#tw social trauma

[the-mountain-flower]

Hot take or whatever but any authority figure that tells kids "I don't care who started it, everyone involved is getting punished" can go fuck themselves

Because not only are you punishing the victim alongside the perpetrator, but you're also teaching those kids that:

They shouldn't speak up or fight back when they're being treated badly, and should just take it quietly in the hopes of an authority figure noticing and putting a stop to it (which likely won't happen)

They can hurt people without fear of repercussions, because they're getting the same treatment as those they've hurt

You don't care when they're hurt, and won't listen to them when they try to explain their valid grievances

I got bullied a lot growing up. One of the biggest tools used against me was that if I tried to stand up for myself, I'd get in trouble. Bullies don't give a shit about if they're caught. It's a win for them if their victims get punished right alongside them.

You should care who "started it". You should listen to kids and understand the situation before deciding what to do about it.

[paxislandsystem]

I wish my trauma would suppress itself instead of torturing me for three years every time I see her face or think too hard about her

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

[best-of-theworst]

Well, actually funny story!

(Proceeds to tell you the most wild, traumatizing, sad and tragic story you ever heard)

[wildfeather5002]

Indigenous folks, ex-christians & anyone who's knowledgeable on social issues, I have two questions that have bothered me for a long while and I believe y'all might know how to answer them.

The question: I read a webcomic about community A living on an island along with another community B with different culture & beliefs from them. Community A believes that their culture & religion are the correct ones and that members of community B are dooming themselves to eternal damnation (in a religious sense) if they don't adopt the beliefs & practices of community A.

I saw someone talking about the comic in its comment section, saying that one of the characters who's a member of community B is selfish for not adopting the burial practices from community A's religion, because according to that someone, not burying their loved one like community A believes is correct is " potentially dooming their loved one to eternal damnation".

If you're indigenous, has rhetoric / talking points like this been used against your own religious / cultural practices? Could you give any concrete examples?

If you have religious trauma / are ex christian of any kind, have people used talking points like this to guilt trip, to frighten, or to shame you into obeying religious rules? (People belonging to other religions than christianity are welcome to give their perspectives as well!)

[nightmarearian]

do you think the abyss healed Childe’s scars?

realistically I know it’s stupid graphics & model “limitations”

But do you think his skin looks as normal as it did before he fell.

Cause when they’re hit, an abyss monster.

They disintegrate.

Do you think Ajax’s scars healed like that? In the abyss? After it, too?

Do you think they burned? Or was it numb, as the darkened skin faded away with little, yellow, glowing particles?

That he has no evidence of his suffering for those three months in hell (and his only companion’s silence) but dull eyes no one wants to look at?

Callouses on his hands and feet that no one pays attention to? Takes care of?

That he shows his prowess and uncanniness and abyssal hunger because that’s the only way how? Yes. he is hungry and wants a fight. Look at him. He’s off. Broken now.

Look at him.

Please.

[valenciamidknight]

“Act Natural”, 2024.

Original collage by me.

[ed-recoverry]

Shoutout to everyone who experiences sleep as a stressful event.

Shoutout to people with sleep anxiety.

Shoutout to people who often have nightmares as a result of trauma.

Shoutout to people who often experience sleep paralysis.

Shoutout to people who often experience flashbacks in their dreams.

Shoutout to people who find it physically painful to sleep.

Shoutout to people who find it physically painful to lay down.

Shoutout to people with OCD that interferes with sleep.

Shoutout to everyone with insomnia.

Shoutout to everyone who often has nightmares in general.

Shoutout to everyone who often experience night terrors.

Shoutout to people with sleep apnea.

Shoutout to people whose chronic pain/illness worsens during sleep.

Shoutout to people who live in an environment where it’s hard to have uninterrupted sleep.

Shoutout to people who cannot afford or access comfortable and or clean bedding.

Shoutout to people with a phobia of something involving sleep.

Shoutout to people who often have dreams that disturb you.

Shoutout to people who experience worry or pain at the designated time for peace and comfort. I see you and I love you.

[ink-asunder]

Furthermore, I think Dragon's Dogma's handling of the cult was actually really mature and ahead of its time. Yes, Elysian is a zealous man who wants power and destruction (you need at least one to form a cult). But it's repeated time and time again that most of Salvation's members are just regular people who sought out the cult in times of hardship, even when they didn't really believe in Elysian's teachings. For community, for comfort, for a purpose and a cause to dedicate yourself to because the world is so hard and so dangerous right now because of Grigori's coming.

It reflects the REAL nature of cults in the real world, which I wouldn't really expect from a low budget unfinished game, let alone media in general. Even movies and games today don't get it right 9 times out of 10.

[socialc1imb]

Before Whole lost his marbles.

Do NOT repost my art without asking/without credit.

[shadow-the-crow]

why i would be an avatar of these fear entities:

got this idea from the lovely @totheidiot (who got it from @cult-of-the-eye) - basically experiences that could have marked me and stuff that connects me to the entities. (Disclaimer: I'm only in the middle of season 2 and only know the basic lore, so i don't exactly know what makes you become an avatar)

the Lonely: This is the one i feel most connected to. Loneliness has always found me at different points in my life - mostly because of my social anxiety. I often didn't have many friends, had difficulties connecting with new people, and mostly i even feel disconnected from my friends because i'm scared of opening up and being myself. At this point i feel like it's a part of me. Like it's continuously eating me up but by now i'm embracing it. Also, a close friend of mine says she's had a constant feeling of loneliness ever since she lived with me for a few months. (She says it wasn't my fault, that it's probably just because she was far fom her family and other friends, but still.) So i might already be an irl avatar of the Lonely lol

the Extinction (and maybe this is also a bit of the Vast?): This happened last summer during a holiday in Italy with my family. One night, the whole sky was suddenly lit up by lightnings every few seconds, they formed crazy patterns but stayed in the sky. Then there was also thunder, getting louder and louder, and at one point it just didn't stop anymore. At this point, i actually thought the world was ending. Then the hail started. The hailstones were bigger than tennis balls, and we were in a mobile home, so we were legitimately scared the roof would collapse. I stayed weirdly calm though. It kept going for maybe half an hour, thankfully nobody got hurt.

the Eye: I used to be pretty paranoid as a kid, i often felt like i was being watched when i was alone. I'm also a very curious person who loves learning new stuff, and i can't stand not knowing something, so i often immediately look up things i'm wondering about. Also people on here have told me i'm of the Eye because i can't stop listening to tma although it scares me, like i somehow feel compelled to continue, but idk if that means anything.

the Spiral: I'm not sure if this one counts, but i feel really drawn to the Distortion's weird existence and the whole "it is not what it is" thing. Also "there's no such thing as a real name" is a quote that deeply resonates with me, idk, i just think it's true - and i'm convinced i'll never find a name that feels like it's mine. Also i'm really good at lying, sometimes i lie about little things just for fun.

the Corruption: Corruption to a certain degree gives me comfort because my family's home has always been... idk, "dirty" is the closest word i can think of, but that doesn't really describe it. We regularly clean and all, the rooms look clean at first sight - but there's old, forgotten, sometimes moldy stuff in the cracks and under the furniture and on the kitchen sink, and a lot of walls are moldy in the corners. So it just feels like there's something rotting underneath, and that feeling is comforting to be by now. Unrelated to that, i also still remember that one time i climbed on a tree and suddenly there were ants all over my body and i just jumped and shaked my limbs for like a minute.

[fireflysongbirdperson]

This video breaks it all down perfectly, and it’s exactly what we need to hear in 2024. Being a barb after everything Nicki has said and done is just pure nonsense. I stand behind Megan thee Stallion and Jennifer Hough and fuck all the abuse apologists and cult-like stans who will say otherwise

[wildfeather5002]

What do y'all say to christians who are like "Well, I think that [insert a paragraph about non-christian people going to hell if they don't 'repent', or in other words, abandon their 'ungodly' culture, traditions, religion, sexual orientation etc.]" and when you call them out for it they just reply with "It's not like I'm advocating for forcing people into anything, I'm only voicing my opinion regarding non-christians' cultural practices & lifestyle. You're a threat to my free speech!" ?

It always makes me feel iffy when people say stuff like this, because bigoted talking points & rhetoric can cause harm too, not just the usage of violent force. But also it's wrong to forcefully silence anyone, even if they're bigoted, right? Harmful talking points are kinda like toxic liquids, it's damn near impossible to get rid of them by force (the toxic sludge will only spread everywhere & poison people if you try to beat it!), but debunking, giving counterpoints & raising awareness will 'neutralize' these toxins and make them harmless, or less harmful at least!

That's what I think about it. I could be wrong though, idk really...

[rotzaprachim]

Under cut for traumatic content but

Yesterday whilst biking home from my job at rush ish hour I was full on hit by a car that ran past speed limit through a stop sign/four way stop and hit the side of my bike full on. I was biking through a pedestrian crosswalk when it hit me. So far it seems like I had a miraculous survival in terms of I have a broken leg and various torn things, some head stuff, but - it’s overall shockingly good. Still processing that it happened and hit me and for a while my brain was so stuck in the half second of it Happening. For what Happened, a stroke of grace - there were several pedestrians including children in the area and the car hit only me, who was wearing a helmet and protective footwear for my commute.

the driver hit and fled the scene of the crime. Later the police came to collect by bike and helmet, which had both been destroyed, for evidence. The person who hit and ran was driving under the influence, and non receptive to external information and stimuli. Because they do not have the financial resources to pay the $5000 dollar bail they are being held until trial. I don’t…. For a while my mind was so stuck in the half second of the crash, replaying it over and over again. I don’t know how to feel about this. I’m so angry. I’m so angry at the situation. I’m so angry I almost died and that someone cared so little that I was almost killed by somebody. I’m so angry at the situation and the local situation that ended up with someone barreling through a pedestrian commuter area while intoxicated. I’m so angry about inequalities and the violence of drugs and alcohol and I’m so angry at the police and how they got involved and I’m angry about the incarceration. What does that do? What does that do for fucking any of it? I hate that person. I hate that person for how close they came not just to killing me but the middle aged woman and the children on the crosswalk. But I didn’t die, and my injuries I will recover from, and so there’s someone else whose life will be ruined from this, and it isn’t me.

[sc3rcasm]

Dyeing my hair this colour the next time I decide to have a stupid mental breakdown and relapse </3 !

[ed-recoverry]

Some Mental Health TedTalks I Really Like:

Just some ones that didn’t cause revelations, but gave me a quick ‘wow, that’s interesting.’ Tried to put shorter and longer ones.

How to not take things personally

How to talk to the worst parts of yourself

Feelings: handle them before they handle you

Why you should try therapy yesterday

Having a mental illness is not a death sentence

Why eating disorders are so hard to treat

The puzzle of personality

Taking off the mask of bipolar; remove the stigma of mental illness

The difference between healthy and unhealthy love

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

What trauma taught me about resilience

The cultural taboos of suicide and mental illness

I am not a monster: Schizophrenia

There is no shame in taking care of your mental health

How to do laundry when your depressed

Lessons from the mental hospital

“Everything happens for a reason” and other lies I’ve loved

We don’t move on from grief, we move forward with it

The art of being yourself

The unstoppable power of letting go

Attachment theory is the science of love

Listening to shame

How to stop being anxious about anxiety

Mental health care that disrupts the cycle of violence

Against the odds: Generational trauma, mental illness, and addiction

Why I train grandmothers to treat depression

How to get stuff done when you’re depressed

How I overcame my OCD

The brain on poverty