#system love

[onemashedbraincell]

since apparently it’s Valentine’s Day, system appreciation post!

You’re valid if you’re endogenic

2. You’re valid if you’re traumagenic.

3. You’re valid if you’re mixed origins. 4. You’re valid if you don’t know or care about your system origins. 5. You’re valid if you are a median. 6. You’re valid if you are polyfragmented. 7. You’re valid if you’re mostly blurry. 8. You’re valid if your parts are clear and distinct. 9. You’re valid if you don’t experience co-consciousness. 10. You’re valid if you experience co-consciousness. 11. You’re valid if you experience co-fronting. 12. You’re valid if you don’t experience co-fronting. 13. You’re valid if you hate being a system. 14. You’re valid if you love being a system. 15. You’re valid if you don’t know how to feel about being a system. 16. You’re valid if your trauma doesn’t fit the ‘typical norm’ or expected experience. 17. You’re valid if you have factives/fictives/fucktives/songtives, etc 18. You’re valid if you have hundreds of thousands of headmates. 19. You’re valid if you only have a few headmates. 20. You’re valid if you are looking for final fusion. 21. You’re valid if you are looking for functional multiplicity. 22. You’re valid if you’re a tulpa. 23. You’re valid if you’re an introject who doesn’t want to be like their source. 24. You’re valid if you’re an Introject who does want to be like their source. 25. You’re valid if your system isn’t very active. 26. You’re valid if your system is extremely active. 27. You’re valid if you have a core. 28. You’re valid if you don’t have a core. 29. You’re valid if you have a host. 30. You’re valid if you’re hostless. 31. You’re valid if you have a headspace. 32. You’re valid if you don’t have a headspace. 33. You’re valid if you have a relationship with another headmate. 34. You’re valid if you’re a bodily minor OR adult system. 35. You’re valid if you don’t like some/all of your headmates. 36. You’re valid if you love all your headmates. 37. You’re valid if you’re a disordered system. 38. You’re valid if you’re a non-disordered system. 39. You’re valid if you’re introject heavy. 40. You’re valid if you’re brain-made heavy. 41. You’re valid if you’re non-human heavy. 42. You’re valid if you’re covert. 43. You’re valid if you’re overt. 45. You’re valid if you’re an age regressor. 46. You’re valid if you’re a pet regressor. 47. You’re valid if you don’t identify with the body. 48. You’re valid if you do identify with the body. 49. You’re valid for feeling angry about those who hurt you. 50. You’re valid if you have a lot of control over your system. 51. You’re valid if you experience little to no control over your system. 52. You’re valid if your system structure is complex. 54. You’re valid if your system structure is simple. 55. You’re valid if you’re mono conscious. 56. You’re valid if you’re biconscious or triconscious. 57. You’re valid no matter your conscious term. 58. You’re valid if you want labels about your experiences. 59. You’re valid if you don’t want labels for your experiences. 60. You’re valid for having source trauma. 61. You’re valid for not having source trauma. 62. You’re valid for having alters split due to other alters either negatively or positively. 63. You are valid if you split for no reason, or a reason you can’t identify. 64. You’re valid for being different from the norm. 65. It’s okay to be wrong about your identity. Even if you aren’t plural, it’s what fit you at the time. Identity shifts. We’re always learning about ourselves. You made a mistake is all, you’re not a monster for making a mistake.

I could go on and on for days, but I think you get the jist.

YOU ARE VALID. NO MATTER YOUR EXPERIENCE. YOUR EXPERIENCES ARE REAL. YOU DONT NEED TO FIT INTO THE CONFINED BOX OF REQUIREMENTS TO BE CONSIDERED PLURAL.

Happy Valentines Days, everyone. <3

[redefine-ur-plurality]

I don't think it should be necessary for me to state how much I fucking despise r/systemscringe and similar communities and forums. What do they even think is so good about what they're doing? They actively hunt down traumatised minors on the internet, post their screenshots and publicly shame them until they are too scared to be active anymore. They fakeclaim anyone and everyone who doesn't precisely conform to their exact definition of what a plural should be - which is ironic since the majority of them are not plural. Everything they say seems to contradict itself, it's hard to tell what they think a system can be/have. I wouldn't be surprised if they decided systems weren't real altogether.

It's like

High alter count? fake

Low alter count? fake

Positive, healthy relationship with alters? fake

Negative, unhealthy relationship with alters? fake

Traumagenic? faking trauma to harm traumatized victims

Endogenic? faking a disorder, even though they never claimed to have it

Tulpagenic? cultural appropriation.

Enjoys problematic media? oh god they can't have interests!!! They *must* be faking

Stereotypically cringe/2020core? fake.

Basic person(people) functioning in life and working a job? fake.

Struggling to function properly? fake.

Stuck living with abusers/still being abused? fake.

Easily triggered? fake.

Hardly ever triggered? fake.

Vivid memories of trauma? fake.

No memories of trauma? fake.

Mixed origin? fake.

Undiagnosed DID/OSDD? fake.

Diagnosed DID/OSDD? fake.

Minor? fake. (which is odd, considering DID is known to form in early childhood)

Adult? fake.

Had more than one account of trauma/abused by more than one person? fake.

Ritually abused? fake.

Abused sexually/verbally/emotionally, neglected, gaslit or manipulated (any form of abuse besides or alongside physical)? fake

They are hypocrites.

[lgbtransgirl]

I don't see enough het-t4t representation on here. I'm a transgender woman dating a transgender man (neither of us are strictly binary but close enough that we joke about it)

I fucking love my boyfriend, even before he transitioned he was always just a dude. Stereotypical golden retriever gamer stoner. He is so proud of his facial hair but by stars it looks phenomenal on him, he doesn't even need to try and he looks so goddamn handsome. He makes me melt just with a look his eyes are so fucking pretty and everything and mmmm

[infwctednyacifier]

kinda wanna make a " system - dating - culture - is " blog about systems who are in poly , aripluric , etc romantic relationships since there ' s really a lack of romance - related plural blogs and it ' d be nice to have a blog about just romance in the plural community where that involve systems , singlets , both , etc . plus , i ' m / we ' re aripluric ( singlet - dating system ) plus in a poly relationship ( manifesting ) and it ' d just be cute to have a blog overall celebrating plural love !!!

what do y ' all think though?

After fixing an issue, the blog is ACTUALLY officially up!

[brightside-of-the-moon]

System positivity is I love my headmates so much 🫶

We've gotten through SO much together and I'm glad I have this little family to rely on when things get bad

[ancientpersacom]

Part 3 of alter self portraits and letters, Hypnos edition!

Thank you for having legible handwriting Hypnos, one of the few in the system who does lol. He asked me to do the line-art for him because he’s still working on his art skills, so our styles are very similar at the moment. But all the colouring and shading as well as the pose was done by the eeper himself!

Hypnos split during a horrific time in life, and I’m genuinely so thankful for him helping getting us through it and I’m so glad to see him happier and more at peace now. I’m so proud of you Hypnos, you deserve the world and you’re a wonderful parent :)

[skepptical-boxes]

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[skyedancer-system]

It’s weird, missing someone who’s here in the system with me. We spend almost all our time out of front together, but because of the weird memory barriers between headspace and front it feels like I haven’t seen him in ages whenever I come out here without him.

Listening to his favorite song helps ground me a lot. Clair de Lune is what he always played on the radio in his little store, and I heard it from his room a lot too when I walked by. He always turned the music off when I went in though so we could just talk. I appreciated it a lot.

Even when we both almost lost ourselves to the Ichor, each other and our other partners (who were also struggling against the Ichor’s effects) being the only grounding things left, that song still followed him wherever he went, almost like magic with the way it played from the speakers whenever he went in a room with them installed. It only ever happened when he was in his Twisted form; I never bothered to try understanding how it worked. I just appreciated having him and the music by my side, even if I couldn’t fully remember myself, or anyone else.

It’s relieving having my full memory back again, and being able to mostly control the Ichor’s effects. I can tell he feels the same, though he’s less comfortable in his Twisted form than I am. I understand why; it warped and changed us both into something near unrecognizable, something dangerous. One of the others in here, Uzi, helped me get more comfortable. I hope I can do the same for him. We’ve been making progress, thankfully.

If we didn’t have a roommate, I’d let the song play on loop from my phone as I fell asleep. I still could with headphones, but sleeping with them isn’t the most comfortable. I’ll listen to it a few more times before I go out for the night; the edgy hedgehog in co-front will just have to deal with it.

If you see this later, good night Dandy. Love you <3

-🍓Sprout (He/It)

[mossy-petrichor]

Love letter ~💌

"it's like a completely different type of love. like sharing a brain is fundamental to our bond"

An ode to in-sys love, not strictly romantic, but a unique kind of familial too. a beautiful thing we've been discovering as we integrate and heal

Both the drawings and the poem are by me. To Ilya, Boo and Florence, my loves. my family <3

[the-astral-clump]

i luv system cuddles, i luv forming a big warm cuddle pile while trying to get the body to sleep and relax. i love being able to feel phantom touches or have someone take control of the body to give a comforting gesture -⭐️

[lgbtransgirl]

Plural joy is waking up and coming to the front to your alters preparing your favorite food for you because they know you've had a rough few days. 💕

[the-siphonophore]

Looking through my phone camera roll, nostalgic for the life I never lived- one of my more telling plurality moments that I didn't give thought for a long time, due to having enough mental illness that I figured that was it. Nope, that picture was taken by Solly, and that picture is from Hazel, and that one was Oni's, and none of them are mine because I'm not a visual thinker and I don't take many photos. Every now and then I'll wish I did, so I can have a place in the camera roll too, but then I remember I have lots of other places in my(our) life, like having dominated our saved-music files for over five years now, and developing our nearly system-wide artstyle. Life comes in many strange ways, but being a system has been one of my favorites

- Virgil

[brightside-of-the-moon]

system positivity is different headmates drawing each other when they struggle with finding faceclaims 🫶🏻 its like insys art trades and its so fun !!

That's so sweet ajsjaksjja

[sscarred-starss]

Hi hello. Kei was talking about how much he loves when people are publicly romantic about their partners n. talk about em in posts n shit. so uh... this is that.

he reminds me of those cheesy, corny love songs that you can only really like if you're in love.

he's like discovering a new band and being absolutely obsessed, like, new favorite band type shi.

hes like a really soft hug, just a gentle, tight hug.

hes like getting home after a long day at work, and hearing your pet come running because they're so happy to finally see you again.

he's like... being tired. /pos

[kaleidoscopechaos827]

As we've learned more about what it means to be a system, and to share a life with multiple people in one brain and one body, one of the many things we've come to accept is that we don't always get to know who's fronting and who's saying or doing something. Sometimes someone (we have no idea who) will take over for less than ten seconds just to make a ridiculous sound and send everyone else into a giggle fit XD