#system relationships

[mental-illness-bingo]

Me: Can I even really call it trauma, though? It wasn't *that* bad, right? Other kids have definitely been through worse.

The men in my head that my brain created to love and protect me because I couldn't handle my childhood otherwise: 🧍‍♂️😐

[system-comforts]

Shout out to systems in relationships, whether that's with a fellow system or a singlet. I wish you a happy future together!

[thebitchwitheface]

Would a system jerking off be considered an orgy?

[dissociativlyours]

🎙️ | RETRO MOOD BOARD

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[masquerade-flags]

Syectivenity, Parsyectivenity, and Asyectivenity

Syectivenity - A system where all/almost all outerworld* relationships are collective relationships involving all or most system members.

Parsyectivenity - A system where some outerworld* relationships are collective, or where some(around 20 - 60 % -ish) alters have collective relationships. The first example may refer to types of relationships (such as romantic, sexual, platonic, familial, etc.) or relationships with specific individuals.

Asyectivenity - A system where no or almost no outerworld* relationships are collective. Exceptions are very rare and usually only when someone is dependent on the system for care or professional relationships.

(*Also applies to nested subsystem in the innerworld)

Sister terms for identities.

While these term parallel someone could be any combination of the identity terms and the relationships terms. (such as being syective and asyectivenity, or asyective and syectivenity)

nity comes from affinity, I chose the word affinity because it's not as tied to any specific relationship type, as amor for example.

The flags meanings are similar to the sister flag. The add rainbow stripes in the are to represent different types of relationship

[the-masquerade-council]

I'm curious, what best applies to you and your system/collative.

This is for committed relationships of any kind(so yes QPRs do count). If you've never been in a committed relationship but want to be, answer based off of the kind of relationship structure you would like to have. For polyam alters, and collectively polyam systems answer based off what feels most accurate. Also if your system has both out off system relationship(s) and in-system relationship(s), answer based off of the out of system relationship(s).

Here "collectively" is being use to refer to all or almost all of the system. "Some of us" would refer to around 25-75% of the system give or take. Base it off of how many of you there are, it's gonna be different for every system.

Some examples of what various relationship structures would correspond to below*.

In general vote for what's the closest even if it's not a perfect description.

Reblogs would be appreciated if you feel so inclined.

But singlets do not vote on this poll.

*Example one: The host of system A is voting on this poll, they in are a system of 6. Alter 1, 2 ,3, 4, 5, and 6. Alter 1 is dating a singlet. Alter 2 is dating an alter from system B. Alter 4 is dating 2 alters from system B. System A would vote for "Separate beings, some of us are in a relationship with those in another system". Because there are more separate relationship having to do with system members.

*Example two: Collative A is voting on this poll, they have 34 headmates. The many of the headmates are in relationships with various headmates for other systems. There are no more 4 separate relationships between Collative A's headmates and any given system. So they should choose "Separate beings, only one/a few of us is/are with those in another system". Because even though many of them are in relationships, not many of them are with the same system.

*Example three: Person A has parts, they aren't sure how many exactly, but they know they have at lest 8. 7 of the known 8 are in a queerplatonic relationship with a singlet. They would choose "We are parts of a whole, collectively in a relationship with a singlet". Even they have unknown parts, most of the known parts are in a a relationship with a singlet.

*Example four: A person in System C is voting on this poll, System C has 307 know people in it. Around half the people in System C are dating a singlet, some of the remaining people are dating alters from two different systems. They should choose "Separate beings, some of us are in a relationship with a singlet". Because there are more relationships involving the singlet.

But again you should just choose what feels most accurate. We are not you, and we can't say exactly what best describes your specific situation.

P.S sorry I couldn't put "multiple are applicable" and "it's complicated/other" there was no room.

Also if you're an ass on this post. I will delete your reply and block you.

[lefluoritesys]

So, this is a bit of a different post than usual, it doesn't directly relate to systems, but I really gotta share.

So, our partner system and us, we sleep on VCs. Main reason being, it just feels safer that way and feels like we're closer to each other. And we have like... a 7 hour time difference (to put it in perspective, their 10am is our 5pm), so we can also soothe each other's nightmares if we have them.

And yesterday was a pretty stressful day for us. As well as, we just felt sleepy and couldn't get anything done due to that. I was regressed, and they were still sleeping, it was almost 5am for them (almost 12pm for us). So I unmute my mic, and I call one of their alters who I see as a parental figure and who wasn't even fronting at that time. Wakes up, immediately fronts, asks me what's wrong, and I tell them that I want to be lulled to sleep. Cause I'm small and sleepy, but I want my mum to help me fall asleep. I am also apologizing cause they have work in a few hours, and I'm waking them up, not letting them sleep... and I get the "no apologies, baby, you're so small, of course you want your mum to lull you to sleep."

And we had another ex-partner system before that who told us, very explicitly, that we're foolish for trying something with our partner system, all because of a minor inconvenience that they didn't like (and that I won't bring up). I didn't listen, for the first time ever stood my ground... and so I went from a system who claimed that giving us any reaction to anything we send or are passionate about was "not something they were taught" (to the point where talking to them and talking to a wall made no difference), to a partner system who is willing, and encouraging us, to wake them up at night if we need them for literally anything.

So like, romance, friendship, QPR (queerplatonic relationships) are cool and all, but will they wake up in the middle of the night because you need affection? Cause ours will. And that's probably our biggest flex. /semi-ref

(@the-soup-system)

-host

[the-moonjay-forest-system]

I just had a really great conversation with my qpp who's questioning osdd, some parts got a little triggering and I experienced this weird like somatic flashback?? at one point but I'm really glad we had it regardless of that stuff.

Just talking about system stuff and mental health stuff in general was like so odd but so great at the same time. CDDs are just so hard to talk about and it feels like you could go your whole life without telling anyone about certain parts of symptoms or experiences. And there really is just so much more to it than alters or "having multiple personalities" and it almost never gets brought up.

It was honestly one of the best phone calls I've ever had and I don't know if it helped my qpp in anyway but I'm just so glad I could talk to someone about these things and I enjoyed hearing from them and their experiences too. I've had system friends in the past but I've never opened up this much with any of them.

CDDs can feel so isolating but I think it does help to open up to people who might understand. The community can be too much for us at times and it's hard to navigate our way through it but I hope we can have more system friends in the future who we feel comfortable talking too and knowing we're not alone.

[thefluxsystem]

Falling in love with someone within your own system is a double-edged sword.

On one hand, I would give anything to truly hold him— even just once. To be able to look him in the eyes and tell him, in my own voice, just how much he means to me. And I’m angry that the world will never see him the way I do. They’ll never know how incredible he is. How beautiful.

On the other hand, we’re together no matter where we go. We both wouldn’t be here without this disorder, so in a twisted sense I have to be grateful for it. We have a wonderful life internally, away from this… difficult world.

Is it worth it? Absolutely. I would face all that hell again so long as it led me here, with him. Do I wish it could be different? Absolutely. Every day of my life.

[companionplanting]

you and your partner both systems with complicated polyamorous relationships between said systems?

call that poly²

-🦷 & ☣️

[mossy-petrichor]

Love letter ~💌

"it's like a completely different type of love. like sharing a brain is fundamental to our bond"

An ode to in-sys love, not strictly romantic, but a unique kind of familial too. a beautiful thing we've been discovering as we integrate and heal

Both the drawings and the poem are by me. To Ilya, Boo and Florence, my loves. my family <3

[mental-illness-bingo]

Listen my DID has caused both a lot of pain and stress (and saved me a million times over) so insert disclaimer about not romanticizing/glorifying here

BUT you can pry my “well at least I get to date the fictional characters I fall for” out of my COLD. DEAD. HANDS.

Thank you that will be all we now return you to your regularly scheduled trauma posting.

Endos fuck off this post in particular please. I’m not comfortable seeing you make light of a trauma disorder by using my post for it. Generally I get that chances are you actually do have trauma you don’t remember because that’s literally what DID is supposed to do but in this case I do not have it in me to see endo stuff on this. I can be playful and pretend this disorder is fun for a moment because I know that I still struggle and that I fought to survive so much for so long that my goddamn brain stopped developing into a single person and never fused the personality from ego states like it was meant to - forced to stay in pieces because it couldn’t manage to live that way, and at least what you say is that you got this without any of that. I know you’re probably not trying to cherry-pick and take the good and leave the actual disorder part of systemhood behind but that’s how it would feel to see you reblogging this particular post. Thanks./gen /nm

Edit: added color bc I feel like it helps put attention on the point of the post above the annoying disclaimer

[jayscryptidcorner]

The host's girlfriend referred to the guy im in a situationship with my boyfriend and i started blushing

Chat im in too deep

[cringesys]

cringe system culture is being in a relationship with a headmate who is a factive of a super popular streamer so it's like you're living in a reader insert fanfiction lmao. Our friends find it weird but I don't even care he's so good and I love being with him.

-🌆

You're in the — fanfic irl /j

I'm happy for you two, hope you're so happy together and don't care about others opinion!!

[dissociativlyours]

▼ INTRODUCTION

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➼ Our System

OUR NAME, AGE, ETC

Sage, 17, Queer, Fluid, Poly, Taken x2

OUR HOSTS, FREQUENT FRONTERS, ETC

Ash(🎤) | Gray, Virus, Seven, Clem, +more

Ash/Glaive, 🎤, Xe/She/He

Gray/Grayson, 🩶, She/He

Virus/Val, 💌, It/He

Seven/Ven, ☄️, He/Any

Clem/Clementine, 🐇, Any/All

OUR INTERESTS, LIKES, ETC

Art, writing, music, minecraft, mcyt, dsmp, nature, hiking, fishing, skateboarding, organization, aesthetics, romanticizing my own life, my partners, my friends, roblox, the sims, cats, dogs, animals, plants, rain, storms, hazbin hotel, helluvaboss, crime scene kitchen, food shows/baking shows, true crime (noncom), agere/petre, renfaire, witchcraft, spellcasting, the fosters, the beach, +many more things.

EXTRA THINGS TO KNOW

DID, BP2, ND, DYSLEXIC, BRAIN FOG, +DIAGNOSED <3 (in therapy, babes, dw)

➼ BFY

Do not interact with me if you believe you can have DID/OSDD/UDD (or any trauma disorder) without it being disordered or because of trauma/without trauma. This will be my only stance on nontraumagenic did/osdd/udd systems.

Please only interact if your account is mostly SFW, we don’t mind alluding towards anything not SFW or smaller things, but we need to keep this account friendly for our system, if we are regressed, etc!

➼ OTHER BLOGS & TAGS

BLOGS:

@dissociativlyours (this/main blog)

@dissociativereblogs (our reblog acc)

@itybitypawz (little/regression blog)

@mothermoonscafe (Cgs acc)

(UPDATED: July 19th, 2024)

TAGS:

#DissociativlyOurSystem (everything)

#Thislonleylittleplace (vent posts)

#DissociativeLovemail (lovely messages)

#DissociativlyOurShips (little series we have)

(UPDATED: July 19th, 2024)

! IMPORTANT BLOGS !

Dividers:

https://www.tumblr.com/saradika-graphics/756189271317151744/hi-i-absolutely-love-your-stuff-could-you-make

https://www.tumblr.com/saradika/718119628833964032/cute-flower-dividers-free-masterlist

https://www.tumblr.com/isisjupiter/749307573071740928/purple-dividers

[scarlet97531]

⭕️❗️- normalize talking about your in system partners. I ducking love my husband, he’s literally ((not literally literally)) an angel and I would honestly be so useless without him, he gives great hugs and would absolutely bring me breakfast in bed if that didn’t require me getting out of bed too. Get birthday presents for your partners, celebrate your anniversary, show them cool rocks and leaves you find outside, go on dates, build a shrine in their honour! System relationships don’t have to just be in your head!