrows now?-

Y/N: no no, like Hair bows, Daryl.

Daryl: so you’re ‘tellen me, when the world ended and there are… blood thirsty, skin eating ‘walkers out there.. you want me to go get ya ‘sum pretty bows?..

Y/N: Mhm!

Daryl: …

Y/N: :>

Daryl: …what color.

Y/N: _____ Please!

(Last Daryl Dixon incorrect quote BLEW UP so I’m making another <3)

[river-from-alderaan]

being autistic in a world made for allistics kinda feels like being in the backseat of a car desperately trying to be a part of the front seat conversation

[moowithmidnight]

Alex Blake I love you so much I love your autistic coded mannerisms I love your pervasive kindness I love your unconventional marriage and adoring husband I love your intelligence and passion I love your sad tragic backstory I love your relationship with Spencer I love you!!!!!